Am I settling? I'm 24 years old. Is it asking too much, to want more than this?
Q. I've been cooped up in the house for months on end and he doesn't bat an eye about it. He never takes me out or does anything with me besides eat sleep and watch movies. That's it that's all we ever do literally. I mean everyone works so wh...
A. 21 December 2016: Honestly if you feel you are bored then I think it is time you consider ending things as it sounds like you are both not compatible. ... (read in full...)
Could it be more than friendship?
Q. Me and my best friends ex have been rather flirty with each other for a couple of months now; we got pretty drunk one night in a evening establishment and very nearly kissed, although one doesn't remember who really initiated it and it has not been ...
A. 19 December 2016: You are a terrible friend. Why entertain this with a friends ex? He obviously means nothing to you if you risk hurting him so much... (read in full...)
Do I give him a chance to show he's not like that, once we have our own place, or leave?
Q. MOD NOTE: your update is emphatic that the name you chose for your account - KrisTaylor - is NOT your real name . .... . ..... . ...... . ....... Hello all, I've recently hit a rough patch with my new husband and need some advice. My hu...
A. 18 December 2016: You need to talk to him. You need to speak to him and tell him how much this has scared you. He may have Aspergers but it is no excuse to behave like this. Maybe there is undermining lying issues, maybe something is bothering him. Maybe he is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wont have sex because he is anxious about unwanted pregnancies
Q. Hey there! So Ive been with my boyfriend for a year(to keep people anonymous we can call him bob) and I wasn't a virgin when I met him, but he was when we started dating. We've had sex more than a few times but he admitted to me some months ago...
A. 18 December 2016: I do see where he is coming from, but he is being very responsible for his age. But it does sound like he is having anxiety over this. Would he go to a professional with you to talk about it? There is no harm in you wanting sex. It's natural in a ... (read in full...)
I think my husband is being inappropriate!
Q. My husband is a personal trainer, I work upstairs from his studio. He trains this one girl and all he does is giggle and flirt with her. He swears that he doesn't but it's SOOOO obvious to me! What do I do??? I think it's disrespectful to me but he ...
A. 18 December 2016: If you are in a open relationship then flirting should not bother you as that is generally what leads to sex. I think you really need to think about what you want, surely if you are having sex with others here is so,e emotion involved at times? If ... (read in full...)
How can I know if I'll be open to a boyfriend being sexually polygamous?
Q. I don't have a BF right now, and I have actually never had a boyfriend before. However, I realized that there are many men out there that cheat, not because they don't love their GF enough, (or so I think), but because they just love to have variety ...
A. 18 December 2016: I know for me personally I could not be with someone who was having sex with other people. I need trust in a relationship, and if you love and trust someone then you will be much more happier I think. People like having an open relationship and yes ... (read in full...)
I feel put off by the way he lost his virginity!
Q. I just found out my boyfriend lost his virginity to a prostitute, it wasnt on a lads holiday or anything he did it to lose his virginity. Is it wrong that i feel put off by this? ...
A. 16 December 2016: Honestly it would put me off as well. Most prostitutes are trafficked in the UK. My bet is he didn't enjoy it he just wanted it over and done with. If you can over come this then first off get down to the STI clinic as not all are clean. Then ... (read in full...)
The guy I like seems to be a really horrible person, what do I do?
Q. My friends are really close to this one guy. It has been over a few months since he started hanging around with us and he's been just fine with me. At first I started liking him and finding him attractive, so I confessed and heard no reply from him ...
A. 16 December 2016: Keep your hormones in check and stay friends only with this guy. He is using you as a toy. He does not find you attractive, he probably just wants a sexual favor from you. ... (read in full...)
I feel her weight gain is getting out of control!
Q. I am 27 my girlfriend is 24 we live together and we have a great relationship. The problem I have got is that I feel her weight gain is getting out of hand. She was by no means thin when we got together and I am not saying she should have a model ...
A. 16 December 2016: I understand why you feel guilty. But she is not talking because she knows you are telling the truth. She is already aware off it. Hence the lack off confidence in her body. She will come around. You need to work with her. Any junk in the house ... (read in full...)
How to let go, when I still love him? Do I walk away?
Q. I've just recently split with someone that I was with since April. We ended on good terms but he said that he doesn't want to be with me because his head's all over at the minute. I've told him that I want to be here to support him and we'll ge...
A. 16 December 2016: You might not want to but you need to accept that it is over. Nobody wants someone not letting them go and clinging on. I do understand how hard this is at your age, but it gets easier as you get older. He does not want to be with you any more. ... (read in full...)
Dogs versus the Christmas with family? I'm so angry right now, what do I do? I'm 32.
Q. I'm so annoyed right now. I've invited my parents to my house for Christmas but they've declined because I won't allow them to bring their dogs. They have 3 huge dogs and I don't want them in my house. I cannot believe they would rather sit alon...
A. 16 December 2016: Could you maybe go to there house after dinner and spend a few hours with them? I understand you are frustrated, but they don't like to leave there dogs alone and I guess you need to accept this. As difficult as it is for you to understand there ... (read in full...)
I need to know what is going on. Should I text him again, just acting normal?
Q. My ex and me have been talking again mainly over text after he got back in contact with me. It ended quite badly between us due to him having commitment issues. After 6 months of not speaking he got back in touch and told me that he was ready to...
A. 16 December 2016: He wasn't ready to commit last time and he is not ready to commit again. Stop allowing him to hurt you. Drop all contact and tell him not to talk to you again.... (read in full...)
Do I walk away and let everything go even though I still love him ?
Q. I've just recently split with someone that I was with since April. We ended on good terms but he said that he doesn't want to be with me because his heads all over at the minute. I've told him that I want to be here to support him and we'll ge...
A. 16 December 2016: You might not want to but you need to accept that it is over. Nobody wants someone not letting them go and clinging on. I do understand how hard this is at your age, but it gets easier as you get older. He does not want to be with you any more. ... (read in full...)
I stil have feelings for my ex, but I don't know what to do next. How can I move forward?
Q. Desperate need for advice. Sorry for the super long story. I broke up with my ex girlfriend a year ago now. I feel that I still have lingering feeling for her. She was my very first girlfriend and for some reason I just can't help but think she...
A. 16 December 2016: Hmm so you treated her badly and now you accept that. Have you learnt your lesson? Nope because you went on to treat girlfriend number 2 badly as well. You need to stop treating girls so badly. Think about there feelings and not just your own.
Y... (read in full...)
Why am I ignored?
Q. Why were there so many cliques at the work christmas party last saturday? Im not in any clique... I Try to say hi and be polite..to all, am quieter at times but am (quietly assertive and am mostly friendly at work) some people ignored me ...
A. 16 December 2016: My guess is that it was groups who just get on better with each other and are friends. Work nights out are like this. Maybe you can accept that they are work mates not friends, or if you want to be friends with any of them then make more off an ... (read in full...)
I need advice on our relationship. It seems like what I do isnt good enough. What should I do?
Q. So i am in a relationship with someone i barely know we have been together for rather 3 months. I proposed to her one night while i was drunk and ive been going with it every sense. I've introduce her to family and some friends as my fiance and sh...
A. 16 December 2016: You are to young, you barely know this girl, and her family are extremely controlling. Is this what you want for your future?
Apologize about the proposal but take it back and take things slow. Do not allow her to live with you rent free and do n... (read in full...)
Do I tell my new boyfriend what happened to me?
Q. How do you tell your friend now boyfriend you was put in a bad position on a date and dont trust new men around you or talking to you? I had a really bad experience not that long ago and only told 1 person but i dont want to bug them with my probl...
A. 16 December 2016: If you don't trust men then how are you possibly ready to be with him? If you have trust issues you need to work on them on your own with the help of a therapist or counselor. It sounds to me like you are kidding yourself saying you are ready to ... (read in full...)
I'd like to offer her some money, but not sure how she'll take it
Q. a girl moved into the apartment below me in the same building as me (unit of 6 apartments). she has 2 kids aged 3 and 5, throughout the year we exchanged numbers, talked about things mostly info about the apartment or how to fix something etc. ...
A. 16 December 2016: I agree with denizen, great idea. You sound like a very generous person I wish there was more people like you in this world. ... (read in full...)
Two different guys flirted with me before I found out they had girlfriends
Q. In the past two months, ive spoken to these guys (totally separate) and we have gotten on well. We spoke a lot and the first guy was constantly messaging and snapchatting me. Was going really well, both of us flirting a little bit then suddenly he...
A. 16 December 2016: No don't tell there partners, you will be the enemy and they probably will just think you are causing trouble. Look you need to learn to check out these guys before you begin flirting with them. They do this as they are hoping you will fall for ... (read in full...)
My parents are threatening to cause me problems if I don't break up with my younger boyfriend
Q. I am a 23 year old single mother. I have just gotten out of a really bad reltionship with my child's father so the last thing I wanted to do was have any kind of relationship. I know that this sounds corney, but I litteraly fell into it. The pr...
A. 16 December 2016: He obviously does not have his head screwed on when he is driving about when he is not legal to do so. Look you need to start concentrating on your sons life. I really don't blame your parents in the slightest. They are worried for you. They also ... (read in full...)
Is this sex?
Q. So me and my boyfriend were both in our underwear just simply rubbing and grinding. No intercourse. BUT, he slid my panty aside and stuck it in but he still had his boxers on... he maybe stuck a inch in but it was inside but not skin on skin. Im ...
A. 16 December 2016: Yes you did have sex, you could also be pregnant right now. I think you need to educate yourself more on safe sex and don't get yourself in to this situation again. You need to be prepared. Go to your doctor and get condoms and practice safely. ... (read in full...)
Should you take it personally if someone only replies to you when prompted?
Q. If someone only replies to your text messages when you prompt them and then they say have been really busy and don't take it personally... should you tell them that you do take it personally will it look as if you are retaliating, is it better to ...
A. 16 December 2016: I wouldn't take it personal, but if you text them you may come across as needy and insecure. But my guess is you already are when that person has to reassure you that it is not personal.... (read in full...)
How can a single mom find a boyfriend?
Q. Im pretty active, I go to school and work 24 hours a week. I have a beautiful 16 month old son. The dad and me are still ok but he lives 4 hours away. It seems like the only guys I can attract now are guys who already have kids, have been in trouble ...
A. 16 December 2016: Concentrate on your child for the moment, he is your number one priority. Off course it is okay to date but don't try to hard or be to fussy. I mean you have a child, have you a car and money? Can you afford to wine and dine someone? I think you are ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend bought me a chastity belt and expects me to wear it
Q. I have been with my bf for 6 months now. last week we were out, i was sitting at this table and a bloke came over and we were just chatting but my bf was like super mad and he hates me to chat to any guy. He is such a control freek that way. but i ...
A. 16 December 2016: Please run and never look back. WARNING, this guy will end up so controlling that he will have you locked in the house when you move in together. Please leave him now. Not only is he insecure but his behavior is scary and shows he lacks trust. ... (read in full...)
The one I want won't commit
Q. My problem is this , i have a male friend he knows i like him a lot and would love to have a relationship with him but at the moment he wants to be just friends (we did have a fall out a few week bk but i messaged him and we made up). i might sound ...
A. 16 December 2016: He was previously in a abusive relationship, therefore he probably is petrified to put himself out there again. Am sure it must be difficult for him to let his guard down. It is hard for a man to admit that a woman abused them so I guess it is ... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend had an abortion then said I wasnt there for her when she needed me. She now won't talk to me
Q. She had a miscarriage .She was bleeding for 20 days,both of us are not ready for a baby.Its a long distance relationship..so she went to the doctor alone..There was big tissue in her uterus..Doctor gave her some abortion pills..after severe pain for ...
A. 16 December 2016: Even though I feel sorry for what your girlfriend had to go through alone, she is probably much better off being single now. I hope she has good friends and support, and hopefully one day in the future she will meet someone who treats her as she is ... (read in full...)
I'm not good at sport. How can I convince my BF not to watch me playing sport?
Q. I'm not very good at the sport I play, I'm embarressingly bad. My boyfriend insisted he'd come to one of my games, and he's coming to my game on Wednesday. I don't really want him to come, seeing as he's really into his sport and he'll be pretty ...
A. 16 December 2016: It is sad that he is still coming even though you are uncomfortable and nervous. But he probably won't notice if you are bad, plus you are probably not as bad as you think. If it goes bad just laugh it off and say well you are still learning. Good ... (read in full...)
Am I settling? I'm 24 years old. Is it asking too much, to want more than this?
Q. I've been cooped up in the house for months on end and he doesn't bat an eye about it. He never takes me out or does anything with me besides eat sleep and watch movies. That's it that's all we ever do literally. I mean everyone works so wh...
A. 16 December 2016: You say the only time you go out is alone? Why not go out with friends, socialize , be adventurous and then tell him all about it when you get home?!
Sweetie it looks to me like this is who he is. He likes his home comforts and doesn't seem to want... (read in full...)
Why doesn't anyone want to talk to me?
Q. a little back story: I am an 19 year old girl in university, I currently have a part time job on the side for fun. And over the summer i got very very close with my coworkers and we hung out everyday, but recently we all haven't been talking or they ...
A. 15 December 2016: Why use a picture off a different woman for gaming, why not just put up animated pictures? I really think you knew what you where doing, and now you have taken it much to far. No don't tell him. Block him and move on with your life. He is not ... (read in full...)
He kissed me then the next day told me not to make a scene if he gets with another girl
Q. Hello, Im 16 years old and I really like a boy. He broke up with his 3 year old relationship one month ago, and he is trying to "live" his life right now.He does stupid things but not with the mean way. He doesnt care about others feelings as much ...
A. 15 December 2016: You should stop kissing him. He is not interested in you, he loves someone else. You need to accept that. If he kisses you it is not because he has feelings for you it is because he is single and wanting fun. So please do not confuse the two. The ... (read in full...)
My ex is trying to date my friend and I don't know how I feel about it
Q. Very long story... This guy and I were together for a year and a half and had been friends before that. We ended things last April but are still in the same friendship group so we see eachother most weekends. Since last April we've been up an...
A. 15 December 2016: Other people do not make you suicidal, you make your self suicidal by allowing others to keep putting you down and making you feel worthless. You need to get away from this group. These guys are putting you down, obviously they don't like you, but ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to give my boyfriend a personalised key ring with a photo of myself on it?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now, living together for 1. We both work full time, and despite being together for a long time have very few photos of the two of us together - and the photos we do have are not necessarily good ones. Anyw...
A. 15 December 2016: No I don't think it is odd, actually I think it is a really sweet idea.... (read in full...)
I trust my boyfriend, but this girl makes me a little nervous. Opinions?
Q. My boyfriend is going out all day with his "bestfriend" who is a girl today (they've never done that before but they have hung out) and he never told me about it or what they were going to do. I found out because I looked at what he was typing o...
A. 14 December 2016: I think these things do happen at your age. Maybe ask him can you join them? ... (read in full...)
Is it time to leave this relationship? I'm starting to feel like a roommate or a good friend
Q. 29 F dating 29 M for approximately 1.5 years. My relationship has been rocky from the start. My boyfriend has always pushed the limit with flirting with girls or talking about them. Last month he texted a girl to send him pictures while o...
A. 14 December 2016: Rocky from the start is never good. Sounds like he cares more about himself than he does you. Which is never great in a relationship. End it before it gets worse and he gets more controlling. Because he is beginning to show signs off controlling and ... (read in full...)
Is he a once in a lifetime find??
Q. Okay so I need some opinions. I was in an extremely verbally and emotionally abusive relationship ( he was the abuser) with my ex husband of almost 7 years. I finally realized what was happening and that he could not change so in July we made the...
A. 14 December 2016: If it is so extremely easy then why make it hard? Look everything is new for you both and I think you are looking way to far in to the future. A relationship is always at its best at the start. But all you need is time to trust him and see that he ... (read in full...)
Is it over? Was he cheating? I suggested that we finish the relationship and he just accepted it, as if he's given up.
Q. Hi i recently started distancing myself from my bf of 2 years as we were having a lot of problems(no intimacy for 6 months been the main problem+talking/flirting to girls online i suspected).. Plus told him after a month of hardly seeing him i wa...
A. 14 December 2016: It does sound like he lost interest in you a long time ago. That is probably why he did not try and win you back. Remember that you broke up with him for a reason and stick to that. ... (read in full...)
Is my sexual wish too much to ask?
Q. Dear aunts, I have a gf who i love. I'm straight but a like girls to play with my arse. I just like the sensation. I'm afraid if i ask my gf to try a dildo or a strap on on me will make me less desirable for her. What do you think?...
A. 14 December 2016: Ask her and you will have your answer. It is nothing to be ashamed off. Let us know how you get on!... (read in full...)
Wants to see another female but why?
Q. Hi there. My boyfriend told me that he wants to hang out with a female friend of his. He's mentioned her a bit in the past - they used to work together - but nothing more. He saw my reaction to it - I was immediately against the idea - and then he ...
A. 14 December 2016: You need to be less clingy. If they are friends then it should be okay that they hang out. If she does not know about you then yes that needs to be rectified. But maybe he really did just want to catch up with her. I have friends who are guys and if ... (read in full...)
He doesn't believe I'm innocent
Q. My boyfriend is accusing me of cheating and I'm honestly not I've even ask to give him a lie detector test, one minute he's down for it then the next he doesn't,he says he knows everything that i did cause he's a scorpio and he's very intuitive... ...
A. 14 December 2016: Your boyfriend is insecure and paranoid, and yes it has made it much more worse telling him you have because he will never forget your admission.
Truth be told honey he is never going to trust you. There is not much you can do to make him trus... (read in full...)
Was her comment to her girlfriend about the dick pic normal?
Q. my wife got a picture of a dick texted to her from her girlfriend. She answered the text by saying the dick looked really good , once you get that dick you will never get it out of your mind , you can use him just for that dick . I never heard her ...
A. 14 December 2016: I would be horrified if a friend sent me a picture of a guys dick. If I am married then I wouldn't be commenting to my friend about how great his piece is. Very disrespectful to you.... (read in full...)
I'm worried my boyfriend would leave me if his mother told him to
Q. I've been dating A for 5 months now and things have been better than all my other past relationships luckily. I've been thinking a lot about our future, but one thing seems to get in the way, and that's his mother. He's Mexican and his family is ...
A. 14 December 2016: Hmm honeypie is right you got pregnant way to soon. He is the oldest and he has been brought up as family first. Therefore he goes running to help his mum because he loves and respects her. I guess your family are different.
Have you actually trie... (read in full...)
It's not really a relationship anymore. Do I stay or Do I go?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am in a long term relationship of over 3 years, my man and I have both different careers and are both in University- we do see each other as much as possible. But the romance is dead- I've never been taken on a date, I can't re...
A. 14 December 2016: Sweetie you are enabling him to be dependant on you for everything. You are not his girlfriend you are acting as his carer. Maybe his family know he can be more independent if allowed so they let him do his own things.
I understand living with Auti... (read in full...)
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