'I have given that threesome thing a thought.'
Q. Hello. Long story short. I'm divorced and I started an affair with a colleague. She's young and energetic. She once suggested me to bring a close friend of hers -whom I know personally quite well and is like a friend to me - into our sexual relation ...
A. 21 December 2016: Have you made a decision then? ... (read in full...)
It's not really a relationship anymore. Do I stay or Do I go?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am in a long term relationship of over 3 years, my man and I have both different careers and are both in University- we do see each other as much as possible. But the romance is dead- I've never been taken on a date, I can't re...
A. 14 December 2016: Sweetie you are enabling him to be dependant on you for everything. You are not his girlfriend you are acting as his carer. Maybe his family know he can be more independent if allowed so they let him do his own things.
I understand living with Auti... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend crying over what another guy said when I have tried to reasure her?
Q. Few months back, we had a talk about losing weight. She did get upset over it, but it passed and we were talking normally for a month or two. Recently, a guy at school who she talked to called her fat ( either as an insult or for fun). Since we're ...
A. 14 December 2016: She has body issues, which most girls do. It is a life long battle. She will cry regardless of who makes the comment, because it hurts her. Now either you be more supportive or you end things, because you seem to be acting childish because she cried ... (read in full...)
How do I reassure her that even though I cheated to be with her that I won't cheat on her?
Q. I had an affair with a girl "Kelsey" , she was girl I worked with and was going through a hard time with her family . It started out as friends , me being there for her when she needed someone to lean on. I was in a 5 year relationship with my ex. ...
A. 14 December 2016: You are in this relationship for the long haul, just like you where with your ex. Nothing can stop you from cheating again, especially if you cheated on someone who you where with for five years. My guess is Kelsey will always feel a small bit ... (read in full...)
What do you do when your partner out of nowhere suddenly says that they don't love you anymore?
Q. What do you do when your partner of 12 years (wife for 2 1/2) suddenly tells you out of the blue she no longer loves, feels attracted to you and knows without any doubt this is how she feels? I busted her whilst she was on a night out texting some...
A. 14 December 2016: Do you think she feels it was a stupid decision she made to get with another man? Because I don't think she does. I think she knows exactly what she was doing, but she got caught.
Look it does happen sometimes people fall out off love, there may ... (read in full...)
We have social media related trust issues
Q. My situation is a complicated one so I'll try to keep it to the basics. In our relationship, my S.O. and I have had trust issues stemming from social media. I admit there was a line I crossed at one point but I've never faltered from loving h...
A. 14 December 2016: I don't see anything to incriminating about him liking the post, what I do see is a woman who is probably hormonal and you think back to when you where not to be trusted and this puts paranoia in your head.
The thing is once the trust has gone it i... (read in full...)
We've never met but after three months of chatting she says she loves me
Q. There is a woman whom I met online, who lives in another country. We communicated for quite a bit of time without meeting in person. After about 3 months of emailing, and one Skype call, she told me she loved me. She asked how I felt. I said I liked ...
A. 13 December 2016: My guess is that she loves talking to you, she loves the idea off you both being together and she wears her heart on her sleeve.
Three months is a long time to be talking to someone, even if it is only on line. Now I don't think she loves you as a... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a narcissist?
Q. My birthday is today and my boyfriend has gone out of his way to make me feel bad and start arguments with me. It's beginning to feel like he enjoys ruining every special occasion. Do you think he's a narcissist? We were texting each other yeste...
A. 13 December 2016: He sounds like a spoiled child. I wouldn't put up with this. Could you imagine what he would be like the day you got married?
Honey I really don't know why you have put up with this man for so long, maybe it is just special occasions but he make... (read in full...)
What does it mean when someone refers to you in the third person?
Q. What does it mean when someone talks to you about you but makes you the third person ??? What is the psychology behind taking to me but as the third person?? I know alot of people who talk about themselves as the third person. But what I'm asking is ...
A. 13 December 2016: How do you know someone is you? I think you are reading to much in to it. If someone is you then it is probably just playful and a bit of banter.... (read in full...)
A threesome with my wife and another male was my fantasy. So why couldn't I get hard looking at my wife?
Q. How would you explain this? What I am about to say was totally MY idea, even though my wife was very into it once it got started...My wife and I were in a male friends house initiating a threesome with him...up to this point you could say it was ...
A. 13 December 2016: Sounds like you where nervous when it came to it. You see it was not just you and your wife, the other man was in the room as well. Distraction does funny things like that. ... (read in full...)
Was 'going to the dentist' just a cover story? Was he ever 'seeing the dentist' ? Does the evidence suggest my husband is cheating?
Q. Here is an interesting question and it involves speculation and coming up with possible explanations. I am hoping to see how people think and what conclusions they can draw from this situation. It is something different from the usual. Might be ...
A. 13 December 2016: Op it is clear that you have never truly forgave him because if you did then he would have earned your trust back at this stage. What this mans cheating has done to you has knocked you clean crazy. To the point he cannot even go to the dentist. This ... (read in full...)
How do I take back a stupid lie I told to my boyfriend?
Q. Hi, Let me start with saying I have been extremely stupid. I started dating my current boyfriend 1.5 years back, and wanted very badly to impress him. Unfortunately I had told him sometime back (before we started dating) that I had 2 boyfrien...
A. 12 December 2016: You need to just tell him. It will be difficult and he may not believe you but you need to just be brutally honest with him, show him what you wrote here if that helps. A relationship will only work on honesty and there really is no point holding on ... (read in full...)
How can I stop worrying that he will betray me?
Q. Hi, Thanks in advanced for any help. I'll try and make this brief. Basically I have a partner who I absolutely adore and love and I believe whole heartedly he loves me too. He tells all his work mates about me and i really feel like he adores...
A. 12 December 2016: Nope he is not to be trusted. It is worse that he does not remember and it means nothing to him, that would lead me to believe he talks to women like this all the time, he just forgot to delete this one. If that was my guy he would be out the door. ... (read in full...)
He's become really rough and insistent about sex, is this just a phase?
Q. my bf just wants sex al the time and it is getting very difficult for me/us to lead a normal social life. He used to be very caring and loving but he is like a different person now. He is pressuring me into stuff that i really not sure i want to do ...
A. 12 December 2016: Sweetie he is beginning to control you. Ordering you flowers and telling you that you like nice is not romantic. It is just keeping you sweet. He should not be showing them intimate photos, that makes it clear to me that he does not care about you ... (read in full...)
I like her in 'that' way but she has a boyfriend and I'm not in a position to date right now either. How do I stop myself from falling for her?
Q. Over the last year or so, I became good friends with this woman I work with. We get along really well, but I don't see or talk to her often outside of work, or anything like that, though. I think I'm starting to like her a little more; actually, ...
A. 12 December 2016: I think you should try and avoid her. No point in you trying to be friends with someone who you want more with. She has a boyfriend so don't tell her how you feel. Just stay away from her and hopefully your feelings will fade. Why is it you cannot ... (read in full...)
He is so shy .......
Q. I have known my boyfriend before we were a thing for about a year..he was shy at that time too..but now we are in a relationship and dates seem really awkward..I mean when he texts he's not shy but when in person he starts to blush and stays ...
A. 9 December 2016: He is still not himself around you. Have you both just started dating? If you have then give it time. But you are both adults and if he keeps running away from you and not able to communicate after say a couple of weeks then I would suggest breaking ... (read in full...)
'I have given that threesome thing a thought.'
Q. Hello. Long story short. I'm divorced and I started an affair with a colleague. She's young and energetic. She once suggested me to bring a close friend of hers -whom I know personally quite well and is like a friend to me - into our sexual relation ...
A. 9 December 2016: Me personally I would not want to share my partner with anyone. I would not be able to handle it and it would ruin our relationship. I guess it is personal preference. Just be completely sure you are 100% with it, as threesomes break up ... (read in full...)
Told him to forget it - he's married. Now I've change my mind
Q. OK, an old acquaintance, we coincidentally met in a new town, and had sex for two nights. We spent the 3days hanging out together. We parted as we went back to our respective towns. He called me for a chat everyday, claiming that he missed me. O...
A. 9 December 2016: Hopefully someday you won't fall in love and get married and then he cheats on you. Then you may know what it feels like to be cheated on in a marriage. If you feel good about potentially breaking up a family and leaving a woman completely broken ... (read in full...)
Lack of confidence has put sex on the shelf
Q. I've been dating a guy now for about 5 months and everything is going really well; however I'm feeling incredibly guilty at the moment because, although we have been intimate a few times, we haven't had sex yet (this is when is starts to get ...
A. 9 December 2016: Even when you have clothes on he does see the shape your body is in. If he is still with you then that itself shows he is interested. He has waited five months which shows he is serious about you. The issues with your body lie with you and not him. ... (read in full...)
Suspicious my boyfriend might be talking to other women
Q. I live with my boyfriend. I noticed his battery lost 10 % battery power overnight. Is this possible when you do not use the phone? I ask because it has happened twice this week. He said it just fell off the charger. It has never happened before....
A. 9 December 2016: If I was him I would be angry as well. OP you sound like you have major issues, has he done something to you in the past to make you so mistrusting off him?... (read in full...)
Anxious that my size will put him off
Q. Hello everyone, a few months back I met a man online who I immediately hit it off with. As a little bit of backstory, I'm an avid player of online games and we encountered each other over a shared Teamspeak (similar to Skype in a sense). Over tim...
A. 9 December 2016: You have been honest to him, he has saw pictures of you and he still wants a date therefore go for it. Some guys prefer bigger girls.
Look you are working to change yourself and become healthier which is great, but yes it is a long road. It can ... (read in full...)
Why does guy B act different when shy guy A is around?
Q. SHY Guy A has a crush on me but guy B always try to flirt with me , teases me and try to get my attention by talking loud especially around guy A . I have noticed that guy B 's behaviour makes guy A very uncomfortable When guy A is not around then ...
A. 9 December 2016: If you like one off them then let them know, or if you are not interested again let them know. It is not fair on guy A to continually be made feel like this. Guy B knows what he is doing. He is warning A off you. Am not sure if he wants you for ... (read in full...)
My relationship is really, really troubled!
Q. hey yesterday my partner started an argument about me spending £3 on a game i knew it was a pointless argument which is why walked away i stayed in another room away from her she was adamant she was right to shout at me for this and said she was not ...
A. 9 December 2016: Anon why would you come to the conclusion that she is an alcoholic? Because she works in a pub?
Anyway look she needs to start taking responsibility for her actions. She could very well have cheated. We don't know for sure. Is she distant from you?... (read in full...)
I just found out my boyfriend's best female friend does porn to pay for college
Q. My boyfriends best friend is a girl which I've always been ok with because she was dating one of his friends and my boyfriend says that even though she is attractive, he doesn't find her attractive. however I've recently found out that she does porn ...
A. 9 December 2016: Am not sure why her doing porn has changed her friendship with your boyfriend. It hasn't really, and you need to trust him or else there is no point being with him. ... (read in full...)
Is it over or not? Should I text her something? Try calling again?
Q. I don't know if it's over or not. She's 35. We met about a month ago and hit it off really well on our first date, so we've been seeing each other regularly since then. She recently invited me to see her at a dance competition. I met her friends ...
A. 9 December 2016: Something seems to be distracting her. She seems to have lost interest for some reason. I would just call her up and ask her is she okay if she says yes plan another date if she lets you down then drop all contact.... (read in full...)
I'm scared at the thought of sex and being vulnerable!
Q. Hi I'll be 18 in a few months and whilst I've been somewhat intimate with a guy, I've never had sex. Partly because I'm waiting for the right guy and the right moment and partly because I'm just scared. Im not even sure what I'm scared of. The ...
A. 9 December 2016: It is simple really you are not ready. I am pretty sure a lot of girls feel the same way you do. You need to wait until you are with someone who you trust, who you love and who you want to be with. Believe me you will change and learn to trust him. ... (read in full...)
I'm looking for red flags where there are none!
Q. Please bear with me- I know I sound quite petulant in some of my actions, but I'm trying to own up to it and fix what I've been doing. I've never really had a successful relationship. I end up dating a guy and by 3 months it's always over. The...
A. 9 December 2016: The way I see it is if you keep behaving this way then you will lose him. He sounds like a nice guy but you cannot treat him the way you have been, at some point he will get fed up and leave. It is unfair off you to treat him like this just because ... (read in full...)
He acted as though he liked me but then he went cold
Q. In the begining of October this guy I havent seen since I graduated high school saw me out and spoke to me. Then a few days later he sent me a friend request and we talked for a few weeks on Facebook and he asked me for my number. We went out he ...
A. 9 December 2016: I am happy to hear you are beginning to get better, you may have a few hiccups but that is okay as well as you will get through this. ... (read in full...)
Supporting my sick friend but I'm getting run down
Q. I wanted to see if someone has advice on how to get my self esteem up and stop listening to people's negative opinion. I come from a broken home (my dad was abusive to my mom) their still married it was an arranged marriage so long story short ...
A. 5 December 2016: You only have 10k in savings? That is a lot more money than a lot of people have so really you should be thankful. You have a roof over your head and a good chunk off money in the bank and you are still quite young. It is okay to still live at home. ... (read in full...)
He's a stay-at-home guy. I'm not!
Q. So i have been with my parter 4 years lived together for 3, generally its all very positive we spend a lot of time together and have a great connection. Hes funny and caring and we get on so well but there are somethings that i worry about in terms ...
A. 5 December 2016: Could he have social anxiety? Talk to him. But you might need to accept that this is who he is and you cannot change him. If you can both find a happy middle then great. But if he is uncomfortable travelling then you need to ask yourself are you ... (read in full...)
How should I approach this issue? I feel that my wife is ashamed of me
Q. I have been married to my wife since 2001 (15 years now). One thing that has always bothered me is how while I introduce her to all of my friends I only get to meet some of hers. She is a lot more social than I am and has a lot larger social ci...
A. 5 December 2016: The only advice I can give you is talk to her. At the end of the day this is affecting you and your confidence. Nobody wants to feel that there partner is ashamed by them. You need to talk to her about how you feel. If she puts you down or calls you ... (read in full...)
Was this meaningless or is J trying to get me to notice her in some way?
Q. I have a friend who lives abroad and we talk a lot on Facebook. I went over there to visit her and met her friend who didn't speak much English (codename J). We were all out together and had a good time, but the language barrier could be an issue...
A. 5 December 2016: Yip she probably has a crush on you. But nothing will come from it. You cannot really communicate and you live to far apart. ... (read in full...)
How can this be resolved? I don't want to be a nag but I do want to be told I'm sexy!
Q. Sometimes I like to make an effort in the bedroom and get new lingerie or something that I think is sexy. My guy just takes it off immediately without saying anything. I want to figure out a way to get my guy to communicate that he apprecia...
A. 5 December 2016: I know you don't want to come across as demanding or needy but you do need to talk to him. He cannot read your mind. Therefore next time you make an effort ask him what does he think? Does he like the new lingerie? Be more vocal about the effort you ... (read in full...)
My mother in law always sides with her son regardless of how badly he treats me
Q. I have recently had an argument with my mother in law my severely disabled son attacked me , he pulled my hair and my head back and forth several times, I now have terrible pains on my back and neck. I can cope with that but during the attack m...
A. 5 December 2016: Your mother in law is not going to help, she is not going to side with you over her son. You need to learn that. What you need to do is look after yourself. Therefore if your husband is so bad then divorcee him. If he is draining the life from you ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to leave a bad relationship
Q. Hello I'd like some advice.This is probably all going to sound ridiculous but here goes. I am stuck in a bad relationship it has been bad since the very beggining my partner has done terrible things to me emotionally and physically and I've alw...
A. 5 December 2016: You know what you need to do, so take steps to do it. Nobody likes break ups so yes it will be hard but you just need to be honest with him. Stop blaming yourself. He is the one that allowed you to fall out off love with him by mistreating you. He ... (read in full...)
Should I meet up to talk to him after he said he didn't want to be with me anymore?
Q. I was with this boy for a few months and he basically said that he's changed so doesn't want to be with me. I dunno if I should go meet up and talk or to just let him go. I've never loved someone as much as I love him. He is my true love and he...
A. 5 December 2016: The first heartbreak is the hardest, I know it feels like the end of the world now. But it does get better, it probably will happen again but you will deal with it better as you get older.
Sweetie meeting up with him is a very bad idea. You don'... (read in full...)
My husband keeps muscling in on my friendships
Q. My husband and I have been married almost twenty years. Over that time he had never had any close friends . I have been a person who has only ever kept a handful of close friends but am quite happy with that . We both have many associates. The is...
A. 5 December 2016: He sounds very needy. It could be that he is lonely so he wants to be involved. But I agree he needs to make his own friends, it is unhealthy to want to do everything together. As you said it is nice to have him there at times but we also do need ... (read in full...)
My fiance has been offered a job in America
Q. Hi everyone Just came here for some advice really... So I been with my fiancé for eight years, we have a child together who is six, My fiancé has been offered a job but it will mean moving to America permanently, which will mean all of us goin...
A. 5 December 2016: No off course you are not being selfish. It is a lot to ask from you, and you need to tell him how you are feeling. Yes his career is important but so is you and your child's happiness. It needs to be a joint decision. Also are you sure you will ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has become very self centred
Q. I'm 25 years old and I work in ems/fire. I've been having troubles with my girlfriend recently. I feel like she is becoming very controlling due to the fact she doesn't even live with me but yet gets mad when I have friends over or my dad and brot...
A. 5 December 2016: I know a couple that broke up because the guy was doing night shift and she was getting annoyed at him for sleeping during the day. I feel it is great that you are a hard worker and well done for that, but she is obviously not understanding. Some ... (read in full...)
He acted as though he liked me but then he went cold
Q. In the begining of October this guy I havent seen since I graduated high school saw me out and spoke to me. Then a few days later he sent me a friend request and we talked for a few weeks on Facebook and he asked me for my number. We went out he ...
A. 5 December 2016: You need to be more positive, already you are saying you will have trust issues. Honey we all get hurt, and it hurts the most the first time. But at least he did not waste any more off your time. Now completely block him and move on. Remember not ... (read in full...)
Why do I have crushes on women who are off limits?
Q. Hello. I think that I'm experiencing my 3rd lifetime crush. I can only like girls who are older than me. I'm in my early twenties and all three girls I've had strong feelings for, were in their early thirties or so. And the worst part of it is th...
A. 5 December 2016: Do you like a challenge? It sounds to me like you want what you cannot have, it probably makes them more appealing to you knowing that it is not possible to be in a relationship with them.
I wouldn't say there is anything wrong with you, but mayb... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's libido is so low
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 14 months. Sex has never been frequent or very passionate on his side... he doesn't even like to kiss either. However, recently he doesn't want sex at all and it's weeks and weeks before he gives it me again, but ...
A. 5 December 2016: Just because you are a size eight model does not mean you will look good to everyone, there is no perfect body, no one size fits it all. People are attracted to personal preference. It is clear that you two are not compatible with each other, you ... (read in full...)
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