He told me that he is falling in love with me but is he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. I've been friends and getting to know this guy for a month now. We hang out and he messages me everyday through text without fail. So two days ago we were texting because both of us were about to go to bed, before he says goodnight he say...
A. 30 November 2016: Oh well that is horrible, at least you where true to yourself and you found out now. Hate when people use the love word to get what they want. At least your intuition was right. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop this destructive behavior?
Q. How can I get over the fear of being as ding up alone(not married with children) - this fear has lurked such insecurity that it had led me into the arms of men that are verbally abusive and self centered - I've had one bf since I was 19-25(self ...
A. 30 November 2016: To anon male, do you think god send someone to everyone? If that is the case then why is everyone not happily married? Why did I bother trying to get to know men if god had one lined up for me? I don't think it is fair to give the OP false hope that ... (read in full...)
He told me that he is falling in love with me but is he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. I've been friends and getting to know this guy for a month now. We hang out and he messages me everyday through text without fail. So two days ago we were texting because both of us were about to go to bed, before he says goodnight he say...
A. 30 November 2016: Yip it is pretty clear that he wants sex. However if you tell him you want to wait then maybe he will wait and maybe it will show that he wants more than that. I mean he is human after all so don't shut him down to quickly. ... (read in full...)
He says he is too old for me
Q. Dear cupid, this I been talk to on okcupid he is very nice guy hes59 and I'm 47 we been talk over a month he ask me if move down here if I go out with him I say yes and now he's say he's to old for me but he still wants to move down here he ask me ...
A. 29 November 2016: I would be worrying about his mixed signals and the reason he feels he needs to move to be close to you. I think it is best to avoid this guy as something just doesn't add up.... (read in full...)
Why was he being so open if all he wanted from me was sex?
Q. Hi Everyone, I meet this guy online February 2016. We meet up in March. We both have 9yr old girls, have stuff in common. We hit it off staright away. We meet up every weekend...days out with our children. By April it got very intease, we were...
A. 29 November 2016: My guess is that he realized you both had a lot in common, he wanted a friend, someone to talk to as he needed to open up. He obviously was attracted to you as well but it looks like he doesn't want anything serious. That is probably why he pulled ... (read in full...)
He told me that he is falling in love with me but is he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. I've been friends and getting to know this guy for a month now. We hang out and he messages me everyday through text without fail. So two days ago we were texting because both of us were about to go to bed, before he says goodnight he say...
A. 29 November 2016: Did he say all he wants is sex? ... (read in full...)
They're saying I'm too harsh with her little brother who has autism! Advice?
Q. Hello everyone! I need a hand with something concerning my girlfriend's autistic little brother. So this kid is great, I love him to death I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 months and love her very much, I'd do anything for her. He...
A. 29 November 2016: I have worked a lot with children who have Autism. His family probably know him best, so talk to your girlfriends parents and be honest. Tell them you are not sure how to act around children as you have never really needed to and ask them to guide ... (read in full...)
I am his great big secret!
Q. I have been dating a guy 16 years older than me for the last 6 months. He has been divorced twice and have 3 teenage/young adult children with his first wife and a 3 yr old daughter with the second. He divorced 18 months ago. I have 2 teenagers and ...
A. 29 November 2016: It really is a tough situation to be in. I can understand why your partner is keeping you under wraps. He does not want all the negativity surrounding telling his family. No it is not fair on you. But I do understand him. I guess you just need to ... (read in full...)
My husband is divorcing me we have a severly disabled son
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 12 years. We have a severly disabled son, he is autistic, with learning difficulties and he cannot speak. he is very aggressive at the moment. Friday he pulled me onto the floor by my hair and head butted me. ...
A. 29 November 2016: Your husband is lashing out on you because he is under severe stress with your son. It must be horrendous dealing with this behavior, I have dealt with it at work and it is stressful and upsetting.
If he wants to leave then show him the door. If h... (read in full...)
I thought I was getting over her until I learned she was seeing someone
Q. How long does it take to get over someone if you've been seeing each other for six + years? We were never married but we were carrying on a fun and exciting relationship with affection galore! She began pulling away the last year or so and decide...
A. 29 November 2016: Yes it can be shocking to realize that it still hurts you so much. Especially since you felt you where in a good place. But seeing something brings it to reality and you where simply not ready to see her looking happy with someone else.... (read in full...)
We are both still married. Should I get involved with my married friend?
Q. Hello everyone, Over the past few years, I have run into a lot of issues with my husband and have discovered that the large bulk of our problems stem from some physical and mental health issues which cannot really go away. This has taken a toll...
A. 29 November 2016: Your husband has health issues, I guess you don't want to leave him as you will feel guilty therefore you would like to have this man on the side, and well sure his wife doesn't want him so that makes it okay.
Look you made vows and you either stic... (read in full...)
He told me that he is falling in love with me but is he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. I've been friends and getting to know this guy for a month now. We hang out and he messages me everyday through text without fail. So two days ago we were texting because both of us were about to go to bed, before he says goodnight he say...
A. 29 November 2016: Just be honest with him, tell him that it is lovely to hear, but that it takes you a while longer to trust someone to let your guard fully down. If he does love you then he will respect your decision and honesty. If am going to be honest though I ... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into what my boyfriend said?
Q. I would appreciate some insight from the following...I am questioning whether or not I am reading too much into it or if it is indeed something I should be concerned about. A few evenings ago, my boyfriend of a year and I were having some cock...
A. 29 November 2016: Yeah I think you are worrying over nothing. He landed himself in it while trying to tell you that your friend was jealous off what you had, he was trying to explain how it felt when he imagined everyone was jealous off what he had. Don't let it get ... (read in full...)
I thought I was getting over her until I learned she was seeing someone
Q. How long does it take to get over someone if you've been seeing each other for six + years? We were never married but we were carrying on a fun and exciting relationship with affection galore! She began pulling away the last year or so and decide...
A. 29 November 2016: You where doing a great job getting over her, you where following all the 'rules'. But you where not expecting to hear that she is now in another relationship. That is going to set you back, it is going to remind you off the good times, it reminds ... (read in full...)
How do I accept compliments with confidence?
Q. Dear cupids, This is a little embarrassing for me to admit. I head a team of three people at work and I am a bit of a shy and awkward kind of person. Whenever we mess up I know to behave like I'm sorry. I just take it on the chin, accept responsib...
A. 29 November 2016: Say:
Thank you for the appreciation, me and my team try our hardest every day. I appreciate your feedback.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend said I was 'mushy'
Q. I have been with a new girl for a few months. Tonight we were drinking a little bit and I told her how much I enjoyed being with her. She asked me if I was getting mushy and I told her that I was and that she needed to cope with it. I did tel...
A. 29 November 2016: Hmm I guess you just need to ask her, Hey where is this headed? Are you wanting a relationship or just some fun? That should give you your answer. It is possible that she just doesn't like being soppy.... (read in full...)
How do I convince my girlfriend to indulge my ballbusting fetish?
Q. I've been dating a girl, that I love, for about six months. I also love ballbusting, and the problem is that she doesn't want to do it anymore. If you don't know what it is, just Google it. One session usually lasts about 30-60 minutes, dependi...
A. 29 November 2016: If she does not want to do this then you have to respect her wishes. Would you like it if she tried to get you to do something that you really did not want to do? Think off something sexual that is a no for you, now ask yourself is it fair to ask ... (read in full...)
Is she jealous?
Q. Hello. First of all, I have a friend and she is a lesbian. We still hang out with each other. I kind of like her but I didn't show it to her cause I don't want to break our friendship. One day, when she surprisingly visited me in my house, we hang ...
A. 29 November 2016: Are you trying to make her jealous? Are you wanting to be in a romantic relationship with her? Are you a lesbian?
Look you are young and you might not know what you want at the moment. But don't play games with other people. If she is not inte... (read in full...)
Should I just be brave and go for it?
Q. I really like this guy. We've only met twice but we speak practically every day. Lately, he's not spoken as much and I feel we are drifting apart. He knows how I feel and he says he likes me too. I don't want to rush things but I feel I'm pu...
A. 29 November 2016: If he disregarded it then that is really not a good sign. If he was interested as well he would have been delighted with your revelation and he would have told you he felt the same, he really wouldn't have changed the subject. Again I would bite the ... (read in full...)
I just want things back to normal between us
Q. How do you make a situation less awkward? About 3 months ago I got with a colleague and in short, he was an idiot about things and very misleading. He's clearly in the wrong and has never apologised or addressed the situation, but that's besides ...
A. 29 November 2016: Be professional. Be polite. But don't be friendly. I agree you need to let the bitterness go as it won't do you any good. It is only you that is suffering. That's the thing with hooking up with a work mate. If it goes wrong it makes life awkward. I ... (read in full...)
Uncertain if he's interested
Q. I became interested in my friends best friend and I didn't talk to him much because he was always hanging around my friend. We were both getting pretty drunk and told my friend I was interested in him and I think he told him that and he started ...
A. 29 November 2016: Try talking to your friend and see what he has to say. I am glad he did not try and come home with you or try and have sex with you as you both where very drunk so it would not have been the smartest thing to do.
I get you are unsure what to do n... (read in full...)
Will he ever think of me more than just a hook up?
Q. I met this guy on tinder and we got on really well. The same night I met him on tinder we met in person and we hooked up. We have hooked up 3 times in the past 6 days. After every time we hook up we would have long and sometimes feel conversations ...
A. 29 November 2016: Please be careful. You barely know each other, you did not take the time to date and went straight in to hooking up. You have hooked up three times, and he has told you he still loves his ex. This to me says that this guy is not ready to date, hook ... (read in full...)
Why don't my parents listen to me?
Q. Just had my retired parents(who live interstate) hang up a phone call in my ear as I criticised them for not listening,(which they dont!)? Im a shift worker and am only available to talk on phone certain times, they do not get this! and feel...
A. 29 November 2016: Look they are not going to get it. The have a different life and don't think when they are calling, just that they are calling there daughter. To me it seems that you resent your sister and you resent your parents. But you do need to have a bit more ... (read in full...)
Is this guy straight or bi
Q. I'm really confused and a little jealous..... there's this guy I started talking to at the gym, his in better shape but than me (so his not admiring my body prior) he used to stare at me a lot then we started talking... turns out we have loads in...
A. 29 November 2016: Your ex is a girl and so is his. You are bi, and well maybe he is as well. I think sometimes it is best to just rip off the band aid quickly. Just ask him out straight if he is straight or bi?! Or you could tell him you are bi and wait for his ... (read in full...)
Questions about dating and how women react if they don't want to date
Q. Ladies, this question is for you. You guys know when a guy is interested in you, right? I mean a guy whom you've know only for a short while. Do you get the feeling that he's about to ask you out before he does it? If you're not interested roman...
A. 29 November 2016: I can't say I do know when a man is interested, unless he is sending clear signals sometimes I wouldn't have a clue. If I was not interested I would simply tell him No Thanks. Afterwards probably would be awkward depending on how he took the answer. ... (read in full...)
Why did this very shy guy come over and touch me and talk to me?
Q. ok this shy guy who flirts with me suddenly came right besides me and put his hands on my shoulder and said how are you to me. ..I was shocked because he is very shy guy and never touches any other female at all and also he gets nervous around me a ...
A. 29 November 2016: He is shy but he flirts with you? Well my guess is that he was also flirting with you here again by showing body contact. Do you like this guy? If so then maybe make the next move, and if you don't like him then don't flirt back.... (read in full...)
Do I wait for him to come round? Or do I let go?
Q. Could do with some insight here into my situation. I call it a situation because it is not nor never has been a relationship. and my female friends and male friends are offering conflicting advice. so I really am lost. I have a long-term friend...
A. 29 November 2016: It sounds to me like he lusted after you for years. He got what he wanted then he dropped the bombshell that he did not want to drag you in to his mess. But he did drag you in to his mess the moment you and him got together as more than friends. I ... (read in full...)
I think I deserve a straight answer
Q. I asked this girl out recently who I actually thought liked me back, given all the flirting, but as soon as I asked if she wanted to go out, she shrugged her shoulders and said, “I don’t know, I have to think about it, can I get back to you?” W...
A. 29 November 2016: A) She could be playing hard to get therefore is leaving you hanging for a while.
B) She might not be interested but did not want to HURT you so therefore told you she would let you know.
You see OP a lot of girls can be sensitive and in... (read in full...)
Can't fathom the girl
Q. My girlfriend's brother's girlfriend often pops up on Facebook and talks to me, asking questions and generally being friendly. However, in person, she is very cold. I have only met her once for a week as she lives in the USA and after a year of ...
A. 29 November 2016: That is the thing with online, people can hide behind a screen, they have time to type out a message and think about what they can say, where as in person they have to be themselves. So reading what you have to say my guess is that she is shy in ... (read in full...)
Being an Indian how do you send subtle indications to a White guy that you are interested in him?
Q. How to make a white guy understand you are interested in him? Asking him out surely didn't help. We Indians are so culturally different from the west I wonder what would be the right way to send some cues for the guy that I want us to be more tha...
A. 29 November 2016: You have asked him out, my guess is that he turned you down. Usually that is enough to say he is not interested. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to give another man oral sex.I am not happy with this!
Q. My boyfriend has been pressuring me into blowing another guy and I feel completely uncomfortable with the idea, I have told him this everytime he's asked and now he brings it up in the middle of sex or while he's dirty talking, I told him I'd ...
A. 29 November 2016: Are you easily led? The moment you opened up with he is pressuring you, I knew that this post was not going to end well. I am scared because you have gave in to doing something you don't want to do, something that will leave you feeling degraded and ... (read in full...)
2 year relationship just ended. How to move on?
Q. I remember that it hurt. Hearing the words hurt - and at the same time, it felt like something out of a movie, like it wasn't happening. After all, how could it? It had been merely a week since our second anniversary, and as an anniversary gift she ...
A. 29 November 2016: Okay first off stop trying to be friends with her, at the moment you are doing well and you are only going to take a huge step backwards if you begin talking to her, even as a friend. I understand that you are lonely but you need to have her off ... (read in full...)
How can I stop this destructive behavior?
Q. How can I get over the fear of being as ding up alone(not married with children) - this fear has lurked such insecurity that it had led me into the arms of men that are verbally abusive and self centered - I've had one bf since I was 19-25(self ...
A. 29 November 2016: Look OP god is not going to send someone just for you, that is not how life works, as if it was it would be much more a black and white world.
You are attracting the wrong guys because you are coming across as desperate. The moment you learn to l... (read in full...)
22 years in a loveless abusive marriage. What should I do?
Q. Have been living a loveless marriage for 22yrs, always abusing me verbally like am not pretty, not compatible, he's always the one that brings quarrel telling me to go. But the kids am afraid of quitting am also from a broken home I knew what I ...
A. 28 November 2016: You have been giving good advice, have you decided what you are going to do next? Are your children still young? I would rather see my parents living apart and happy than watching them live together and my father bringing my mother down all the ... (read in full...)
I think my neice is actually my father's child
Q. hi im 67 years old and have this niggling problem i dicovered when i walked in on my father haveing sex with my eldest sister this was when i was 14 my sister see me but dad did not and they carried on i am sure that her youngest child who is now ...
A. 28 November 2016: What a terrible thing you have had to keep quiet all your life. What made you never ask them? I do hate that you call it sex, because to me it sounds like rape.
I think you should talk to a sexual abuse therapist about what you saw, as am sure at t... (read in full...)
Please help: where is the line drawn between insecurity and stepping over boundaries?
Q. Hello, I was wondering how best to approach my boyfriend (of 3.5 years) and talk to him about something in our relationship I'm not happy with. We are usually very open and encourage communicating so I don't have any worries about him getting upse...
A. 28 November 2016: You do need to sit down and talk to him about this. I am aware that you have social anxiety but this isn't really the same thing.
If I had porn on the background every time I had sex I would feel insecure as well. Checking up porn stars and chec... (read in full...)
Why would he? Potential date seems too much in a hurry to meet
Q. Hey all . Ive started online dating a month ago and been talking to a guy at the beginning he took his time getting to know me but suddenly he seems to want to meet fast like the world is going to end and he has to cram it in . Im careful and take...
A. 28 November 2016: Thanks for the update, glad to hear it went well, all the best AH.... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 28 November 2016: I am sorry that you have had to go through this. The only positive thing is you have had a lucky escape, I am glad you have finished with him, and I hope you reported him for the attack. Allow all your family and friends to help you during this ... (read in full...)
Why is my married former lover so jealous now that I've moved on to someone available?
Q. I'm doing my best to move on from the MM that i was dealing with. He wants to be friends and i first i found it difficult but since i was able to get some distance due to our temporary separation i decided to give a friendship a try. I also have ...
A. 28 November 2016: You will keep making excuses to keep in contact with him, it is clear you are not ready to let go off him yet. The thing is you say he knows he can't have you, well he could have you if he wanted you, but he is married. He wants the fun from an ... (read in full...)
I've planned a very elaborate threesome with my bf and another girl, but could still do with some advice..
Q. Hi all. The live-in boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We are very solid, trust each other completely, with little to no jealousy whatsoever, and we have a great sex life. So after about 6 months of discussion, we've finally decided to ...
A. 25 November 2016: Okay first off I think you need to make sure this girl is clean, if that is the case then why all the condom changes? Are you worried you might get a bacterial infection? Or was it to protect from STI's?
Me personally I don't think it is a grea... (read in full...)
Why is my married former lover so jealous now that I've moved on to someone available?
Q. I'm doing my best to move on from the MM that i was dealing with. He wants to be friends and i first i found it difficult but since i was able to get some distance due to our temporary separation i decided to give a friendship a try. I also have ...
A. 25 November 2016: He does not want to let go because he is selfish. He likes the attention he gets off you. He can have fun with you and then go home to his wife. What a catch!!
Look first bit off advice is change your number. Drop all contact from him and don't get ... (read in full...)
I feel lonely, does it make me desperate that I want to be in a relationship?
Q. I am 21 and I have never been in a relationship. (I've never been kissed either.) it seems like men have never been attracted to me. I've lost about 60 pounds in the past year and I've gained a lot of confidence. However, I never get asked out and I ...
A. 25 November 2016: No off course it does not make you desperate you want to share your life with someone nothing wrong with that. However it does sound like you are waiting around for someone to come and find you. If you sit waiting then you could be waiting a long ... (read in full...)
I'm straight and not interested in my female friend, but I'd like to maintain our friendship. Can that still happen after she admitted romantic feelings for me?
Q. I used to have a female best friend, who fell in love with me. Trouble was, I'm straight and had a boyfriend. She got very jealous, and I spilt up with my boyfriend because I felt our friendship was nore important, which made it worse, because I ...
A. 25 November 2016: You don't be her friend. She has different feelings for you and if you offer friendship she will see more than that. You need to remind her that you are not interested in other females and that you think it is best you both keep your distance ... (read in full...)
Is she trying to avoid going out with me? Or just not interested?
Q. First I would like to give a little background on the situation (please bear with it as it is going to be long). Me and this girl in my class have been talking for a month and i liked her.A few days ago we decided to go for a movie on this sunday. ...
A. 25 November 2016: It sounds to me like she is enjoying the attention that you are giving her. She is just out off a relationship so she probably wants time to get over that, but also you are a clear distraction for her. Don't allow yourself to get hurt.... (read in full...)
Why would he? Potential date seems too much in a hurry to meet
Q. Hey all . Ive started online dating a month ago and been talking to a guy at the beginning he took his time getting to know me but suddenly he seems to want to meet fast like the world is going to end and he has to cram it in . Im careful and take...
A. 23 November 2016: It has been a month, maybe he has just thought to himself it is time and now he wants to rush it before he or you change your mind. Go for it meet him at the weekend in a public place and see how it goes. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 22 November 2016: You where right in that it should be him that is keeping away from facebook chat, not you being there to stop him. You know he is doing this behind your back, and am pretty sure it is not just his ex he is chatting to either. I would end things with ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 17 November 2016: Why are you both not friends on social media? I think you could be right why he was mad at her. He sounds like a shady character. Now am not saying he is cheating on you, but still talking with an ex is not the best way to make you feel secure and ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 14 November 2016: I would just ignore it. My guess is that she was curious as to why you added her and that is why she wanted to chat. I think you should be honest with your partner. You say he is mad at her, but I don't understand why when it was you that send the ... (read in full...)
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