Could my bf's avoidance of my compliments suggest he is cheating?
Q. I have been suspecting my bf has been unfaithful recently. Just sense a change. When having a text conversation this evening, I went on about how lucky I am to have him. What a good guy he is and how I am glad he is not like other men. I sai...
A. 9 February 2017: Yeah he is patient with you because he loves you, but patience only stays for so long as well. I hope you get the help you need.... (read in full...)
My friend's Bf wanted to have sex with me!! Should I be feeling so hurt about my friend cutting me off for doing nothing wrong!!!?
Q. My friend is mad at me because her boyfriend wanted to in her words " ^^^k ME" I have never met the guy nor has he seen what i look like. My friend does not have social media, I do. And shes mad at me. It was the strangest text i have ever received...
A. 2 February 2017: Okay we get it you done nothing wrong. I can see why you are angry but honestly she is not worth it. It sounds to me like she used this as an excuse to lash out at you and end the friendship. You don't need her in your life. Part ways and wish her ... (read in full...)
Is she trying to brush me off?
Q. I 've been friendly with this girl that I work with.We have few things in common and we've had few good conversations. Her and I like to go to shows at art galleries so one day during conconversations,I asked her to come along to this show that w...
A. 2 February 2017: I don't think she is interested in becoming friends with you. Not replying is her way off saying no. She just does not want to be honest with you. Stop trying with her, its not worth the effort.... (read in full...)
He wont have any more sex with me because he is a Christian!
Q. Hi there, I'm a normal girl, 26, and I'm in a relationship with a transguy, 29 (not yet done any surgery to transform) who happened to be a Christian since he was born (with girl name of course). I'm not religious at all. We've already been tog...
A. 2 February 2017: I have to agree that he is using this as an excuse not to have sex with you. At the end off the day he would have already knowing that rule. My guess is that he is uncomfortable in the wrong body and that sex makes him uncomfortable, he probably ... (read in full...)
My husband can't see the problems with his ex wife ...
Q. My husband and his ex have not spoken in years because of all the trouble she caused at the beginning of our relationship. She called begging him to come sleep with her, she kept asking to come over claiming she needed closure (she was the one who ...
A. 2 February 2017: It is clear that he does not want to stop talking to her, whatever his reasons are that is the cold truth. He knows deep down it is bothering you but he still refuses to stop. To me that is completely disrespectful to you and your family. I could ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to tell him everything and stay friends?
Q. Hi. I'm hurting and would appreciate a third person's opinion. I've had feelings for a friend for last 2.5 years. They kept getting intense with time but he lives in a different city so I never acted upon my feelings. We used to flirt back and fort...
A. 2 February 2017: He is not your friend. Believe me he knows already that you have feelings for him, he likes the attention, the chase. But he offers you nothing. How he treats you is cold and cruel. Off course he is opening his messages, he is just not opening yours ... (read in full...)
He says he chose to watch porn when he was missing me. Were his actions out of line? how have others handled a similar situation?
Q. Should I be upset by this or not?. My boyfriend and I had an argument last week. He assumed that was seeing someone else, which I wasn't. We made up yesterday, but something bothered me. He said that on the night we argued, he went on to a por...
A. 2 February 2017: Personally I wouldn't be annoyed with him. If you have issues with porn then you should deal with them, I don't think you are able to control what he watches. ... (read in full...)
Dad told me if I dated this guy he would kick me out
Q. I am 19 years old. Im a college student. There's a guy I like who is 24, I get along with great because we share the same interests. He likes me back. Though I can't date him for two reasons: 1 were related by marriage (no blood) 2 my dad said if...
A. 1 February 2017: Okay it may not be by blood but it can still be messy. People who are young get in relationships all the time that end and they are heartbroken and never want to see their ex again. Your dad does not want to see family broke up over puppy love. I ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty and pathetic because I know there are people worse off than me!
Q. Sorry if this sounds whiny, but I think I need some advice from some non judgemental people. Basically, to say my life hasn't turned out how I imagined it is an understatement. I've done nothing with it literally. I don't know why, but when I was ...
A. 1 February 2017: Honestly I think we all feel like this from time to time. But you need to start seeing you are still young and have your life ahead off you. I think you need to talk to a therapist though, it does sound like you are suffering from depression and ... (read in full...)
My manager wants me to cancel my nonrefundable vacation for work!
Q. Long story short, I back up one of my colleagues whenever she goes on vacation. We're in different departments. I'm happy to do so and she always only takes one day off at a time anyway. Anything that requires her expertise that I cannot handle ...
A. 1 February 2017: It should not effect your bonus, be honest with her and tell her it is non refundable and see what she has to say. Tell us how you get on. ... (read in full...)
I'm losing my best friend and don't know what to do.
Q. I'm friends with a female who ive known for six months, I knew her from work as we worked together and seem to get on, she was one of those temporary people. anyway she told me she was off to nicaragua on a water project to promote clean water an...
A. 1 February 2017: Are you the same guy who bought her flowers before she left and refused to go to work because you had commented on her social media? If not then your story is very much like his and I doubt it will end well. She worked with you for a while then went ... (read in full...)
Should I dump uni' for a small screen role?
Q. Hi everybody, I have a difficult decision to make. I am a student at uni studying accountancy. About half a year ago I suffered a nervous breakdown and was allowed to take break from my studies. I was experiencing a deep depression and took this ...
A. 1 February 2017: Go for it. It is your life, don't live it by what you think others will want to see, you do what makes you feel alive and good about yourself. So many people in the world, homeless lying in a gutter, there are people with degrees stuck in jobs ... (read in full...)
I don't understand the attitude of my hook-up
Q. My hook up and I kept trying to make plans to, well you know, hook up, but he kept cancelling on me because something came up that he had to take care of. Anyway he apologized for being confusing lately (which idk what that really meant) but I...
A. 1 February 2017: To him he probably sees it as if he has nothing better to do then he will hit you up and have sex with you. It seems neither off you want a relationship, and he probably leaves you as a last option. If he cared he would not keep cancelling. It looks ... (read in full...)
Gave up my family and now he treats me badly
Q. Hello all. I'm married for 20 months now. It was a love marriage, a run-away marriage actually. My husband was the nicest man ever. So polite so caring so adorable. After I ran away from my home and few months passed he changed. He has become...
A. 1 February 2017: Look your parents may have fallen out with you, but they will always be worried about you. Do what is right and go home. They will welcome you back, they will be sad he has treated you like this, but they will be so happy to have you home. If you ... (read in full...)
How can I end this selfishness in my marriage?
Q. Hi guys. Im just looking for a bit of advice. Im 24 years old and I married my husband last year. Lately he has been very selfish and entitalled. Every morning he is rude and angry. He always complains about having to go to work. I am so sick and ...
A. 1 February 2017: Sorry to hear about your father, it is tough when a family member dies so young. You should be able to talk to your husband about your grieve.
Okay so now on to the husband, he complains about work because he is lazy. He may hate his job ther... (read in full...)
Why do men say they need porn?
Q. Why do people so often say men need porn when it's clearly a want not a need. No man has ever died of lack of porn and although men may prefer porn to masturbate with porn , men for thousands of years masturbated without the hardcore porn available ...
A. 1 February 2017: Off course no man needs porn, and I never really hear men saying that. My man doesn't even watch it. Doesn't bother him in the slightest, and if he did want to watch it, then it would not bother me, as it is just the same as sitting down and ... (read in full...)
Why would my co-worker buy me coffee and a muffin?
Q. Today one of my coworkers that I'm friendly with surprised me with coffee and muffin from a fast food place. I normally get to work an hour early because parking spaces are scarce--first come first serve. When I arrived, he came to my window and...
A. 1 February 2017: He has saw you sleeping in your car, my guess is that he is a kind man and when he was stopped to get himself something thought off you parked their for an hour or so napping and wanted to bring you something. It is sad that this has made you feel ... (read in full...)
He gets my hopes up talking about having kids and then changes his mind!
Q. hello all of you, I'm Lauren, I would like you all to know my name. I need some advice. I have just come out of a 16 year relationship, my now ex was a lot older than me and had his fill of life experience, married, 4 kids, divorced and th...
A. 1 February 2017: You need to ask yourself what do you want, stop agreeing with what the men want and start putting yourself first. If you want both marriage and children then be honest with him. Why should you make compromises? Why should you look back in five years ... (read in full...)
I want a prettier girlfriend who cares about being fit and healthy. What do I need to do?
Q. I want a prettier girlfriend. I've been with mine for a few years now and it seems wrong to leave. I love her but the lack of effort (exercise counts) is making me less attracted to her. Bringing it up makes me the bad guy. What should I do?...
A. 1 February 2017: I will say again what I said to you in your last post, just because you decided to make a healthier life style for yourself does not mean she should make the same choice as you. Please do leave her, but when you are looking at other women they may ... (read in full...)
I'm 39 weeks pregnant and my husband is causing me anxiety as he prefers drinking and socialising with his friends. I feel unsupported. How should I handle this?
Q. I'm 39 weeks pregnant and married for less than a year so we are pretty new. We are currently waiting for the D day and I'm extremely anxious as this is our first child. The problem is that he just isn't there for me. He prefers hanging out ...
A. 1 February 2017: Has he got an issue with alcohol, did he always black out or is this just a new thing that is happening? Did you both discuss having a child before falling pregnant, and how long where you together before marriage?
If this behavior is new I gues... (read in full...)
When a person leaves their job is it OK to still maintain contact, call, and catch up with them for a drink if they are in a relationship?
Q. When someone you work with leaves is it ok to contact him by text or phone even though they have a girl fiend just to see how they are and to maintain contact. What about going for a drink to catch up. Would it make me look like a bad person? ...
A. 1 February 2017: I don't see the trouble with it, unless off course you are attracted to him and have feelings for him. If that is the case then I would leave him be, stop the messages. However if you do genuinely see him as a friend no harm in messaging him, and ... (read in full...)
How can I get the physical affection aspect re-started in our relationship? The cuddles have stopped.
Q. Hi everyone. I'm not sure what to do. My husband and I mostly have a great relationship, but for the last few months he seems to touch me only for sex. I like sex, but I'm starting to resent it and not want to have it when it seems to be the only...
A. 1 February 2017: Have you actually spoke to him and told him how you have been feeling? I find that once you get settled in to married life passion does slip at times, men don't need as much affection as women do. But am sure he is not meaning to neglect you or make ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is in hospital and her family are keeping me in the dark
Q. I have no idea what to do to deal with this situation. I have been with my girlfriend since 2011, she was 18 at the time we started. We have had a great relationship, typical ups and downs, but all in all great. Her family has never warmed up ...
A. 1 February 2017: Shame on her family for allowing this to happen to you. Did they know that you where both together for five years or was she keeping them in the dark? I sincerely hope you find out all the arrangements. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have a relationship with him but I'd like him as a friend.
Q. Me and my ex (who i've known my entire life) split up a year ago because he started to treat me bad and was showing signs of unfaithfulness. However, a year on me and him were supposedly over the relationship and he requested that we be friends. We ...
A. 1 February 2017: Nope it is a terrible idea, you will develop feelings even though you don't want to, you will end up having sex with him, he will end up leaving you heartbroken after gotten what he wanted. Honestly just end the contact, it is a car crash waiting to ... (read in full...)
I feel I am just not good enough for anything, its affecting my life and future!
Q. How do I get over this overwhelming feeling that I'm just not good enough? I'm going to be 18 this year and I'm just sick of always feeling this way about everything. 1) I'm the middle child in my family, and this may sound really cliqué but it's...
A. 1 February 2017: Well done for getting accepted in to all courses, you need to look at the good in that not the bad. Don't be shocked, you obviously worked hard to earn that, now you need to choose the uni and course you want and focus your future on that.
It soun... (read in full...)
I don't know how to relax and be content in the moment.
Q. I've been dating a great guy for a few months now. In the first few weeks, we had 2 minor communication mishaps, but it's generally been smooth sailing. My friends and family like him, and his like me. It's the first healthy relationship I'v...
A. 1 February 2017: Social anxiety really is a horrible thing to have to deal with in your head. Remember your thoughts are your own and he does not need to hear them unless you want to share. You say you are working with a counselor at the moment, so talk to them ... (read in full...)
I need help to face my fears so I can ask her out!
Q. Hey ppl, I need some advice. I'll try to keep it short. I like a girl. I have a bad case of social anxiety. I think she used to like me too but think I've waited too long and she's loosing/lost interest.I get to see her once a week. Most times...
A. 1 February 2017: You: Hi X how are you today?
You: If you are free later would you like to go out for lunch we can have a catch up as I haven't saw you in so long? Would be nice to chat. ... (read in full...)
I'm having doubts about his ability to stay faithful
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 8/9 months now. He is 29 and I'm 31. He is into sex a lot and has a really high sex drive. He needs to have sex everyday plus masturbate once a day on top of that. I am not always up for sex everyday, ...
A. 1 February 2017: He doesn't sound like the most mature man ever. He still is in the phase off going out partying and smoking drugs. This leads him to actively looking out for prostitutes. Maybe he is just curious, but doing it in front off you shows he is not ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend is dragging his feet about us moving in together
Q. I am in a long distance relationship and have been for almost four years.My finance live 88 miles away so I see him every weekend. The problem is he is dragging his feet for us to live together and I have become extremely resentful.He says we can ...
A. 1 February 2017: Four years together and only seeing each other at weekends is a struggle at best. It is difficult to make life long commitments when you are both far apart. Can you both not meet in the middle and rent a place for a while to see if you are even ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend not attracted to me?
Q. So I have been with my bf for a year now. He's such a caring, supportive and generous guy. During our first weeks of relationship, he initiates sex more often but not the great even but these days,he doesn't anymore. Sometimes, he even has a hard ...
A. 1 February 2017: Everybody has different sex drives. Just because he is not wanting sex from you really does not mean he is getting it from elsewhere. He may just not be that fussed with sex. I mean do you come on to him much? Does he always turn you down? Do you ... (read in full...)
I'm a sex addict and now my boyfriend is angry and withholding sex from me
Q. Hi all. Im stuck in a situation that is difficult for me to talk about due to embarrassment. Im a sex addict and have been dating the same man for going on 5 years now. At first, our sex life was incredible. I thanked god for sending me a man that ...
A. 1 February 2017: Honestly I don't think he is the right man for you. I really do feel you need to think to yourself why you are in this relationship.... (read in full...)
He has told me he no longer loves me ... but we have been happier than ever.
Q. I am having some troubles with my fiancé. I am 22 years old and we have been together for four years now, we also live together and have a mortgage on our own house. Over the pst few months he keeps saying things like "I need some space" and "I wa...
A. 31 January 2017: You need to listen to what he is saying to you sweetie. He is confused. You have both been together a long time, you are engaged and living a happy life in your own house. It seems he has gotten scared a long the way. Scared off making such a huge ... (read in full...)
I'm a sex addict and now my boyfriend is angry and withholding sex from me
Q. Hi all. Im stuck in a situation that is difficult for me to talk about due to embarrassment. Im a sex addict and have been dating the same man for going on 5 years now. At first, our sex life was incredible. I thanked god for sending me a man that ...
A. 31 January 2017: What does not make sense about your relationship, is he only started with holding sex after he got caught cheating. It sounds like emotional abuse, he is holding back the one thing he knows will drive you insane. It seems very controlling behavior. ... (read in full...)
Affair with my best friend but I have a partner of 18 years and a one year old that we had after years of trying. What do I do now?
Q. I've been with my partner for 18 years I do love him and we have a one year old which we tried for years to have. But for the last 3 year I have been having an affair with my best friend who's showed me so much love , a lot more love than I seem to ...
A. 31 January 2017: You got cheated on by him therefore you should know how horrible it is on a person, it means you should be the bigger person and never make another human feel that way about themselves, it really is no excuse why you started this affair. If you ... (read in full...)
I kissed Max on the cheek and Mark thinks I cheated!
Q. Hi, me and this boy have known each other for around 3 years now. Lets say his name is mark, me and mark have been quite good mates. The other day he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. I told him not to tell anyone we were together ...
A. 31 January 2017: It sounds to me like Mark and your bestfriend like each other and are trying to make each other jealous. Maybe you should stay single for the time being as you are still very young and don't want to be getting caught up in so much drama. ... (read in full...)
Why is he checking on his ex flings FB page after she unfriended him?
Q. Something happened a few months ago with my husband and an "ex-fling" of his. I was there when the incident occurred and it was just a bit of drunk stupidity on his part, which we are both fine with in our relationship - it was a private message ...
A. 31 January 2017: He is probably curious and checking out to see why she deleted him. Male ego is a big thing. But it doesn't mean that he has feelings for her or is imagining being with her. Try not stress about it and leave it as it is. If it gets to much for you ... (read in full...)
Could my bf's avoidance of my compliments suggest he is cheating?
Q. I have been suspecting my bf has been unfaithful recently. Just sense a change. When having a text conversation this evening, I went on about how lucky I am to have him. What a good guy he is and how I am glad he is not like other men. I sai...
A. 31 January 2017: I think it is clear that these are your trust issues. I understand that your ex has hurt you, but so did mine, I still do not take it out on my current partner. You have been together two years, and yet you are still comparing him to your ex? If ... (read in full...)
How come I am not heartbroken?
Q. I had a huge crush on a girl for about 5 years. I went to school with her in high school, but now that I'm out I haven't spoken to her in person just over text. Recently I found out she just got a boyfriend, at first I thought I'd be all heart ...
A. 31 January 2017: She was your crush at school. We all have those. I remember mine. But then you left school and that crush faded, you have moved on to another part off your life. ... (read in full...)
He is much older but I want to have sex with him
Q. I knew a guy at work. I'm 22 he is 41. A very sexy man. Do u think he will have something with me after sex. We decided to be friends with benefits. He is in a relationship with a 31 years old . We planned to have sex this weekend. Do you think is ...
A. 31 January 2017: He knows the ladies think he is sexy and he uses it to get sex from girls. Simple as that. It is not that he is incapable off love he just loves having sex with lots off different girls at the moment to settle down.
No he won't have anything afte... (read in full...)
Our marriage is totally devoid of all physical contact!
Q. I am writing to you because I feel I have no one to tell. I have been married for 20 years to a woman who is the mother of my three children (19, 17 1nd 12). We haven't had sex since before the birth of our youngest child and its killing me. In f...
A. 31 January 2017: Could your wife be suffering from depression, maybe it began after your last child, post natal? I can see she is in denial and you are probably at your wits end. I will never agree with cheating especially visiting sex workers but I do understand ... (read in full...)
Could her actions in bathroom indicate that she cheated?
Q. My wife got really drunk last night and started a fight then went and douched her vag and left the bottle on the counter on accident. Now swears up and down she didn't cheat and says I'm in the wrong for accusing here. Any thoughts?...
A. 31 January 2017: You need to tell us more, how is the relationship? Has she cheated in the past? Is her drinking causing fights in the relationship? I am not getting enough from your post to give you advice. Please tell us more.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend pathetic? Or just stuck in his life at the moment?
Q. Ok, so...my boyfriend's truck broke down this past summer and I got a car about two or three months after. He could have got another by now had he saved better but idk. He spends his money on weed mostly and his phone bill and car insurance bill ...
A. 31 January 2017: You need to learn to say No! Really you do. I actually don't see what you get from this relationship. It looks like he is using you and you are letting him. Next time he asks for a lift say no, or to drive say no. If you are going to eat fast food ... (read in full...)
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