I need help to deal with new found info about wife's past. What should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for five years and have two kids. I have never asked anything about her past all I knew is she wasn't a virgin when we met. This past summer we were at a pool party and one of my best friend's from school was ther...
A. 10 March 2017: Is this situation any better now?... (read in full...)
Every time my boyfriend has problems he pushes me away
Q. My boyfriend is going to his cousins funeral tomorrow. He said that I could go with him at first, but then he told me not to go as the service will only be for about 30 minutes and there won't be many people there. I feel hurt that he said I could ...
A. 10 March 2017: I would like to ask how the situation is now with you guys?... (read in full...)
A year after breaking it off with me he wants my phone number, should I give it to him?
Q. So I have a question I'd like some help with. I'm really confused as to whether I should get back with my ex. I was with my ex for 9 years 15-24. There were no issues everything was great almost perfect but nothing is perfect I guess. I loved h...
A. 16 February 2017: Well done OP, what you done took guts and courage. What he done was throw away a nine year relationship over you gaining weight. I can understand if you went from a size 6 to obese where he was worried about your health and weight but a size 12 is ... (read in full...)
His parents caught us in the shower together!
Q. I've been dating my bf for 10 months, his parents really seem to like me. Yesterday his parents came horn earlier then we excepted and caught us in the shower together. I feel so embarrassed. My bf said that they were disappointed that we let ...
A. 16 February 2017: I do understand why they are disappointed, I guess it is their house and their little boy and they don't want to see things like that. I do understand that it is embarrassing but they won't think any less off you, they just don't want to see it in ... (read in full...)
Any resources on how to deal with an accept childlessness and the relentless onset of menopause?
Q. My sister is expecting her first child. Any resources on how to deal with an accept childlessness and the relentless onset of menopause? I had no fertility problems - just never met a guy who wanted to commit and I never had the guts to get preg...
A. 16 February 2017: I guess it must be difficult to see your sister pregnant and going through the different stages. I am sorry that it never happened for you, and it is hard for us to accept these things in life.
It doesn't take guts to fall pregnant by acci... (read in full...)
Should I break up or not?
Q. I met a guy almost 2 years ago. He is very kind, generous, thoughtful, loving etc. I had just finished with a guy who I was with briefly who had none of these qualities. The problem is, I'm not physically attracted to him, he's average looking ...
A. 16 February 2017: I don't think you should just stick with him out of fear that you will not find anybody else as that is just cruel to him. If you are not sexually attracted to him well then that is a big minus in a relationship. Have you guided him in that ... (read in full...)
Friend uploaded video of me saying things when drunk. She won't take it down but I'm worried
Q. My friend uploaded a video of us playing drinking games when we were at hers. In it, I am slightly tipsy (as we all are) and I can be heard saying rather inappropriate things which I feel could implicate my future. I've told her I'm worried abo...
A. 16 February 2017: I agree with the others, report it to social media, if they do nothing about it draft up a letter saying that it will be taking further and get your parents to give it to her. That should be enough to get her to take it down. Then block her from ... (read in full...)
He sent me a happy birthday text then unblocked me. Is this a good sign?
Q. Just wanted a few opinions I had a huge falling out with a guy I was close friends with We didn't talk for a long time bar the sporadic text So he messaged me happy birthday a few weeks ago and I noticed this week has unblocked me from a mes...
A. 16 February 2017: If you want the friendship back then why not send him a message and ask him would he like to meet up and talk about the things that have happened. Only then will you know if he is wanting the friendship back or not. ... (read in full...)
Is It Time To Ditch My Toxic Friend?
Q. I've only known her for a few months, at the start she was OK but she has become nasty. She is always oneupping me in conversation. For example if I make a casual remark about how I like a dress or something, she'll be like "Oh that dress isn't for ...
A. 16 February 2017: I guess people just take to things differently. Others can use bad upbringings to do good and well vice versa. Really you should feel sorry for her that she feels the need to drag others down to make herself better.... (read in full...)
He doesn't have the same feelings as I have for him from the beginning until the end
Q. My aunt introduced me to her husband's nephew 9mos.ago,he is a 4yr divorced man with 2kids,I also have a 13yr old son that's why get along so well. We were talking,messaging online for 8 mos until we decided to meet in Barcelona last week,he flew ...
A. 14 February 2017: Honestly you barely know this man, yes you shared an emotional connection over a computer but that was it. You cannot possibly love him as you have never even met him. You may love the idea off being with him but that is all.
There really is no p... (read in full...)
I'm jealous that my male best friend had beenseeing someone!
Q. My best friend and I have known each other since we were 12 years old. So about 9/10 years now. We've always been best friends. Never argued etc.. he was there for me after my terrible breakup from my ex boyfriend. (He would tell me he will always ...
A. 14 February 2017: You need to decide if you are attracted to him and want more than friends. Because honestly one day you might just regret not taking that chance. Yes I do understand you are scared, he is a very dear friend. But if you are feeling jealous then maybe ... (read in full...)
I feel miserable and our relationship lacks excitement!
Q. Hi I've been with my fiance for 3 years now the problem is it feels like we've been together forever we never go anywhere together birthdays Christmas,s valentines day all get forgotten about by him he has a very easy job he works Monday/Friday ...
A. 14 February 2017: You talk to him. You have agreed to marry this man which is a huge commitment for you both therefore surely you are able to talk to him about how unhappy and unsatisfied you are feeling? If you feel he needs to make more off an effort then you need ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I should start dating again right after a break up!
Q. I have posted before about my long distance relationship. I believe it has come to an end as the guy told me he wasn't ready, wanted to be single and told me not to wait for him. For the last week I have been completely devastated and tried ...
A. 14 February 2017: Instead off all this online dating and long distant relationships why do you not just come off the internet and get outside. Go to clubs or try new hobbies. Get to know new people face to face. It will do you so much better than sitting in front off ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me with his brother's wife and now she's saying her child is his. Do I stay or leave? We have children of our own.
Q. i just found out my husband of 17 years slept with his brothers wife on his wedding night. This is the most disgusting thing I have ever heard or had to endure, the pain that i am going through is so unbearable. His brother met his wife 3 years...
A. 14 February 2017: What do you do? Well you need to decide that. Do you feel in your heart their is anything left to work on in this marriage? Do you feel you can trust him again? To me it sounds like he is not taking responsibility I mean he is using excuses saying ... (read in full...)
I think the married co-worker I've been flirting with is just looking for a fling, but I can't avoid him because we work together. What do I do?
Q. Hi. I have recently started a part time job which i love. Everyone is so lovely but I have found myself flirting with this guy. We text a lot and he says very flattering things but he is due to be married in a few weeks. He has two children with ...
A. 14 February 2017: What do you do? You realize he is about to make a huge commitment like marriage and you stop flirting with him. You ask him to delete your number as you feel uncomfortable texting him. Then you block his number and be polite at work. You are to ... (read in full...)
Our naughty nights have turned into fights over porn and role playing
Q. I've got problems please help! Over a year ago now, My hubby and I were only having sex once a week due to hubby getting a giant workload so we decided to make it special and naughty! We put porn on and dress up all sexy in a school uniform a...
A. 14 February 2017: I think you need to sit down and talk about your feelings. Don't throw them in his face during a heated argument because it comes out wrong and it makes him think he is doing something wrong, and well he is not, you started this and now you feel ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend how I feel and risk messing everything up?
Q. Hi I'm a bi guy who is falling quite literal for my best. Friend. He's st8 as far as I know but we hang out together a lot I'm best friends with him and his younger brother I really don't know what to do and it's killing me. Do I tell him and risk...
A. 14 February 2017: It sounds to me like he is not straight. He may also be bisexual like yourself. The reason I say this is most straight men would not cuddle up to a guy who the know is attracted to men. It is great that you have both a close friendship. It also ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep having sex dreams about a girl I think of as a little sister?
Q. I am 32 years old and one of my best friends, Danny, is 28 years old (we played football together in high school). He has two sisters (an older sister, Rebecca, who is 32 years old and a younger sister, Lisette, who is 22 years old). I am close to ...
A. 14 February 2017: She is an adult now, you may still think in your head that you see her as a little sister but your mind is saying different. Honestly try not to worry to much about the dreams. They are normal enough. It doesn't mean that you need to act on them. ... (read in full...)
It shouldn't be this difficult only 6 weeks into a relationship
Q. recently started a new relationship we've been together now around 6 weeks. he's 40 I'm 32 and we both work together. we've known each other for around 6 years now but we were always both in different relationships until recently. so at the ...
A. 14 February 2017: From your posts it is clear to see you still have remaining issues from your past. You are bringing them in to this new relationship and comparing him to your ex. It is not fair on you both to carry these issues in a relationship. I think it is best ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife I've been visiting massage parlours?
Q. I'm a married man in my early 50s with a big secret. I've developed a habit of visiting massage parlours and receiving massages that end with sexual stimulation and orgasm. This started a few months ago and I love the excitement of headin...
A. 14 February 2017: Well I am glad to hear that you have stopped visiting them. Hopefully not telling her will work out for you.... (read in full...)
Is It Time To Ditch My Toxic Friend?
Q. I've only known her for a few months, at the start she was OK but she has become nasty. She is always oneupping me in conversation. For example if I make a casual remark about how I like a dress or something, she'll be like "Oh that dress isn't for ...
A. 13 February 2017: She sounds like a very insecure girl. My guess is she has been hurt in the past possibly with the break up off her family. It sounds like she lacks confidence and is always speaking about herself trying to make herself sound like an amazing person, ... (read in full...)
He makes no effort except when it's the weekend and time to meet! Am I being unreasonable?
Q. I've been dating a guy for 8mths now. We see each other saturdays and sunday nights for a night out due to family commitments and we have great fun together. What started out as Saturday fun has ended in a 'relationship' of sorts which he pushe...
A. 9 February 2017: Nope you are not. He wants a weekend girlfriend. He does not want to see you with anyone else that is why he made it official. However are you sure he is not married or with someone else? There must be a pretty good reason why he practically ignores ... (read in full...)
I need help to deal with new found info about wife's past. What should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for five years and have two kids. I have never asked anything about her past all I knew is she wasn't a virgin when we met. This past summer we were at a pool party and one of my best friend's from school was ther...
A. 9 February 2017: First thing you do is talk to your wife about this. Make sure it was actually her. Honestly though if you had boundaries when it came to sexual pasts then it should have been spoken about before you both got married and had children. Surely you want ... (read in full...)
Every time my boyfriend has problems he pushes me away
Q. My boyfriend is going to his cousins funeral tomorrow. He said that I could go with him at first, but then he told me not to go as the service will only be for about 30 minutes and there won't be many people there. I feel hurt that he said I could ...
A. 9 February 2017: He is grieving and you tell him to grow up? Seriously? I think you need to take a step back. He obviously deals with things differently to you, if you feel the relationship is always on his terms then maybe this relationship is not working for you. ... (read in full...)
I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 9 February 2017: Okay well if you love him then stay with him, he will end up KILLING you with his temper, it is a punch now but he will go to far one day and then your parents will be left without a daughter, and he will be in prison for life. ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and I do not want to break up with A as I love her very much, but my mother strongly objects to our relationship. What are my options?
Q. So, I will give a bit of background first off. I have known this girl, I'll call her A, for three years. In early 2016, i started feeling different about her, and I begin to have romantic feelings about A. I already knew from asking before that she...
A. 9 February 2017: Can you talk to your mum? Maybe you can explain to her that she is not going to make you become straight. Your mum might think it is a phase you are going through, but you need to be honest and tell her straight out that you are a lesbian.
I thin... (read in full...)
He says he loves me so why is he going to escort sites?
Q. One day I used my boyfriend's computer to look something up only to find a website called backpage and he had been looking at escorts. I confronted him about it and he said it was from before we were ever dating and I believed him. Well I was using ...
A. 9 February 2017: Be honest tell him the site has been activated lately and ask him for the truth or else you are walking.... (read in full...)
Did we get together too soon after his break up?
Q. Hi, I started dating my boyfriend in Feb 16. He had just come out of a long term relationship. He says that although he loved his previous GF ( she was the longest he had ever dated anyone) it was a very rocky relationship. Only thing is we got...
A. 9 February 2017: I guess you will know deep down if it was a mistake or not. Their is no denying that it was probably to soon, but you are together a year now, so it has went over being a rebound am sure. If he still checks up on her a lot then yes I would be ... (read in full...)
Is this male theory correct? Do woman wear matching black bra and panties when having sex is intended?
Q. Is there any truth to the theory that women wear black when they are planning to have sex with someone and also if you're going to have sex you wear matching bra and panties?...
A. 9 February 2017: Nope have never heard that theory. Made me giggle. What if a women is wearing nothing, does that mean she doesn't want sex? Or if she is miss matching? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want me going out with male friends for drinks
Q. Am I in the wrong ? After recently starting uni I made a small group of three male friends whom I worked on an assessment with and we automatically became friends. We are all older than the normal uni starting age so its nice to have someone on ...
A. 9 February 2017: Please don't allow him to control you like this! ... (read in full...)
Why did he use the word coolio?
Q. I apologise for a really silly question but when i was messaging an acquaintance about an email i thanked him and he responded with the word coolio. I didn't want to ask him what it meant as i felt silly but the only time i have heard that word ...
A. 9 February 2017: Yip I use this all the time. It is slang!... (read in full...)
Four years of dating and he's never asked if I missed him until now. Is he cheating?
Q. Yesterday I was on the phone with my boyfriend and suddenly out of the blue, he mumbled "Do you miss me?". His tone sounded different, like in a flirty muffled manly way, not the tone I am used to hearing and we have been together for 4 years. In ...
A. 9 February 2017: Are you in a long distance relationship? If you have been together four years then how could you miss him? Did he go away a lot in the last three years? It is obvious you have major trust issues if something so small makes you paranoid then I don't ... (read in full...)
"we'll be talking" ?? Did he mean anything by saying that? Trying not to worry about his remark
Q. Been seeing my guy 2 years now. Just left his place to come home, we made plan to catch up tomorrow night. I said as i left see you tomorrow. . He then said "well be talking" not sure if he meant anything by that but it triggered my over analyti...
A. 9 February 2017: So did he mean anything by it?... (read in full...)
He says his On line friend is just fun and escapism. It sounds like emotional cheating to me. What should I do?
Q. Would love advice as to if " emotional cheating " on line is as bad as the physical cheating . I have dated my guy for two years and walked in on him skyping a woman who he knows through " business " when he was saying " love talking to you ,...
A. 9 February 2017: I would be fuming if I caught my fella doing this. Off course it is emotional cheating. They skype several times a day? It sounds to me like she is his guilty pleasure. You need to talk to him and tell him you are not comfortable with this. If he ... (read in full...)
Could my bf's avoidance of my compliments suggest he is cheating?
Q. I have been suspecting my bf has been unfaithful recently. Just sense a change. When having a text conversation this evening, I went on about how lucky I am to have him. What a good guy he is and how I am glad he is not like other men. I sai...
A. 9 February 2017: Yeah he is patient with you because he loves you, but patience only stays for so long as well. I hope you get the help you need.... (read in full...)
I'm torn between two guys. I'm wondering, what should I do?
Q. Hello anyone out there willing to give me advice. I seem to have gotten myself into a significant amount of a problem. I'm torn between two guys. One my High school sweetheart Man1 whom I went out with for around 4 and a half years. We'd always a...
A. 8 February 2017: Have to agree that neither off these guys are right for you. ... (read in full...)
We have a 2 year old together. Recently he said no way does he want more children. How do I tell him that I'm pregnant?
Q. Hiya I've just found out I'm pregnant I haven't told my partner because just last week we were talking about kids and he said no way does he want anyone especially this time we have a 2 year old son I'm so scared of how he's going to react I would ...
A. 8 February 2017: He cannot force you to have an abortion. Just be honest with him, little surprises to happen. You need to talk about it like adults and decide what is best for you both. Remember that he can book as many appointments as he likes it is your body and ... (read in full...)
I discovered that my 16 year old has had sex. Should I punish her by cancelling her "sweet sixteen" birthday celebrations?
Q. i recently found out by going through my 15 year old daughters phone that she has recently lost her virginity to an 18 year old guy whom is now dating another girl in the same area as us. When i first confronted her she denied it but eventual...
A. 7 February 2017: You will regret cancelling her party. Try and educate her and be a mother that she can come and talk to. Yes she is young but just because you believe in no sex before marriage does not mean she is going to believe the same. Support her, guide her, ... (read in full...)
Should I tell the parents of my daughter's boyfriend that their son aged 17 is having sex with my 16 year old daughter?
Q. My 16 year old daughter revealed to me a little over a month ago that she and her 17 year old boyfriend have had sex. They have been dating for two years and I support their relationship and like her boyfriend a lot, so I am not really surprise...
A. 7 February 2017: No honestly I don't think this is a good idea at all. I am glad you are supportive off your daughter and she can talk to you, but if you break her trust then that might be a different story, also his parents might not have the same frame off mind as ... (read in full...)
Why would a man who claims to love me tell me his ex looked as good as a porn star?
Q. Why would a man who claims to love me tell me his ex looked as good as a porn star? Did he say this because he feels I'm not as pretty or hot as her . I am considerably fatter and older than her and can't understand why he said this. ...
A. 7 February 2017: He said it to you because he was angry and wanted to hurt you. Very childish off him, and we all say things in arguments that we simply do not mean so try not to stress about it. If it is still upsetting you then you should talk to him about it, and ... (read in full...)
Is it likely that we will get in trouble for being together?
Q. My boyfriend is 17 and I am 15, we go to the same highschool and we were not looking for love when we found it. In my state I know that the age of consent is 16, but he will turn 18 before I turn 16. We are both concerned that we will get in t...
A. 7 February 2017: You should wait until you are 16 to do anything sexually or yes you will end up in trouble. He could go to prison and his life could be ruined for ever if he is caught with a person under age. ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to keep me on the back burner? Or am I misreading the situation?
Q. Dear cupid. I was seeing a guy last year for a couple of months. I fell for him. Was completely head over hills. We spoke all day every day and saw each other as much as possible. He was over here temporarily for work. We both knew it would be...
A. 7 February 2017: I don't think he is keeping you on the back burner as such, I think he is playing games with you and wanting attention from you. He completely ghosted you when he went home, no doubt because he knew he still had feelings for someone else and wanted ... (read in full...)
Concerned about my sex life and I need some advice
Q. I have been in a relationship with my now fiance' for 2 1/2 years. Our sex life was great until we moved in with each other 1 year ago. I am not sure what but something changed. I have been open and honest about my feelings and my need, she says she ...
A. 7 February 2017: Stress can lower the libido but if you have a feeling it is something else then follow your instinct. If it only began when you moved in together then maybe she has just settled in to a routine and she does not need sex as much as you. It is good to ... (read in full...)
Could my bf's avoidance of my compliments suggest he is cheating?
Q. I have been suspecting my bf has been unfaithful recently. Just sense a change. When having a text conversation this evening, I went on about how lucky I am to have him. What a good guy he is and how I am glad he is not like other men. I sai...
A. 31 January 2017: I think it is clear that these are your trust issues. I understand that your ex has hurt you, but so did mine, I still do not take it out on my current partner. You have been together two years, and yet you are still comparing him to your ex? If ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife I've been visiting massage parlours?
Q. I'm a married man in my early 50s with a big secret. I've developed a habit of visiting massage parlours and receiving massages that end with sexual stimulation and orgasm. This started a few months ago and I love the excitement of headin...
A. 5 January 2017: Do you think you will tell your wife? ... (read in full...)
I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 21 November 2016: Stop allowing him to control you like this. As a young woman the best thing you can do now is tell YOUR parents. Stop making excuses for him. Stop allowing him to treat you like dirt. It won't get better, you will have a miserable future if you ... (read in full...)
I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 14 November 2016: Sweetie he is trying to control you. Don't let him. You need to talk to your parents about this and let them know what he is doing. Please talk to an adult as he is going to end up destroying you if you don't get help now. You need to learn to have ... (read in full...)
I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 11 November 2016: What could you possibly love about him? Honey he is treating you like dirt. I do agree with him that you should tell your mother what happened with your uncle. Getting him sent to prison might stop him from hurting more young vulnerable girls.... (read in full...)
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