I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 31 January 2017: Great to hear your good news. Wishing you a happy future together.... (read in full...)
He has lied and I don't know why
Q. My boyfriend has lied to me about how serious an ex relationship was but I don't know why. He said he and the girl were just friends and they flirted a bit but that was it however while over at his house a few days ago I found an old valentines c...
A. 12 January 2017: Honestly why does it matter? In my experience most men don't really like talking about there old relationships, therefore I think you should just let it go. He is with you now and that is all that matters.... (read in full...)
How can I stop him bringing up my ex'?
Q. My boyfriend constantly keeps on about my past. I'm 4 years older than him and had a long-term relationship with someone else before we met. He's only ever really had flings and more casual relationships before me. We've been together 4 years but ...
A. 12 January 2017: I wonder why after three years he has became so insecure? I think you need to talk to him calmly and see what is going on. Is there been anything that has changed in the last year that would make him feel vulnerable or not good enough? Do you ever ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I should hang in there or let it go ...
Q. Hello everyone, I'm not sure where to begin? I came out of a very bad relationship. I try not to say anything negative about anyone, but imagine the worst things you can do and she pretty much did it. This ended about a year ago. I met...
A. 12 January 2017: I don't think you should throw the towel in just yet. As you said she has had issues as well so she sounds like she is scared. Ask her for a drink over the weekend and see how it goes.... (read in full...)
Can a seven year relationship be over because of a lie said 6 years ago? Am I completely in the wrong here ?
Q. My Partner [30 F] of 7 years broke up with me [32 M]for lying. She found out I met my son (1year old at the time) when I was abroad 6 years ago. Myself and my partner had just broken up at the time so I was single when abroad. I never told her I...
A. 12 January 2017: I honestly think you have had a lucky escape here. She likes to be in control off your life. She was a horrible person to be jealous off an innocent child, and it sounds like she has never truly got over this. Hence her freaking out that you lied ... (read in full...)
The sex is good but I want more!
Q. I'll get straight to the point: I'm not happy with my sex life. I'e been with my husband for 15 years, we're married for 4. we are happy in our realtionship- though there are always things to work on. He works a lot, which is fine. He is caring and ...
A. 12 January 2017: Honestly I think the last thing you should do is cheat on your husband. Talk to him and tell him how much you like oral sex. Ask him why he doesn't like it. Maybe you can both try it in the shower or add some flavored gel to make it better for him. ... (read in full...)
Is this the old him again
Q. I broke up with my husband two months ago we spent a month apart. We split as he had issue with favoritism towards his kids and a dislike of my eldest girl and my father. He also tried to control me. Generally his attitude stunk towards my kids and ...
A. 12 January 2017: You really do need to put your children first here, it really is not fair on them growing up having this man in their lives who makes them feel left out. Please put your children first.... (read in full...)
He still has a dating profile up ...
Q. My new boyfriend ( of 2 week ) still has a dating profile online , hes open about it and says he has 'friends' on there . should i tell him he needs to prove theyre friends by showing me the conversations hes having or demand he deletes his profile ...
A. 11 January 2017: I think you are demanding a lot for only being with him two weeks, you will be lucky if this lasts another two weeks if you are going to keep making demands to him. This should be the period where you are both having fun getting to know each other, ... (read in full...)
Did I over-react when I was upset about his weak excuse for canceling his visit?
Q. My long distance bf who lives 3 hours away was suppose to come this weekend to see me. I was really looking forward to it since its a long weekend which means we will have more time together .However he has Monday to Friday job so he is only ...
A. 11 January 2017: honestly? I think he was looking for a way out. He is not making an effort with you, and instead off fighting for you he says farewell? Honestly sweetie you can do much better than this. Block his contact details and move on. Nobody should treat you ... (read in full...)
Why is he making this so hard?
Q. I have so much in common with this guy why is he making it so hard to be more...... okay so I know this guy from social media. We have loads in common when we first started talking he had a BF he asked me to go to a concert with him but I declined...
A. 11 January 2017: He seems to enjoy the attention from you but has no interest in doing anything more. Don't allow him to waste your time.... (read in full...)
We enjoy each other's company but nothing seems to be starting! Any advice, aunties?
Q. In April last year I met a guy at a local sports club I go to and over the course of the last few months we've built up a friendship and now regularly see each other outside our sports club. We're both single and in our 30s and at the start of las...
A. 11 January 2017: Why don't you tell him how you feel? At least then you will know where you stand?!... (read in full...)
How can I cope with my husband cheating on me two years ago, with a blood relative? He has cut contact with her, but I'm still trying to cope with his betrayal
Q. My husband was adopted as an infant. He later found his birth family. Since then he has had sex with his half sister. It is tearing me up inside. I'm still with him, he does not have contact with her now, but I wonder about his heart. T...
A. 11 January 2017: Two years and you are still cut up? That to me tells me that you never got over it. Therefore why are you still with him? You need to decide what you want to do. ... (read in full...)
What do I do? How can she still want to be with someone who she is not sexually attracted to, nor IN love with?
Q. Apologies if I ramble but I have some much to get off my chest ?? My Fiancée of nearly 14 years and the mother of my 2 beautiful daughters (11 and 6) had told me she loved me but is not IN love with me several years ago. We have also not had...
A. 11 January 2017: I honestly don't think this woman loves you. She is probably scared to leave you in case you do something silly therefore she is staying with you for the sake off the children. But honestly it is not fair on your children growing up with two parents ... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 11 January 2017: You need to stay away from your cousin or else you will end up having all off your family having a big huge fall out and over nothing because you will then realize that it was a crush not love but your family will never trust you again. You need to ... (read in full...)
Am I being over sensitive? or is my reaction understandable?
Q. Feeling fed up! So I'm about to turn 30 in 2 days time I've spent the last year dreading the time coming I don't know why - I know age is just s number etc however my 2 best friends have been insisting that we must do something to celebrate my ...
A. 10 January 2017: If am being honest for my birthday I usually host it myself, do a BBQ and have drinks in the house, doesn't cost a huge lot and you get to spend it with whoever you choose to invite. Hey they might be struggling with money but it doesn't mean you ... (read in full...)
Has anybody else been in a bad place, and how did you turn your life around?
Q. I've gotten myself into a mess and I would like some advice with how to deal with it. Has anybody else been in a bad place and how did you turn your life around? I'm depressed at the moment because of an extremely bad relationship. He did s...
A. 10 January 2017: I suggest that you seek therapy. Yes you have taken the first step off getting help by going to the doctors and getting some pills. But they won't raise your confidence and self esteem again. You must do that yourself. You sound like you are ... (read in full...)
How long does a relationship 'break' last?
Q. How long do relationship 'breaks' generally last? My fiancé has suggested two weeks but then said it could be indefinitely, I feel she is messing with my head. ...
A. 10 January 2017: If she is your fiance then she should not be wanting a break. If she agreed to marry you then obviously she felt she was in it for the long run. You need to talk to her and understand why she needs a break? It sounds to me like she has already made ... (read in full...)
How to get over the embarrassment of rejection?
Q. I expressed interest in guy that I had my eye on 9 months ago but I was politely rebuffed. I felt embarrassed but brushed it .However,I try to be polite and friendly whenever our path cross but things are extremely awkward between us.I wish things ...
A. 9 January 2017: He probably does not want to be friendly with you again in case you feel he is interested. He probably does not want you thinking that he is leading you on. Try not to be embarrassed we all get rejected in life. When you see him just a simple hello ... (read in full...)
Is it just the sex he wants?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for 3 months now, but we don't meet often, only once per 1 or 2 weeks, depending on our work schedules. We do go on dates when we meet, not just sex. He remembered my bday even though I have only mentioned it once and he ...
A. 9 January 2017: Either you want casual or you want a relationship, you need to work that out. Having sex on your terms is great but the guy probably thinks well if she has a high sex drive why not send her a message, he is after all trying his luck. It does seem to ... (read in full...)
I'm a girl who has liked this girl for 3 years! Should I tell her?
Q. There is this beautiful girl who goes to my school and I'm in love with everything about her from her looks to her knowledge. She has blond hair and blue eyes and she has one hell of a body.(brace yourselves this is gonna be a long heart-breaking ...
A. 9 January 2017: honey you don't love her, you don't even know her apart from what she looks like. I know at your age it seems heartbreaking and that the world is going to end, I bet in ten years when you look back you will smile about the memories and barely even ... (read in full...)
I'm now embarrassed making noise during intimacy, any reassurance?
Q. I have a chronic illness and doctors aren't sure what it is. I'm in pain meds, even controlled ones, so I try to take as few as possible when the pain is bearable. I frequently get flare-ups that cause crippling pain and I just have to wait it ...
A. 9 January 2017: Aw sweetie he is just worried about you and does not want to cause you any pain. You have a good guy. You really don't need reassurance he is just scared off hurting you. Please don't be paranoid. I hope the doctors can get to the bottom off your ... (read in full...)
She wants me to start wearing the pants in our relationship?!?
Q. Right, so my girlfriend told me yesterday she wants me to start wearing the pants in the relationship. I had no idea what she meant, and when I asked her she didn't really know how to explain it. Can someone here maybe explain it to me? Also, ...
A. 9 January 2017: Find more hobbies, it sounds like before you met her you had a very unhealthy life style where all you done was play games, now all you want to do is be with her. You should try getting out off the house more. Be with friends, take up new hobbies, ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my ex-partner and eventually getting him back?
Q. How do I get my ex boyfriend back?? I was with him for one year but friends for years before that. I have previously been in an abusive relationship(6 years ago) The partner at the time lied and lied to me that he wasn't cheating, to the point...
A. 9 January 2017: Take your ex out of the picture for the moment. I am sure your therapist would advice you to do this. You are still pretty messed up from the past and you are letting the past rule your life at the moment, you may be getting help, but even up until ... (read in full...)
I feel deserted through my period of illness
Q. Hi all, I went through a difficult time recently with thyroid cancer that was surgically removed and followed up with radioactive iodine. During this time, I felt my family wasn't really supportive and there for me. If it wasn't for my boyfriend...
A. 9 January 2017: I am sorry that you felt that your family let you down. It is great that you had your boyfriend there for support, try and remember that a lot off people are truly alone and try and be thankful for that comfort.
Talk to your brother and your fath... (read in full...)
Will my virginity lose him?
Q. Hello, I have only known my boyfriend for a week and we seem to have a connection. The only problem is I don't want to have sex with him as I have never had sex before. I feel as though I'm not ready for it. I feel as though he does. He said to ...
A. 9 January 2017: Sweetie at 21 you should know that a relationship does not blossom in a week. You are not in love, you just love the idea off being with someone. Love takes a while. You barely even know this guy and if he is hinting at sex already then you can ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my friend's ex! What should I do?
Q. I have fallen in love with my friend's ex. What should I do? I have been crushing on him for just over a year now and can't stop thinking about him, they broke up about 2 and a half years ago and she is in a relationship with this new guy who she ...
A. 9 January 2017: Sweetie how could you possibly like a boy you have only met once? Honestly I think you like the idea off him, but you don't really know him. You met him once a long time ago. I think you just need to let this go.... (read in full...)
The phone messages he's been receiving from her do bother me. But how do I raise the issue with my husband?
Q. Hello I am a woman in my late 20's who has been married for 2 years. I have a problem and don't know how to handle it. My husband back when we were first dating over 4 years ago had cheated on me with a woman he was friends with at a drunken par...
A. 9 January 2017: Can I ask what happened? Did you talk to him about it?... (read in full...)
Should I be more angry or just let it go? My wife confessed that she gave oral briefly to a male stripper at a party
Q. Hi, my wife went to a girls party night recently where we both knew there would be male strippers. I was totally cool with it but she got carried away with the night and ended up giving a few seconds of oral to all but one of the stripper...
A. 9 January 2017: I personally couldn't forgive that, cheating is cheating, yes she confessed but my guess is she told you her version in case you heard rumors from friends. It is your choice to forgive or not, just make sure she gets checked for STI's and you also ... (read in full...)
Help, please? I don't want to hurt my friends, but we all like the same guy. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 13 and I'm in a bit of a love triangle... Well.. Love square. My two best friends like the same boy, and they have for ages now. And guess what? Now I'm in the picture, I like him too. And the thing is, he likes me. I feel bad for my...
A. 9 January 2017: Look you need to make a choice here and decide what is more important, your friendship with these girls or having a relationship with this boy. They might say it won't effect your friendship but it will because they will get jealous and they will ... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 9 January 2017: Let us know how it goes and remember we are all here for you.... (read in full...)
She's broken up with her girlfriend and I've always thought we could have something special together, what should I do?
Q. Yesterday I bumped into an old friend, someone I haven't seen much of this past year, but someone I have always, since we first met, had very strong feelings for. In the entire time that I have known her she has always had a long-term girlfriend, ...
A. 6 January 2017: I understand that you are terrified off being rejected twice, but it would be so much worse if you where left wondering what if. Go for it. Ask her out for a drink, take it slow and see how it goes. Let us know how you get on.... (read in full...)
He likes and comments on my social media but blanks when invited out!
Q. Okay so I met this guy on social media but I don't get him.... seems we have a lot in common and when we've spoken convo flowed well. He follows me on two types of social media as I do him. Sometimes now he don't reply to conversations......
A. 6 January 2017: He sees you as someone he can chat to online and have a bit of fun with but nothing more, he is not interested in meeting up with you in person. I would either delete him or accept that he just wants an online friendship.... (read in full...)
He promised to change if we got married ....
Q. I am currently married 5 moths this January, we where engaged for a year and dated a year and 1/2 prior to that. Well now I want a divorce! My husband is the man I married and he swore that after we got ,arrived things would change, but still 5 ...
A. 6 January 2017: Sadly people just do not take marriage so seriously any more. It doesn't seem like a huge deal but it should be. You should never be able to just walk away from a marriage and you should be completely sure you want to be with this person before you ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my casual sex guy!
Q. I'm in love with the guy I am seeing for casual sex, I cannot get over him and the thing is I'm getting mixed feelings about it, like he doesn't ask how's it going normally , he only talks when he wants sex but during sex he wants to cuddle, what to ...
A. 6 January 2017: No he is not taking you for granted. You got in to the arrangement off casual sex, therefore why expect more from him? He is not interested in you romantically, he just wants some fun, so the best thing that you can do is tell him no more casual sex ... (read in full...)
I fancy my friend's housemate!
Q. I really fancy my friend's housemate. She doesn't. But he is super nice to her and I wonder if he fancies her. She does not see him like that but it makes me feel sad. Is he just being friendly? I feel that everyone always fancies her over me and ...
A. 6 January 2017: It is you that is making you feel like the ugly one. Take this opportunity and ask him out for a drink sometime. ... (read in full...)
He is using me as his "get out" clause.
Q. So basically me ex fiancé who I have a son with told me that he would stop seeing the girl he's talking to if I had an issue with her and her being around my son. He doesn't seem partically happy about them talking they hardly ever see each oth...
A. 6 January 2017: If they have only met up five times since October then am sure the girl knows that he cannot be that serious about her if he is not making the effort. I would say you are probably right and he is trying to use you as an excuse, don't allow him to ... (read in full...)
Should I consider that this friend I like is now available? What can I do?
Q. I asked a friend who I like and who knows I like him, advice about dating as my ex is now started dating again and my friend told me to get out there etc. I then took a month away from social media. I came back mid/late December and I found out ...
A. 6 January 2017: You think because you both spoke for a few days he broke up his relationship? Seems a bit much if it was only talking you guys done. Are you sure he was in a relationship and it was not just a social media mishap? Talk to him about it and see what ... (read in full...)
I am finding it hard to communicate with my perfectionist BF, especially about studying law. What should I do?
Q. There is so much going on in my life. I am a 21 year old accounting student who wants to change to law. It is quite depressing especially if i tell my bf (23 years old) of 6 months that because he will be disappointed in me. My parents already ...
A. 6 January 2017: This is your life and your choice. He can be a perfectionist about himself but he has no right in what you want to do with your life, he has no right to be disappointed you are both only dating the last 7 months so it is still early days. If you are ... (read in full...)
Guy says he doesn't like me, but others say the opposite. What do you think? ?
Q. Question: Every guy I know says this guy obviously likes me, but the guy himself said to me it's not that way? He's close to me since my break up 5 months ago. He's brought me out, treated me to food and movies, would come all the way to my neighb...
A. 6 January 2017: People just love sticking their nose in and having an opinion. If he says it is friendship then believe him. ... (read in full...)
Do his comments about other women signify insecurity or a potential cheat?
Q. Hey, My boyfriend is very loving, sweet, complimentary etc but he does this thing that is really starting to grate on me... Basically when we watch films/ tv when a fit women comes on he's VERY vocal about it I.e. "id put it in her" "she's so s...
A. 6 January 2017: Give him a taste off his own medicine, next time you are out walking and pass some guy just go wow look at him, I would love to have my legs wrapped around his c**k, I will tackle him any day... and see his reaction!!... (read in full...)
I don't like feeling so alone!
Q. I need some advice on being lonely. I posted his question once before and would really appreciate some more help pleasseeeee I've been feeling so lonely that I cry myself to sleep every night. I feel that I have nothing to live for. All I do is...
A. 6 January 2017: This is the fourth time you have posted the exact same question, and each time you have been giving great advice so why don't you try and use it? Everyone is trying to help but do you want help?... (read in full...)
Why did he tell me about his ex wife?
Q. I like a guy I work with and have been getting closer to him. We've known each other for a few years now but before I was very shy. We have a bit of an age difference so that made me a bit more hesitant as I wasn't sure if he would be interested. ...
A. 6 January 2017: Yeah it does sound like he is interested in you. He is sharing his past with you and opening up to you, not to make you jealous but so that you understand him more, and that he is single. If you like him then you should invite him out for lunch and ... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 6 January 2017: Off course you can't, many would feel the same as you. Either you are fully part off his life or not at all, it is not fair on you to be a part time girlfriend, I hope he does the right thing.... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 4 January 2017: He should never have ghosted you a year ago. He should have maned up and told you the truth. However here you are a year later and still feeling left out. It is not fair something has to change. I am well aware teenage girls can be hard work, but ... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 28 October 2016: Just because you are going to see her next year does not mean you need to talk to her now. If you leave her alone you will be well over her by then.... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 17 October 2016: That is a good thing, now you stop texting her. ... (read in full...)
Is this the old him again
Q. I broke up with my husband two months ago we spent a month apart. We split as he had issue with favoritism towards his kids and a dislike of my eldest girl and my father. He also tried to control me. Generally his attitude stunk towards my kids and ...
A. 13 October 2016: Yeah I think it is time to move on, you obviously are not a good match. It sounds like you don't work together at all. You seem to use the children as weapons. If you both cannot accept the children as one big family then there is no point trying ... (read in full...)
Is this the old him again
Q. I broke up with my husband two months ago we spent a month apart. We split as he had issue with favoritism towards his kids and a dislike of my eldest girl and my father. He also tried to control me. Generally his attitude stunk towards my kids and ...
A. 12 October 2016: Okay so issues with the children seems to be the big one here and probably the most common with marriages who have children with other partners. It really is something you all need to work on as a family. You should take on his children and he ... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 5 October 2016: At 14 you should not even be thinking about marriage, legal or not it could turn out very messy. You are to young to be getting in to something like this. Treat her as a friend. Your crush will fade.... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 4 October 2016: You have a crush it is not love. Don't spend time alone with her, try and not contact her so much. You need to accept that she is your cousin, she is family not a potential girlfriend. Try and keep yourself busy and meet girls that are not ... (read in full...)
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