Moving in together and disagree on houseguests. Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 26 and moving in together for the first time. We’re doing it for the right reasons and discussed everything we could think of before making the decision together. Currently we spend most of our time together at his place, ...
A. 3 February 2017: Honestly to me it sounds like you are very controlling and you need to work on your issues. ... (read in full...)
Shall I tell him? Do I let it out or just walk away without saying anything ?
Q. Do you tell the person you love that you have feelings for him ? Despite the fact he is not that friendly to you and never indulges you in their personal thoughts and life ? I have been thinking about telling the guy I love that I loved him but ...
A. 26 January 2017: It sounds to me like he likes sex from you and nothing more. You can tell him how you feel but don't get your hopes up that he feels the same.... (read in full...)
I like this guy I'm dating, but the sex is nice but not amazing. How do I discuss this with him?
Q. I have just started dating a truly lovely guy, he is adorable and I really enjoy spending time with him. The problem is, things aren't totally electric in the bedroom. I'm quite a sexual person and chemistry and sexual connection is really important ...
A. 24 January 2017: Guide him. Without flat out telling him the sex is no good, Show him what you like and what you want him to do. He may be inexperience but I am sure it can be fun learning new things. Introduce new ideas, talk to him about spicing things up.... (read in full...)
How can I get over my sexual frustration without making choices I may regret?
Q. Hi I'm 18 this year and there's this guy who I'm really interested in at work. We're kinda friends and flirt and stuff. Not only have I got feelings for him but I'm so sexually attracted to him I sometimes can't think straight. He's a touchy kinda ...
A. 24 January 2017: It is normal to have these feelings at your age. But am glad you seem to know not to jump in to bed with a guy. You need to just learn to deal with your frustration while at work and sort it once you get home with some self love. However you should ... (read in full...)
Due to see a dentist soon and feeling anxious about that. But will the dentist be disgusted about state of my teeth?
Q. I won't go into much detail about my childhood but I wasn't the best for dental hygiene and due to other circumstances which I won't discuss, it's gotten really bad and my mouth is horrible. I want to get it all sorted out and have a winning s...
A. 24 January 2017: I bet you think it is worse than it actually is. Honestly don't worry about this, as you will find you have nothing to worry about. A dentist is not going to give out to you like you have been a naughty child. They may guide you and tell you what ... (read in full...)
My wife left me for her ex, who found her on Facebook and now wants to come back. Should I give her a second chance ?
Q. My wife was contacted by an ex on Facebook who first said he only wanted to be friends, then indicated he wanted more. She showed me his messages and told me they dated in high school and college and she broke up with him twice. The first time...
A. 23 January 2017: No I don't think you should. If she loved you she would not have just moved out and in to another man's bed. What is stopping her doing it again? Honestly she just wants you back now because he has left her and she is alone. Please do not take her ... (read in full...)
How can I get him back? Or has the damage been done?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me tonight and its my fault. I don't know how to fix this situation . I was with my boyfriend when 2 male friends who have a crush on me wrote me on Facebook. Ive known them since before my current relationship...
A. 23 January 2017: A lot off people who have extreme trust issues in a long term relationship is generally the one who is cheating. So it is possible that you have dodged a bullet. Yes the replies should have probably been worded different and I would understand why ... (read in full...)
Hello everybody, I need some advise ....
Q. Hello everyone I need some Advice. I'm gay and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and we love each other sooo much! The only problem is the sex. At the beginning of our relationship my boyfriend was a virgin and I was his first....
A. 23 January 2017: Honestly you stop touching him and see what he says. He is being lazy because he is getting away with it. Am sorry but if he loved you he would satisfy you. If you are satisfying him then it is clear that he still has his sex drive. If he is not ... (read in full...)
Am I a coward with a cold heart, for the way I choose to end relationships? How should I do it?
Q. i,am a 50 year old female, been in a relationship for five months,he is really nice, romantic, but he isn't my type. I like big bald football type of guys, he is the cowboys type, good looking, he does all the things a woman wants in a man,so h...
A. 23 January 2017: Easier for you? Look at the damage your ex done to you now you want to do that to other men? Honestly sit him down and tell him it is not working. Please don't treat people like this, it is so hateful. ... (read in full...)
My ldr partner wants to do fun time while apart but I feel extremely unconfident doing so since he watches so much porn
Q. My partner is overseas and wants me to video chat him and call him for fun time . The problem is that that he watches loads of porn and I can't help but feel self conscious that I could never be as sexy or anywhere near as good at exciting him as ...
A. 23 January 2017: If he makes you feel insecure and losing your confidence then why be with him? Do you meet up much? It is very hard having a relationship with someone over seas, are you both planning on moving to a location together?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his ex are now talking every day and I am not comfortable with it
Q. Hi there. Well something is bothering me and I don't know if it's ok for me to be upset or not. About a week ago, my boyfriends ex girlfriends grandmother died. Her and him haven't really spoken for the last year or so. But she called him to let him ...
A. 23 January 2017: Honestly this doesn't look like it is going to end well. If he knows that this is upsetting you then that should be enough for him to cut contact. But it seems like he is not willing to do that. I think the death off her grandmother brought back old ... (read in full...)
I really want things to work with this man but am unsure how to do so
Q. Hi all, I'm looking for some advice... I've been in a relationship for 3 months. When we first started dating I told him some things about my past I shouldn't have. It didn't seem to bother him then but it's a huge deal now. On top of that I have 2 ...
A. 23 January 2017: He sounds like he is insecure. Maybe you need to just reassure him that your ex is an ex for a reason. Pay him some more compliments ect. You also need to know that he may be saying these things to distance himself from you as he may feel it is not ... (read in full...)
Christmas gift gone wrong
Q. For Christmas this year, my BF got me a weekend at a winery with tour, tasting, and live music. We were so excited to get away for the weekend. I was almost in tears over such a thoughtful gift. It was our first Christmas together and the 1st ...
A. 23 January 2017: He is mourning and he is also unemployed so I think wanting him to make it up to you is incredibly selfish off you. Yes you are disappointed but his grandfather has just died. So be there for him. Also maybe you could book a weekend away for both ... (read in full...)
I met a nice man but don't connect or feel physically attracted. Do I end things or settle?
Q. Hello need your help. I am a 53 year old single mother. I have been single for 17 years and started dating 7 years ago. Was busy going to school, taking care of ailing parents and raising my kids. Have had two serious 6 month relationships and one 3 ...
A. 23 January 2017: No never just settle, it is not fair to either off you. If you are already struggling to find things to talk about then its not a good sign. I would just be honest with him.... (read in full...)
My friend won't say if he is gay or bi should I ask if I can give him a bj?
Q. I've never done it before but I would like to have sex with this guy I know, I think he is bi,but I can't be sure, I stop by his house every one in a while,I never known him to be with a woman since we have been friends five or six years,he spends a ...
A. 23 January 2017: Honestly? It sounds like an awful idea. Are you prepared to lose the friendship?... (read in full...)
Am I too selfish to love anyone? Where or how do I begin to determine what needs to be fixed within me?
Q. I'm in a place now where my mentality is adversely affecting my ability to attract a mate. I'll start off by saying as of now, I see women as sex itself. For the most part, I don't care about their dreams, goals, past, family, etc. When I'm aroun...
A. 23 January 2017: Have you ever thought about going to counselling? You are very hard on yourself as you are still very young, but I would suggest trying to give up the porn for a start it is not helping you. ... (read in full...)
She has decorated my bedroom space with love letters and trinkets and it's suffocating. What can I say and how should I approach this subject?
Q. I am in quite a new relationship with my girlfriend (just over 6 months) and things have been going well. Although recently she has started to decorate my bedroom with photographs, love letters and little trinkets. It is sweet, do not get me wr...
A. 21 January 2017: You have had great advice, just be honest with her, get everything in a memory box, tell her it is your room and you like your own space, you can also just say you don't want such a display off affection when your friends are around as it is not ... (read in full...)
I want to celebrate my birthday and Chinese New Year. How should I ask my parents to allow this?
Q. Hi everyone So basically, my parents told me not to have any hangouts with my friends until my exam is over which is at the end of April. So my 18th birthday is in a week's time and happens to be on a school day, so my friends want to celebrat...
A. 21 January 2017: You already asked this question, why not update your other question and talk to others about the great advice they have already gave you.... (read in full...)
Is he not telling the truth in an effort to not hurt me? I'd rather he tell me the truth.
Q. In 2013 my partner and me split up, he met someone else become engaged and ended up having a little girl with his new gf, which is completely understandable. I only found out due to my friend seeing them both out and about, with her other chil...
A. 20 January 2017: Sounds to me like he is wanting to hook up with you again. I doubt he is scared off hurting you he just wants to live the single life and not tell you his private business. I think you should stay clear from him and don't get sexual with him as it ... (read in full...)
How do I fix this? She took off her engagement ring and handed it to me. She's since taken the ring back, but we haven't spoken since.
Q. Hello. We have been dating almost 5 years and recently engaged. I have a great passion for traveling. In fact we are planning our vacation which will be our first together. Last night, I told her I will also have my own travel plans alone or wit...
A. 20 January 2017: I think you might have approached it wrong, instead off telling her you are going to go away with friends maybe you should have sat her down and asked her opinion on you going away with friends. I mean are you talking a week or a month? If you are ... (read in full...)
Fed up with him. Don't think I can trust him any more. How should I handle this situation?
Q. hi everyone ive been with my fiancé for 3 years now just lately I don't feel happy anymore and now ill explain why. We met through facebook and after that he told me he doesn't use facebook anymore. I had him on my friends list he just never bother...
A. 20 January 2017: Why are you continuously putting yourself through this?... (read in full...)
Moving in together and disagree on houseguests. Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 26 and moving in together for the first time. We’re doing it for the right reasons and discussed everything we could think of before making the decision together. Currently we spend most of our time together at his place, ...
A. 20 January 2017: Wow I am surprised you still have a boyfriend. This is one off the most selfish things I have heard in a relationship. Honestly you want to isolate him when at home? Why? His family should be able to visit whenever they want. Sure the odd time if ... (read in full...)
He went out of his way to get my number but never called
Q. Ok on a friday night at the gym i noticed this guy looking at me and well there was a mutual attraction. He kept looking at me the whole time i was there. I had gone into the hall to take a break and he passed by me as he was leaving and passed b...
A. 19 January 2017: It sounds like he asks a lot of ladies for their numbers and forgets to call them all back. Honestly I wouldn't get your hopes up, because if he really wanted to meet up he would have called by now.... (read in full...)
Was he wrong for hitting me or am I being dramatic?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 8months, I was pulling a silly face he didn't like and to stop me doing it he slapped my face, not hard by enough to shock me a little. He knows how I feel about face slapping (from previous bedroom antics) ...
A. 19 January 2017: It doesn't sound like he hit you out off anger, I think he was doing it as a joke because you where making faces. He got angry then as men do if we give them the silent treatment. Best just to have told him it was unacceptable to you and leave it at ... (read in full...)
We had a social scheduling conflict so my boyfriend cancelled his plans with me
Q. My boyfriend and I used to set up social events for our large group of friends as a pastime. However we became busy and stopped, and finally set one up for this weekend which we had been planning to for awhile. 10 said yes and 10 more said maybe ...
A. 19 January 2017: Honestly? I think it is a petty thing to be falling out over. You should have kept your plans and let him go with his friends for dinner and meet up afterwards, you both don't need to do everything together.... (read in full...)
I love my partner but we've been having sexual issues and I'm starting to develop feelings for a colleague
Q. Hi all, I am having a bit of a problem at the moment. I have been with my partner for just over 5 years and we have been extremely happy. We are best friends and have been since the start. Very recently I have started developing feelings for ...
A. 19 January 2017: Shall I tell you a secret? Even people in relationships develop crushes on other people, it doesn't mean you love your partner any less, it just means you have an attraction to another person. It is fine as long as you don't act on it, so try and ... (read in full...)
Is it my fault I got put into the FWB category?
Q. I've always been a woman that holds myself with dignity and believe that I have a lot to offer a man in a relationship. I am in no way saying this to brag or boast myself but my personality has always shined and others have told me so as well. ...
A. 19 January 2017: honestly not every guy you date is going to look at you as a life long partner. I don't say this to upset you. Yes many have said you have a great personality, that does not mean it is a one fits all. Different men like different things. Therefore ... (read in full...)
Should I support my ex? I feel angry and ashamed of succumbing to his desperation
Q. My ex and I were together for 2 years but in the end it became unhealthy and toxic. He became verbally abusive and was flirting online with other girls which made me depressed and anxious. In the end I had to go ‘no contact’ in an attempt to get ...
A. 19 January 2017: Honestly he loves himself more than he could ever love another person. He is arrogant, self centered and uses you and other women for attention purposes only. Him telling you about his mothers cancer was for you to feel sorry for him, shame on him. ... (read in full...)
Am I right or is my flu messing with my mind?
Q. First of all, I have the flu. Anyway, I was seeing a man, and out of the blue he broke up with me. I said ok. We had only been seeing each other for a month. Then he begged me to give him another chance, for two weeks non-stop. I give him another ...
A. 19 January 2017: Hmm it could be that you are right, or maybe he thinks you are using the flu as an excuse to not see him. Either way if he was really interested he would ask you how you are feeling. The best thing you can do is concentrate on getting yourself ... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy on my part. Plus why would she go and look for another dom given everything that has happened?
Q. Hi Folks, First off, let me say hi as I am new here! Please excuse this long message but I need to try to explain my feelings and also explain some of what has been said. My problem is with retroactive jealousy over my girlfriends past. ...
A. 19 January 2017: I honestly cannot see this relationship working long term. You are both very different people and want very different things. It does not sound to me like she is over being the submissive. That is just going to cause problems in a relationship ... (read in full...)
Shall I tell him? Do I let it out or just walk away without saying anything ?
Q. Do you tell the person you love that you have feelings for him ? Despite the fact he is not that friendly to you and never indulges you in their personal thoughts and life ? I have been thinking about telling the guy I love that I loved him but ...
A. 19 January 2017: It sounds to me like you have a crush on this guy more than being in love with him. Why not ask him on a date and see how it goes? You don't need to confess love to him because yeah it will scare him away. But asking him out is not to scary now is ... (read in full...)
He stood me up numerous times but the one time I tell him I can't meet he ends things??
Q. In december last year a guy popped up to me. we had both known of each other for a very long time, he had even been following me on all my social media platforms since 2014, but only december he decided to make his move. he was really intense ...
A. 19 January 2017: honey honestly he was playing you for a fool the whole time. Sounds like he was bored and he enjoyed the attention from a young girl. First red flag because he should not be attracted to someone so young at his age. It is creepy.
Anyway he kept... (read in full...)
Why won't my friend admit that he is married?
Q. Hi, Aunts! Of late, I've been speaking with one of my friends who is married for 2 months now. The issue is that he has fallen for me and won't even accept or acknowledge his marriage, when I already have seen their pictures (why would he lie to ...
A. 19 January 2017: Hope the no contact rule goes well. You will be much happier without him in your life am sure.... (read in full...)
Should I end things? Boyfriend's friends are vulgar and rude
Q. Should I end my relationship?. My boyfriends friends make disrespectful comments , such as saying "get them off" to me ( meaning my underwear ), and asking my boyfriend if his finger has been inside me ( you know where ), and making gay rumours up ...
A. 19 January 2017: The sound like teenagers going through puberty! Do grown men really behave like this? Eugh well you can bet that your boyfriend shares the same sense off humor as them he just hides it from you. ... (read in full...)
He lacks a stable job and a career so I'm breaking up with him. Am I not openminded?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've put a lot of consideration into this and I've decided to break up with my boyfriend. It's not that we don't get along - we get along rather well and have a great time together. He is positive I will be his future wife and has info...
A. 19 January 2017: Honestly it sounds like you are both two very different people. In your mind you know it is never going to work therefore you should just end things. Try not to prolong it. ... (read in full...)
She has no problems trying to crush my ego. NOW she says I'm bad in bed. How should I respond to her insults about lovemaking?
Q. My girlfriend completely criticized my sex. Said I suck in bed when she's been wanting me for 3 years saying that no one knows her body like me and she never felt this good before and blah blah blah. But as soon as she gets mad at me that complet...
A. 19 January 2017: I wouldn't want to have sex with you either if you where still in love with your ex girlfriend and a cheat. Honestly am not sure why you are repeating multiple different questions.... (read in full...)
How can I get my current Gf to trust me? I've not cheated on her. But I did cheat on my ex.
Q. I cheated on my first love two years ago with my current girlfriend. I broke up with my first love to set her free from my cheating ways. I still love her and check her social media accounts to see how she's doing but I never told her I cheated wh...
A. 19 January 2017: finding out you cheated on her probably won't bother your ex as it was so long ago and she has no doubt moved on from you. This is the same girlfriend that is not allowing you to have sex with her. Stop being scared and just walk away. Learn to be ... (read in full...)
Is he using me? He's spending more time with his ex than he spends with me.
Q. I'm going out with this bloke on and off for over a year now, but what gets to me is he spends most off his time at his ex's house. He says he's there for kids but half of the time the children are not there. He leaves at 8:00 in morning and ...
A. 19 January 2017: You don't know where you stand? Let me tell you, he writes to you empty words. He is basically coming home to you at night for a place to sleep and perhaps some sex. If he loved you he would not be with his ex all the time. Be careful he is not also ... (read in full...)
Married recently. Are these marriage problems happening too soon?
Q. My husband and I just got married about a month ago, unfortunately we can't live together because neither of us have a job at the moment. Although we are looking. We see each once or twice a month. We text everyday and FaceTime, but now all of s...
A. 19 January 2017: Why did you both get married can I ask? If you have no money between you and a baby on the way then surely the wedding could have been postponed until you where both in a better financial place?
It sounds like he has no interest in this marr... (read in full...)
Do good relationships go through this?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 7 months. From the moment I met him I felt that he was the one I would marry. We have been through a lot in the last year. My Nan got cancer (she is okay now), my Grandfather passed away, and I was ...
A. 18 January 2017: You start by saying we have been through a lot and all things you mention are about you. Are you emotionally available for him to talk about his problems, or is it all about you?
You mention that your father is trying to take your house. But it is n... (read in full...)
I'm in a long-distance marriage and at a loss! What should I do?
Q. I am in my second marriage and my husband and I live in separate states. There is, of course, a backstory...but my main issue is simple. He does not make our marriage a priority. In this day and age, I don't even hear from him every day. If I do, I ...
A. 18 January 2017: Why not take a surprise trip up to see him for a weekend or even a week and see for yourself what is stopping him from contacting you.... (read in full...)
Was that a one night stand?
Q. A couple of weeks ago I was talking to a woman and we were looking to keep it casual. Friends with benefits if you will. Then when we get to my place asked her if she would like to have sex. She said no, and thought I was very attractive and fun, ...
A. 18 January 2017: Maybe she felt a bit pressured in to having sex. Yes maybe her body wanted it but she is probably embarrassed that she allowed you to talk her in to it. I guess yes it probably was a one night stand and you should learn that no should mean no.... (read in full...)
What am I doing to not want men to talk to me or want me romantically?
Q. I am 21 and still never had a boyfriend or asked out. It really upsets me that guys almost never start a conversation with me. I have only had 2 cute guys reasonably around my age start a conversation with me and that was a while ago. Now, only old ...
A. 18 January 2017: You talk to them. Honestly they might think you look uninterested as well. Show them that is not the case. Talk to them and see how it goes. You need to try be more outgoing and confident. That shines through.... (read in full...)
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