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writes:My friend is mad at me because her boyfriend wanted to in her words " ^^^k ME" I have never met the guy nor has he seen what i look like. My friend does not have social media, I do. And shes mad at me. It was the strangest text i have ever received. The guy does coke shes only been dating him for a month!!!! And she cut me off I did nothing.I have more female friends than her. She has nothing but guy friends. I did nothing wrong Im just mad she cut me off and I did nothing wrong I have been nothing but nice!! Shes even hit on my boyfriend and it another reason why my friends dont like her. Shes is a nice person generally but shes guy cray im just hurt to get cut off for doing nothing wrong!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2017): I think her boyfriend is obviously a jerk and a druggie, and hopefully she will break up with him soon.
Honestly though, if he had been a regular guy, you can't really blame her for feeling jealous. It is a natural emotion and if you knew your boyfriend had a crush on her (if the scenario was reversed) you probably would feel upset and anxious around her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2017): She is very competitive. True friends are not competitive nor do they see other female friends as competition. That is all screwed up.Unfortunately this happens a lot, especially with younger women.Your EX friend is threatened by you because of her boyfriend's actions. So, what do people do when they are threatened? They ELIMINATE the threat. I cannot say I totally blame her. Even if you did nothing wrong, she does not like the fact her BF finds you attractive and wants to bang you; she does not want to see this rubbed in her face over and over. She would worry WHAT IF you ever liked him back. Then she could lose him.What I do not understand is WHY she did not yet ELIMINATE the BIGGEST THREAT of ALL. HER BOYFRIEND!!!!He's a first class asshole! Who is putting himself in a position to CHEAT on HER! So, her BF is the real threat! Not you!And you know what? So is she if she put the moves on your boyfriend. WHO NEEDS "FRIENDS" LIKE THAT? She obviously has all sort of self esteem issues to sort through. Sweetie, just ignore her from now on. She is trouble and not worthy of your friendship. She did you a BIG favour. She showed you her true colours.You will find soon enough that you are better off without these people in your life. They are toxic. You, on the other hand, have a choice not to drink their poison. I wish you well. Find yourself some true friends. You don't need a lot. Just a couple "real" ones. Never surround yourself with fake friends. They make you miserable and bring you down to their level with all their useless and pathetic drama which really amounts to NOTHING. And you are better than that.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 February 2017):
 Okay we get it you done nothing wrong. I can see why you are angry but honestly she is not worth it. It sounds to me like she used this as an excuse to lash out at you and end the friendship. You don't need her in your life. Part ways and wish her good luck, she will need it dating a druggie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2017): Your anger and hurt feelings will subside. I don't think this young lady was truly a friend. She's too wrapped-up in guy-chasing to be a decent friend anyway.
Her paranoia and lack of reasoning is going to cost her friends; and she will have one failed relationship after another, until she learns things the hard way.
Girlfriend has to get her sh*t together and better build herself a female support-system; or she'll have no one to turn to for help and comfort her through her many guy-problems to come. She can't even recognize she has a jerk on her hands! She's a nutcase, and a good candidate for the Miss Dumped-alot Award.
Your true friends are those you can trust, the ladies who stick by you through thick and thin; and people who support you when you're down on your luck. People who turn on you only need you when they need you, you otherwise have no value to them. So she saved you the trouble of ditching her as a friend by self-elimination.
Be good to those who are loyal; and value those who stand by you. Appreciate what she did offer until she turned.
If things go south with the guy, and they will; it is likely she will return with a mouth full of "I'm so sorry!"
If you go soft and decide to take her back. Remind her at that time what a true friend is, and insist that before you even consider her a friend again; she'll have to learn what that requires. Forgive her, but put her on a probationary period. She only gets to mess-up one more time, and she's out on her ass for good! Don't stand for just being a friend until some guy comes along.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 February 2017):
 I'd be pretty pissed too!
But here is the thing. SHE is mad at you because it's EASIER than being mad at him. She wants to date him so she makes you the "bad" guy in this scenario rather than see the guy for what he is, a total douche.
They have been dating a month and he is saying crap like that! Not exactly a great guy and I think she knows it, but she doesn't WANT to admit she picked a bad apple so getting mad at you works for her.
Personally? IF this is her attitude, LET HER GO! This is not someone you NEED as a friend. Focus on the friend that you have who are WORTH your time. This one? ISN'T. It's not exactly you fault her new BF is a crude tactless character.
Now she might come to realize that HE isn't so great after all, when he either cheats on her or dump her and THEN she will want to be friends again. Whether YOU want to or not, is up to you.
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