Concerned about my sex life and I need some advice
Q. I have been in a relationship with my now fiance' for 2 1/2 years. Our sex life was great until we moved in with each other 1 year ago. I am not sure what but something changed. I have been open and honest about my feelings and my need, she says she ...
A. 7 February 2017: Stress can lower the libido but if you have a feeling it is something else then follow your instinct. If it only began when you moved in together then maybe she has just settled in to a routine and she does not need sex as much as you. It is good to ... (read in full...)
Should I say something? Or cut ties with them? My friend uninvited me to their wedding
Q. I have been good friends with the groom for over 4 years. He and the bride said I was invited to the wedding ceremony. I was surprised as a registry office is usually small so was please to be asked. The bride asked if I had my invitation w...
A. 7 February 2017: Honestly it was her big day and she did not want you their because she is insecure and she knew her husband had feelings for you at one point. I know you say she had nothing to worry about because you had no feelings, but he did and that is what you ... (read in full...)
If I was happy, I wouldn't have had cybersex with the guy online. Anyone got advice? Should I tell my bf about what I did?
Q. I became friends with this guy online. The conversations started off as topics about forums (met on a forum so) memes, YouTube, just general Internet stuff really. However, it slowly got a little flirtatious, and last night, I was drinking and we ...
A. 7 February 2017: I think you should be honest with him. If you are not happy in this relationship then you should leave. If you truly loved your boyfriend you never would have cheated on him, cyber or not, it is still emotional cheating. Drinking is no excuse and ... (read in full...)
Does this married man fancy me?
Q. Does this matried man just like me or do you think he wants more? Reasons I think he does: Caught him staring at me and he smiled and shook his head a little. Saw him looking out of the corner of my eye and when I turned my head he averted his ...
A. 7 February 2017: It sounds to me like you actually want him to want you. My guess is you like the attention from him? It is a dangerous game you are playing and am not surprised that his wife dislikes you. Nip it in the bud and keep your distance. ... (read in full...)
Advice please on raising girls
Q. Hi all, i just wanted to share my thoughts with you.. have you noticed people around us lately - the social media? People are all posing nude and doing sexy poses etc. Girls want to pose half naked. The butt (sorry) has become the women's most ...
A. 7 February 2017: I do understand why you are worried. But really all you can do is guide them and show them the way. Don't be scared to talk to your children about your values and beliefs, but also be prepared that they might not follow the same as yours. The best ... (read in full...)
We're on a break so he can deal with his issues and I need advice on how to manage this!
Q. My boyfriend has been depressed for a month now. At first, he didn't know as he'd never experienced it but as I have, I started noticing it and told him. His relationship with his father is strained and his father has been putting immense ...
A. 7 February 2017: From reading your other post as well my advice is still the same, I think you need to cut contact for now. You cannot go from a relationship to being a friend, it does not work like that, not when there are feelings involved. You need to look after ... (read in full...)
I found out that my boyfriend cheated and he doesn't know it yet. What should I do?
Q. Hello everyone. I've never posted a question online before but I really don't know what to do in this situation so I'd very much appreciate your honest opinion and input! Quick background story. I've been with my partner for 5 years this comin...
A. 7 February 2017: Oh Sweetie, you are not going to gain anything by contacting him, it is clear you are looking for a reason to stay with your boyfriend, to forgive and forget what he has done. But honestly? There is no excuse for what he done, he cheated on you, ... (read in full...)
Is it still bad if someone cheats but has no feelings for that person?
Q. What are some of the downsides to a man cheating on his GF with someone he doesn't have any emotional attachment to? If he doesn't care for the girl he's having sex with, like her as a person, or anything, then shouldn't it be okay to cheat ph...
A. 7 February 2017: It could hurt the woman he is with when she finds out she has caught a nasty infection from him that has left her infertile or even worse. It can hurt the woman because if she did find out and it was with someone he did not care about then it shows ... (read in full...)
He was once my crush. Does he like me? Or is he just being weird?
Q. There is this guy at school who keeps staring at me. We are actually quite good friends and do talk outside of school from time to time. I genuinely trust him but for some reason, he's been acting strangely lately. It started about six months...
A. 7 February 2017: Probably teenage hormones. Maybe he had a crush on you and he is jealous, it sounds like he is not sure how to control his feelings for you, so sometimes he pretends its okay and other times he gets annoyed and ignores you. It will pass. Try not to ... (read in full...)
Does this indicate there is possibly another woman? Red flag!
Q. I'm really bothered with my boyfriend, cause I really don’t know if I can take his word or not anymore, he told me that I can stay over the weekend in his apartment in the city, in fact, he has said it many times, the times I have traveled to see ...
A. 7 February 2017: Well it is obvious you are not happy in this relationship. You have no trust for him at all, it is clear the first thing you think is he has another women when there could be 1000 different reasons why he does not want you over. Instead off just ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's excuse didn't cut it with me
Q. So my boyfriend of 9 months didn't come to my sister's wedding yesterday. I was annoyed to start when he said he couldn't come a month before the wedding but when I heard his excuse I was more annoyed. I don't get on well with my family and ...
A. 7 February 2017: His 21st should be a big deal. It is quite a big birthday. He did give you plenty off notice that he was not going. He probably wanted to celebrate his birthday over the weekend as that probably suited his family and those that work during the week. ... (read in full...)
Help me sort out this tangle before it gets worse
Q. I'm in quite a difficult situation. My ex boyfriend was living on the streets recently. The battery on his phone had run out one night. He met this guy who was also living on the streets, and he borrowed the guy's mobile phone to speak to me. Me and ...
A. 7 February 2017: Hi are you close to your mother? Could you possibly talk to her about this? I am scared that this guy could be using your better nature to either take money from you or to have a roof over his head. You should speak to someone, an adult you trust to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's behaviour is so upsetting
Q. My boyfriend is depressed lately, due to his abusive relationship with his father (who is visiting for a few months). My boyfriend is really really depressed lately. He said he wants to get some space. I agreed, but have been going through hell...
A. 7 February 2017: It sounds to me like he does not want to be with you any more. Maybe that is something you need to accept. You cannot just have a break and be friends, you are either together or you are not. Look at the end off the day you are going to just end up ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this attention?
Q. There is somebody at school who keeps staring at me. It's become a daily thing now, and even my frieends have noticed it happening. Furthermore, I have realised that whenever somebody mentions my name to her she often blushes. This has been ...
A. 7 February 2017: The question is do you like this girl? If you do then talk to her, get to know her and become her friend. She is shy around you as she has a crush on you. Be careful not to hurt her. ... (read in full...)
Signals I'm getting make me question my next move
Q. Dearcupid. Help me to solve this problem before it is too late. Don't get it twisted. My cousin sister introduce me to her friend for a relationship that could lead to marriage. Me and her met at the restaurant to relax and to explain more about us. ...
A. 7 February 2017: I don't think she is ready yet either OP. I mean does she not have a say on who she should marry? It sounds to me like she does not want to marry you, she is making excuses not to see you, you need to read the signs. ... (read in full...)
Has this man gone cold on me?
Q. Hi, I've been dating this guy for about 3 months now. He asked me to be his girlfriend on our third date. We get on really well and can actually have great conversations on our dates and through texts (he only likes to text as feels anxious ca...
A. 7 February 2017: No need to be aggressive, just give him a call and ask him what is going on. He may not like calls for several reasons, maybe he is trying to keep you a secret? Maybe he has someone else? You need to try and sort this out with him. It is possible he ... (read in full...)
He decided to take up on my offer on not using condoms. Why was he so willing to do this?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a while and whenever we have sex, we always use protection. But there was this one time that we didn't because we both didn't want to. After that time we used a condom every time. We were talking about our sex li...
A. 7 February 2017: Probably because it feels better for him, and well sure if you get pregnant its not really going to be his problem is it, I mean he has made no commitments to you?... (read in full...)
18 year old senior at school. How could I attempt to seduce this teacher at my school?
Q. I am a 18 year old female in high school as a senior. I had this teacher for the first semester and over time just seemed to really like him for a lot of reasons mostly because of how intelligent he is. I am not a very sexual person and could...
A. 7 February 2017: Control your hormones. Honestly this guy could get fired if he went near you, and I am hoping he has more sense than to be seduced by a student. From your post it does not really give clear signals that he likes you, I honestly do think it is just ... (read in full...)
Isn't this cheating? I'm distraught and stunned that he visited at least three mens' homes to masturbate
Q. I just found out my husband of 23 years, who has not had relations with me by his own accord for 12 years, more than half of my marriage, has been registered on gay and swinger websites. I found out all this on my own and have filed for divorce....
A. 7 February 2017: You are correct, off course it is cheating. He knows deep down he is in the wrong but he does not want to admit it. It does sound like he is bisexual, or at worst an in closet gay. If he does not show you any passion anymore then I would be afraid ... (read in full...)
Should I bring this up for discussion? It feels like he does not trust me anymore.
Q. My husband and I separated nearly a year ago due to my infidelity. We recently reconciled and moved back in together. I missed him so much and have grown up a lot over the separation. Although I couldn't be happier that we are getting a second c...
A. 7 February 2017: Honestly the best thing to do is to talk to him and ask him why the change, he is your husband surely if you are both giving it another go then you can talk openly to each other?... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about his actions? Should I be questioning his commitment to me, based on his actions?
Q. I'm concerned my fiance is travelling every other weekend for a few days without me. I want to go and he tells me to pay my way. If i try to go ahead with that plan, he just takes off without me. I bought him something for over 700 bucks the o...
A. 6 February 2017: What do you do? Run and never look back. He has no interest in travelling with you, he likes his life just as it is, he has a part time girlfriend and also gets to travel alone checking out new places and people. I could almost bet he has already ... (read in full...)
Coming out for both of us is out of the question. Should I try to make both relationships work concurrently?
Q. I am married with two children but in love with my bestfriend who is a girl My husband is not aware that i am bisexual...but he suspects...and knows that my best friend is weird..but he is the most understanding and loving man..i love him and wan...
A. 6 February 2017: Can you be honest with your husband and tell him you are bisexual? I mean he suspects so is it not for the best just to be honest with him? If you love him you can both work through this.
If you want your marriage to work then you need to keep your... (read in full...)
What if the tables were turned? Am I being a numpty for agreeing to her terms?
Q. Hey just like to ask if i've been a bit of a numpty. I'm not allowed a facebook nor messenger not sure why but to make her happy i said ill not make a facebook. She has both and lots of people added like people she works with and even people she s...
A. 6 February 2017: Are you a child? She has no right to say what you can and cannot do. She does not allow you? Honestly is she your boss? Let me guess you have been unfaithful in the past? She does not trust you? Either that or she is severely controlling.... (read in full...)
What would be a good first gift, post breakup, to offer as a token of friendship?
Q. Hi everyone, I would like to get my ex girlfriend a gift that is received as a token of friendship, or more specifically, as a gesture that I'm ready to foster one. She has already explicitly stated interest in doing so. This comes after se...
A. 6 February 2017: honestly I think you are best not buying her anything, if it was me I would feel it was crossing a line. Friendship is very difficult to maintain with an ex, because old feelings will return. ... (read in full...)
Off/on relationship has me wanting something more definite
Q. So this is bothering me. I was seeing a girl for 2 months, we fell in love quick but due to family issues and differences we took a break. She started seeing someone else. We still hung around and got even closer, she told me mulitple times she ...
A. 6 February 2017: She is enjoying the attention she gets from you. She is selfish, she doesn't care about your feelings or for the guy she is seeing. She only cares about herself and the attention you give her. It has to stop. Or else you are going to end up ... (read in full...)
What happened to my dream girl? Do I just go along with her? Or call off the wedding and be done with her?
Q. Sorry if this is long just bare with me because I need help. My girlfriend has ruined our relationship and I feel like she just wanted me for money. I need to know what other people think. I can't talk to my family or friends because they all...
A. 6 February 2017: Your girlfriend sounds like a selfless kind generous girl. You have been together twelve years, she has put more money in to the house than you as she is better with money. Obviously because she grew up without being handed everything on a plate. ... (read in full...)
We have Skype online sex regularly. He is my first cousin and separated from his wife. Is this OK?
Q. Im having skype sex with my first cousin. Im 34, he's 32. I just got out of a 10 year relationship 6 mths ago, and been feeling very sexually frustrated. He's separated from his wife for 3 years now. He lives in Canada, and im from Cali. We ...
A. 6 February 2017: It seems it is legal where you are, but however the fact that you need to ask is it okay tells me you are feeling that it is wrong? I am not hear to judge you but I am worried that you will regret doing this in case your family all turn against you. ... (read in full...)
Would you remain friends with someone who keeps you blocked from Skype?
Q. Hi All, Could really use a little input here. I met a woman online on an international dating site. I'm American, she's from Europe. We emailed, talked and Skyped for about 10 months and then got into a fight. Without going into the details, ...
A. 6 February 2017: Yip you are being over sensitive. You met her online, looked maybe to date her, or to have some involvement, it did not work out and she blocked you.
Now she is dating someone else, so no doubt she has you blocked as she does not want you call... (read in full...)
Am I responsible for the baby or did she cheat on me? We had sex on October 8 2015 and she gave birth on June 15 2016
Q. Morning dear friends. My case is like this: I was in a relationship with my girlfriend(24 years old) for a year. we rarely met; at least once in three months. She visited me on the 8th of October 2015. We played the indoor game; but with pr...
A. 6 February 2017: I have to agree with the others, you are never going to know for sure unless you get a DNA test done, please do get it done, as this could be your child and if it is then you need to step up.... (read in full...)
Is there slightly more creative way of surprising her with these books, other than handing her the present and saying Happy Birthday?
Q. Not really a relationship question but any help is appreciated. Recently A Series of Unfortunate Events has made it's way onto Netflix and I have a female friend who absolutely loved it. She and I both share a particular liking for th...
A. 6 February 2017: I don't understand why a guy cannot buy a nice present or others think he has an ulterior motive or that he wants more than friendship. Where has kindness gone? Why do people think that their must be more?
Anyway OP such a lovely present, what a gr... (read in full...)
My crush is moving to another country. Do I tell him I like him?
Q. Back in 2015, I had met a boy at my school who had just moved from Colombia. We became really close friends, and within a few months, I had developed feelings for him. Now, in February 2017, he's moving back to Colombia in a couple of weeks,...
A. 6 February 2017: I have to agree that there really is no point in telling him, nothing good can come from it. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop letting this one man's opinion of me beat at my confidence?
Q. I have always thought of myself as girlfriend material and that I have a lot to offer a man. I dated a guy recently and he doesn't have any interest in me as a person whatsoever. I know it sounds vain or conceited, but I believe in mysel...
A. 6 February 2017: I think your confidence is a front because it would take a lot more than one man to break it. I mean come on none off us are perfect. None off us are one fit all when it comes to what men want. You need to realize not every man is going to find you ... (read in full...)
My partner doesn't do any parenting with our two year old.
Q. Hi I've got a 2 year old son with my partner of 4 years we live together but we had a disagreement yesterday over something stupid to which he replied he goes to work for 8 hours a day the disagreement was because I asked him to wipe his hands and ...
A. 6 February 2017: Have you tried getting a part time job in the evenings where he can look after the children and it might make him see that you don't do nothing. He needs to take more responsibility. It is also not fair on these children growing up and only getting ... (read in full...)
How do I start the conversation without looking desperate?
Q. Hi, About 7 weeks, my boyfriend ended our 2-3 month relationship due to the fact I was abroad when we got together and there would still be another year and half of us being apart. He felt like he was waiting for us to truly be together because ...
A. 6 February 2017: Hmm I have a gut feeling that this transfer was not health issues but rather it was so that you could continue your relationship. I think it is okay to tell him you have moved back, but don't expect anything from him. You guys where only together 7 ... (read in full...)
One of my parents is a bully!
Q. Since I was young, I have pretty much always felt generally low in confidence and down/angry around 1 of my parents in particular. They still live at home with me and my other parent, and are my biological parent. This parent has acted rather con...
A. 6 February 2017: Why would you not have left by now? I mean you are an adult, you have been for quite some years therefore the first thing I would have done was got a job and moved away from the negativity. What is keeping you living with your parents if you are so ... (read in full...)
Moving in together and disagree on houseguests. Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 26 and moving in together for the first time. We’re doing it for the right reasons and discussed everything we could think of before making the decision together. Currently we spend most of our time together at his place, ...
A. 3 February 2017: Honestly to me it sounds like you are very controlling and you need to work on your issues. ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over this insecurity?
Q. I have never written here before but I feel like I am lost in life - I feel very unfufilled and I'm not sure if that is because my insecurities or because of my upbringing. I felt like I was always compared when I was young and I felt like I was ...
A. 3 February 2017: I think you should visit a homeless shelter and help people who truly have no money. You don't need to feel jealous off them, plus helping them might actually teach you a thing or two. Money is not everything, you will realize that some day. ... (read in full...)
I don't want my sick and twisted mother around when I have children.
Q. Myself and my sister have started talking after 10 years no contact. I'm 29 now and she is 34. We're both very happy in our lives and we have been getting on great. When I was 16 my mum had left me homeless and moved to a different country. I've ...
A. 3 February 2017: I think you should cut ties with your mother if she is truly this evil. Why would you want her in your life? It is nice to hear that you and your sister have both made up. Are you going to invite your sister to the wedding? If it was me I would want ... (read in full...)
Its awkward at work and I am considering quitting!
Q. Months ago I made mistake of expressing interest in a work colleague by giving him my number but he never called/texted then exaggerated/lied as to why he didn't call.I felt little embarrassed but no big deal.I tried to be still friendly and ...
A. 3 February 2017: No I don't think I would leave. I mean you are both adults, if you have gotten over it then why can't he? You showed interest no big deal. He needs to just get over it. Don't let him dictate where you can and cannot work. But yourself first. ... (read in full...)
She had sex with somebody else when we were apart, I can't get over it!
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up a couple of months ago. I had serious commitment issues and after being together for just under a year and a half I pushed her away and subsequently she withdrew. While we were apart I have never been in more emotional ...
A. 3 February 2017: You see you where afraid off commitment and pushed her right in to his arms. She wanted to feel wanted and needed. It is a bitter pill to swallow but she is not sorry because you made her feel unloved while he filled that void, even if only for a ... (read in full...)
My friend's Bf wanted to have sex with me!! Should I be feeling so hurt about my friend cutting me off for doing nothing wrong!!!?
Q. My friend is mad at me because her boyfriend wanted to in her words " ^^^k ME" I have never met the guy nor has he seen what i look like. My friend does not have social media, I do. And shes mad at me. It was the strangest text i have ever received...
A. 2 February 2017: Okay we get it you done nothing wrong. I can see why you are angry but honestly she is not worth it. It sounds to me like she used this as an excuse to lash out at you and end the friendship. You don't need her in your life. Part ways and wish her ... (read in full...)
Moving in together and disagree on houseguests. Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 26 and moving in together for the first time. We’re doing it for the right reasons and discussed everything we could think of before making the decision together. Currently we spend most of our time together at his place, ...
A. 20 January 2017: Wow I am surprised you still have a boyfriend. This is one off the most selfish things I have heard in a relationship. Honestly you want to isolate him when at home? Why? His family should be able to visit whenever they want. Sure the odd time if ... (read in full...)
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