How much detail should I put in my online dating profile?
Q. I have cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair but am a bit unsteady on my feet at times. I have got a dating profile on Match, should I include my disability on there?...
A. 4 April 2017: If you are contacting them and they are not replying then my guess would be that they are not interested. How are you contacting them and what are you saying to them? Maybe make sure you sound nice and interesting and try not to look like you are ... (read in full...)
We are not meeting so often and he is blaming his work!
Q. Hi, Aunts! I've been seeing a guy for 2 months now. We used to talk throughout the day and text and meet often, but of late he initiates contact less. It's very frustrating when "Work has been very hectic" is the reply I receive as an explanatio...
A. 3 April 2017: Well if it is working for you then great, just make sure you are getting what you need from the relationship.... (read in full...)
Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them
Q. Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...
A. 13 March 2017: I think a break away on your own or with friends would probably do you a lot off good. You need to put yourself first.... (read in full...)
Can anything be saved in my marriage. If so, how?
Q. I need help.. my wife of 33 years has slept in separate room for 5 years.. she works but dosent contribute to mortgage, and all her income goes into her own bank. Mine goes into joint account, and she buys things out of this account. We have no ...
A. 3 March 2017: You broke the trust by cheating on her, sounds like she has never fully forgave you for that. Therefore now you have two choices, you can live together as you are practically separated or else you can bite the bullet and see that it is not working ... (read in full...)
He's not telling me the truth. Do I bail before it's too late?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for some time now and we just stopped using condoms a month ago(we got tested first), a day ago I was at his place cleaning up and I found 2 condoms in his jeans,now I'm wondering who else he's sleeping with. I ...
A. 3 March 2017: He is a liar please leave him. I sincerely hope you are not pregnant. This man is not who he says he is. He has lied about his age, he has other women's underwear in his house and is carrying condoms. Go with your gut instinct and leave him. I wish ... (read in full...)
I care my girl is letting herself go. How can I help?
Q. Me and my gf been together 4 years. Over the years she has let herself go. I have been encouraging her to keep in shape for over a year. She has been lazy and eats junk all the time. I like to see her happy so if she likes eating, i don't say much. ...
A. 3 March 2017: You OP are very judgmental. Their are LOTS of reasons why people gain weight, and being lazy is just one off them.
IF their is no medical reasons or she is not on any medication that can cause this. Then try be MORE supportive. Tell her you both... (read in full...)
I do not enjoy being 30 pounds overweight. How do I come to terms with the fact that the medication I must take is also making it much harder to lose weight?
Q. A combination of menopause and necessary medication is making it extremely hard for me to lose weight . The medication is actually what caused the weight gain and through working with my dr I did try alternatives but nothing else seemed to work for...
A. 3 March 2017: Tell me what are you eating daily and I will see if I can help make some changes for you?
Yes I do understand the tablets are what is causing the weight gain but diet wise maybe I can help. You can send me a private message if you wish.... (read in full...)
How can I stop comparing myself to everyone else? How can I become Assertive and less insecure?
Q. I'm single woman in my early thirties that on the outside most people would say (kind-generous -attractive- nice). My problem is - I'm very insecure ( I worked and work so much on outer appearance ) that I lack self confidence. I can't say no (...
A. 3 March 2017: Honestly back to therapy, yes it is hard, but it will take hard work in order for you to learn how worthy you really are. ... (read in full...)
He's been flirting with me, but after seeing him out with another woman I'm not sure how he really feels!
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles I met a guy nearly two years ago. Did not like him to begin. Then started to get to know him and he started flirting he gave me his number. Cutting a long story short, we have been talking for many weeks and my feelings h...
A. 3 March 2017: Honestly OP you should not have to defend this guy so much. It is clear he is not interested in any more than a friendship with you, we can all see that, but you can't because you have feelings for him and you are hoping for the best. He felt the ... (read in full...)
I've had bad luck with women in the past, and now I'm wondering if this new girl is testing me or just playing games
Q. I would like some advice on what to do with a female I'm currently talking to. Ive had no luck in the past when it comes to relationships and have always ended up getting hurt, no fault of my own. I'm not a bad looking guy and can get dates, I deci...
A. 3 March 2017: Playing games as women do? Well with an attitude like that you might be lucky to get a date. Not all women play games and it is very judgmental off you to think that they do. Also to me it sounds like she is not all that interested therefore best ... (read in full...)
He's a handsome foreigner, twice-divorced, aged 60. But all is not well in the relationship. Is it time to break up with him?
Q. Hello, I´m a single working mother of two. One is 13yo and the second 5yo. Six months ago I met a handsome foreigner twice-divorced aged 60. After 2 months, he came to live with us. He´s the first man to ever enter my household because I´ve alw...
A. 3 March 2017: Honestly forget about how you feel at the moment and put your children first. Get rid off him, if he called my children names he would be out before he even got to finish his sentence. Be a good mother and put your children first. Honestly he is ... (read in full...)
I'm losing the love I used to have for my boyfriend. How do I let go?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now, known him for four. Over the past month or so I've felt my feelings towards him just fade. When he text me I feel myself drain, when he holds me I feel a little uncomfortable, just little things l...
A. 3 March 2017: It is never easy to end a relationship. You are still very young and I would hate to think you feel trapped in to staying with someone out off guilt. Yes it will be difficult and their will be tears, but you will just need to stand your ground with ... (read in full...)
Teen daughter does not believe me. In your opinion did I do something wrong?
Q. I'm a single mother of two children. A girl who is 15 and a son who is 11 years old. We had a good life. We would take vacations and go back to our home country to visit every year. They both attend private Christian schools. Five years ago I di...
A. 3 March 2017: You can still make the father pay maintenance and have no contact with him. Surly he should be supporting his children. Also it is your choice which education your children have, but please do ensure they are taught by yourself or someone else about ... (read in full...)
Do I ask her out online or in person? She is shy.
Q. I don't know if I should ask her out in person or online? We talk often, and get along well. In fact I often see her staring, and all of the signs that tell me she likes me are clear now. She's shy, and probably won't ask me out herself, so I thin...
A. 3 March 2017: Honestly it really is best to ask her out in person. I do understand it is scary. But you will make a much better impression. Good luck and let us know how you get on. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell someone that their romantic feelings toward me are not mutual?
Q. I'm not into relationships at all, just casual stuff mainly. However, a guy I've recently been seeing thinks he's fallen in love with me and wants to be in a relationship. The issue is I can't bring myself to tell him that's not what I want. I'm ...
A. 3 March 2017: First off stop doing casual stuff with him, as it will only hurt him more and will make you look like a bad person. Just be honest with him, tell him it has been fun but you are not looking for anything serious at the moment therefore you think you ... (read in full...)
We've dated for 4 years, but now she doesn't make an effort anymore. What could improve the relationship?
Q. I am in between a rock and a hard place....I have a girlfriend of 4 years and I feel differently about our relationship to what I used to. I want to talk to my girlfriend about it but she doesn't want to listen! Nor talk...she is pretty closed w...
A. 3 March 2017: You cannot make her see things need to change unless you are willing to leave if things don't. It sounds to me like she wants companionship instead off romance. It does not sound like a healthy relationship at all. Honestly if this was me I would ... (read in full...)
Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them
Q. Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...
A. 3 March 2017: Honestly you are very insecure and it is because you are with someone who you simply do not trust because off all her issues. The sad thing is you say he will cheat again. Why are you with her? Surely love is not enough to stay with someone who is ... (read in full...)
How much detail should I put in my online dating profile?
Q. I have cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair but am a bit unsteady on my feet at times. I have got a dating profile on Match, should I include my disability on there?...
A. 3 March 2017: I think you should do whatever you are comfortable with. As long as you are not dishonest and lie to people then tell them whatever you want to. ... (read in full...)
We are not meeting so often and he is blaming his work!
Q. Hi, Aunts! I've been seeing a guy for 2 months now. We used to talk throughout the day and text and meet often, but of late he initiates contact less. It's very frustrating when "Work has been very hectic" is the reply I receive as an explanatio...
A. 3 March 2017: How did things go for you both?... (read in full...)
I lost respect when I found out my friend was a home wrecker.
Q. I have a friend, lets call him x, who recently told me he's got a new girlfriend. I was happy for him, and asked the typical questions, appears she's a colleague of his and she's got two kids ages 7 and 4, that he hasn't met yet but is excited about ...
A. 3 March 2017: Honestly I don't think her cheating on her partner has anything to do with you or your friend and you should not be so quick to judge. Their love life is their business and does not affect you therefore either let it go along with the friendship or ... (read in full...)
I like him but worry about his motives.
Q. Hi so there's this guy that I've had feelings for for a while. I'm 99% sure he at least likes me a little but for some reason I still have some doubt in my mind, which might just be because I'm not use to guys genuinely wanting to get to know etc. ...
A. 3 March 2017: If you don't want to have sex don't put yourself in a position where you are alone with him in his house. If others will be their then yes that's okay but it not ask him would he like to catch a movie at the cinema instead. Keep yourself safe. The ... (read in full...)
What happened?
Q. Met this awesome but shy guy for the first time in person last week. We met online on a dating site. We had planned to meet after a month or so of texting, as he had a day off from work and I had a day off the next day so it worked for us both. It ...
A. 3 March 2017: Just read your update so that's all good. My advice was going to be to wait until the end of month was over and see how it went. Looks like it went well. If he is busy with work then it is possible he may not have a huge lot of time for dating so I ... (read in full...)
My best friend hates my boyfriend, I don't want to break up with him for her.
Q. I have a boyfriend that I love very much, however my best friend hates him and she thinks he's taking me away from her. However I hang round with my best friend a lot more than I do with my boyfriend and she gets very jealous when I'm with him . She ...
A. 3 March 2017: At your age it is very normal for best friends to get jealous because you have a boyfriend. She may feel lonely and is scared off losing you. In fairness you are quite young to be dating. But off course if you want to be with your boyfriend that is ... (read in full...)
I feel he guilt trips me into staying with him.
Q. My partner needs help with his anger and possessive behaviour , how do I help him .. I know I can't help him he needs a professional but what do I do in this process !? It's sounds horrible because im finding it hard to believe he will change and ...
A. 3 March 2017: He may change but it is clear he is not going to change for you. If he was he would have done nosy now, he senses you are to weak to leave him so he uses that to his advantage. Honestly the best thing you can do for yourself is leave and learn that ... (read in full...)
Would I be betraying my Mom's memory if I get close to Dad's new girlfriend?
Q. Hello, My name is Bree. 2 years ago my mother died and it has been sad and rough for my Dad and I. When my mom died it really broke my Dad's heart, he loved her so much and misses her, and I miss her too. But last month my Dad told me he met another ...
A. 2 March 2017: Your post brought a tear to my eye. Your mother would be very proud off the young woman who raised her, she would also be happy that your dad has found someone else. It is not that he does not love your mum any more its just that he has accepted she ... (read in full...)
She's still sharing a bed with her partner of 6 years! What do I do?
Q. Hi I'm seeing a girl and have been for over 6 months but she's still living with her partner of 6 years ... I did know her before and was common knoledge they were not close ... she promised me she would leave once she got the finance to move out ...
A. 2 March 2017: What should you do? Stay away from women who are in relationships. She is a cheat and she is having her cake and eating it. Why would she end things when she has the best off both worlds?... (read in full...)
If he wants to remain friends, I'm going to need a sincere apology!
Q. I recently broke it off with a guy I was dating because he wasn't ready for commitment. It hurt a lot but I'm mostly over it now. There was a deep connection and we could potentially be really good friends if the bad feelings can be resolved....
A. 2 March 2017: honestly you and him are not going to work out as friends. You cannot simply be his friend, you still care about him to much. You need to admit that to yourself. You need to stay away from him until you are completely over him, and in all honesty ... (read in full...)
How do I stop falling in love with my best friend?
Q. I'm in love with my best friend at college. He's not your average stud bit of a stoner, very clever and it nerdy but probably THE funniest guy I have ever met, I could be having a really shit time and I'd talk to him for like 2 minutes and he puts a ...
A. 2 March 2017: Why not ask him? He could have nodded his head for 1000 reasons. ... (read in full...)
Chaotic childhood. Do I leave it ? do I dig further to find out more about my mother?
Q. My upbringing was somewhat chaotic. my father 19 when he had me and my mother a drug addict. Me and my twin sister were removed from her care at 1 years old and spent sometime in a foster home until a relative fostered us. we were given a little ...
A. 2 March 2017: Sometimes it really is a case off what we don't know can't hurt us. ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and the residual odor of cigarettes is drifting into my apartment from the apartment below. How can I get rid of the odour?
Q. I am 6 months pregnant and iv literally tried everything for the cigarette odor that has been drifting in my room from the apartment beneath me to disappear. I talked with the neighbors below me, but they didn't seem like they would change. And si...
A. 2 March 2017: Open some onions and spread them around the room at night, they should evaporate the fumes.... (read in full...)
Why don't my men value my looks?
Q. All my life I have had relationships with men who turned out to not be physically attracted to me. Four relationships in fact. Each was attracted to me for other reasons but the physical just wasn't one and it always ended up being an issue. This ...
A. 2 March 2017: Truthfully I think you pick men who are wrong for you. Your husband went out off his way to make you feel bad about yourself. It sounds like he was abusive and controlling and well that has nothing to do with how you look, he would find faults in a ... (read in full...)
So many questions with him paying for porn
Q. Hi there, I know the topic of my question has been discussed a lot but I still feel the need to ask. I have been with my boyfriend for 1year and a half and everything has been great, I had my own place and he has his. Then, this summer, my lease...
A. 2 March 2017: Yip he has a problem. You both really need to sort this out before you end up totally insecure. ... (read in full...)
The way he manages money puts marriage in doubt
Q. Hi, So I have a question regarding relationships and finances. What do you think about being in a relationship with a guy who says that it will be a long time before he can get married, and the reason is that he is in a lot of debt because of ...
A. 2 March 2017: He is extremely bad with money, it sounds like he just needs to keep spending. Most people who find themselves in debt make cut backs until it is paid, he is the opposite he still just keeps spending. Honestly I wouldn't hold out hope that this guy ... (read in full...)
Why does he run hot and cold?
Q. Hi i need some advice here.. I've been seeing this guy for a month now We dont have any label in our relationship The first 2 weeks he's been so caring Were more like a cat and a dog but his sweet at the same time but suddenly he keeps on ignorin...
A. 2 March 2017: He doesn't want a relationship with you sweetie, if he did then he would make more off an effort. You made sex to easy for him and that is all he is interested in having with you. Some fun. In future you really should hold off on sex until you ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to see this man? He is also my boss. He says he wants to keep his independence, and doesn't want anything serious
Q. Hi all! I've recently started a new position in my work place and since moving facilities my boss and I have become very close (he is the same age as me 26). It all started with him asking discreet questions about my relationship status,...
A. 2 March 2017: honestly I think this is the worst thing you could ever do. There should be a book on reasons why not to date the boss. Especially not when he is saying to you he only wants something casual. Whatever his reasons are that is still all he wants, and ... (read in full...)
Should I stop having sex with my boyfriend???
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months. During month 6 he proposed to me the issue I am having is with sex I want enjoy having sex with him but I crave it so much I feel overwhelmed. We don't have sex often because I really want to s...
A. 1 March 2017: Honestly if you have had sex once then why does it matter about saving it? That makes no sense to me. If it was your spirituality that you where worried about then you would not have had sex at all and saved it until marriage. Therefore speak to ... (read in full...)
I honestly don't know what to do. What can I do? She blames her childhood for her major trust issues
Q. Hi, I have been together with my fiance for about 8 months now. Unfortunately, she has major trust issues and she fuels it by giving me no space to breathe. she expects me to tell her everything in detail. ie if I get a message from a friend(ma...
A. 1 March 2017: It may be one off the hardest things you ever do leaving her, but she can not excuse the way she is treating you. She may have had a bad childhood but we all have troubles, yes some worse than others, but she cannot take them out on you. What she is ... (read in full...)
Should I message her on facebook, or should I just leave it?
Q. I went out on monday night for a student night and I met this really nice girl where we danced. I bought her a drink. She had a friend who was dancing with my friend but he left somewhere and I ended up going to see one of my other friends, but I sa...
A. 1 March 2017: I would love to know OP did you message her?... (read in full...)
Should I end this relationship or work with it? He's become my best friend, but the excitement and passion have faded
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now but i am 18 and just starting to feel like i want to have other boyfriends and get to know other guys. I do really love my boyfriend but hes kind of more my bestfriend now. I defintely dont have ...
A. 28 February 2017: Honestly if you are having doubts then that usually means deep down you don't want to be with him. If you are looking at other men and not him then that is showing you the relationship has ran its course. You are not responsible for his happiness ... (read in full...)
I can't get in contact with my love who has moved on to another country. How can I deal with his absence?
Q. This boy that I have fallen in love with has moved to Spain and I have no way of getting in touch with him. Although he is back in summer but that's 5 months away. I'm worried he might find another girl whilst he's there and everyday I worry an...
A. 28 February 2017: Honestly why would you feel the need to wait for someone who didn't even bother telling you they where going? You may THINK you love him, but he is showing no signs off even caring about you. I think you should use these five months to get over him.... (read in full...)
How can this be resolved? I want a Baby. He couldn't think of anything worse.
Q. My husband told me the other day he never wants to have children. I’m devastated. Don’t get me wrong I love him completely and can appreciate that it’s just how he feels but I feel angry and bitter and am having serious thoughts about leaving him if ...
A. 28 February 2017: I have to agree with the others, it really does amaze me that you both would commit to a marriage without speaking about your future. Surely these things should be spoke about before entering in to a marriage. This marriage is not going to work as ... (read in full...)
He looks at naked women online but said he'd leave if I posted nudes of myself!
Q. I want to post nude pics of myself on an amateur site . It excites me to imagine men getting off to pictures of my naked body . My husband is against it and says he will leave . He looks at other men's wives naked and at porn . Why is it ok for him ...
A. 28 February 2017: No it is not double standards at all. If he was posting nudes off himself and not wanting you to then that would be double standards. Or if he watches porn but says he is going to leave you if you start watching it. Honestly is this fantasy worth ... (read in full...)
Is it over the top to want my first date ever to be nice and memorable?
Q. I've never actually been on a date before despite being my early 20s. I'm OK looking and friendly so I've been asked out, I just haven't wanted to as I am a busy girl. Anyway, I've joined an online dating site for fun and got a fair few offers ...
A. 27 February 2017: Yeah I think you have built this so much up in your head that you will end up being really disappointed. You need to meet someone to know if you like them. So coffee really is a good start. ... (read in full...)
I hope I'm wrong but wonder based on these signs if should I just move on?
Q. I normally have a really good intuition about relationships and men, but oftentimes ignore it in hopes that I am wrong. I'm sort of hoping that I'm wrong this time around, but I digress. I met with this guy about a month ago. He is older than me...
A. 27 February 2017: Honestly I wouldn't waste your time any longer, he just does not seem interested in you enough to pursue it. He would find time to write to you if he was really interested. Maybe he just doesn't know how to let you down, or maybe he just wants ... (read in full...)
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