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writes:My hook up and I kept trying to make plans to, well you know, hook up, but he kept cancelling on me because something came up that he had to take care of. Anyway he apologized for being confusing lately (which idk what that really meant) but I just went along with it and said it was fine. We planned to hook up that night too but something came up again so he cancelled and so was like "yeh whatever you're just playing rn." His reaction stunned me though, he overreacted and was like "wtf no. and if that's what you think why should I bother trying anymore". Idk why he reacted the way he did and I went on telling him I didn't mean what I said it was kinda like a joke and I honestly thought he would understand since I put a bunch of emojis after it and we would usually joke around with each other like that. Well we had sex the next day but I still don't understand why he reacted that way and I didn't want to ask him since it would probably upset the both of us. Reply to this Question
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reader, Campari Milano  +, writes (26 February 2017):
WOW! That's really classy! You are f**king a guy, and then asking the internet about his feelings!!!!
Hook-ups are Hookups because it's just about sex. So you are getting exactly what it says on the tin. If he talked to you in a horrid way, you should have just cut him loose an got another one!
You are having sex with this guy and letting him have all the power and treat you like crap!
If you like him so much, stop f**king him until he is nice to you. And I mean, is your boyfriend and is kind to you.
If he doesn't want you, get another guy, or buy a vibrator.
You are setting a precedent for how guys will treat you for the rest of your life.
SERIOUSLY, GET A GRIP!!!!!!!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 February 2017):
 To him he probably sees it as if he has nothing better to do then he will hit you up and have sex with you. It seems neither off you want a relationship, and he probably leaves you as a last option. If he cared he would not keep cancelling. It looks to me like you care more than he does so please be careful that you don't get hurt here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2017): A hook-up is not really like a date. You can hit and run; and have no obligation whatsoever to your hook-up buddy.
It's just for the sex, and you do it when you're good and ready. There are no rules accept everything done must be consensual between partners.
Putting too much thought behind it indicates you have ulterior motives; and may think sex is a way to bait him in.
He's dodging you because you're coming on too hard, and he's suspicious and hesitant of how you'll behave after the hookup.
Your post sort of rats you out. You like the guy and you want more.
Maybe he really isn't into empty-sex; and may not like girls being too aggressive with him. He has a right to his preferences and timing. He can cancel as often as he likes. It's only a hookup! You just want to borrow and use his body. You'll get it when he wants to give it you!
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (30 January 2017):
 From the tenor of your post I'm guessing you are exclusive. That makes you a bit more than Hook ups. You are also starting to get emotionally attached.
Another question you should be asking yourself is, "is this relationship filling my needs" If this is no strings, no commitment, you might want to consider finding someone who wants to meet your needs.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (30 January 2017):
 Either you're being played for a fool or he has extreme anxiety (possibly guilt) over the whole sordid affair
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2017): It's a hook up and so he IS playing, in fact both of you are. You plan trysts depending on the availability and inclination of both parties. Anyway if you want to know why he reacted as he did, you should ask. What's there to lose?
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