We're already close. Do you think he is ready to move on and try something with me?
Q. Hi! Maybe this will be pretty obvious to you but I'm terrible when it comes to relationships and understanding men. I like this friend of mine (we were friends first) and he knows I like him, and we've kissed before but we were always drunk and st...
A. 19 September 2017: I think you should cut contact with this guy. It is clear he was only using you to be intimate with. If he cared about you he would not have treated you so badly and with such disrespect. I think you need to cut contact and make better friends who ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend pathetic? Or just stuck in his life at the moment?
Q. Ok, so...my boyfriend's truck broke down this past summer and I got a car about two or three months after. He could have got another by now had he saved better but idk. He spends his money on weed mostly and his phone bill and car insurance bill ...
A. 31 January 2017: You need to learn to say No! Really you do. I actually don't see what you get from this relationship. It looks like he is using you and you are letting him. Next time he asks for a lift say no, or to drive say no. If you are going to eat fast food ... (read in full...)
Suffering a workplace bully ringleader. How should I deal with this situation?
Q. Hi, this is just a work related question but it's been bugging me for a while. I feel can't speak to anyone. I have been in my role nearly a year, I love my job, get on well with all my colleagues and I am learning so much. When I started I g...
A. 31 January 2017: I am interested to see what the outcome will be from this. Yes you are right going to management. I understand you want friends, but you don't want to be associated with bullies therefore pull back from that group. Go in to work and do your job. ... (read in full...)
We're already close. Do you think he is ready to move on and try something with me?
Q. Hi! Maybe this will be pretty obvious to you but I'm terrible when it comes to relationships and understanding men. I like this friend of mine (we were friends first) and he knows I like him, and we've kissed before but we were always drunk and st...
A. 31 January 2017: Yeah speak with him about the ex. Let us know!... (read in full...)
Do cheating married men usually have more than one mistress?
Q. Do married men who cheat, cheat with more than one mistress at a time? Or do some men stay with just one? I am interested in everybody weighing in with their opinions. ...
A. 31 January 2017: It does depend, some men have a long term mistress while others are serial cheaters who will just have sex with any woman that will have them. You should probably not have sex with your husband in case you catch something from him.... (read in full...)
He left me because I wouldn't have sex with him.
Q. . my partner left me. because i dnt want sex with him before marriage. but he want. thats why he leave me. he switched off his phone. but i love him. . i want to talk to him. i feel alone without him. i love him. i want to die.plz help me....
A. 31 January 2017: You loved him, but he loved himself more than he did you. Good for you for standing your ground and not having sex before you are married. Remember never feel forced in to anything. You are hurting at the moment and upset but you will see it gets ... (read in full...)
I hid a recorder and heard breathing, is he cheating or watching porn?
Q. Hello Everyone, I have a unique issue. I don't trust my husband. For varies reasons. Alot of people thought I should hire a Detective. I really don't have the money for that. A friend of mine suggested I get a voice recorder and set it in the m...
A. 31 January 2017: So you love him? So what? You need to develop the confidence to leave him. Just because you love him does not mean that you have to stay with him. It means that you are using it as an excuse to stay where you are. You are weak and don't want to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents about his age and past?
Q. I need some advice on how to talk to my parents. I'm 23 and an only child. I'm very close to my parents and I know they love me very much. Ive always been a good kid and never really have my parents any trouble. I love out of town about 7 hou...
A. 31 January 2017: Yeah I have to agree with everyone else and tell them before the visit. I think most parents would not want to see their daughter with an older guy. So they need to hear the news and calm down a bit before meeting you both. Let us know how it goes.... (read in full...)
I like him and enjoy his flirting. But what should I do? Because I think he has a Gf already
Q. There's this guy I'm talking too. The problem is, I think he has a girlfriend.. We've been speaking a while and a few months ago, he told me that he can't take things forward with me because he has someone. I respected that and we remained to j...
A. 31 January 2017: It was not an accident him sending you that photo, he was testing you out. He is a serial player. Honestly why not just ask him straight out does he have a girlfriend? Or are you scared because you know that the answer is yes?
Say him and this girl... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 31 January 2017: Great to hear your good news. Wishing you a happy future together.... (read in full...)
How can I make this work, with her? We both need to lose weight, but her motivation is waning.
Q. I want to be fit. I want that for my girlfriend too. So does she. She complains about how clothes look on her. She is very attractive but could be in better shape. Obviously, I’m on board. She is all talk but little action. I tried to make i...
A. 31 January 2017: If you want to break off the relationship because she is not losing weight and you are then that kinda makes you shallow. Did you not get with her for a reason? Is looks so important to you, do you not love her? Look it is your choice.... (read in full...)
Shall I tell him? Do I let it out or just walk away without saying anything ?
Q. Do you tell the person you love that you have feelings for him ? Despite the fact he is not that friendly to you and never indulges you in their personal thoughts and life ? I have been thinking about telling the guy I love that I loved him but ...
A. 26 January 2017: It sounds to me like he likes sex from you and nothing more. You can tell him how you feel but don't get your hopes up that he feels the same.... (read in full...)
He says my body is his.
Q. My partner of 3 yrs and i have a beautiful little girl who is 1. Lately my partner has been trying touching me and trying to penetrate me whilst we are playing with our daughter which i have put a stop to. He has started sayimg he can touch me ...
A. 26 January 2017: How have things progressed for you?... (read in full...)
I'm panicking my boyfriend will cheat on a guy's trip to Cuba. How should I respond or act in this situation?
Q. My boyfriend is in Cuba for one week on a guy's trip. I am beside myself with worry that he is going to cheat. I have read that prostitutes are around every corner there and they are dirt cheap. The anxiety is hard to take. I contact him a...
A. 26 January 2017: How did things go for you?... (read in full...)
Why do I have to hunt down my vacationing boyfriend by text before he answers?
Q. I need your help. I need to know whether I should end a 3.5 year relationship. My boyfriend is traveling outside the country with family. He has been in touch by text because it's expensive to send texts and make phone calls. So his texts...
A. 26 January 2017: Thanks for the update and I am sorry about your husband. You speak perfect sense and yes off course if you are used to getting lots off attention from men then you feel you need even more from him. That is natural in your world. It is good to ... (read in full...)
Having problems with my Aunt. Should I tell my dad about this?
Q. i've been posting several questions and for some reason i've been having endless number of dilemmas... At first i didnt know how to ask my parents for permission for a day out to celebrate my birthday and chinese new year (CNY). Eventually i a...
A. 26 January 2017: You already told your dad. You are living under your aunts house so you need to respect her decision and she technically is your guardian while you are in the UK. You just shouldn't take these things personal. I remember all off your posts, it is ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with insensitive remarks about infertility?
Q. My husband and I had a lot of difficulty to have our baby. After years of fertility appointments, I managed to conceive naturally and we had our miracle baby. I love him more than words can say. However, I have not forgotten the pain I went through ...
A. 26 January 2017: My guess is they are probably not even thinking about the effect off their comments. It feels like a year for that woman, but try and support her instead off comparing your situation to hers, yes you had a difficult time but so is she. Try not to ... (read in full...)
I ranted about a friend to another friend and he told her what I said!
Q. A very good male friend and I used to work at the same workplace with another woman. A few months ago this woman told me to join her new company as we had all been made redundant. I got a job there a few months after her but she failed to tell me ...
A. 26 January 2017: People do talk. But no don't deny it, that would be childish and make it look like the other person was making up lies, which would not be fair to him. He probably thought he was looking out for you, and well some work places suit others and some ... (read in full...)
26 years old and never been on a date
Q. I'm a 26 year old guy and have never dated. When I was in high school, I was pretty much an outcast and girls just laughed at me. One time a girl made me think she wanted to go to a dance with her and asked me to meet her there. She showed up with ...
A. 26 January 2017: There really is nothing wrong with you. You are just overthinking the dating scene and worrying about it. Also you need to gain more confidence and self esteem. Personally it wouldn't bother me at 26. But you need to stop mopping about thinking poor ... (read in full...)
Wife friended EX on Facebook and it has caused issues in our marriage
Q. One evening my wife was typing on her smartphone because she got a message on Facebook. It turned out, an ex-boyfriend wanted to friend her and she asked if it was OK. I asked her if he knew she was married and she said it was on her profile, so I ...
A. 26 January 2017: She has done nothing to break your trust. You should be lucky you are married to such an honest and decent woman. Good for her. She is a keeper. It is okay to feel jealous but in no way should you be checking up on her and doubting her trust when ... (read in full...)
I'm more interested in sex than my boyfriend
Q. Should I back off and give boyfriend some room? Is there something wrong with me because I have a high sex drive? How can I get him to perform oral sex first without directly asking for it? We've been dating for 9 months I'm in love with him. I ...
A. 26 January 2017: Nothing wrong with you for having a high sex drive. We are all different. Plan a night off passion, wear something sexy, be flirty, tell him what you want him to do to you.... (read in full...)
How do I take the pressure off of my fiance about trying to get pregnant?
Q. There's an 18 year age difference between my fiancé and myself. Our relationship wasn't something that I ever thought would end with getting marrried. I was flattered that a cute college girl found me attractive and decided to go out on a date with ...
A. 26 January 2017: I think you should both go to the doctor to be checked out and make sure everything is in working order. If it is then I agree with wedding planning. It will take her mind off it and allow her to be excited, stress can cause trouble when trying for ... (read in full...)
I feel inadequate!
Q. Here I am..again. Now trying to stop loving my wife. During the last 6 months 3 of her former FWB have written e-mails to her remembering their pleasure moments...I found out reading those e-mails (not spying , given we both have open access t...
A. 26 January 2017: No just because you are her husband does not mean you deserve any sex act you want from her. She is a person. She has the right to say no. If you loved your wife you would respect her when she says she does not want sex in the car, or anal ect. If ... (read in full...)
Should we talk things over or let him go ? His lies and his baby Mama have helped drive us apart.
Q. MODNOTE: two near identical questions combined with additional material from the second question combined below with the first question . . . . . . . . . Dear Cupid Am a 40 year old female with two children from my previous marriage. When I los...
A. 24 January 2017: Please do not have a child with him this year. Look at what you have just wrote, you do not sound happy. You are angry all the time, you do not trust him and he does not share any information with you about his life. This relationship is not going ... (read in full...)
Communication issues with LDR boyfriend. Is it normal not to talk every day?
Q. I've been having issues w/communication frequency and attention w/my bf. We met online and have met in person a couple times. He came up for almost 2 weeks almost a month ago and everything is always amazing w/us when we are physically together ...
A. 24 January 2017: You have both only met a couple of times and already this relationship sounds very intense. You are wanting him to be there for you emotionally but have you contacted him today? Why don't you reach out to him. LDR are hard and it sounds like this ... (read in full...)
What's the purpose of relationships when all it does is give someone power to hurt you?
Q. Three years ago I was dating someone and it ended very horribly. She left me for another guy and it left me distressed beyond anything I had ever felt. I treated her with respect, listened to her when she spoke, and did what I thought was love her...
A. 24 January 2017: If you love being alone then that is great. I personally would hate being alone. I don't see my relationship as one or both off us having power to hurt each other. While we could both hurt each other we choose not to because we love each other. My ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble coping with my boyfriend's past. He was involved with several of my friends!
Q. Hello! I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now and before this we were good friends for 6 years. I am having trouble over some things he did in his past and I have struggled with these throughout all of our relationship. These prob...
A. 24 January 2017: What he has done?
He did not do anything wrong at all. Just because you where all friends does not mean you have a right to be mad at him. Did anyone force you to date him? Or any off your other friends? No. Honestly I think if you keep getting mad ... (read in full...)
She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?
Q. I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...
A. 24 January 2017: Send her the flowers and then let us know how you get on.... (read in full...)
Just found out that my LDR is happily married. Do I confront him?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. We are in a LDR, but he's very caring, sweet and romantic...keeps in touch. But one thing that continually bothers me is that he never calls me at night! Two days back, I was viewing his profile on s...
A. 24 January 2017: Have you never met this man? Was it an online relationship? If he has never physically cheated on his wife with you then block him and move on. He was never your boyfriend just some guy at the other end off a computer. How could have shown you ... (read in full...)
Are my friends wrong? Is this a sugar daddy relationship? Or do I tell him how I really feel?
Q. I moved to a different province for school. I ended up meeting an older guy , he's 41. We decided to not focus on labels and to just have fun , we both agreed that because of our age difference changes are our relationship wouldn't probably last ...
A. 24 January 2017: I can see why your friend has that opinion. He is double your age so it is hard not to form that opinion. But you are both adults therefore you can do whatever you like. Just make sure you know what you are doing. He may very well be buying your ... (read in full...)
Should I stop holding back? I'm scared to get hurt
Q. Hey all Till now, I've had very hurtful experiences with the guys I've been involved with/liked. I always feel like I've been abandoned or left to myself. And that the other person doesn't feel any remorse in doing so. I know I'm probably wrong ...
A. 24 January 2017: I think you are holding back because deep down even though he is showing you signs that he adores you, you know what he is like and his personality. It sounds like he always gets what he wants, and am sure for him to get a girl he needs to pull out ... (read in full...)
Is it degrading to let a guy ejaculate on you?
Q. When I was 15, my mother sat me down and had "the talk". She is very open and liberal, so we ended up talking about everything from sex and birth control to relationships and life in general. One of the things she was adamant about was that por...
A. 24 January 2017: Your mother found these sexual acts degrading not you. If when he done it you felt degraded then you tell him no. But it sounds to me like you enjoy it and therefore there really is no harm. I can understand why you feel it is wrong as your mother ... (read in full...)
Should I fight for this relationship? And if I do how do I show him that I really care?
Q. 3 months ago I met someone and for first time in a very long time, I started having feelings for a guy. I fell in love very hard. But feels like I keep doing stuff to mess it up. He says he loves me so much and I am his world but also feels like ...
A. 24 January 2017: Have you asked him? Hey how come I have not met your parents yet? Should we set up a meeting soon it has been three months now and sure they would want to meet me?
Also it has only been three months, it is your business who you borrow money fr... (read in full...)
I'm terrified of getting my blood work done and it's crippling me emotionally. I can't function anymore!
Q. I really need help. I don't know how I am ever going to do this? I do blood work every year as part of an annual physical. It has been awhile since I've done it. I have been putting it off since last August because I am deathly afraid there is ...
A. 24 January 2017: I think you need to go and get help for your anxiety. I am sure that it is your anxiety that is bringing out the fear off being ill and becoming unwell. Anxiety is more common than you think and it is a mental health issue that does need to be ... (read in full...)
When should I tell this guy about my health problems?
Q. I've got a couple of health conditions that impact day to day life, one with my breathing and one to do nerve damage causing a lot of pain. I've started seeing a new guy and don't know when I should bring these things up in conversation, like should ...
A. 24 January 2017: Just let him know whenever you feel like doing so. It is your health and your business. However if your breathing is effected and you may take some sort off attack while on the date and need inhalers or anything then you should give him the heads ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend prefers to be with my brother and housemate than with me.
Q. My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...
A. 24 January 2017: So then I think you should end it. He obviously has no interest in being with you, therefore end things. Get out off your bedroom and make friends.... (read in full...)
Everything was great .... except the sex!
Q. Hi. I am seeing someone and we get on so well. Everything is great. But we had sex for the first time and he treated me like a one night stand. He was just concerned about having an orgasm. He has never been in a relationship before. I know the ...
A. 24 January 2017: It sounds like he just done what he has always done, if he has never been in a relationship then he doesn't know anything else other than a quickie or a one night stand. Show him how to pleasure you!... (read in full...)
My son punched a guest, when guest videoed him and girlfriend having sex.
Q. My son is 19 he has been dating his girlfriend since he was 16 and she was 15. We have a pretty open relationship with them. Over the weekend they went out to a party with their friends and at our house my husband and I threw a surprise party for ...
A. 24 January 2017: Don't allow others to cloud your judgement on your parenting. You seem to have done a good job, you are right they are safer under your roof, your son is an adult and he had every right to lose his temper. Although I don't encourage or agree with ... (read in full...)
I feel inadequate!
Q. Here I am..again. Now trying to stop loving my wife. During the last 6 months 3 of her former FWB have written e-mails to her remembering their pleasure moments...I found out reading those e-mails (not spying , given we both have open access t...
A. 24 January 2017: I remember your other posts, and honestly it seems no woman will be good enough for you unless she is a virgin and has not looked at another man. You worry over things that have happened in the past, things you have no control over, you call your ... (read in full...)
We need couples counselling but all his nit-picking is wearing me down. How should I handle this?
Q. I live with my (16 years older) boyfriend. We've been together for a few years, but we're not married yet and I'm pretty sure I know why we haven't taken that step yet. He has openly stated that he's concerned about my absent-mindedness and ...
A. 24 January 2017: Honestly counselling would be a waste off money for you both. You cannot get two people to meet a happy middle when they are just not compatible. It is clear that you both should not be together. He drives you nuts and he criticizes everything you ... (read in full...)
We need couples counselling but all his nit-picking is wearing me down. How should I handle this?
Q. I live with my (16 years older) boyfriend. We've been together for a few years, but we're not married yet and I'm pretty sure I know why we haven't taken that step yet. He has openly stated that he's concerned about my absent-mindedness and ...
A. 24 January 2017: Honestly counselling would be a waste off money for you both. You cannot get two people to meet a happy middle when they are just not compatible. It is clear that you both should not be together. He drives you nuts and he criticizes everything you ... (read in full...)
I like this guy I'm dating, but the sex is nice but not amazing. How do I discuss this with him?
Q. I have just started dating a truly lovely guy, he is adorable and I really enjoy spending time with him. The problem is, things aren't totally electric in the bedroom. I'm quite a sexual person and chemistry and sexual connection is really important ...
A. 24 January 2017: Guide him. Without flat out telling him the sex is no good, Show him what you like and what you want him to do. He may be inexperience but I am sure it can be fun learning new things. Introduce new ideas, talk to him about spicing things up.... (read in full...)
Shall I tell him? Do I let it out or just walk away without saying anything ?
Q. Do you tell the person you love that you have feelings for him ? Despite the fact he is not that friendly to you and never indulges you in their personal thoughts and life ? I have been thinking about telling the guy I love that I loved him but ...
A. 19 January 2017: It sounds to me like you have a crush on this guy more than being in love with him. Why not ask him on a date and see how it goes? You don't need to confess love to him because yeah it will scare him away. But asking him out is not to scary now is ... (read in full...)
He says my body is his.
Q. My partner of 3 yrs and i have a beautiful little girl who is 1. Lately my partner has been trying touching me and trying to penetrate me whilst we are playing with our daughter which i have put a stop to. He has started sayimg he can touch me ...
A. 18 January 2017: Speak to someone in Australia sweetie. A therapist or a womens aid. I would be scared off what he could do to your daughter if he is showing sexual signs in front off her. Can you call home, ask for some help with travel?... (read in full...)
I'm panicking my boyfriend will cheat on a guy's trip to Cuba. How should I respond or act in this situation?
Q. My boyfriend is in Cuba for one week on a guy's trip. I am beside myself with worry that he is going to cheat. I have read that prostitutes are around every corner there and they are dirt cheap. The anxiety is hard to take. I contact him a...
A. 17 January 2017: There are a lot of men haters on here, which I do think is rude and offensive to the agony aunt uncles on here, or men who come for advice.
Crying for two days straight because your boyfriend is away on holiday with the lads is NOT normal. If he h... (read in full...)
Why do I have to hunt down my vacationing boyfriend by text before he answers?
Q. I need your help. I need to know whether I should end a 3.5 year relationship. My boyfriend is traveling outside the country with family. He has been in touch by text because it's expensive to send texts and make phone calls. So his texts...
A. 17 January 2017: Yip OP I think you just need to do what you need to do and end it. If you cannot go a week or two without loads of attention from him because he is with family then you need to let it go. Me personally I wouldn't need so much communication after ... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 9 January 2017: Let us know how it goes and remember we are all here for you.... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 6 January 2017: Off course you can't, many would feel the same as you. Either you are fully part off his life or not at all, it is not fair on you to be a part time girlfriend, I hope he does the right thing.... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 4 January 2017: He should never have ghosted you a year ago. He should have maned up and told you the truth. However here you are a year later and still feeling left out. It is not fair something has to change. I am well aware teenage girls can be hard work, but ... (read in full...)
How can I make this work, with her? We both need to lose weight, but her motivation is waning.
Q. I want to be fit. I want that for my girlfriend too. So does she. She complains about how clothes look on her. She is very attractive but could be in better shape. Obviously, I’m on board. She is all talk but little action. I tried to make i...
A. 3 January 2017: It sounds like you have taken control off what you want. But are you sure she truly wants to lose weight? I mean most women do complain about how their clothes look on them but have no intentions off doing anything about it. You simply can only ... (read in full...)
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