He suggested we have a meal together. Do you think it's a date?
Q. My male friend and I were supposed to just be going out for drinks this Friday night, but he asked me if I wanted to go out for a meal before that too. Do you think it's a date? He hasn't said whether it is or not. I feel nervous about havin...
A. 21 February 2017: So how did the date go?... (read in full...)
Where Can I Find A Guy To Date Casually?
Q. I moved to a new city recently so don't know too many people outside work (I do have lovely good friends, but they're mostly older women who can't introduce me to many guys) and not many single guys my age. I'm inexperienced with guys too, never ...
A. 21 February 2017: Go for online dating, I know plenty off couples who have met that way. Yes I know you said you didn't want anything serious but just write that on your profile and meet in a public place. You have nothing to lose.... (read in full...)
Is he interested or not? He's confusing me.
Q. So, I work with a foreign guy (a backpacker) and we've worked together for about 3 months. Probably in the past month or so I've taken more of an interest in him and actually find him very attractive and I feel like he flirts with me while we work ...
A. 21 February 2017: It sounds to me like this might be his personality. The thing that sticks out for me is that he is a different nationality to you, therefore he may be over friendly to girls compared to the average British guy. Different nationalities sometimes ... (read in full...)
Would I be doing myself a favour to just tell him how I feel?
Q. When should you tell someone how you feel? A friend and work colleague kissed me a while ago and told me had feelings for me but it all went wrong as he had an ex in the same work place and didn't want to make things awkward. I have been trying...
A. 21 February 2017: I honestly think this man is making excuses as to why he doesn't want to date you. If he liked you then he would have done something about it. I think he is just toying with your feelings which is really unfair. He sounds like he really enjoys the ... (read in full...)
Bummed out and annoyed at her lack of understanding!
Q. Hello! It was valentines day yesterday as most of you know! My Gf and I have been together for two years now and things have been well. Like most couples, we've had our ups and downs but we still love each other very much. I am curren...
A. 21 February 2017: I think your girlfriend thinks more off Valentines than you do, which is fair enough. Her expectations where high. I mean why could she not have called you? A relationship does work both ways. I guess she felt disappointed. But she is acting ... (read in full...)
Is my wife secretly interested in a threesome?
Q. So we've been married now for 3 years. And we have 2 beautiful boys. Our romantic relationship is starting to get better than it ever has been in the past and my wife(Bev) and I are really enjoying ourselves and each other. Bev only has a couple ...
A. 21 February 2017: Hmm to me it sounds like she was just having a conversation. She feels sorry for her friend but am not sure she feels like having a threesome with her. I do get why you would be worried about asking her in case you have all this wrong. If it was me ... (read in full...)
I am a transgender man, dating a woman but I prefer sex with men.
Q. I am a transgender man and I have been dating a very respectful, understanding woman for a few months now. We have reached the stage where she wants to define our relationship and move forward together, though I feel conflicted on how to progress or ...
A. 21 February 2017: I think you should speak to a therapist about your issues to try and get to the bottom of this. I mean you have struggled since you where young so maybe you should talk to someone who may be able to help.
Instead off freaking out when your part... (read in full...)
How can I find out if we are more than friends?
Q. I have known this guy for about 7 years now; we were good friends at uni but then we lost touch when we graduated. We recently reconnected at a mutual friends wedding, and have been messaging on and off ever since. For the past couple of months, we ...
A. 21 February 2017: From your post it does sound like he is hinting to you. So what have you got to lose? It is clear you already have feelings for him so could you go on as friends knowing you never tried for more? Try flirt a little more, say to him next time he is ... (read in full...)
I don't want to snoop through his phone but I think my husband is cheating
Q. I'm worried my husband is cheating. We've been married 7 years and have had the happiest relationship. He started a new job 6 months ago and his behaviour has changed. He's started keeping his phone on silent, or constantly on his person, somethin...
A. 21 February 2017: I would follow your gut instinct and have a talk with him, don't accuse him off anything but just tell him you are worried about your love life and all the extra work he is doing. Have you access to his pay slip so you know for sure he is at work? ... (read in full...)
How do I respond to my wife now I know about the affair she had with my (then) best friend behind my back?
Q. I just found out that my wife had a sexual relationship with my best friend and the best man at my wedding. This happened 26 years ago! We had been dating exclusively for 4 months at the time. Even though it was so long ago, I feel like it could've...
A. 20 February 2017: thank you for the update. However I do feel it is unfair that you are able to forgive one and not the other. But however that is your choice. I do hope that your marriage can work. ... (read in full...)
It's been impossible to move on from my ex. He's in a relationship now, yet is concurrently sending me texts. What should I do?
Q. im in need of advice, I am being confused with random contact from my ex. my ex and I have been on and off for years. Four to five months ago he disappeared to date someone else, broke my heart. i was always the one wanted to get back together an...
A. 19 February 2017: Aw honey I was in the exact same situation as well you and believe me their is no happy ending. Please do not be happy he contacted you. I was like you at the start, delighted, until I realised he just wanted someone other than his girlfriend to ... (read in full...)
Why did she block then unblock me?
Q. I was friend to girl , i call and propose to that girl in voice call , but she told she was busy and cut off my phone.. then again i propose to that girl in whatsapp message in the same day , but then she block after 2 hour she unblocked me , ...
A. 18 February 2017: I am not surprised she blocked you, who proposes over the internet or on a message? ... (read in full...)
Why did she block then unblock me?
Q. I was friend to girl , i call and propose to that girl in voice call , but she told she was busy and cut off my phone.. then again i propose to that girl in whatsapp message in the same day , but then she block after 2 hour she unblocked me , ...
A. 18 February 2017: I am not surprised she blocked you, who proposes over the internet or on a message? ... (read in full...)
Is this sensitivity normal?
Q. We had sex which was great. But he hadn't had sex for a year and his penis was ultra sensitive even for me to touch. I wanted to pull and squeeze his penis, I wanted to give him oral, but he stopped me, saying his penis is too sensitive? Is this ...
A. 18 February 2017: It's probably first time nerves, he probably felt under preassure, it should get better in time ... (read in full...)
Help me deal with my boyfriend always being broke!
Q. Hello. I have been in a relationship with my lovely boyfriend for 9 months now. In those 9 months we never went on an actual date. He told me that he grew up very poor so money is still a struggle but things are looking up for him and his family. He ...
A. 18 February 2017: So you have sex and you think he needs to give you something in return!??! Honestly I don't think you are ready for a relationship, it sounds like you want someone who will buy you stuff. You should never exchange sex for something unless you are a ... (read in full...)
How do I not worry that my girlfriend will chose the easy way out when returning home?
Q. We're currently long distance and have been together for 6 months. We met in his home country but unfortunately my girlfriend has to move back to her home country. After we met, I have been studying overseas. We're very serious about each other. We ...
A. 18 February 2017: Honestly I doubt the ex would still be in the picture if she had just stopped replying a long time ago. It sounds like she is keeping him on the back burner. ... (read in full...)
Why does he now decide he wants to do this?
Q. I've been having a fwb relationship with this guy for a few months now. My partner and I have been having unprotected sex for the last couple times we had sex. Today he decided to cum inside me. What does this mean? Is he starting to have feelings ...
A. 18 February 2017: No it doesn't mean he has feelings for you, it means he is disrespectful selfish and doesn't care about you. If he cared he would use protection. If it is casual then you should be more careful he can walk away from a baby you cannot. Be more ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend keeps pics of hot women on his phone and it bothers me
Q. My bf keeps my photos on his phone and he also had lots of pictures of women he collects on there like models , some porn stars and women he finds hot. It makes me feel so horrible being just one of so many , like how am I even special when so many ...
A. 18 February 2017: What is wrong with You?! More like what is wrong with this man. He is still stuck in his teenager years collecting pictures of women on his phone, seriously what age is he? It sounds to me like he has no respect for women at all. Off course it is ... (read in full...)
Should I just enjoy our FWB relationship as it is?
Q. I got out of an 8 year relationship last year, and recently I signed up for tinder with the intent of finding a FWB. I went on dates with a few guys, but the first guy I hit it off with so well, I couldn't bring myself to pursue any of the other...
A. 18 February 2017: Yeah you have to tell him, you have nothing to lose and so much to gain. Honestly I get it was fwb you wanted but we can all change and catch feelings. Let us know what you decide and how you get on ??... (read in full...)
I'm tired of the way our life is going and wonder if its time to throw in the towel
Q. Hi I need some advice and somewhere to express exactly how I feel, I have been with my current partner for a little over 7 years now, she fell pregnant very early in the relationship (within the first 4 - 6 weeks). After which she was diagnosed wi...
A. 16 February 2017: You both are way in over your heads here. It is time to go to couples counselling and get talking openly to each other. Try and understand each other and take baby steps. She needs to take time to build a relationship with the children and you need ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's grandmother died, should I go to the funeral?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years grandma recently passed away. He's asking me to go to a funeral with him to comefort him. I told him I would feel out of place and not comefortable because I never really knew his grandma or other relatives besides his ...
A. 16 February 2017: Good choice OP. ... (read in full...)
My LDR is not motivated to meet in real life.
Q. I've been dating my LDR boyfriend for over 2 years and we haven' met yet. He never wants to pinpoint a meeting date and acts unconfortable when I try to. He says he wants to improve himself first so when we meet he makes the best impression on me. ...
A. 16 February 2017: He is never going to meet up with you. How are you so sure he is always honest? I could bet this man is probably not who you think he is at all. Have you go him on social media and see his interactions with his friends ect? Could he be married?
H... (read in full...)
My 16 year old sister is sexually active, without birth control. Should I just come out and tell my Dad what my sister told me ?
Q. My dad is a single dad , he does a great job raising my sister and I but he's a little clueless in the age girl department. He believes everything my sister tells him. I've seen her come home drunk and convince my dad that she had food poisoni...
A. 16 February 2017: I don't think you should tell your Dad as she will never trust you again. Instead maybe you could step in and offer to take her to the doctor. Try and talk to her and make her see the error off her ways. ... (read in full...)
Our LDR is stalling after 3 years. Do I stay with him, or look for someone else?
Q. I`ve been in relationship with someone for 3 years. I want to settle down and enjoy life together but he's happy the way it is We don't live together. We live 50 miles away from each other. I'm 50 now i want someone to grow old with and share ...
A. 16 February 2017: You are right you should put yourself first. If he is not willing to live together after three years then its simply not enough for you.... (read in full...)
Relationship going no where. Am I just too accommodating, and maybe I should just not be like this?
Q. Hi. Been in a relationship for a few months now, he comes here ever other weekend as we are about an hour and half away from each other. I have kids and it's all pretty cool with them too. We also try other bits of time, face time a lot and text...
A. 16 February 2017: Why don't you and the children go visit him more often, see how accommodating he is? ... (read in full...)
Is there any future for this marriage? Since he cheated I have turned to cheating too.
Q. My problem is I am not sexually attracted to my husband ,at all. The only way for me to be at ease is if I get really drunk to have sex with him .But he don't like that . I can't have sex sober with him.Since he cheated on me I lost all lost I had ...
A. 16 February 2017: Why are you both still together? The only thing left for you guys to share is the possibility off STI's. Get divorced and move on with your life. Two wrongs do not make a right. ... (read in full...)
Is it common for a male to leave his stuff in another man's house? He has a GF. I have a crush on him.
Q. Hello, is it common for a male to leave his stuff in another man's house? I have been attracted to this guy who I am much older than. He is 19, I am 33. He says he isn't attracted to me, and sees me as a best friend. We have so much in common, ...
A. 16 February 2017: I remember your other post where you said you give him alcohol so that he would allow you to give him a blow job. Honestly am not sure what the deal here is between you both. He may be using you for rent free living, he may see you as a friend. But ... (read in full...)
I like him, it's been 5 months but there seems to be no initiative from his side
Q. I met a guy a few months ago who started flirting with me. I did not like him to begin but then we got talking and I saw a really handsome interesting person. The flirting continued and I cold feel some chemistry between us, A few weeks later ...
A. 16 February 2017: You seem so thankful that he took you for coffee and mainly spoke about himself. Well if that is what you get excited about after five months off waiting then try not expect to much more. Honestly you deserve better than that. You deserve a man who ... (read in full...)
Why isn't he asking me out on Valentine's day? Is he not that into me after all?
Q. Date never asks me out for V-Day, I'm confused? In my opinion, I feel that this guy is definitely falling hard. He has taken me out for dates. He kisses my hand while we walk, my forehead, hugs me a lot, etc etc. He has even told me that he likes me...
A. 16 February 2017: Some people are just not in to Valentines day, where as others think that they are not serious if they have not celebrated it. Try not to get hung up on one day. If all the other signs are there that he likes you then great. ... (read in full...)
Should I go with him and be miserable or stay at home and get anxious?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm with my Current bf for a year, he never told me he loves me though I told him twice. He mentioned that he is not comfortable saying it, since it feels like forced for him. So we do not talk about love anymore. We live 45 minu...
A. 16 February 2017: Are you sure you want to be in this relationship? Okay so he does not like to use the love word, that is okay it is only a word. But after a year has this relationship progressed? Do you both go on dates alone? Does he show you that he loves you?
I... (read in full...)
She made me wait until marriage for sex, but we are now married and still no sex!
Q. I know these questions get asked plenty of times - and I know there is no cut and dry answer, but here is my story. I'm 34 years old and my wife of 5 years is 24. She wanted to wait until marriage to have sex which was more than fine for me seei...
A. 16 February 2017: It sounds to me like you are either going to be in a sexless marriage or else you will need to get it annulled as the marriage has never been consummated. Therefore you can have the marriage certificate annulled that it never existed. Can I ask why ... (read in full...)
My parents are very critical of friends and boyfriends.
Q. I have 2 very loving and involved parents. My one complaint is that they can be too judgmental of the people in my life. I have always been very cautious and responsible. But I do have a history of choosing lousy boyfriends/ accepting way le...
A. 16 February 2017: They are interested in your life, that is a great thing. You should be thankful to have two parents that care. I do understand your worries, but they have your best interest at heart, maybe as a child you could not see that, but surely now you do?
Y... (read in full...)
I was an idiot to break up with her, now I see her all the time and she turns away ...
Q. Hi I was with a woman who I fell madly in love with we were together a year I idolised her and could see myself spending the rest of my life with her and she also felt the same I finished with her after she had a miscarriage I was a idiot I know I ...
A. 16 February 2017: You get as far away from her as possible. This poor woman lost a child and then lost you because of it. She must have just hated herself so much. I do not blame her for never wanting to talk to you again. I am glad she has met someone else and they ... (read in full...)
We barely talk and when we do its all negative!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are constantly arguing atm. I put it down to my hormones and that's why I've been more argumentative. However, it's starting to feel like we actually hate each other! We've been together dead on a year and things have been ...
A. 16 February 2017: If you feel it is your hormones then talk to a doctor? Maybe get on some medication. My guess is you feel you are the one beginning the arguments? If it is starting to feel like you hate one another then the communication has completely broken. You ... (read in full...)
At seven months pregnant I want to feel loved and secure.
Q. This question pertains to self esteem and insecurity. My bf and I are expecting. In the past, we've had issues concerning social media and the pictures I chose to post. I argue that my pictures were hardly provocative, but he was uncomfortable with ...
A. 16 February 2017: Speak to him. Open up and tell him how this is making you feel. Work together to earn trust respect and self esteem. ... (read in full...)
How can I get my crush to notice me?
Q. There's a guy I'm interested in but I just can't seem to get him to notice me. I try to talking to him, flirting, touching, writing him some steamy notes, but he just won't respond. I asked him to our school Valentine's day dance and he turned me ...
A. 16 February 2017: You can't. You need to accept that he has no interest in you and move on. Don't allow yourself to look desperate and needy. He obviously doesn't like any off the girls showing interest. Just leave the poor guy alone.... (read in full...)
Shall I forfeit the money and not go on this holiday abroad next month?
Q. About a month ago my friend and another couple and their friend (who I know but not really friendly with) agreed to go on holiday abroad next month. My friend and I had gone on a holiday together the previous year with another group and in that ...
A. 16 February 2017: I was shocked when I looked at your age on this post. I genuinely thought this was wrote by someone who was just out off school. So two ladies took a dislike to you now they decide they want to go on holiday, the thing is there is still another 6 ... (read in full...)
How am I meant to deal with these people ?
Q. A little background history; my bf and I got together when I was 16 and he was 17, broke up when I was 20 and got back together (with encouragement from his parents) when I was 23. Im now 24 turning 25, and he's 26. It's always been a long distance ...
A. 16 February 2017: You are in their home, therefore respect their ways or else leave, it really is as simple as that. Your boyfriend doesn't want to let go off the apron strings just yet, therefore his parents are still treating him like a child. You both need to ... (read in full...)
I think he might want more than to be my friend.
Q. Does my male friend fancy me?. I have spoken to him about my ex boyfriend sometimes. He kept saying that I deserved to be treated better than how my ex was treating me. We had a night out last night. He touched my leg with his foot in a jokey way a ...
A. 16 February 2017: It sounds like a date yes but stop for a moment. If you are not over your ex then this will end in him getting hurt. Therefore I think you need to be honest with yourself and him and let him know where he stands. It is not fair on him getting hurt ... (read in full...)
Our arguments often lead to physical altercations!
Q. ive been in this relationship for about five months now and things are definitely not the way i thought they would be. I care deeply about this man but the communication is limited. We get into arguments which some end in physical altercations. Both ...
A. 16 February 2017: You are both using violence and that is never okay in a relationship. I think you need to leave him, you are both toxic together and do not work, instead off bringing the best out off each other you both bring out the worst. Him restraining you is ... (read in full...)
A year after breaking it off with me he wants my phone number, should I give it to him?
Q. So I have a question I'd like some help with. I'm really confused as to whether I should get back with my ex. I was with my ex for 9 years 15-24. There were no issues everything was great almost perfect but nothing is perfect I guess. I loved h...
A. 16 February 2017: Well done OP, what you done took guts and courage. What he done was throw away a nine year relationship over you gaining weight. I can understand if you went from a size 6 to obese where he was worried about your health and weight but a size 12 is ... (read in full...)
How do I respond to my wife now I know about the affair she had with my (then) best friend behind my back?
Q. I just found out that my wife had a sexual relationship with my best friend and the best man at my wedding. This happened 26 years ago! We had been dating exclusively for 4 months at the time. Even though it was so long ago, I feel like it could've...
A. 4 October 2016: My heart goes out to you it really does. What a horrible situation to be in. I am sorry I have to ask but are you sure this only happened 26 years ago? Can you trust her when she says it was back at the start? If it was me I would be doubting it, ... (read in full...)
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