She says I'm psycho but I hink she is cheating.
Q. Hi everyone Recently My girlfriend went out for a night-out and came back with a boy (who was her friend) and was in her bed watching a movie.Her flat mate (who has been her best friend since a young child) said she heard the bed moving, breathin...
A. 18 April 2017: Yeah it is best you found out the truth. It will be difficult for a while but it does get easier. Just remember that she did not deserve someone like you, and thankfully you found out the truth now and not in years to come.... (read in full...)
I hacked into his email and discovered he'd applied for another flat! What do I do next?
Q. Hi! Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over two years now. Two months ago we moved together in a new city. Two weeks ago I did something horrible, something I can never forgive myself. I hacked, literally hacked into his email account. ...
A. 4 April 2017: No don't get back with him, it will be the biggest regret if you do. You need to be kind to yourself and when someone treats you this bad you need to take control and say enough is enough. He doesn't love you, and he will never respect you.... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my fiance even though I love someone else?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles, I will try to keep this short as possible. I've been in a long term relationship for 14 years and have a 14 year old daughter who my partner raised as his own since she was 2 weeks old. We had an amazing relati...
A. 14 March 2017: As much as am sure you are sad right now, I do think it is probably the best decision that you made and you probably need the break away. I get it will be sad but you will no doubt build a good future now you are being honest with yourself. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my fiance even though I love someone else?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles, I will try to keep this short as possible. I've been in a long term relationship for 14 years and have a 14 year old daughter who my partner raised as his own since she was 2 weeks old. We had an amazing relati...
A. 13 March 2017: I think you picked me up wrong as I was not calling you a bad mother. I was simply saying that her growing up with a mother who is being emotionally unfaithful can be damaging to her as well. Personally I think you need to figure out what it is you ... (read in full...)
Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them
Q. Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...
A. 13 March 2017: I think a break away on your own or with friends would probably do you a lot off good. You need to put yourself first.... (read in full...)
Married 20 years. Yet he's not consulting with me over big decisions. Do you think my husband should have discussed this financial decision with me first, before announcing it at a family function?
Q. Hi Aunts and uncles, Recently my husband of 20 years and I had a dispute. I was surprised by something he did and told him that he should have discussed it with me before, as I would have done in his situation. He got angry with me and instea...
A. 10 March 2017: I do think you should both go to couples therapy and try and get these issues covered. Your husband is trying to buy love from this family and it really is sad to see. I hope it works out well. ... (read in full...)
He contacted a girl on social media after I'd asked him to remove her!
Q. Ok so this may sound petty but I'm pretty worried about where my relationship is going and how much I trust my boyfriend at the moment. Now, I know mobile phones have taken over but whenever me and my boyfriend would go out we would try not to be ...
A. 10 March 2017: I think you should tell us more about why this girl is a threat before we can judge!? I mean yes this would upset me, but I would never ask my boyfriend to delete someone unless their was a big enough reason to, I mean if you trust him then why ... (read in full...)
I hacked into his email and discovered he'd applied for another flat! What do I do next?
Q. Hi! Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over two years now. Two months ago we moved together in a new city. Two weeks ago I did something horrible, something I can never forgive myself. I hacked, literally hacked into his email account. ...
A. 10 March 2017: The only thing I can say to you is to end it, honestly he is never going to change, he is always going to lie and probably cheat, you are always going to be paranoid and wondering what if. You deserve better.... (read in full...)
Why douche and hide it from me?
Q. My girl had to douch before we had sex for the first time after I got home from prison...and she tried to hide it from me that she did it. Does this mean she slept around recently before I got home...why else would she douch and hide it from me?...
A. 10 March 2017: Wow what a catch you are, you don't trust your girlfriend and you are just back from prison, I really don't understand why she has waited around for you.... (read in full...)
I've been with him for 3 years and he's always too busy to spend time with me!
Q. Hiya I've been with my boyfriend now for 3 years this past few months though I have got the feeling he's getting bored with our relationship He's started adding women he finds attractive on Facebook that's how we met by the way we used to go to ...
A. 10 March 2017: It sounds to me like he is treating you as a flat mate. You have spoke to him and he has not changed, he is adding random women for attention and he doesn't seem to mind hurting you. I think I would end the relationship as it sounds like it has ran ... (read in full...)
My married lover won't commit to me.
Q. Been having a relationship with a married man for 11 years, I have asked him on numerous ocassions for me and him to be a proper couple.....but even though he says he wants to in the future he can't right now because of the impact it will have on ...
A. 10 March 2017: He is not going to leave her, he has never had any intentions. You are just a bit on the side, but it is her that he married, her he had children with, and her who he wants the family unit with. You are a bit off fun and he uses words just to keep ... (read in full...)
I need help to deal with new found info about wife's past. What should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for five years and have two kids. I have never asked anything about her past all I knew is she wasn't a virgin when we met. This past summer we were at a pool party and one of my best friend's from school was ther...
A. 10 March 2017: Is this situation any better now?... (read in full...)
Every time my boyfriend has problems he pushes me away
Q. My boyfriend is going to his cousins funeral tomorrow. He said that I could go with him at first, but then he told me not to go as the service will only be for about 30 minutes and there won't be many people there. I feel hurt that he said I could ...
A. 10 March 2017: I would like to ask how the situation is now with you guys?... (read in full...)
I feel my heart has been ripped from my chest!
Q. My husband and I habe been married for 2.5 yrs and were both 22. He just got deployed a month ago but all of this started happening well before he got deployed. Id say for the past yr that weve moved back to his home state its felt like he pushes me ...
A. 10 March 2017: It sounds to me like your husband has giving up on your marriage. Sweetie you both married very young, way to young to make such a life long commitment. You need to both get help. Ask him to attend a therapist with you or else the marriage is over. ... (read in full...)
I feel anxious about my niece's upcoming birthday!
Q. I am supposed to be going to my niece's 2nd birthday party this weekend. My brother, sister in law and niece live about an hour and a half away from where I live. I have a few problems though. One is that I have been ill for just over a week. It's ...
A. 10 March 2017: So how did the weekend go for you? Was it a success?... (read in full...)
I was cheating and my husband found out.
Q. Im a 28 year old female whos been having an intense sexual affair with another man for the past three years..my husband recently found out about us and told me to stop or else..I stopped seeing this other man, hoping my relationship with my husband ...
A. 10 March 2017: Divorce your husband and stop treating him like a door mat. The poor man what must you be putting him through. You are a very selfish individual and all you think about is yourself. You don't seem to care who you hurt. End your marriage and then you ... (read in full...)
Choice - Marriage & Commitment or Walk Away With Nothing
Q. Im in a gay relationship of four years. It's been up and down but I've never questioned my love and what I want from the relationship...a future, commitment, living together etc. My girlfriend has been and done all that with a lot more people expect ...
A. 10 March 2017: Sweetie have you posted this a few times? If not then someone else is in the same position as you. Honestly if you want marriage and commitment then you need to leave this woman. She just wants to pass the time with you. If she loved you then she ... (read in full...)
She says I'm psycho but I hink she is cheating.
Q. Hi everyone Recently My girlfriend went out for a night-out and came back with a boy (who was her friend) and was in her bed watching a movie.Her flat mate (who has been her best friend since a young child) said she heard the bed moving, breathin...
A. 10 March 2017: Don't allow her to walk all over you, when a guy she does not know is invited in to her bed, her best friend hears things and she tells you different then I would not believe her. It sounds to me like she is having more than just friendship with ... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is so loaded with work we don't have time to talk!
Q. Hello there! My LDR bf and I are usually quite close, and we try to text each other at least once - even if it is just a "Good Morning" message - but recently, I've noticed a change. We've been going out for quite a while now, and we keep either S...
A. 10 March 2017: You are much to young to be in a long distance relationship. It is hard for married couples who have lived together for years to do this, so it is even harder at your age. How well do you know your boyfriend? Do you meet up with him every weekend or ... (read in full...)
Did this guy actually love her? Or did he just want to have sex with her, despite her telling him that she was not ready for sex ?
Q. Hi.i know someone whose boyfriend broke up with her cause she could not have sex with him. Before she accepted to date him she told him and he accepted. Along the line he started really talking about it saying he thought she will let him have sex...
A. 10 March 2017: No this guy does not love her, he loves himself more. If he loved her he would not have a problem waiting for her to be ready, he would want to make sure that she is comfortable and not put pressure on her. This guy is only thinking about himself ... (read in full...)
I like this guy. But he has also become friends on social media with a girl who has previously said bad things about me. What can I do in this situation?
Q. Hello everyone I could use some advice It's a small world, definitely for me. I went for a pageant where my roommate wasn't such a good person. She accused me of stealing because all apple headphones look the same and I took her headphones by mi...
A. 10 March 2017: You cannot do anything. You see the thing is if he is your friend and she speaks bad about you then he has a choice he can either believe her, or ask her to stop saying bad things about you, or else he can ask you your side. There really is no point ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my fiance even though I love someone else?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles, I will try to keep this short as possible. I've been in a long term relationship for 14 years and have a 14 year old daughter who my partner raised as his own since she was 2 weeks old. We had an amazing relati...
A. 10 March 2017: It is still cheating their really is no justification. You need to sort out your life and be a good mother to your daughter. ... (read in full...)
How do I make the next move? I'm scared of rejection but when I do meet a woman I don't know what to say to get her interest
Q. I've been single for a while now. i'm not looking for a relationship just yet but am looking for casual sex. Thing is, I'm quite shy. I like to flirt with women and find this happens often, I just don't know what to say to take it to the next ste...
A. 9 March 2017: At your age a lot of women probably are looking to settle down and are not wanting casual sex therefore before anything you need to tell them your intentions and don't lead anybody on.
Also try and up your confidence and don't look at women as a ch... (read in full...)
Is there a way to hint to a guy that you are not interested?
Q. I went on a few dates with a guy, but I just didn’t feel a connection with him. He seems so enthusiastic about our next date, but I don’t want to date him anymore. So is there a way I can hint to him that I’m no longer interested? ...
A. 9 March 2017: No don't hint as some people simply don't get the hint. Just be honest with him, next time he contacts you say hey *** you are a great catch and a lovely guy but I just don't feel a spark therefore I don't want to waste your time, whoever ends up ... (read in full...)
How am I so bad with women?
Q. I'm at a place now where I'm rejected 100% of the time. It's mind boggling how awful I am at attracting women. They're put off my me almost immediately and if they're not, I get their number and they stop talking to me. It takes talent to be this ...
A. 9 March 2017: You have got numbers off 9s? Honestly if you rate women on their looks and nothing else then yeah that is maybe where your problems are arising. Also you may be looking at the wrong type off women, therefore broaden your horizon and see if that ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my fiance even though I love someone else?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles, I will try to keep this short as possible. I've been in a long term relationship for 14 years and have a 14 year old daughter who my partner raised as his own since she was 2 weeks old. We had an amazing relati...
A. 9 March 2017: Honestly I don't think you should stay with your fiance just to feel secure. Your happiness is worth so much more and so is his. It is not fair to both off you or your daughter to live a lie no longer. I think you should tell your fiance the truth ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend appears to be attracted to transgender women!
Q. A few weeks ago I noticed my boyfriend had sent a friend request to a young lady. When I went to her page her pics were mostly of her in sexy lingerie and telling all to visit her on webcam. I also noticed she had obvious breast implants and a ...
A. 9 March 2017: Well it is good to hear that you made the right choice it seems for both off you. I hope you have a happy future.... (read in full...)
My FWB grabbed me by the throat when I said I would find sex elsewhere!
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a couple months now. We made it very clear we do not want a relationship with each other. It is just friend with benefits kind of thing. We are really good friends and we're not sleeping with anyone else. Last night we ...
A. 8 March 2017: Wow so he chokes you and you wonder why he done this? Really? You should not be wondering why you should be blocking and deleting all his details and telling him never to contact you again. This is violence and you should not tolerate it.... (read in full...)
I am worried my boyfriend's new job means the end of our relationship.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together almost 6 months. I'm very happy with him. He is consistently supportive and thoughtful and treats me so kindly and respectfully. He recently got a new job and it started today. His previous job didn't have ...
A. 8 March 2017: Honestly you need to work on your own issues. Your boyfriend has no issues. But it sounds to me like not only are you not confident about your looks but you also don't trust your boyfriend not to get with someone else. Believe me if you don't get ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are in a good place, but his mother doesn't me!
Q. Hi all. It might be a long one so I'm really sorry. I'll set te scene a little bit. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. We are saving for a house but are both currently living with our parents. A while back (probably 6 months ago) we had ...
A. 8 March 2017: Are you sure his family even know you are back together? It sounds to me like it could be your boyfriend that is lying and sneaking around. If this was me I would knock on her door or send her a message and tell her how left out you feel. ... (read in full...)
What should I do? He told me that he "fell out of love" with me like a month ago and now it's too late?
Q. Me and my fight friend have been friends for almost 2 years, 10 months ago he told me he wanted to date. When he first told me he liked me I was really nervous and not ready. I was young, immature, I had a lot of things going on in my life such as ...
A. 8 March 2017: I think all you can do in this situation is accept that he does not want to be with you and move on. Yes it may be difficult but you don't really have a choice, life can be hard. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my fiance even though I love someone else?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles, I will try to keep this short as possible. I've been in a long term relationship for 14 years and have a 14 year old daughter who my partner raised as his own since she was 2 weeks old. We had an amazing relati...
A. 8 March 2017: If he is so bad then why did you agree to marry him? Because you where scared the other guy would let you down? Why not become a single parent and focus on you and your daughter instead off having to have a man. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend appears to be attracted to transgender women!
Q. A few weeks ago I noticed my boyfriend had sent a friend request to a young lady. When I went to her page her pics were mostly of her in sexy lingerie and telling all to visit her on webcam. I also noticed she had obvious breast implants and a ...
A. 8 March 2017: So did you end it?... (read in full...)
His family want us to marry, mine don't!
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I 'was' dating this guy for a little over two years. We have both met each other's families and all was well until last December when his family started asking him to get married. Now the problem is I am in my early 20s ...
A. 8 March 2017: Honestly in my opinion a relationship should be both ways. Financially also included in that. He is being emotional now to try and guilt you in to staying. Honestly don't fall for that, you know in your heart the relationship is dead. If you feel to ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being truthful about his parents?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over three years now. He's currently in his forties. We broke up last year for about a month because he and I talked about getting married but then when we actually started trying to pick a date he told me ...
A. 8 March 2017: He is 40, old enough to make up his own mind. The cold truth is he just does not want to marry you. If he did then he would show you. Sorry chick but your best ending things as he seems to be stringing you along.... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to sleep with him?
Q. I need your opinions and thank you in advance. I am 40 dating a guy who is 48 for 3 weeks. We have been on 16 dates already. I know it is too much with some standards but he is just head over heels for me and has told all his family and friends and ...
A. 3 March 2017: Oh dear it sounds like he is doing a lot in three weeks. Honestly this would scare me. Take away the sleeping together I think he needs to slow down, you both have children to think about and he is already talking about marriage after three weeks ... (read in full...)
We/ve been back together for a year but it just isn't like it was.
Q. Okay so I don't quite know how to start this, but my friends have been helpful and supportive, but I suppose I'm still lost. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years minus the 2 that we were broken up for. We broke up because he said he ...
A. 3 March 2017: Sweetie even if he is trying it is still not going to take away the hurt and the pain. Did he think off your pain when he left you for someone else? Did he think about your feelings when he confided in you about another girl? No he never. She ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to follow my dreams in case my past could be viewed as a scandal!
Q. I married a man who is my mother's ex-boyfriend's younger brother. Let me explain. So my mother dated a guy for two years, ten+ years ago. I was 18/19 at the time. The man lived with us as a 'step-father'. I was never around due to college, a jo...
A. 3 March 2017: This really is not a scandal and you really are worried over nothing. Try and understand you need to live your life to the full. If you thought you where going to die well that should give you more of a zest for live. Stop letting your imagination ... (read in full...)
We both want to have sex but I'm not sure I am ready
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months and he has fingered me and I have given him a hand job. We've both considered having sex but I'm not sure if I'm ready. Sometimes I want to have sex and I feel confident but sometimes I get too scared I ...
A. 3 March 2017: Sweetie if you have doubts then you are not ready. You need to wait until you feel 100% comfortable or else you will live the rest off your life regretting it. Also condoms do not cover STDs you can still catch those and they are also not 100% ... (read in full...)
Workplace problems... Did I deal with Jimmy in the right way? How do I handle the situation now?
Q. I've worked at 4 different job locations during my 8 years of working for this company. I've never really had "true friendship" with any of my co-workers because I was always the "new person" to join the facility. I came to this location about a ...
A. 3 March 2017: The only thing I have to say to this matter is you are never going to keep these friendships because you are not a manager and it simply does not work. They blame you for what happened to Jimmy and you cannot let personal relationships interfere ... (read in full...)
Am I going through a mid-life crisis? I have everything going for me but I'm so unhappy and empty inside
Q. I want to get to the point- ever since I was 9 years old I have always wanted to be around people - I hate being alone and most people; the ones that know me well say that I'm never satisfied and I'm never happy. lately I feel like the rug has been ...
A. 3 March 2017: Maybe you should change your therapist as it should not take years to over come the issues you have. Also could you maybe see your doctor or a psychologist? Being this negative could be a personality disorder or some trauma you suffered as a child. ... (read in full...)
How should I deal with moving into an adult relationship?
Q. There's this one boy who I have known since I was 4 and we've always been good friends and ever since we were about 15 we've been very flirty and make jokes about messing about with each other, sex and stuff like that. Last year he got together with ...
A. 3 March 2017: Make sure you guys are being safe. Talk before hand about expectations, as one off you may end up getting feelings for the other and end up really hurt. This happens a lot with casual sex. Plus you are a virgin would you really not rather have sex ... (read in full...)
Date expressed a racial preference and it doesn't sit welll
Q. I've been dating this guy for the last few weeks. He fawns over me, is the harmless geeky sort, does everything for me like buy me flowers and get me coffee and text me constantly. He hit on me first and I was surprised he was so enthusiastic. I'm ...
A. 3 March 2017: If it makes you feel uncomfortable then you should just end it. Personally I doubt he meant any harm by this. But you where there and saw his body language if eh appeared to be creepy and made you feel uncomfortable then I wouldn't bother seeing him ... (read in full...)
New man doesn't want me to go to fetish party
Q. I arranged to go to kinky, fetish-scene party while single but now have new boyfriend who doesn't want me to go. Am I being unreasonable still wanting to go, even though he doesn't like it, and is not into that. He thinks I will be looking for ...
A. 3 March 2017: I think you are both not compatible with each other. It probably won't work out if you can both not compromise for the relationship. It sounds to me like you are not a good match. ... (read in full...)
Can anything be saved in my marriage. If so, how?
Q. I need help.. my wife of 33 years has slept in separate room for 5 years.. she works but dosent contribute to mortgage, and all her income goes into her own bank. Mine goes into joint account, and she buys things out of this account. We have no ...
A. 3 March 2017: You broke the trust by cheating on her, sounds like she has never fully forgave you for that. Therefore now you have two choices, you can live together as you are practically separated or else you can bite the bullet and see that it is not working ... (read in full...)
Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them
Q. Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...
A. 3 March 2017: Honestly you are very insecure and it is because you are with someone who you simply do not trust because off all her issues. The sad thing is you say he will cheat again. Why are you with her? Surely love is not enough to stay with someone who is ... (read in full...)
I need help to deal with new found info about wife's past. What should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for five years and have two kids. I have never asked anything about her past all I knew is she wasn't a virgin when we met. This past summer we were at a pool party and one of my best friend's from school was ther...
A. 9 February 2017: First thing you do is talk to your wife about this. Make sure it was actually her. Honestly though if you had boundaries when it came to sexual pasts then it should have been spoken about before you both got married and had children. Surely you want ... (read in full...)
Every time my boyfriend has problems he pushes me away
Q. My boyfriend is going to his cousins funeral tomorrow. He said that I could go with him at first, but then he told me not to go as the service will only be for about 30 minutes and there won't be many people there. I feel hurt that he said I could ...
A. 9 February 2017: He is grieving and you tell him to grow up? Seriously? I think you need to take a step back. He obviously deals with things differently to you, if you feel the relationship is always on his terms then maybe this relationship is not working for you. ... (read in full...)
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