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writes:Hello everyone I could use some advice It's a small world, definitely for me. I went for a pageant where my roommate wasn't such a good person. She accused me of stealing because all apple headphones look the same and I took her headphones by mistake. That ruined my image but that didn't bother me much. Now her good friend doesn't have a very good opinion about me because of this and also because she was my competition and I won. I always thought maybe she talks bad about me in the entire modelling circle since we have so many mutual friends and work contacts but it still didn't bother me to that extent, but the guy I really like happened to meet her by chance. He is a good friend and I do like him. Now it bothers me what if they get in a conversation and she talks bad about me? There were a couple of more incidents where they just know one side of the story and might talk about those as well.I don't owe any explanation to anyone. I've heard such things happen in this industry and I should grow a thick skin. People who want to work with me and professional enough to understand all this and will work for me. What bothers me is my friend who got connected to this girl on social media. What can I do about all this? This bothers me a little.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 March 2017):
 You cannot do anything. You see the thing is if he is your friend and she speaks bad about you then he has a choice he can either believe her, or ask her to stop saying bad things about you, or else he can ask you your side. There really is no point you sitting worrying about what others is going to say about you. Yes I am well aware it is emotionally hard, but you need to just have faith that your friends know you better and know what you are like.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (28 February 2017):
 What do you do?
YOU accept that you CAN NOT control what other people say, think or feel. If this other girl doesn't like you and spread crap around there is nothing you can do about it.
BUT what you CAN control is how you react to it. 1. If he tells you about what she said, either explain it or tell him it's a non-topic because you don't do the whole gossip and talk about other people behind their backs thing. If he BELIEVES her gossip, he isn't someone you want in your life.
Some people don't feel good unless they piss on other people's parade or success. Show your friends that you are ABOVE that. Being CLASSY, having INTEGRITY and being SMART is good in ANY industry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2017): Always go for a better class of friends than so called acquaintances who will speak badly of you behind your back.
If he is a person who is likely to become a true friend of yours then he will make his own mind up about who you are and what sort of person you are.
Weak people believe all kinds of untrue nonsense that others might peddle as the "truth". You do not need friends who are "weak" people who allow others to speak untrue allegations about another person
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