Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 10 April 2017: Well keep us updated. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 6 April 2017: Well then don't give up and I will no doubt speak to you on here again in the future when you are left hurt and confused. Because that is what will happen, she has choose to be with her ex. A kiss and holding hands sounds like a goodbye, so don't ... (read in full...)
Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 5 April 2017: What can you do? She has made her choice and she has choose her ex not you. The only thing that you can do is accept that and move on from her. Will it be hard? Yes it will. But you will get their.... (read in full...)
Heroin addict stares at me?
Q. This man has been on heroin crack methadone you name it and I know he still at least has methadone and crack. I'm lead to believe opiates kill sex drive so why does he keep on staring at me? I don't think he just stares because he's off his nut, ...
A. 15 March 2017: It might be attraction, it might be he is wondering could you fund his drug habit, either way why are you asking are you interested in this man? Worried about him? Scared off the way he looks at you?... (read in full...)
He's looking to stray.
Q. Hi I've been with my fiance 3 years but this past few months I feel like he's getting bored of our relationship. we have a one year old daughter together and i have a older daughter from a previous relationship. last weekend I caught him browsing...
A. 15 March 2017: I think you need to talk to him and ask him why he feels the need to add women he doesn't know to facebook? You should let him know how it makes you feel. Staring at women is not cool, looking yes we all do that, but staring makes things creepy and ... (read in full...)
Secured Long-Term Relationsihp vs. Unconditional Love Affair
Q. I'd like to introduce myself as Len. I am 26-year old and I am married to an engineer who currently works in Saudi. We have been married for 2 years already but we've been having this relationship for 8 years and we have been blessed with a 5-year ...
A. 15 March 2017: I think you should leave both. It sounds like you are being selfish and stringing them along, where is your five year old daughter in all off this? She must be very confused. Think about her and being a mother and stop messing with these two men. ... (read in full...)
We went on a date but I think she still feels an obligation to her ex
Q. Hey all! I would like some advice please. OK so my work moved locations a couple months back and since we moved we don't have our propane set up yet so we have to go to a local gas station to fill up pretty much daily. I'm the one that has to do ...
A. 15 March 2017: If you don't want to fall in the friend-zone then don't offer her friendship because that is what will happen am afraid. If she is still caught up with her ex then am not sure how you fit in to the picture. Maybe hang out a few more times and see ... (read in full...)
Terminally ill friend offered me her husband
Q. My best friend is suffering from a terminal illness and said something to me that I'm not sure what to about. I'm divorced and haven't had good luck with men and she has been happily married for 10 years. She and her husband are truly great people ...
A. 15 March 2017: You should not even be thinking about this while she is terminally ill. She said this as she loves you both, but if you tell her husband it sure as hell will blow up in your face. He is going through enough at the moment, without you springing this ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend charged me for work he did for me. Should he have after everything I have done for him?
Q. I have been dating a guy for almost a year. He is going to massage school and has jobs here and there. He lives with a family member. I have helped him lots of times with homework. I recently bought a new car and gave him my old car, because he ...
A. 15 March 2017: Am guessing yes he should have charged for materials if you are claiming through the insurance, but for his time? No he should have gave you that after everything you have done for him. To be honest this relationship sounds very one sided, with you ... (read in full...)
Nightmare drug neighbour
Q. Hey everyone quite a dilema here. sorry its so long. im a single mum of 2 kids no dad on the scene . I bought a house years ago . Most of the houses around me are rented including the ones behind me ( these are attached aka back to back ) the house ...
A. 15 March 2017: What a horrible situation that you are in. Unfortunately unless enough off the neighbors complain and make it known who it is that is complaining then the police are not going to do anything. Keep record off the times he comes to your door and keep ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend no longer even tries to have sex with me because its painful
Q. I'm having an issue with my boyfriend of about a year now. We haven't had sex in about a month and he says it's because I'm sensitive down there since it hurts when we have sex. He said he's just tired of that happening so he doesn't want to even ...
A. 15 March 2017: You feel he doesn't care and well I think he feels that he doesn't want to hurt you. Sex should not be painful and if it is then you need to go see your doctor as their must be something wrong. Off course he doesn't want to have sex, why would he if ... (read in full...)
Could I be his back up option?
Q. I joined a dating site a month ago and got chatting with a guy. a couple of week ago he told me he had decided to see how it would go with someone he had already met so he was honest and didnt want to string me along. He said hes still on the site ...
A. 15 March 2017: Yeah I think you are on their to find dates not online friendships so wish him luck and move on. ... (read in full...)
What can I do or say, that might encourage him to ask me out?
Q. Hello. I know one of my guy friends likes me. But he wont say anything. His best friend used to go out with my sister and it ended badly. His best friend said that he might not say anything because of this Is there a way to help change his min...
A. 15 March 2017: Honestly this sounds like teenagers at school and not adults. Don't start playing games, that will not end well. The question is do you like him? If you do then ask him out. If you are not sure what to say then drop him a message and ask him would ... (read in full...)
How do I respond when friends query me on this? She uses a picture of herself with my BF as her profile picture on social media
Q. Hi Everyone, I could use some advice. I am currently contemplating getting back into a relationship with my boyfriend of 7 years. We split for 3 years, and he began dating someone else. They recently had a child together, but are not in a relatio...
A. 15 March 2017: Thanks for the update, sorry I am only getting around to replying now, how is the situation now? Have you spoke to him about your fears and concerns? You both really need to be able to talk to each other and communicate about anything for this ... (read in full...)
My co-worker was pushing invitations to her church, was my response rude?
Q. My co worker that I'm friendly with would always invite me to her church and church related activities. She got really pushy and told me not to disappoint God...that it is for my own good.I never had any interest until one day I decided to just see ...
A. 14 March 2017: Honestly I don't think you where rude, I hate when people push their religion on to others, at the end off the day you are a grown woman and can make up your own mind just like others. If the friendship fades now then it was never meant to be, but ... (read in full...)
Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 14 March 2017: Any progress on your story? ... (read in full...)
Why did she react the way she did to my words? She is the one who lied to me, earlier.
Q. Hi everyone This isn't so important just something that really confuses me. My ex-girlfriend broke up with me 2 years ago. The relationship had become long distance, she had changed, she insulted me a lot, I was not happy at all. so when one da...
A. 14 March 2017: Yeah she reacted that way because she knows she was using you and telling you lies to make herself feel better, and now that you know the truth she is trying to turn on the water works so you feel bad. She is playing mind games with you. Honestly ... (read in full...)
Why is he so hard to get to know?
Q. So this is a little bit of a head messer (for me anyway) So there's a guy I really like we know each other from social media and hears the thing. I message him and sometimes he replies sometimes he don't. We share a match in music taste. ...
A. 14 March 2017: I have read your story a couple of times now, and I don't know how many times people have told you that he seems to enjoy catching you online but he has no interest in meeting you and getting to know you more. He probably watches lots off stuff ... (read in full...)
I missed the boat and it's breaking my heart. I wanted to be a wife and a mother. Will I ever get over this?
Q. I don't see how I can ever be happy. I LONG to be a wife and mom. I want it so badly that it breaks my heart. Realistically, I know that it can never happen because everyone knows that men aren't attracted to a woman who is over thirty. I'm i...
A. 14 March 2017: I think you may be depressed. For a woman who calls herself intelligent you are very down on yourself and you make men sound like all they are after is someone who is young and that is just not at all true. Honestly nobody here can help you, you ... (read in full...)
She has no idea her ex cheated on her often! Should I tell her?
Q. I'm in a very very sticky situation. I have 2 very close friends. 1 who is male the other is female. Both of the 2 used to date for over 4 years, they had just recently broke up about 9 months ago and I was always very close with the male. He was ...
A. 14 March 2017: What is the point in hurting her? They are over now, why break her heart all over again. I know you feel guilty but you done nothing wrong, and bringing it up now is not going to benefit anyone.... (read in full...)
Is it a mistake to date a recovering drug addict?
Q. I started seeing this new guy, he's sweet , makes me laugh, tests me amazing , he's a hard worker and friendly to everyone but he is a recovering drug addict. He moved to my town three years ago and everyone that met him liked him right away. He ...
A. 14 March 2017: Yes you should. Four years is a major achievement and he is not who he used to be. None off us are perfect and if we where all judged by our past then most off us would be lonely. Give him a chance he deserves it.... (read in full...)
Is a friends with benefits relationship sustainable?
Q. After 12 years of marriage, I lost my wife to an unexpected heart attack 9 months ago. It has been hard and I'm not sure what I want to do. I recently ran into a lady I worked with at one time while shopping and she offered her condolences. I'v...
A. 14 March 2017: I do hate to burst your bubble, but this lady is going to end up falling hard for you. It is clear she is lonely and has accepted your offer. If it was casual then it is using each other for sex, but honestly I think in time she will want more and ... (read in full...)
Am I being correct in offering to pay or could I be offending him?
Q. Hi, I have a question and would appreciate your help. I'm not an American and dating an American guy for the first time, we both are professionals in our early 40s. It has been a month and it's going amazing. We are going to take our first getaway ...
A. 14 March 2017: I think women now have equal rights to men and therefore should pay half as well, I mean if you are both earning a wage then I feel that is only fair. ... (read in full...)
I try to put myself in his girlfriend's shoes, but I still like him.
Q. I began liking this guy (who I see at my bus stop everyday and goes to a different school) in the beginning of Feb and we never speak. A friend gave me his snapchat and we started talking from there and for two people who are shy, we were very ...
A. 14 March 2017: It doesn't matter if he is lying or not, what matters is he has a girlfriend and you don't want to have a reputation off someone who steals men. Believe me that would stick with you for a long time and not many people would trust you in the future. ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time hoping something will eventuate between us? So far he's ignored my texts, shouted at me, and told me it will not work between us
Q. I met a guy 6 years ago he was going through a divorce and I a separation. After couple conversation we had words and he said that we will not add up. Sometimes I would message him and he would ignore my messages. I recently moved and last ...
A. 14 March 2017: I think you are holding on to something that is not their. He was probably passing for other reasons saw you and said hello, he is not interested in you and I think you need to accept that.... (read in full...)
I have not been able to conceive and feel I am letting my partner down.
Q. I have a dilemma. I've been trying to conceive for two years no luck. I have been for scans and my Dr found that I have cysts on my left ovary,Yet he says it's normal. I'm 31 and I'm starting to suffer with depression from all the disappointment. ...
A. 14 March 2017: You need to stop beating yourself up, the cysts are more than likely normal and it could be either you or your partner with fertility issues. It could also be that you are trying to hard and you need to just relax and take a break from trying for a ... (read in full...)
Why is he withholding sex?
Q. Withholding sex? I have been seeing a guy I met for the past 4-5 months. The first few months were quite casual and we'd only see each other maybe once a week. The last couple we've been doing more together, going on trips out of town etc. At the...
A. 14 March 2017: Their could be a million reasons for this, did things improve since you posted this?... (read in full...)
What I thought was just a good time has me having feelings for this girl!
Q. I'm away from my wife now for 1 month, she's visiting her parents and she is pregnant, we are in good terms and very happy with our relation, we have this kind of up and downs that can happen to all the couples well one week ago I traveled for 3 da...
A. 14 March 2017: Oh your poor wife, you are off having sex with another woman while she is pregnant, and you are more worried about your feelings than hers. She deserves a much better man than you. ... (read in full...)
I know I can't get involved but how do I deal with my feelings?
Q. I started a job 3 months ago the same time as a male colleague who is a few years older than me. Over time we have chatted and I have found myself attracted to him. I get from his body language that he likes me too. He gazes at me when he talks or ...
A. 14 March 2017: Honestly he is having a moan to you, but that does not mean he wants to have a bit off extras on the side. It might mean he is unhappy because he never sees his wife, he spends the weekends alone with the children and he sounds fed up. He probably ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never thinks I am beautiful!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 yrs never thinks I am beautiful. But I feel I do look good. And he says that you always need to love a person who will be with you no matter what you look like. He does fantasise about actress but he never cheats on me..I am just ...
A. 14 March 2017: You should be with someone who makes you feel beautiful inside and out. I dunno why you would be with someone for two years if he doesn't find you beautiful. Why is he with you and not someone who looks like the girls who are actresses? Do you feel ... (read in full...)
Garment crisis in the carpark
Q. Hello everyone, My husband and i work in the same company different departments . So i just came from ethiopia to USA and i am experiencing cultural shocks! so the other day there is a fire alarm at work and all co-workers had to stay outside in ...
A. 14 March 2017: Honestly you are married do you not have a say in where your money goes? Maybe you could give us a little bit off background, how long have you been with your husband? What culture are you both? Do you both share bills and living expenses?... (read in full...)
Did I lose my chance with this guy because we met on T
Q. I am a fun, bubbly, warm, funny, kind/caring, and positive young woman. I know it sounds silly to say, but I made a Tinder earlier in the year thinking that people used it to find relationships and stupidly, I found out most used it for hookups. ...
A. 14 March 2017: Honestly, I think their are A LOT of men on dating sites who just want sex. That is why it is important to hold out before having sex, you will soon see who the serious ones are. Don't feel bad about what happened, just put it down to a learning ... (read in full...)
Hard for me to sort out my feelings
Q. I'm in a difficult situation. I went out with my ex on and off for 15 months. He is very stubborn, and we hardly saw or spoke to each other. I have been friends with someone that he knows for a while. They aren't very close friends, but have known ...
A. 14 March 2017: Honestly if you are not wanting to be in a relationship with your ex and you have made that clear to him then you really have no need to tell him about your current love life, as it is your business. It will be difficult for him as he still loves ... (read in full...)
The red-blooded male in me says to give her more experience, the gentleman in me says to wait a few years!
Q. Sex question- a girl I've met online is very inexperianced and wants me to teach her about the physicality of sex. What's the problem?- there's a 12 year age gap and while she's above the age of consent and therefore it would be legal, the ethic...
A. 14 March 2017: No it is not okay to have sex with some teenager online. Sure she might be asking for it, but surely you are old enough to say no. ... (read in full...)
Does this signify interest?
Q. A girl at work responding to my asking her something responded "for you anything". I have had this also said to me in another setting by different girl (she serving me or telling me where a product is). Of course we've had a friendly chat or chats ...
A. 14 March 2017: Sounds to me like she is a friendly person to work with, doesn't show romantic interest.... (read in full...)
Could this girl be interested in me?
Q. I stop at this petrol station sometimes. The past two, three times there's been a nice young girl there, and as at the times I go there it's not that busy, we have a chat. Somehow we got on to the topic of massages. I said that my massages may be ...
A. 14 March 2017: If I was this girl and you asked me to go somewhere private with you I would run a mile and never use that petrol station again. ... (read in full...)
She is getting me down but my boyfriend says "she is just a friend"
Q. There's a very similar question on here but mine maybe has a different twist to it. So me and my boyfriend have maybe not been as good as we were at other points in our relationship. We have been together nearly 2 years and met in work when his ...
A. 14 March 2017: I don't think that their really is anything you can do, if he wants to be her friend and he knows your worries then you cannot really stop him. However he should not have asked you to delete guys from your social media. You guys need trust.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't know about my secret eating disorder.
Q. Long story short, I have struggled with bulimia and anorexia for 10 years. I do not struggle with purging anymore, but restrict my calorie intake everyday and continue to have issues with food. Me and my bf have known each other for 3 and ...
A. 14 March 2017: Well first off am sure it took you some courage coming on here so you should be proud off yourself. It is a big step you took. It is not easy living a lie, and I get why you are so worried about telling him. But sweetie you have an illness, and yes ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my fiance even though I love someone else?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles, I will try to keep this short as possible. I've been in a long term relationship for 14 years and have a 14 year old daughter who my partner raised as his own since she was 2 weeks old. We had an amazing relati...
A. 14 March 2017: As much as am sure you are sad right now, I do think it is probably the best decision that you made and you probably need the break away. I get it will be sad but you will no doubt build a good future now you are being honest with yourself. ... (read in full...)
I want to marry this guy, how soon can I propose to him?
Q. Im thinking of proposing to my boyfriend on our one year anniversary! The thought makes me super excited, not nervous or scared, like in previous relationships. So I just want to ask, what are your thoughts on feeling the way I do after such ...
A. 13 March 2017: I think it is way to soon. I mean I knew pretty soon when I met my Fiance and well so did he but we still waited because I think if you are still in the honeymoon period you should wait until that is over and see how you both go as a couple. ... (read in full...)
Does his behavior indicate that he's an emotional abuser? Should I breakup with him?
Q. 1-) In life, we should have certain words filtered, my boyfriend does not seem to have one. I am upset because, he has this tendency of referring to woman as bi***es, ”oh tha b*tch does this or that, in a very despotic way, he does not say this all ...
A. 13 March 2017: So did you end things with this man? I dunno how you managed to deal with this for so long, my guess is that you love him. He may have issues but it does not mean he can always take it out on you, and well women in general. He sounds very insecure. ... (read in full...)
Did he not know what to do with our relationship? What could have triggered his response? I am very confused! Need honest advice!
Q. I, Guess I Kind of broke up with my boyfriend ( 37y/o) I could not stand his erratic behavior anymore. last friday he came for his graduation, and he messaged me on past Thursday saying that on Friday he was coming early here to town where I live, ...
A. 13 March 2017: whatever the reasons for the miscommunication it is clear that this relationship was not working, if you feel he is using you for sex then their must be a valid reason for that, and if he is moving away in a months time then its probably best that ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my fiance even though I love someone else?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles, I will try to keep this short as possible. I've been in a long term relationship for 14 years and have a 14 year old daughter who my partner raised as his own since she was 2 weeks old. We had an amazing relati...
A. 13 March 2017: I think you picked me up wrong as I was not calling you a bad mother. I was simply saying that her growing up with a mother who is being emotionally unfaithful can be damaging to her as well. Personally I think you need to figure out what it is you ... (read in full...)
Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them
Q. Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...
A. 13 March 2017: I think a break away on your own or with friends would probably do you a lot off good. You need to put yourself first.... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my fiance even though I love someone else?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles, I will try to keep this short as possible. I've been in a long term relationship for 14 years and have a 14 year old daughter who my partner raised as his own since she was 2 weeks old. We had an amazing relati...
A. 10 March 2017: It is still cheating their really is no justification. You need to sort out your life and be a good mother to your daughter. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my fiance even though I love someone else?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles, I will try to keep this short as possible. I've been in a long term relationship for 14 years and have a 14 year old daughter who my partner raised as his own since she was 2 weeks old. We had an amazing relati...
A. 9 March 2017: Honestly I don't think you should stay with your fiance just to feel secure. Your happiness is worth so much more and so is his. It is not fair to both off you or your daughter to live a lie no longer. I think you should tell your fiance the truth ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my fiance even though I love someone else?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles, I will try to keep this short as possible. I've been in a long term relationship for 14 years and have a 14 year old daughter who my partner raised as his own since she was 2 weeks old. We had an amazing relati...
A. 8 March 2017: If he is so bad then why did you agree to marry him? Because you where scared the other guy would let you down? Why not become a single parent and focus on you and your daughter instead off having to have a man. ... (read in full...)
Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them
Q. Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...
A. 3 March 2017: Honestly you are very insecure and it is because you are with someone who you simply do not trust because off all her issues. The sad thing is you say he will cheat again. Why are you with her? Surely love is not enough to stay with someone who is ... (read in full...)
How do I respond when friends query me on this? She uses a picture of herself with my BF as her profile picture on social media
Q. Hi Everyone, I could use some advice. I am currently contemplating getting back into a relationship with my boyfriend of 7 years. We split for 3 years, and he began dating someone else. They recently had a child together, but are not in a relatio...
A. 22 February 2017: Him having a daughter should not embarrass you or you should not feel like you have the control who knows and who doesn't. I am glad he has finally realized his errors in his ways and is standing up for his poor innocent daughter. Thankfully her ... (read in full...)
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