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writes:There's this one boy who I have known since I was 4 and we've always been good friends and ever since we were about 15 we've been very flirty and make jokes about messing about with each other, sex and stuff like that. Last year he got together with one of my friends and lasted about six months, he lost his virginity to her and yeahI was with someone for a year and a half when I was 13-15 and we had oral sex but never had sex fully (yeah I know its young :/) The boy who Ive known since I was 4 and I have got flirty again and have been meeting up and sexting a bit and I think we're going to have sex soon. I know I have to tell my friend if I did, but I know it would be awkward. So any advice?I also would be having sex with someone's who is not a virgin and I don't know its just a bit daunting Any advice again thank you xx
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 March 2017):
 Make sure you guys are being safe. Talk before hand about expectations, as one off you may end up getting feelings for the other and end up really hurt. This happens a lot with casual sex. Plus you are a virgin would you really not rather have sex with someone who you are in a relationship with? Also do talk to your friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2017): Tell your friend. See what she says if shes cool with it then do your thing. I lost my virginity to a friend that I knew cared about me and wouldn't break my heart in any way ever. I think it was a GREAT decision. At the time I believed that there wasn't a "right person" to lose your virginity to. You could wait for a relationship end up hating him and regret losing it to him, you could wait for your husband and he could also hurt you or you could wait for your husband and think why did I wait so long, whereas with my friend, it was just sex, there was no expectations so no disappointment.But this is your virginity so you have to do whats right for you. Don't rush to lose your virginity.I think this guy you've known for a while is the perfect person to lose it to because he cares about you beyond sex and even if you two don't get into a relationship you have yeaaars of friendship that will probably keep him from disrespecting or using you. General sex advice... use contraceptives, don't rush, I'd say make sure you're alone for hoooours so you can really enjoy the experience and not rush to get started, or rush having sex, or rush to get dressed to leave because someone's family is coming home. Also it might be nice to have more than round. Don't worry about the fact he's not a virgin. I reckon it will still be special to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2017): I disagree with the previous comment as they did not read the question. I think if you are comfortable with this person and you trust them then go for it. As for the friend, you need to talk to her. She may understand but if she is a true friend is it worth loosing the friendship over some boy? Talk to her before you do anything in my opinion and having sex when you're a virgin doesn't matter, he's probobly more experienced and will make it more pleasurable for you
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (26 February 2017):
 Read up a lot about safe sex and talk to your doctor, get condoms and be on birth control every day, don't have sex until your doctor says the birth control has kicked in. That's more important than who you tell.
If possible, tell a trusted adult family member.
Few at it's worth, sex is pointless at your age, if you're not in a relationship. You're just being used and it's not worth it. Why have sex with someone who is only interested in that? You'll get a reputation and FWBs rarely work as adults, let alone teens.
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