Is she just lazy or what?
Q. This has been eating away at me for way too long! I feel like my wife never thinks about me. More times than I probably should I go out of my way and above and beyond for my wife. For Christmas, she was saying that she wanted a specific makeup. I ...
A. 5 April 2017: I think if you want something for Christmas or your birthday then TELL her. She told you she wanted make up, you told her no clothes. I know my other half is really hard to buy for, I have gotten surprises before ones he has not appreciated because ... (read in full...)
I hacked into his email and discovered he'd applied for another flat! What do I do next?
Q. Hi! Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over two years now. Two months ago we moved together in a new city. Two weeks ago I did something horrible, something I can never forgive myself. I hacked, literally hacked into his email account. ...
A. 4 April 2017: No don't get back with him, it will be the biggest regret if you do. You need to be kind to yourself and when someone treats you this bad you need to take control and say enough is enough. He doesn't love you, and he will never respect you.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend didn't contact me and I'm angry
Q. My bf was at a lunch at a client today and then they went to a hotel bar with the guys for drinks. He hardly contacted me during the lunch nor told me they were going to a bar afterwards. I had to contact him and ask him what he was up to because he ...
A. 4 April 2017: Honestly why did you stay with him if you cannot trust him any more? Surely the relationship is not worth this misery every time he goes out. Honestly yes he was wrong for cheating but you forgave him, that means you don't question everything he ... (read in full...)
How do I explain culture difference?
Q. Dear agony aunts Since last December I have been seeing a man that I had feelings for the thing is he is not from the same culture as I am and we have absolutely different ways of living and expectations. Just yesterday he told me he is falling ...
A. 4 April 2017: You need to talk to him about your culture and what he CAN expect from you. The only way to move forward is by being honest with him and telling him the TRUTH.... (read in full...)
Social life an issue with my mum
Q. I struggle to keep friends and I don't know why... I've lost touch with most of my friends from school and I never venture out the house. It's getting me down a lot because I try to make friends but I just don't seem to click :( I've joined so...
A. 4 April 2017: Do you live with your mother? If you do then maybe it is about time you got a place off your own and lived your life, you can then choose what to tell your mother and what not to.... (read in full...)
Please confirm my doubts
Q. I've been with my bf for 2.5yrs (living with him 1.7yrs).I've noticed that on his Facebook, he has lots of females "friends" (as he calls). I haven't used FB and had shut it down years ago as I prefer Linkedin. His account has been open to me but ...
A. 4 April 2017: Please read over what you have wrote, what advice do you feel you should give yourself? What do you get out off this relationship? Why on earth would you stay with someone who treats you this bad?... (read in full...)
I want our first kiss and it's a now or never situation. How do I plan it?
Q. Hi, The situation: in new york, upcoming third date, "now or never" kiss her or become friend zoned; afterwards, I leave the country for three weeks. She is gorgeous, smart and kind, and says a tad serious while attracted to guys who make her l...
A. 4 April 2017: You are overthinking everything and it will just stress you out and you will lose your charm. Main thing is to go with the flow, how did the third date go?... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want kids but I do. My friends say that I should "trap" him. Is that my only option?
Q. Me and my husband have been together 8 years now and married for 2. Everybody that knows us have always said we are the best couple they've ever met as we love each other A LOT and would do anything for one another. It really is the perfect ...
A. 4 April 2017: You need new friends, and you also need to see that this is not an option. Why would you want to trap a man you love, and bring a child in to the world unwanted? Your friends sound horrid!
You both do need to talk about this, him saying he migh... (read in full...)
Why am I getting mixed signals from her?
Q. This girl at work is giving me mixed signals, seems like mostly negative. On the one hand someone asked her if she likes me ( in front of me), to which she responded "of course I love him". On the other hand she's always telling me I talk too much, ...
A. 4 April 2017: Do you like her?... (read in full...)
I overthink and cannot just let things be in the moment.
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I often do overthink stuff and I feel like I am in this situation too. All I am asking here if for you guys to hear me out and give me your views and comments. Sorry if this post gets too long. Thank you in advance to al...
A. 4 April 2017: Me personally this would not be enough for me, I would need more in terms off a relationship than meeting up twice in months and both times him being busy on his phone, so my personal opinion doesn't fit because you say you are happy with this.
B... (read in full...)
I'm over his drama! How do I end this relationship for good?
Q. Sorry for this long post in advance. I just left my super obsessive and manipulative boyfriend of two years. Towards the end of our relationship, he started doubting me for talking to a particular old friend of mine. I had no feelings whatsoever for ...
A. 4 April 2017: Block him on social media and change your phone number, it really is as simple as that. You need to cut all ties with him or else he is never going to stop calling you. ... (read in full...)
Should I be waiting on this guy? He acts like we are a couple but we are not!
Q. I have been talking to this guy for longer than a month and we have both admitted that we like each other lot, but here is the catch: We live in different states. We have talked about going to see each other, meeting up but we both don't have the ...
A. 4 April 2017: No you shouldn't be waiting on some online guy. Have you been in a relationship before? It seems to me you want to have a boyfriend so much and you have latched feelings on to this guy who you think you might know but realistically you never know ... (read in full...)
Her past bothers me, though I do like our sex life!
Q. Hey guys, I've been dating a girl for a few months and it's going really great, but her past has come up more than a few times (mainly by me) her lifestyle bothers me a bit she's 22 and loves to club. Has had 12 sexual partners her last dude wa...
A. 4 April 2017: You need to deal with her past or else it will eat you up and ruin your relationship with her. She was single, did she cheat on anyone? Honestly you will push her away if you keep making arguments about her past and make her feel guilty for stuff ... (read in full...)
She says she wants to be friends with me but wants to take a year off to focus on her new relationship!
Q. Hi, I was sort of dating this girl. We flirted, talked every day, I emailed her cute things, amde her things, she sent me a nice care package, etc. but then realized things were not right. We decided since we shared so much, I asked her if we could...
A. 4 April 2017: She is trying to let you down gentle as she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. She has met someone and has pointed out to you very bluntly how she feels about them. Maybe she has met someone and maybe she hasn't. But either way she is making it ... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me? And how do I get over him if he's not?
Q. This man I have had a crush on for the past six months seems to have been playing hot and cold with me. (Or maybe I am just reading too much into it). He's been flirty one day and then distant the next. He recently hugged and kissed me on the cheek, ...
A. 4 April 2017: Maybe what you should do is ask him out on a date, you will soon know by his answer and then you can stop analyzing everything that he does and stop living in hope or sorrow. ... (read in full...)
How do I get things back to normal, before we end up not being able to be friends at all?
Q. I have feelings for someone who has previously told me they reciprocate but for various complicated reasons nothing ever came of it. We get on really well and are attracted to each other. But things have been difficult since this came out into the ...
A. 4 April 2017: He has made it crystal clear to you that nothing is ever going to happen, now you cannot see him flirting with other girls because you still have feelings for him. I am not sure how you are going to get passed them feelings and accept nothing is ... (read in full...)
Did he ever love me? Was there any other girl in the picture? Or was I right and he really is a narcissist?
Q. I was dating a guy for a year...he fell in love with me but i didn't feel the same. It's only now since our argument and split that i realise how much i care about him but now he wants nothing to do with me. We had one serious argument in the ...
A. 4 April 2017: Okay silly arguments aside, only he knows how he feels and yes maybe you are right, we cannot tell you if you are or not, but it is clear that he feels the relationship is over. Therefore I would suggest ending all contact between you both and ... (read in full...)
Just had a baby, but now I am scared about returning home, due to his abusive actions while I was pregnant. What can I do?
Q. Dear aunties and uncles. I am a first time mom to a month old baby and my husband and I have had a fair share of ups and downs but we love each other a lot and wouldn't dream of spending my life with anyone else. Last year, while in my first trim...
A. 4 April 2017: Sweetie it is not just you now you need to think about, it is your small baby. If you are going to go back to that house, then he NEEDS to stop drinking alcohol and get the help that he needs. If he is not prepared to do so then you stay with your ... (read in full...)
I suspect my fiance is cheating but he thinks I am stupid!
Q. My fiancé was out last weekend and I was informed from one of his friends he was walking a girl home. The weekend before he was out and lost his phone and I call it and a girl answers whom he had left the phone at her house. This was the only...
A. 4 April 2017: My first thought would be to trust my Fiance but that is because I trust him wholeheartedly. Honestly if you don't trust him then you never will, you should not be engaged to be married if you are having doubts. You both need to communicate more, ... (read in full...)
Married five months and husband wants me to have an abortion.
Q. I've recently got married to my husband. We are very happy, and I have never felt more secure in all my life. We agreed to wait a few years before having children, and to focus on renovating our house which we brought before Christmas. We'll on ...
A. 4 April 2017: If my husband told me to deal with it on my own until he made up his mind, I would send him packing back to his parents house until he learnt how to be a man. Honestly yes maybe the baby wasn't planned but that is not your fault. Let him have his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not like my ex husband doing my laundry!
Q. My boyfriend does not like my ex husband doing my laundry. He called my ex a saint for doing it and said he must care about me to do it still. Like there is an emotional connection and he feels I should finish with the relationship entirely. But the ...
A. 4 April 2017: Although I personally would find this one strange, you don't have access to a washing machine and yes your ex is being very good offering to do your washing. You share a child together so it is great you can both be adults about this. My guess is ... (read in full...)
Is this man using my sister, and did she move him into her house too soon?
Q. This is really a question about my sister. She is the sweetest kindest girl, aged 45, divorced with two teenage sons. She tends to fall in love very easily, and rushes into relationships, and those relationships rarely last, so she ends up hear...
A. 4 April 2017: Yes it was much to soon for her to move him in. My guess is she craves male affection so she wanted a relationship straight away with him. Who knows will it work out or not, but if you mention this to your sister you will be the enemy. She is an ... (read in full...)
Am I a sex addict? 101
Q. I just turned 31. I think about sex atleast every 30 minutes. I mentally undress every woman i See or imagine them having sex although im actually not interested in women sexually. My partner count is about 73 men and 2 women. To me a man has to ...
A. 4 April 2017: It does sound like you could be yes, I disagree that just because you have not had sex in two years doesn't mean you have an addiction, because it very much can. If I where you I would talk to a professional and seek a therapist. ... (read in full...)
Is it really worth it to file for child support? I got pregnant 3 months into dating him, then he disappeared
Q. The baby's father isn't in the picture. I have tried to reach out to him during this pregnancy, but nothing. I kind of am considering to file for child support, since I'm living with my mom and don't make as much at the moment. The only thi...
A. 4 April 2017: Put your own feelings to one side now and think about your child. You do not have the right to decide for him or her if their father is going to be in their life or not. Yes it sounds like he done a runner the moment he heard you where pregnant but ... (read in full...)
I'm hesitant about calling her. Is it good idea to call her when she is with her bf?
Q. Helo my beloved dearcupid aunts and uncles, i am a guy and i have a female friend. When she come back from vacation, she came with her bf and they are staying together for some days. I didn't call her since she is with her bf together because...
A. 4 April 2017: Honestly she craves the attention from you, if she wanted to be with you she would. She sounds like a girl to avoid. She wants the drama in her life, she wants her boyfriend to think she has other attention from other men. Don't get caught up in it, ... (read in full...)
Should I wait another year until I am more sure of my feelings for him before I buy him an airline ticket to allow him to visit me?
Q. This issue is a bit tricky and I need an external view I met a guy online 6 months ago , he lives in Argentina, he is 5 years younger than me, I live in Europe, we talk constantly every day including video calls , although the time is differen...
A. 4 April 2017: I just cannot see how this is meant to work. You have never even met each other, yes you may speak over video camera, but it is not enough to fall in love with someone. Body language in a relationship is very important and you both will never know ... (read in full...)
How much detail should I put in my online dating profile?
Q. I have cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair but am a bit unsteady on my feet at times. I have got a dating profile on Match, should I include my disability on there?...
A. 4 April 2017: If you are contacting them and they are not replying then my guess would be that they are not interested. How are you contacting them and what are you saying to them? Maybe make sure you sound nice and interesting and try not to look like you are ... (read in full...)
How can I cool this without offending him? I'm feel anxious!
Q. I am 70 and have been a widow for 8 years, a married man has been very kind, but recently bought me a rose plant, took me to lunch, and a couple of other visits. He is ok as a friend, the places we have visited are not of interest to his wife, but ...
A. 4 April 2017: Really you don't need to make excuses though! If you want to potter in your garden alone then tell him thanks but no thanks you are enjoying your own company.... (read in full...)
Family conditioning has defined sex as inappropriate and dangerous. How can I stop feeling afraid pf physical sex?
Q. Ever since I was young, sex was explained to me as something that was inappropriate, dangerous, and could generally be used against me. Both of my parents were always adamant that men couldn't be trusted, and that I needed to be cautious and awar...
A. 3 April 2017: I think you need to speak to a therapist. It won't do your relationship any favors telling him about your past, you have only been dating a few months and telling him about online sex is not something he will want to hear. If you feel it is ... (read in full...)
Bad sign or just a poor planner?
Q. After a week of talking, I finally met the guy for date. He was late to the 1st date, which is ok once in awhile. We spent about 6 hours together and we were planning to spend today together. There was never a time set up. There is an event I've ...
A. 3 April 2017: I would give him another chance. He could be sick. ... (read in full...)
I just don't want sex. What can I do about it?
Q. Hi Please help me. I have been with my partner for eight years. But over the last few years and particularly this year I have lost all interest in sex. I do have a hormone disorder and suffer frequent cystitis so I know that this probably contrib...
A. 3 April 2017: I think you should go and get checked out with your doctor. Are you feeling any signs off depression? I do understand how sore cystitis is so therefore it may have put you off wanting sex. It could be a mental block, but you should get a medical ... (read in full...)
How can I cool this without offending him? I'm feel anxious!
Q. I am 70 and have been a widow for 8 years, a married man has been very kind, but recently bought me a rose plant, took me to lunch, and a couple of other visits. He is ok as a friend, the places we have visited are not of interest to his wife, but ...
A. 3 April 2017: If you keep on making excuses he will hopefully take the hint. If he makes you feel uncomfortable then just be polite and tell him know each time he offers to take you somewhere. He should then take the hint. ... (read in full...)
Was this man in my walking group interested?
Q. Last year I joined a walking group online. I noticed a guy had viewed my profile a few times at the time but we had never met. 8 months went by and I finally made an appearance and met the group in person. The guy who had viewed my profile was ...
A. 3 April 2017: Yip sounds like he could be!... (read in full...)
Should I report my friend's family situation to the police?
Q. Hello, My best friend has some family problems. She is 16 and she has a 11 year old brother. She lives with her mum,dad,and brother in the same city as I do. Her father is not a nice person at all. He is not working, so her mum has to work all day ...
A. 3 April 2017: Just be their for your friend and offer her support. This is not a matter for the police and could just make things worse. ... (read in full...)
We are not meeting so often and he is blaming his work!
Q. Hi, Aunts! I've been seeing a guy for 2 months now. We used to talk throughout the day and text and meet often, but of late he initiates contact less. It's very frustrating when "Work has been very hectic" is the reply I receive as an explanatio...
A. 3 April 2017: Well if it is working for you then great, just make sure you are getting what you need from the relationship.... (read in full...)
My husband is perfect in every way yet my imperfect ex haunts me and my heart belongs to him
Q. I'm 30 years old, I've spent more than half of my life crazy insanely in love with this person, we had a great love story but equally great drama, what broke us was a very strong storm, both of us are changed forever and deeply wounded that to end ...
A. 31 March 2017: A marriage is never going to work based on lies and deceit. You practically are living a double life in your head. You build a marriage on a lie and you will need to live with that lie for as long as the marriage lives. If your heart belongs to your ... (read in full...)
His ex is stunning and a lovely girl and I feel that I just don't measure up
Q. Hi everyone and thanks for taking the time to read my question. Ok so iv been with my boyfriend for a year now,he's the most caring and kindest man iv ever met and he is so good to me. I have no problem -however I find myself constantly comparing ...
A. 31 March 2017: You are being sensitive. His family are allowed to contact whoever they want. Liking her pictures is not doing anything to upset you. The probably don't even realize the issue, or even compare the both off you. You really do need to get the ex out ... (read in full...)
How do I initiate my next FWB encounter with this guy?
Q. Had a one night stand with an acquaintance a few weeks ago and the sex was great! We tried going on a date after but it didn't work out, so we decided on a more of a friends with benefits situation (more my decision than his) and slept together ...
A. 31 March 2017: So did you contact him again? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't care about things!
Q. My boyfriend lives with me and I mean, we've had our arguments, but I find that he pays no attention to me. He goes to work, the gym, then he comes home and plays video games until we go to bed and pays more attention to the dog even. I've asked him ...
A. 31 March 2017: Sounds like a lame excuse to me. Honestly if my partner done that to me the trust would be gone and he would be out the door. He is making excuses. Are you sure he still doesn't have feelings for this 'crazy ex'? If he really wanted her to stop ... (read in full...)
I feel so insecure because he hasn't said the "L" word.
Q. I've seen this type of post a few times on here, but I wanted to share my personal situation and get your input. Thanks in advance! My BF and I are 24. We've been officially dating for 5 months. These months have been extremely happy. He is so ...
A. 31 March 2017: I really do not understand why people get hung up on the words. Anybody can tell you they love you, it is only words, it is how he treats you and how he acts is what is important. Reading your post the relationship seems great. You both sound happy ... (read in full...)
Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?
Q. I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...
A. 31 March 2017: Off course you have a right to be upset. I think the best thing you can do is just be truthful with him, tell him you are not interested in getting with a married man, even if he is separated, just tell him thanks but no thanks, then carry on with ... (read in full...)
I hacked into his email and discovered he'd applied for another flat! What do I do next?
Q. Hi! Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over two years now. Two months ago we moved together in a new city. Two weeks ago I did something horrible, something I can never forgive myself. I hacked, literally hacked into his email account. ...
A. 10 March 2017: The only thing I can say to you is to end it, honestly he is never going to change, he is always going to lie and probably cheat, you are always going to be paranoid and wondering what if. You deserve better.... (read in full...)
How much detail should I put in my online dating profile?
Q. I have cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair but am a bit unsteady on my feet at times. I have got a dating profile on Match, should I include my disability on there?...
A. 3 March 2017: I think you should do whatever you are comfortable with. As long as you are not dishonest and lie to people then tell them whatever you want to. ... (read in full...)
We are not meeting so often and he is blaming his work!
Q. Hi, Aunts! I've been seeing a guy for 2 months now. We used to talk throughout the day and text and meet often, but of late he initiates contact less. It's very frustrating when "Work has been very hectic" is the reply I receive as an explanatio...
A. 3 March 2017: How did things go for you both?... (read in full...)
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