Husband found out about my promiscuous teen years
Q. I've been married 3 years and my husband and I have a great relationship based on trust on we don't keep secrets. I was recently contacted on Facebook by Erica, a high school friend. When we were in school, we were promiscuous. We did girl on g...
A. 16 March 2017: you both should go to a counselor and talk about this openly, don't let it get to a stage where it is passed communicating with each other. ... (read in full...)
Should you remain friends after a break up?
Q. Hi .If you just broke up with lover who is also your best friend and he wants you both to remain best friends what should you do?Is it harmful for u both to be best friends?or can you both stay away for a while and then later be best friends again...
A. 16 March 2017: Personally I wouldn't be friends with someone if I had feelings for them because I know deep down I would be the one to get hurt. It is a very hard transition to go from a relationship to a friendship. Ask yourself these questions:
Are you comf... (read in full...)
My boyfriend no longer has time for me because of his new job. How do I cope?
Q. I feel that my boyfriend and I may have hit a rough patch. We're about 6 months into our relationship and up until this point, things have been so easy and carefree. Then, he got a new job that has a lot of potential for him to advance and be v...
A. 16 March 2017: you already posted this question and got great advice. Honestly it is not realistic in relationships to be talking all day and you will always be disappointed if that is what you expect. You need to stop being so needy and be thankful you get to see ... (read in full...)
Does a man call a woman a bad word because of how he sees her physically?
Q. Do men call women wh..res because they think they are ugly ? Is it because it's thought a woman is not attractive enough to be appealing enough for a man to want to date and marry that she would have to sell herself sexually in order to survive ...
A. 16 March 2017: No I don't think it is associated with a woman who is not good looking, I have saw models get called whores. I guess it comes from a place off anger more than anything to do with the actual woman. Either way it is vulgar and nasty.... (read in full...)
I can't help feeling that I'm his second choice!
Q. My boyfriend always tells me that he knew from our first date that I was special and a keeper. I recently found out we had our first date, then he went out with another women the next day and had been chasing this women before and after we first...
A. 16 March 2017: Without sounding harsh yes it does sound like you are second choice am afraid. How long have you both been together? He should not still be thinking about the one that got away. Am sorry but to me that seems like you are not the one for him and he ... (read in full...)
He's so unhygienic it's putting me off him, am I being unreasonable?
Q. I have been dating for over a year. In the early days he was relatively tidy.The guy is increasingly becoming a slob. His whole place is like a teenages bedroom clothes, rushbish, hangers, money etc chucked on the floor, plates piled up in the ...
A. 16 March 2017: No you are in your rights to feel worried, I know I would be. Our home sometimes gets messy at the weekends when we just want to relax and I am okay with that, but we both help in the house and that is the way it needs to be. You both either need to ... (read in full...)
I like this guy but he just doesn't have a clue about women
Q. I am seeing a guy who is into porn and hasn't had much experience with women. It feels like he doesn't know the difference between porn and being with a real women. He's not romantic at all, doesn't make the effort to make me feel special,...
A. 16 March 2017: Talk to him and tell him how he makes you feel, be completely honest with him tell him he needs to make more off an effort with you. If he doesn't change then end it because he never will. ... (read in full...)
Can this LDR survive? He's just gone into the army!
Q. My boyfriends just got into the army gap year and has been 8 hours away for 4 days from where I live and he isn't aloud his phone except for about 30 mins on a Sunday and I already miss him so much. I was just wondering if anyone else has been in ...
A. 16 March 2017: It will be difficult as long distance is extremely hard. Off course you will miss each other and only time will tell if it works out with you guys, but proposing at Christmas is not a promise he should have made, you are still much to young to be ... (read in full...)
Porn related little white lie - should I let it go?
Q. Should I bring it up or let it go? My husband is very busy running three businesses. He gets very stressed with it. Sometimes he masturbates to porn to relieve tension - I know all this, it's not every day or all the time. Sometimes I use his ...
A. 16 March 2017: honestly it is his business when he masturbates, I would never dream off asking my partner that question. Are you really sure that you are not insecure about the porn use? If you are then talk to him about it. If you have a fear off lying then ... (read in full...)
I'm finding out things about my boyfriend's past that bother me
Q. I was friends with someone for just over a year, and we have been dating for three weeks. He has treated me well when we met up, but today, I added his sister on Facebook and saw some photos of him holding hands with his ex girlfriend. It was a ...
A. 16 March 2017: Okay so you might feel you have good morals but you are an incredibly judgmental person. Your boyfriend is not allowed to have had a past and you worry about him being friends with gay men? Honestly I have read both your posts and am not really sure ... (read in full...)
I'm troubled by my boyfriend's spiteful side
Q. My boyfriend and I went on holiday recently and we missed our flight as we both got the return flight date wrong. We travel on the bus to the airport to see if we can get another flight. I had a leg injury. Our suitcase fell of the baggage ...
A. 16 March 2017: Me personally I wouldn't be able to handle this. Yes we all get annoyed at times but we do not purposely do that to someone we love. The silent treatment is one thing but actually allowing you to carry the cases with an injury is evil. Me or my ... (read in full...)
Do I ask my friend for the rest of the deposit when she pulled out on me?
Q. Hi All, This is more regarding a friendship relationship but hope you can help! When organising my hen do abroad I asked who would be interested then set about arranging details for my friends who said yes. Before booking I continuley reco...
A. 16 March 2017: I doubt they will give you the remaining money if am being honest. It is unfair that they pulled out on you and are not travelling with another friend. Yes I can understand why you are hurt. They are not real friends. Either see if you can change ... (read in full...)
Why can't I attract the guys I like?
Q. I feel like I'm one of them good looking guys..... I get told I'm cute, I'm handsome.... no ones ever actually called me ugly People tend to love my personality once I get to know them to But why can't I sleep with the guys I find attractive?...
A. 16 March 2017: Maybe because you come across as a little arrogant and men who you find attractive either want more than just sex or else they don't find you attractive. Maybe you should broaden your horizon a bit.... (read in full...)
Can I be friends with my ex? An instagram post was misunderstood!
Q. I went out with this boy, who was the same age as me for about 7 months. He dumped me in January, but I don't really know why. Before we dated we were really close friends and since we have broken up, we have become friends again - just as close as ...
A. 16 March 2017: You don't need to end the friendship, maybe take the post down from social media, apologize to him for wording it wrong and tell him you still want to be friends. Let everyone else talk if they want, it will be someone else next week.... (read in full...)
Has anyone dated a family member of a friend?
Q. Have you ever been out with your friend's brother/sister and if so did it last and for how long. Did it upset the friendship you had with your friend. I went out with my friend's brother briefly when I was younger (I am in my late 40s now) and I ...
A. 16 March 2017: I don't see what her problem is, you are all adults, why would she be annoyed if you both dated? It really is none off her business. I met my fiance through his sister as I was her friend. She is happy for us both she is actually our bridesmaid so ... (read in full...)
He said we should just let things go. What did I do wrong?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for 4 months now and everything has been going on just fine , we never really labelled what we were but he made sure that we hang out a lot and talk a lot. We met on tinder and at first I used to cancel until we actually...
A. 16 March 2017: Always cancelling on him made him realize that you where both not compatible. You where head over heals and he was not. He made no effort to come to you, it was always you doing the running and the paying, but still repeatedly cancelling would be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said my genes were inferior and any flaws would come from me
Q. Boyfriend of almost two years and I were watching a movie (Harry Potter) and I was jokingly saying that I would name our future son Albus cause he was a bad-ass. My boyfriend said it'd be too much pressure for a kid to live up to. I laughed and ...
A. 16 March 2017: Honestly instead off going cold and keeping it to yourself you should have spoke to him and told him that what he said upset you. You both where joking about so why is it when he says something you get in to a mood? He may also have been joking, did ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to move on from my ex even though I know I should
Q. I'm a recovering addict that has had to transplant to another state. I had to leave behind my ex of 8 years and have been dating a new guy for 7 months that I do love. I don't have the same feelings with him though. With my ex (who has also had some ...
A. 16 March 2017: It sounds to me like you are simply not ready to be in another relationship. If you are not over your ex then being with someone is not going to help. You would be better on your own growing and being independent and taking the time to get over your ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know I'm a stripper! Should I tell him?
Q. I’ve been dating this guy for the past 5 weeks and although we are not officially in a relationship things have moved fairly quickly between us. I had been a dancer/stripper for the past 2 years and when I had met him I had actually left the indu...
A. 16 March 2017: Honestly I think you need to be honest with him, if he cannot see past it then it is his fault not your own. You should be proud off who you are and what you have achieved. I can understand why you would keep it from him but their comes a point ... (read in full...)
Due to health issues, asking a relative to help seemed like a valid option. My relative is reluctant to help. What are my options?
Q. I have a dilemma and I'm looking for some advice! I've recently been diagnosed with cancer and am thankfully getting treatment but unfortunately this has meant an extended period of time off work that I was financially unprepared for. I will n...
A. 16 March 2017: I second the fact you should try macmillan and see if they can help. I understand that you are going through a tough time, but that does not mean that your grandmother should become your source of income weather she has the money or not is ... (read in full...)
Does my Bf really care, after 8 months together if he'll unwilling to hold hands in public and only becomes more demonstrative when he wants sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I been together 0ff and on, but now we been together for 8 months and when we out and about he dont hold my hand. He still tell people that i am his friend and we live together and he only holds me when he want sex. i can sleep na...
A. 16 March 2017: So why are you still with him? Surely you know you deserve better than this, he seems to only use you for sex.... (read in full...)
How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?
Q. How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?. I mean considering my partner has developed very particulicular tastes in women lately. How much should I be trying to be what he wants or trying to be attractive to him He...
A. 16 March 2017: I think you need to speak to him, it seems you are assuming these things and he is not actually telling you this. Have you problems with being insecure? Surely you can talk to him and he can reassure you, if not then is their any point being ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my Twin sibling that her BF is potentially abusive?
Q. She's only known him a few weeks but they are REALLY moving fast and apparently he's saying he loves everything she does already and inviting her over for sleepovers. They haven't slept together yet apparently he has told her that he expects ...
A. 16 March 2017: What kind off person jokes about rape? Honestly I have never heard off such a terrible thing to threaten someone with, glad she finished with him. I just hope he doesn't carry out his threats to anyone.... (read in full...)
I want the relationship to work. What are your opinions on flirting/ making inappropriate comments to another female while the guy is in a relationship?
Q. Please guys only (ps if advice is just shouldnt be together please do not respond. I want to make this work) Okay so guys. What are your opinions on flirting/ making inappropriate comments to another female while in a relationship. ...
A. 15 March 2017: Why ask the question if you don't want to hear honest feedback? My guess is because you know he is disrespectful off women but you are young and you are going to stay with him anyway and hope that he changes. Being together all the time is not ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a female coworker to complain about her relationship to a married man to gain his sympathy?
Q. Looking for other opinions Is it ok for a female coworker to complain about her relationship to a married man to gain his sympathy? Should the married man explain to her that it is inappropriate and stop inviting her to discuss her problems...
A. 15 March 2017: She may see him as a friend that she can speak to and I think that is okay if the man is comfortable listening to her and offering her advice. Obviously if he feels awkward then he should be honest and say he is not the best person to talk to about ... (read in full...)
My husband is a serial cheater. Am I fooling myself to think he will change?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 23 years. We were young when we got married - 20 and 21. Early on in our marriage he cheated on me twice. I was not very confident back then and terrified of being alone, so I forgave and stayed. And I guess ...
A. 15 March 2017: I hope you make the right choice for you and leave him. He does not deserve a loyal woman at home, and no he is not going to change because he knows he gets away with it. The moment you forgave him the first time he knew he could do anything and get ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to keep seeing this man or not
Q. I started dating a guy a few weeks ago, but a few things are worrying me. He knows a few gay men. One of these men kept asking me and this man what was going on between us. He pestered us for ages. This man jokingly blew the gay man a kiss. Another ...
A. 15 March 2017: Straight men do joke with gay men if they are comfortable with their own sexuality believe me. Honestly if you feel insecure about him then you probably should end things with him. ... (read in full...)
Is she being very friendly or flirting with some motive?
Q. I shall try to make this short. I met a girl on a taxi when i was going to work. We chat and walk till i reach my work place. She ask my contact no. And we exchange our number. We didn't meet for the next 2 weeks. One day we happen to meet again on ...
A. 15 March 2017: I hope you stay away from her as she really is not good for you. She is bored in her relationship and looking for some fun. Don't be the other man as people will find out and you will look like the good guy. I think you need to tell her the ... (read in full...)
My 22 year old daughter has sent nude photos to her boyfriend. How do I address this?
Q. I recently discovered that my 22 year old daughter who is doing her post graduation has clicked and sent her nude pictures to her boyfriend. am concerned that its morally incorrect and also usually such pictures land up circulating. Its very...
A. 15 March 2017: She is 22 you should not be snooping in her personal possessions no matter where you are from. ... (read in full...)
We went from sex twice a day to maybe once a week. I can't live without sex!
Q. Hey here's the problem my boyfriend and I used to have sex twice a day morning and night we've been together just over 2 years he moved in after being together a year the past few months we hardly ever have sex maybe once a week I asked him if he ...
A. 15 March 2017: Is he asking you to live without sex? Maybe the pressure is to much for him, maybe he cannot keep up the pace and is not turned on because you keep asking him for sex now. It should be spontaneous and fun, not pestered until you get it. If this was ... (read in full...)
She asked me to slap her hand for no reason. Is that her way of flirting?
Q. Hey everyone, So there's this girl I've had my eye on since almost a year now. Im not sure if she has feelings for me but there have been signs.I'm holding back on asking her out cos my financial situation is not stable and I won't be able to...
A. 15 March 2017: It sounds like she may have been flirty with you and wondered how far you would go in order to do what she wanted.... (read in full...)
Are single attractive women usually more messed up?
Q. I know I may get flack for this. But it's been my experience that very good looking women who are single in their 30s and beyond are messed up in some way. My theory is that they have to deal with so many guys just looking for sex that they have ...
A. 15 March 2017: Why are you still single? What are you so messed up about then?... (read in full...)
Afraid of getting too attached to him and getting depressed over it.
Q. I am currently dating a guy who's getting close to becoming my first boyfriend and Im afraid that Im getting way too attached to him. He left this week to achieve his personal goal and of course I didnt try to stop that. Who am i to? and it wont be ...
A. 15 March 2017: Maybe this relationship is not for you if you are already feeling down about things. I would be sad also if I could only see my partner once a month. That might simply not work for you, therefore you need to ask yourself is this relationship what ... (read in full...)
If my husband takes up the job then our relationship would suffer. What should we do now?
Q. my husband is applying for a job in a town about an hour away from the one that we live in. if this was where the story ended, there would be no problem...but it's not, and there is. the job is 12 hours a day, seven days a week, graveyard shifts (7 ...
A. 15 March 2017: Honestly am not sure how you are going to convince him. I get both points. He wants to clear his debt, and he sees it as you both have your whole lives together. Personally I would look at the bigger picture, how long is the job going to be for? Is ... (read in full...)
Should I go on a trip with my family or to a wedding with my boyfriend?
Q. I'm struggling to make a decision. I don't want this to sound like first world problems or like a brat. I've been dating someone for nearly 6 months now. We're starting to get more serious and have had a really great relationship so far. The ...
A. 15 March 2017: I would take the trip also, you may be 22 but you are still your parents daughter and am sure they would love to have you with them, their will be more weddings for you and your boyfriend to attend and well yes he may be bummed that you don't go ... (read in full...)
LDR What are the options? Is moving closer to where my LDR lives worth considering?
Q. I am in my early 40s and wanted to know if anyone has ever been in a long distance relationship (whether it be 3 years or 10 years) and given up their life where they currently live (especially if they have lived their all their life) to move in ...
A. 15 March 2017: Every situation is different, therefore your own situation will not match what others have done, can you give us more information? Also do you want to uproot your life? Do you know this man well enough to spend your life together? ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to tell my boyfriend that I cheated or not
Q. Okay so I went out one night at the start of my relationship and I barely remember anything. I'd gone out with a few friends and end up in a club on my own. I got speaking to a guy and he walked me part way home. He ended up giving me his number but ...
A. 15 March 2017: It is great that you can control your drinking when in the city, but if you are not in control off it in your home town, then that leads me to think that you have a drinking problem. If you drink so much that you do not remember if you cheated then ... (read in full...)
Can I trust him is he a cheat
Q. I did something bad...... I catfished my boyfriends ex and found out some horrible things. They used to have group sex Go to sex parties He use to be on drugs all the time He was kicked out of his old house cause he stole drugs from his ...
A. 15 March 2017: Why would you go looking in to his past? You could not have trusted him when you felt the need to do this. Why do you believe his ex over your own boyfriend? I think you have a lot off issues so maybe you should address them before confronting your ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to use him for sex?
Q. So there's this guy that fancied me. I sleep with him but don't have no feelings. Is it wrong of me using him for sex when he wants more ...
A. 15 March 2017: Yes if you know he wants more and you are using him for sex then you should be ashamed off yourself.... (read in full...)
He slept with me, then slept with my best female friend and now he's acting all weird. What's up with him?
Q. i fancied this guy and he gave me a bi vibe. It was all secret cause I'm not out But he ended up sleeping with my best friend who is a girl and has gone really weird lately. He don't talk to either of us since my friend told him he was bad in be...
A. 15 March 2017: Taking his and your sexuality out off the equation. He is not a great person is he if he jumps between friends? My guess is he used you both. ... (read in full...)
Heroin addict stares at me?
Q. This man has been on heroin crack methadone you name it and I know he still at least has methadone and crack. I'm lead to believe opiates kill sex drive so why does he keep on staring at me? I don't think he just stares because he's off his nut, ...
A. 15 March 2017: It might be attraction, it might be he is wondering could you fund his drug habit, either way why are you asking are you interested in this man? Worried about him? Scared off the way he looks at you?... (read in full...)
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