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writes:hi,i had 3 years relationship with this guy he was my lover my best friend but my bf had past away 3 months ago,its hard for me to accept the fact, to ease the pain, i used to go out with my friends for a disco, drunk, everyday, and now i met a guy whom i am dating now, but do you think it is early for me to go on dating after the grief, but i really dont know if i like this guy or i just miss my boyfriend ?i am confused
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 I'm sorry to hear about this. Three months is still quite soon after the fact. I don't mean that you shouldn't date because this guy would have wanted you to live your life to the fullest. You probably do still miss him and I'm wondering if you feel like you're trying to replace him instead of seeing someone as a completely new person. It will take time to get over missing him and part of you never will but with time you will see new guys as themselves and not as a comparison.
You can never put a time on when you should date, it all has to be about the feeling.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (16 May 2010):
 I'm very sorry for your loss. It's an incredibly hard thing to deal with, and I wish you the best with your healing.
You're right to question whether it's too soon, but honestly no one here can give you that answer. It's a bit like a "rebound" relationship. You asked the question, so it's obviously on your mind. Take things slowly, don't make any commitments, and for goodness sake don't make any decisions. Not yet.
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