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writes:dear cupid my boyfriend is 24 years old we have been together for 7 months he wont touch or make love to me and i am a very passionate person and need sex so this really hurts me deeply i have brought up the subject and he told me its not me he just dose not care for sex but he loves and needs me then he tells me he will fix it but he never does and it has done nothing but cause us to fight i am starting to feel unwanted and rejected the one person i want and love wants nothing to do with me it has really effected my self esteem what do i do please help
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 If you want you could try and get him into it by really pushing the first move but it might make him angry. If you really want to stay with him it may mean that you have to get tough and force the answer out of him or tell him to leave. If he does tell you then you know that he really wants to be with you and if he doesn't then it just wasn't meant to be. I hope you get some answers from him because there is something big that he is hiding. I don't think he would leave and in the end he will realize that he can't work it out along and that you are more special to him for being that person.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (7 June 2010):
 a popular book and movie points out that 'if he's not sleeping with you...he's just not that into you" of course, that is propaganda.
there are two ways to think about this to figure out if he's being honest or if he's 'just not that into you'
1. have you two ever had sex before?
if the answer is yes and the sex stopped, i'm afraid he just might not be that into you
if the answer is no and you've never had sex then I think it shows he's being honest.
its up to you, what do YOU want with YOUR life. if the answer is a relationship without sex, then great...keep this guy. if its not, then my advice is to break up and find a guy who you're more in tune with. you deserve to be happy.
btw, sorry I was so forward but sometimes I wish more people were that blunt instead of sugarcoating advice.
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reader, for love +, writes (7 June 2010):
for love is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni see and agree with you but i have asked him that and he gets angry and shuts down and because i am the type i want to try to fix it when i see that someone is hurting i cant just walk away without trying to help him
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reader, The Realist +, writes (7 June 2010):
I think that this is the way he is and that it has nothing to do with you. I don't think that he is right for you unless you can get through to a possible issue he has with himself so he can learn how to be a passionate person. Try getting him to explain why exactly he isn't interested in sex or anything physical. If he's not will to open up with some sort of decent answer I wouldn't stay with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): That's actually very simple, leave him and find someone that loves all of you :)
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