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writes:I'll give him a blowjob.. handjob and he'll be like making noises and shaking, and he's all wet.. and you can tell it's genuine and he says he loves it + that i'm the best he's ever had but then he goes 'omg i could cum now'so then he takes his you know and finishes himself off.. but why doesn't he cum when i'm doing it?why does he always say 'you ready?' and then does it himself?i don't get it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): this just happened to me recently. it made me feel so insecure about my ability to please him. what made it worse was the fact that i've given him a few hand jobs before and he came just fine when i did it for him...so it just makes me wonder why this time was different. it lasted so long and he kept saying it felt so good and that he was thankful for me doing it and everything..and when i asked if he wanted to stop he said "NO! please keep going!" so i did...and then he even told me how fast and hard and everything. then the worst part for me was realizing that he took matters into his own hand, got himself really close to coming, and then said "will you finish me with your hand?" so i tried-the same exact way he was doing it to himself and what happens? NOTHING! he took it back from me and finished himself saying, "i don't get it. you were doing exactly what i was doing.." and stuff like that. what is wrong with this picture!? you should definitely talk to him and ask what his view on the situation is, because i know thats what i'm gonna do!
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (31 May 2010):
 Hmm...suggest talking to him - telling him that you WANT to finish him off yourself. Many guys are just more comfortable doing it themselves. Where does he cum, when he does this? That would be an important detail.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 May 2010):
 He likes to do it himself for some reason. Ask him. I see this as him just being a gentleman, not expecting you to take his load in your mouth or get all greasy over your clothes. The load can on occasion shoot pretty far, and he probably doesn't want the mess.
Ask him! If you are intimate enough to have sex you should be intimate enough to talk about sex too.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (31 May 2010):
 I think that he has some sort of fetish with finishing himself off in front of you or on you. Its not that you couldn't get him to finish he is just building it up until he's ready to do it himself. Definitely talk to him, if he lets you finish him off he may see how much better it actually is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): Maybe he likes control OR he thinks you won't want to, just ask/tell him
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reader, YouWish +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Oh yeah, he's too used to doing it on his own. There are some guys who can't even finish during sex because they're too used to porn/doing it themself.
You could ask him to do it to himself while you watch so you can figure out his technique and try to match it speed/friction. That might help.
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reader, Kama  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Just talk to him; tell him you want to do it. He probably watches porn - that's the way much of it is. Just a guess. I personally prefer to be finished rather than to finish myself. He might like to hear you're interested. (?)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): Pretty common for guys that masturbate a lot. Talk to him about it, ask him to lay off the masturbation for a couple days, and then try.
He may also be worried about cumming while in your mouth or on you, which is why he's giving you the warning.
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reader, helloo mate  +, writes (30 May 2010):
so he cums quicker
you can make him come .. when you give him a hand job do and he ses im goin to come do it faster and the same gos for when you give him a blow job
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): I can relate. I recently just did this for the first time and my guy sort of did the same thing. He said "baby, oh my god I'm going to cum" and "you better stop that or I'm gonna cum," and when I kept doing it ;] he then said "did you hear me, babe? I'm going to cum." He did. The subject of his 'warning' came up later and he just said "I know some girls don't like it." So I think it's him trying to be polite. Thinking not only maybe you don't want him to go off in your mouth or anywhere else on you. You can always ask to see this if that's the case.
And if you want him to enjoy it from you all the way, let him know. My boyfriend said it was hot that I did.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): maybe he doesnt want to cum in your mouth or inside of you?
i think its best to ask him. but dont ask him in an insecure way. just tell him that you want to please him and you're open to him telling you what to do. you're willing to take constructive critism.
love making is not always perfect, we need to teach our lovers how to please us. so a healthy communication is always key!
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