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anonymous
writes:my boyfriend and i have been dating for two months. now, we are on spring break and he hasn't text me back. i have left at least ten plus messages. do you think that hes doesn't care about me anymore or that our relationship is over?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): Hi, no offence right, but don't you think you are going TOTALLY ott?!?! If somebody was texing me 10 times in a row I would not be flattered I would be completely put off and freaked out. It would make me NOT want to text them back, due to the obvious weak desperation. This guy I've been dating didn't reply to my text, so I left it a few days and tried again. Still he did not reply. So what did I do? Go crazy and text text text like mad in the hopes he would suddenly see sense and text me? No! I left it! And lo and behold - next time I saw him, he said he'd had no credit and didn't get paid til a few days later when he could get some more. And we went on as normal. Without him thinking I was some kind of manic texter who could not survive unless he replied to me right. that. second. So please, do NOT send any more messages, just leave him to come to you and get on with other things to busy you. Sorry if that seemed a bit harsh but someone had to say it. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): I am glad to hear you finally made the decision, not to text him, anymore. It shows your strength, your self-respect. Try to slow down and don't stress over this. When a female is feeling stress, she tends of overcompensate and obsess on stuff like this. I say obssess because you did text him 10 times. And when she obsesses about 'why' he's not texting??", what is she doing to herself? She is allowing her self-esteem to take a nosedive. No one should have that kind of power over her, I don't care who he is. So, good for you to stop texting him and getting on with your life. That is exactly what you should be doing, here.
On another side of the coin, your posting makes me think of something I read once. "Males have traits in them that us gals would be really, really smart to adapt to". And that is, men don't put all their eggs in one basket, when they begin a new relationship. They really do leave 'openings' and they know how to keep it all in perspective. If this relationship is just two months old, then he may be thinking this way. He may even have other interests. A relationship should not be 'exclusive" at the 2 month mark. So accept that he may not be at the same place at you are, right now, back off and carry on. Start having fun with friends and yes, dating other people. You both owe nothing to each other at this stage of the game. Good luck and be positive and keep a cool, smart head. Take care, hun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Let me tell u somethin my boyfriend did the same thing to me the 1st time i texted him he told me that he never got it and i would text 'hi' and no answer but dont break up with him just yet he probaly wants to spend his spring break with some of his friends and you should too or maybe when you text him he probably wants to call you back instead of text and is just tring to find a good time to have a nice long convo with you-he still loves you trust me.
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reader, don't have one +, writes (20 March 2008):
Hey everybody! I would like to say thank you for answering!Crazy as it may seem i text him last night, but it will be the last time unless he text me back. Im enjoying my spreak break! LOL! Thanks again! I will keep ya'll updated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): Don't despair. Sometimes guys are like that. The more you text or call, the less likely he'll respond. Just keep yourself busy and don't jump to answer him when he finally does call. I know you're worried becuase you don't really know what he's feeling. Truth is this...if he stopped caring, then there's no reason for you to be wasting your time and energy worrying. If he never called you again, then he's just a jerk and still not worth worrying about. Carry on with your life. Men don't like it when women hang on so strong. It's not ok for him to do this nad you don't deserve this at all. All it does is get you to obsess and that's not fair. The feelings should be mutual in a relationship. SO when he finally does call or text, don't be so quick to respond. Take your time. Most importantly, don't stress.
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reader, Skeez  +, writes (20 March 2008):
 There could be a number of possibilities why he hasnt texted. Depends on the location he is in is one. There probably is no signal up there. Hes forgot his mobile. He has no credit and hes having to much fun to get anymore, or he cant get anymore. He forgot his charger so it ran out of battery and he cant charge it up. There are a number of reasons. But then again...it could be bad. Dont send him anymore texts, becuase if he is getting them, he may be getting a bit annopyed with you sending so many and just isnt replying. Just wait till he gets back and ask him his reason. If his reason seems biazare or obscure to you then question him.
ALso...I dont know how you Americans work and where you go on Spring Break. But if hes at some Camp Park or something, its unlikely there will be signal or even a home phone. Dont worry yourself so much. Just talk to him when he gets back and in the mean time.. enjoy your spring break and forget about him.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Texts can get lost in cyber-cell phone air space. Why not pick up the phone and try calling him. Leave one message and if he doesn't call you back. Wait until he gets home and find out what's up. His cell phone service may not work in the area where he's at.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): ...sweetie, i understand the fact that his phone may be broken or whatever...but don't you think that a "good" boyfriend, or a loyal/loving boyfriend would fine some way to contact you (home phone/pay phone/other person's phone) and tell you that his phone is broken...
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Okay, now, let's not jump to the conclusion that the relationship is over. There may be reasons why he can't text. Some may be, depending on location, he cannot text, or his phone may be broken, he may be too busy having fun. I also would be concerned, but do not let it get too much into you. Also, do not think it is over yet until you know for sure when the two of you see each other again and talk. I hope this helps, and Good Luck!!!!
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Yes.......it is over.
sorry, puddin'.
Gena
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (19 March 2008):
 I would be suspicious...
I had the same situation with my EX when she went away on holiday for 11 days without any contact at all. When she got back she was angry I hadn't replied to her message within an hour while she ignored mine for the entire holiday.
I didn't know whether we were still together or what and went out of my mind while she was away.
She was too busy having a good time and although I don't know whether she did anything she did meet a "nice guy" out there.
At the end of the day if you're with someone who shows absolutely no consideration whatsoever for your feelings then do you really want to be with them?
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reader, rcn +, writes (19 March 2008):
 It depends. Do you have information that may lead up to a separation?
I'd say wait until after spring break. I hope everyhing works out for you. Enjoy the rest of your break. Don't let this affect you until you know for sure. It would suck to waste spring break worrying, especially if it turns out to be nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): Are you two in the same state...like did he or you go home/anywehere for spring break??? Best case scenario: His phone is simply broken or something happened to it...Worst case scenario: He is cheating on you or 'doing' something and this is his way of saying its over...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): maybe his phone ain't working. Don't send anymore texts whatever you do, you will give the impression of desperation. Wait see what happens, if he contacts you after spring break. Its out of your hands just see what happens.
Good luck
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