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writes:HiIm absolutely devasted im 30 years of age and had been your typical "Briget Jones" for three years, then a year and a half ago I met my perfect boyfriend a true gentleman not like the usual bad boys I would date.A very shy gentle man. I really really loved him but after 3 months of dating him i made him go to the doctor as I noticed something on him it turned out he had genital warts.. I was devestated and nearly broke up with him, he was devestated too so i stuck by him and accepted when he told me it was a girl before me, im fine and didnt catch them but we were not intimte fot 2 months then, now since the last 6 weeks they got bad again and we havent been having sex so it been really affecting him desperatley. I was insecure before I met my boyfriend but after being together a year my mother suddenly got diagnosed with breast cancer and I realy thought i couldnt take anymore, I became insanely jealous and moody in the realtionship. He broke up with me this weekend said he was unhappy for awhile, im inconsolabe im in shock we were very good together and although we didnt live together we only recently started talking about it, we did everyting together. we were very close.He blamed me for the breakup cause i questioned him so much,he said he was unhappy for awhile and that i had put him under alot of pressure with things and that I was always suspicious,and taking my moods out on him. But i stuck by him when he got the warts. I met up with him to talk when he broke up with me and i took responsibility for my behaviour over the past 4 months and i told him i am now getting counselling and that I reaaly love him he is my bestfriend,we were so close...I asked him for another chance he said no, i cant help thinking that the warts are a major factor in this as we cant even be intimate and we had got over it in the early stages of our relationship and now its croppped up again to haunt us, he said he loves me and I know hes devestated too that we broke up..he really wanted this relatioinship to work as much as I did..His last words to me were he doesnt want to hear me saying sorry he wants "actions not words" he said he'd call does anyone think he will come back to me?? please help? broken hearted
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reader, chocolateblessing  +, writes (9 May 2009):
Hello and GOD BLESS,have you ever heard of the saying, "count your blessings?"Well if he really loved you, he would have stuck with you as you did him. So, maybe this really wasn't you 1 true love after all. It may hurt now, but you will heal..Trust me, you will get better!!!!!!! You are a smart,funny, caring, and beautiful woman, so stop comming down on your self. You are far stronger than that. More foraward with your head up.. His loss not yours......GODS GOT YOUR BACK
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reader, kittikat +, writes (22 March 2008):
 I think you're being way too hard on him about the warts. Genital warts are a virus, he could have had them for years before you. Shoot, you could've given them to him. Women don't always know that they have them because of our anatomy. It's estimated that over 95% of humans carry the virus that causes warts and some strains are genital. Did you know that stress can bring on an outbreak? Maybe you making such an issue about it is making them come out. There is treatment that can help make outbreaks less common, but you should use a condom every time and see your GYN regularly to get your PAPs. The virus can shed long before you actually see a wart on his penis and I'm sure you're aware that this virus also causes cervical dysplasia which can lead to cancer. If you're having unprotected sex, you've probably already been infected- but it's not his fault. Now, if he knew he had warts and didn't tell you- that's wrong. But, it could also be a lack of education and understanding on his part. That's the chance you take when you have sex. I'm an STD counselor for the military and I see a lot of misconceptions about STD's. Get some more education from your doc and stop making him feel bad about it. It's kind of like if he was making you feel like a bad, disgusting person every time you get a zit. If it bothers you that much, then you need to move on. It's not fair to him, or you for that matter.
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reader, rcn +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Have his warts removed. Have him think of who he was with in the past. Women who are prone to having cervical cancer can cause genital warts on their partner.
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reader, agtorange +, writes (19 March 2008):
 If he wants actions not words, maybe he feels you're disgusted by him because of the warts.
He might be expecting you to show him how much you love him, but with warts around that's probably not a good idea.
But you really should get mad at him about warts, if you don't like them being there, imagine how he must feel having them.
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