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writes:im a 21 year old and ive been in a 4 year relationship i love my boyfriend but im in love with my boyfriend cousin i had a child last year and i think he might belong to the cousin as we were having an affair my boyfrind found about the affair after i had the child at first he didnt believe that my son was his but now he thinks that he is and thats just made it harder to tell him the truth that i dont think his son is his and that im not in love with him anymore that i have fallen for his cousin what do you think i should do............??????????????????
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 you should get a dna test and if you dont love your boyfriend then leave him, its not fair on him, he can find someone who's loyal and will love him back x
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reader, rcn  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 This is one you'll have to get yourself out of. I don't think you really know what love is. If you did you wouldn't have done what you did, and you wouldn't have stated wanting to make a change in the manner that you did.
I hope cheating is not something you make a habit of doing, if it is, the cousin should run far away as well. You're going to have to get that DNA test. As far as what else, that's up too you. In this situation, I can see a big possability of loosing both guys. Having a child, who ends up getting hurt in the long run? You need to be a mom first before fulfilling any personal desires you may have.
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reader, tux +, writes (23 March 2008):
 What a tangled web we weave. I find it hard if you want to consider dating his cousin. But I guess first you need to find out who's baby it is. Only way to be sure is DNA test and see what comes of that. Now, as far as seeing his cousin.. there's always going to be that awkwardness within the family, can you bear it?
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reader, lovinit +, writes (23 March 2008):
tough one here. opinion coming from an 18 year old.... take it as you like ( but let me know what you think of it):
well first its obvious that whether the baby is his or not you will still have a rift in the family which would never repair.
secondly, make sure the baby is the cousins or your boyfriend. get a piece of his hair and the baby's hair and take it to the dna lab and get it tested.
being that im a male i would hate to be cheated on! i would rather my girlfriend keep it to herself or make it secret rather than telling me because personally, i consider myself a nice guy. i would do anything for my girlfriend! i wouldn't want to be hurt like that.
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reader, HMBBabyface +, writes (23 March 2008):
 Well, first of all DON'T HAVE AFFAIRS! One relationship at a time! Second, PRACTICE SAFE SEX! You've now brought a child into this world that was not properly thought out. If you don't get things figured out quickly, this child will start out with a very messed up "family."You need to have a blood test as soon as possible. If you want a relationship him, and the child is his, you're in relatively good shape. However, any other possibility leads to serious problems. You two need to seek relationship counciling as well. At this point, it's all about the child. You two need to make sure this kid has the proper love and support he needs to succeed.
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