Would you mind?
Q. Would you mind if your husband was looking at very scantily clad girls on Instagram? He only seems to do it when I'm asleep and has liked a few of the pictures. I know he's married and not blind and I don't have an issue when he notices a pretty ...
A. 7 June 2023: In my opinion i don't think it right or appropriate that he does this, especially when your asleep.
With porn these are fictitious characters, but the scantily clad woman on instagram are real, that he could potentially follow, or send messages... (read in full...)
Shes dating a friend we work together. It hurts
Q. Hi Guys, need advise on how to move on from a woman who rejected me a few years back, we stayed friends for a while, but unfortunately some truths had to be said which made her lose trust in me, but the truth actually helped her navigate a few t...
A. 7 June 2023: Well this is the problem of dating someone you work with, when things go sour you then have to see this person every day, not giving you the chance to get over the relationship.
I think one of you has to leave and find work elsware, or block yo... (read in full...)
Shes dating a friend we work together. It hurts
Q. Hi Guys, need advise on how to move on from a woman who rejected me a few years back, we stayed friends for a while, but unfortunately some truths had to be said which made her lose trust in me, but the truth actually helped her navigate a few t...
A. 7 June 2023: test... (read in full...)
Questioning our friendship as she behaved oddly
Q. I’m probably overthinking this but it’s upset me and made me a little paranoid…. The other weekend my husband and I went to London for his Birthday - we were going to have a nice dinner, watch a show and see some of the attractions. ...
A. 22 May 2023: Well she did not make things easy for herself did she, as you say all she really had to do was just a simple text back saying have a nice time as well and catch up soon.
You have been friends with her for 14 years, has she ever done anything... (read in full...)
Want to leave my fiancé because of his rough family!
Q. ? ? ? ?Firstly I know this is going to come off as me sounding rude and snobbish but I need to vent. I’ve been with my fiancé for 4 years- we are due to get married next year but I’m having second thoughts because of his family. His f...
A. 22 May 2023: Once you marry him i suspect that his family will be playing a huge role in your life.
You are not married yet, so if you are having second thoughts before you get married listen to your gut feeling and what your heart is telling you. If your havi... (read in full...)
Emotional friend demands loyalty with ex
Q. A good friend of mine broke up with his ex around 1.5 years ago. He has been struggling with getting over the relationship and often is hurting and perhaps also dismantling his ex. I've often supported my friend who is also an amazing kind person ...
A. 22 May 2023: At the end of the day you are loyal to your friend and have been there for him through troubled times.
I think he needs to understand that this is business, you will be letting your apartment out so its completely business related. As you say you ... (read in full...)
Images of him with my friend haunt me
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for around seven months now and I am totally in love with him. After we first met and had been ‘talking’ for a few months I completely freaked out and started ignoring him for around two or three weeks. During ...
A. 18 May 2023: I think that in order for you to be free from the stresses you are feeling you need let them both go.
I feel it was a mistake starting something new with him, it was never going to work as you are never going to be able to get over the thought ... (read in full...)
Wait for fate or risk it
Q. Heya All, This is a petty question compared to most on here but was just looking the best way to approach a lady I find attractive. She works behind where I work at a women's hair salon and now and then I have seen her out the back having a c...
A. 24 March 2023: I think that sending her a message on FB would be a little creepy so I would refrain from going down that route.
I would advise just taking your time and just take one small step at a time. We really don't know her current situation do we, she ... (read in full...)
Am I correct in my opinion
Q. Hello. I’ve been seeing someone who’s a bit long distance. We hang out every 3 weeks. We take turns driving. I’m supposed to go up this weekend. To give him a heads up, I informed him I’ll be on my menstrual cycle. He says, “Lol..Not sure how to ...
A. 23 March 2023: I guess that you did what you thought was right, maybe he thought it was a bit of a random thing to say over text before you left to go down to see him.
I would give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he was just being considerate as his wife... (read in full...)
Is my partner trying to get me to leave him?
Q. My partner puts me down in public, calls me names and talks about his ex and how other women with different hair colour to me look better. When I'm out with him he is constantly looking at other women on purpose. It's starting to wear me down I'm ...
A. 20 March 2023: I have to ask but why are are you with him. This relationship brings more negatives than positives.
He wears you down, and as a consequence you are losing confidence in yourself and you see an unhappy woman when you look in the mirror, this is ... (read in full...)
Is she avoiding me now?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a little embarrassed even asking this because I think I know the answer but the mixed signals are confusing. I became friends with someone I used to work with and recently things progressed between us. As she's an ex-hairdresser I ...
A. 20 March 2023: You really don't know what's going on in her life, and under the influence of alcohol we do things that we don't normally do.
I am not saying that she never enjoyed the experience with you, or that she does not like you because she probably... (read in full...)
Girlfriend texted my friend for 5 hours. It was innocent but why 5 hours?
Q. Hello. I have been dating this girl for 3 months. We are in our late 30s. Initially it was her who fell in love with me and now I love her too. We meet like once a week and text from time to time. I introduced her to my best friend and we all hang...
A. 11 March 2023: You have known her for three months, you meet once a week, so i'm sorry but how can you possible be calling this love at this early stage?.
In the little time you have known her, what i call the getting to know you stage in a relation... (read in full...)
Wife gets spacey when I talk to her
Q. sometimes when i try to talk to my wife she pauses and looks out in space and say words that lead nowhere, can someone tell me if shes ok?...
A. 10 March 2023: There could be a myriad of suggestions and answers here, at the end of the day no one really knows.
If your concerned about this maybe get her to looked at by a professional. ... (read in full...)
My ex makes little effort with our son
Q. Hi I just need a bit of advice on what to do regarding my sons dad we split up a year ago due to him cheating on me with my best friend he has our son twice a week for 2 hours a day and also pays no maintenance the problem is he won’t do anything ...
A. 10 March 2023: I think that you should maybe seek some legal advice, and get some form of child maintenance plan set up as he should really be contributing to the upbringing of his child.
I fail to see why he does not do anything with his child, especial... (read in full...)
I'm in an unhappy relationship and feel trapped
Q. I’m in a 6 year old relationship and I’m trapped. We broke up 3 years ago and then she found out she was pregnant so we got back together and I love my boy more than anything in the world and would do anything for him. The relationship was never ...
A. 10 March 2023: At the end of the day like Honeypie says you are not married to her so stop giving her all your money for her to squander away on herself and nights out no doubt.
I know you got back together with her because you had a child with her, but you ... (read in full...)
I just want to get rid of my virginity and move on
Q. Heres my problem. I’m 20 and still a virgin and haven’t had my first kiss yet. For me personally it isn’t something that I’m purposefully avoiding nor do I have strong feelings about sex. Tbh I just want to get rid of it so I can just move on. ...
A. 6 March 2023: You have probably got it set in your mind what you are going to do anyway regardless of advice offered here on DC.
I will say that you should hold onto your virginity for as long as possible until you find that special person who you love with all... (read in full...)
Odd experience at a house viewing.
Q. I’m on here to see if anyone else has had odd experiences whilst viewing houses to buy? My fiancé and I are looking to buy our first property, so obviously we didn’t really know what to expect when viewing homes. None of our friends are home...
A. 4 March 2023: Well I have brought and sold and viewed many properties in my time, I can't say I have encountered any experiences like this.
I have heard of lonely people putting their property on the market with absolutely no intention to sell just to get s... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a bisexual man
Q. Hi Aunties, I have fallen hard for a guy, real hard. He is younger than me by 10years. He says he is straight, l am gay. We have kissed and cuddled and he sends me love messages and calls me his queen. He is real sweet with me. We stay in diff...
A. 3 March 2023: Maybe when his girlfriend goes home there is a slight possibility that you may be intimate again, but when she come's back he will then go cold on you leaving you feeling hurt, neglected and jealous.
I can't see things changing and i think he... (read in full...)
Former FWB still has feelings for me not reciprocated
Q. I’m not quite sure how to sort of approach this situation. It’s quite complicated but to go back to the start. 12 years ago I met my now husband - he was in a relationship so nothing happened between us at that time. I did however have a 4 year ...
A. 27 February 2023: Its a tricky one I must say, I know the right thing to do would be to tell your husband what happened. But as you say it would put their relationship of 3o years in jeopardy, and also your friendship with his wife no doubt.
For this guy to come ... (read in full...)
My bf is very dirty. What do I do?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. After 5 months in the relationship I slowly started unraveling a kind of lie by ommission. Turns out he is a very dirty person. He doesn't wash his teeth. Takes baths once every two weeks and wears ...
A. 27 February 2023: Like the other aunts said this could be a sign of depression. Also it could be all he knows, it could be growing up he was never told to wash, or look after himself and he has taken this into adulthood.
Its good that he has got you to look out... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend I'm gay?
Q. How do I tell my girlfriend that she was right to be worried and that I am actually gay? Long story short my girlfriend always had this 'feeling I was gay' because I've had sex with men and I've always denied it, I don't know maybe I was hidi...
A. 27 February 2023: You need to tell her the truth sooner rather than later. Its not fair on her to keep going on living a lie like this.
I think she kind of knows that you are gay, so yes she will be upset, but she will get over it.
You really need to step up ... (read in full...)
My wife is cheating with former threesome partner
Q. i recently discovered that my wife has been seeing a man that in the past we had two threesomes with.. these threesomes ended or so i thought,when i had to have pelvis surgery due to a car accident..... unfortunetly the surgery affected my ability ...
A. 27 February 2023: I am sorry about what you are going through, this can't be easy.
Unfortunately this is the result of involving a third party within a marriage, looking back at previous DC posts threesomes never end well. You are potentially risking bringing... (read in full...)
An affair thats remembered
Q. why cant i forget an affair my husband had 20 years ago we are happy now but its alwas in the back of my mind...
A. 20 February 2023: To put it simply the trust barrier was broken and once this happens the damage is often irreparable.
Trust is the most important contributing factor that bind a relationship together, without trust a relationship normally takes a downward... (read in full...)
Came face to face with a dreadful, abusive ex and it was awful. How should I behave if I see him again?
Q. I was in a terribly emotionally abusive relationship for about 3 years, many years ago. He was my high school boyfriend and everything seemed fine at first but then started spiralling out of control really fast. He would call me the worst of names, ...
A. 9 February 2023: I think as you live in such a small town, the chances of bumping into him on instances such as this are extremely high. I know its not easy seeing him as he caused you so much turmoil when you were at school.
Apart from move away to a more dis... (read in full...)
How does an open relationship work for others?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 22 years and sex is still great, but pretty much the same way much of the time. Lately, we have been talking about maybe trying an open relationship and seeing others. We have a very strong marriage and I think ...
A. 9 February 2023: Well i have never tried it so i can't offer you advice on how it's working for me.
The only advice i can offer is hearing about other peoples experiences and previous posts relating to this topic here on DC. From what i can gather is once you star... (read in full...)
Should I rethink things?
Q. He expected a thank you for getting a coca cola for my mother and asked me on the phone if my mother got the coke so I said yeah why? and he told me where was his thank you and I told him that when he asks for a thank you after he wants to do ...
A. 8 February 2023: I know what you mean when you say you do things out of your own votality. I think in situations where you do an anonymous favour to help someone out your not expecting please and thank you's.
But I think if someone did a favour for me as describe... (read in full...)
I don't feel comfortable about my mom's partner and she won't back me up
Q. Hi, sorry this question is rather long. I'm an adult and hopefully moving out soon, but I have been struggling with my mother and her partner. They have been together for 9 years after my parents' divorce. I suffered abuse from my estranged father...
A. 8 February 2023: I really sorry for what happened to you in your childhhood, this can't have been an easy thing to go through.
You start by saying he is sometimes nice to you, and is good to your mother, and offered you the use of his flat etc.
Ok I agree I ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend abused me should I leave him?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for the past 2 years. We had plans to get married and settle down. But we were recently in a 9 month long distance and I was flirtatiously texting some guys which i thought was harmless. There was one guy ...
A. 8 February 2023: No i don't think you should persue this relationship, i think the relationship has met its end.
It met its end when you started texting other guys, which you and i both know is wrong.
You have broken the trust barrier, often once this happen... (read in full...)
What happens at bachelor's parties?
Q. What happens at bachelor's parties? My wife has been asked to be the stripper for a friend of someone she knows. It's suppose to take place in March and she says it sounds exciting, but I need to hear what others think about it, before I give her ...
A. 8 February 2023: Like i said in your previous post i could not imagine many guy's being ok with this.
She is stripping, i assume to the point of being naked, with a load a drunk guy's oggling, and even touching.
Is this going to be a one off?. I suspect ... (read in full...)
My friend won’t accept no for an answer over a particular situation.
Q. ? ? So this is a really odd scenario. When I was 13 my parents built a granny annex next to our house - it was for my grandmother to live in after my grandad died- when she also passed away my sister and I had sleepovers in it and we have l...
A. 8 February 2023: She seems to be putting a lot of time and energy into one annex, almost like she is obsessing over it.
If its not her trying to move into it, its everyone she knows, then she makes you feel guilty about her step sister.
I don't know why s... (read in full...)
Will it be ok to let my wife be the stripper for a bachelor party?
Q. Before the pandemic, my wife, now 34, was a dancer at a club out of town. Recently, one of the other girls that danced there, contacted my wife and asked her if she would consider being a stripper for her brother's friend's bachelor. My wife told ...
A. 8 February 2023: I personally would not be happy with my wife/girlfriend dancing and stripping for a bunch of guy's looking, oggling, or even touching her.
I guess you must be ok with it to a certain extent because she did this before the pandemic.
Will th... (read in full...)
Why is my ex reaching out after so long?
Q. I dated this guy about three years ago. We had a great relationship when we were together, however, he kept going back and fourth between me and his ex whom he has a young son with and I was caught in the middle. It was a toxic cycle that I finally ...
A. 8 February 2023: I don't think there is any reason what so ever for you to still be in contact with him.
He messed you you around, you were caught up in his tangled web of mess with his ex and their child and as a consequence caused you a lot of stress.
Ther... (read in full...)
I cant shake the feeling that he cheated and wants to be with the other woman
Q. I need some help please. I KNOW my fiancé was having an affair. He never confirmed it in fact he completely denies it, but I KNOW. We’ve been together 6 years and have a 1 year old son. A year ago his behaviour changed. The usual signs. He was ma...
A. 21 January 2023: It kind of sounds like there was something going on with this snap chat person, then for whatever reason things ended, maybe she finished things with him and he crawled back to you, who knows.
The problem now is the trust barrier has been bro... (read in full...)
Complicated flirting situation, really need advice!!!
Q. I really need some advice here because I have no one to talk to about this. I have a very strong crush and I think he feels the same way but I just can't be sure. He flirts with me a lot, or at least it seems that way to me. The last time I...
A. 21 January 2023: You don't say in what sort of situations these things are happening.
If he is your medical doctor and all this is happening at the practice then i will say leave it and keep things professional, and that also being the professional he is he shoul... (read in full...)
I want a married woman
Q. I am interested in having an affair with a married woman. I really enjoy the forbidden aspect of it all, as well as the low maintenance. Can anyone suggest a good way to meet married women?...
A. 18 January 2023: I am not going to suggest how to meet a married woman because I think unfaithfulness is wrong on all levels.
Why do you want a married woman anyway and not an easy life with someone who is single?.
You might enjoy all the sneaking around ... (read in full...)
How to seduce a woman much older than you.
Q. I am friends with a woman much older than me. I think she is probably 70. I am early 50's. I am interested in having a NSA sexual relationship with her, but I don't know how to turn the relationship sexual, as we are just friends and walking part...
A. 18 January 2023: I would just be yourself and don't force things, and let things happen easy and naturally.
Keep on doing what your doing, being friends, keep enjoying your walks, and let things materialise over the natural course of time.
You are in yo... (read in full...)
How can I have peace
Q. Hello I have been with my fiancee for about 6 years. The first 2 years were great! He was loving, attentive, and very charming. Then he turned into a nightmare. He lacks communication skills and gets angry very quickly. I've pretty muc...
A. 18 January 2023: Sounds to me like this relationship has run its course and going by what yo have said I think its time to call it a day.
Relationships are supposed to be 50/50, not one person doing all the leg work to keep it going.
Is there something keepin... (read in full...)
How can I have peace
Q. Hello I have been with my fiancee for about 6 years. The first 2 years were great! He was loving, attentive, and very charming. Then he turned into a nightmare. He lacks communication skills and gets angry very quickly. I've pretty muc...
A. 18 January 2023: Test... (read in full...)
He is in jail and I don't need the stress
Q. Hi I met a guy in 2020 and ten months after he was arrested and kept in prison. At first he was saying he would get out and that he had done nothing wrong. Then in November just gone he was sentenced to 17 years for a serious gang related cri...
A. 15 January 2023: I don't think that you should feel bad, this would be no life for you. I am assuming this when you met him in 2010 he kept that side of his life secret to you?.
OP none of this is your fault, but the best thing you could do now is wish him well... (read in full...)
How do I politely ask my friend to move out of my home?
Q. ? ?A friend of mine that I’ve know for over 20 years recently separated from her husband- she was struggling to find somewhere to live so she asked if she could move in with me and my family for a month until she found somewhere. S...
A. 13 January 2023: A classic example of being the perfect housemate in the beginning then becoming messy and lazy onece she has got her feet firmly under the table.
She has got used to paying no rent, and doing absolutely nothing around the house and being waited o... (read in full...)
Did she pick this trick up?
Q. Have been married 27 years and my wife let me cum in her mouth for the first time. I have always told her I was coming in past and she would immediately stop This time she kept going like she had done it before. Swallowed it all D...
A. 13 January 2023: Maybe its just something that she was always afraid of doing, but at the end of the day its any ones guess.
Maybe after all these years she just thought what the heck and just go for it.
Not sure if she just picked up the skill on the sid... (read in full...)
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