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writes:A good friend of mine broke up with his ex around 1.5 years ago. He has been struggling with getting over the relationship and often is hurting and perhaps also dismantling his ex. I've often supported my friend who is also an amazing kind person but also extremely emotional. I'm renting my apartment for a short term and his ex got in touch about renting it. I wouldn't see his ex, it would be a business transaction with someone I know and trust. I went to my friend to ask him how he would feel (not what I should do), and he told me not to rent it. This is deeply unsettling for me as he's telling me what to do and also his unresolved emotional state is affecting my financial dealings. When I asked him what his reservations were he feels "invaded by his ex" and doesn't wish to "let him enjoy the comfort of his friendship circles", essentially he expects out of loyalty to his friends to ghost this person in all senses. For me, I'm left unsettled and disturbed by this. Am I being unreasonable? I wouldn't expect my friend to do this for me. I have no interest in friendship but in renting my place to cover my holiday.
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reader, kenny +, writes (22 May 2023):
 At the end of the day you are loyal to your friend and have been there for him through troubled times.
I think he needs to understand that this is business, you will be letting your apartment out so its completely business related. As you say you will not even be seeing her, its not like you will both be living together.
I think he needs to get a grip, they split up 1.5 years ago, he should be over this buy now. I feel you should go ahead and let it out as planned, and you should not feel bad for doing so.
You are not being unreasonable at all, far from it, you are renting it to cover your holiday.
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