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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello. I’ve been seeing someone who’s a bit long distance. We hang out every 3 weeks. We take turns driving. I’m supposed to go up this weekend. To give him a heads up, I informed him I’ll be on my menstrual cycle. He says, “Lol..Not sure how to respond to that are you still coming? Do you prefer to make it the following weekend? Not sure of your sexual desire during your period”I didn’t take kindly to that. He keeps saying it was out of concern for me bc his ex wife used to get really ill. I don’t see what they has to do w me bc we are all different. I took it as if we can’t have sex, then reschedule. I felt rejected bc I took it as might as well not go if there’s no sex. He’s been blowing up my phone since saying to Just come see him. But that was after I took offense. Did I exaggerate or am I correct in my opinion ?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 March 2023):
 I think he spoke from HIS experience. I know some women (my daughters for instance) get serious cramps and generally feel blah during the first 2-3 days, I was often easier irritated leading up to my period, but like you said EACH woman is different.
He asked YOU if YOU would be more comfortable waiting a week, and yes it seems like he PRESUMED you would WANT to have sex when you meet up.
I think you took as an " If we can't have sex due to your period come next week" but I think you took HIS concern for YOUR comfort as a negative.
If you still want to see if this man is for you, JUST reschedule and TALK this out in person.
Texting is not a great way to talk about issues.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (23 March 2023):
 I guess that you did what you thought was right, maybe he thought it was a bit of a random thing to say over text before you left to go down to see him.
I would give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he was just being considerate as his wife used to get ill at this time of the month.
I think maybe you should of refrained from sending that text. I think the more appropriate time to disclose that would have been when you are actually at his and your both in a relaxed and more comfortable situation, like when your having a cuddle on the sofa or something.
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