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writes: Hello I have been with my fiancee for about 6 years. The first 2 years were great! He was loving, attentive, and very charming. Then he turned into a nightmare. He lacks communication skills and gets angry very quickly. I've pretty much carried the weight of our relationship, financially. He keeps telling me one day I'll be sorry because he will make it big. Then he will leave me.When he gets angry which is alot he calls me old and a fool. I am 10 years older granted but don't deserve it thrown in my face. He suggested today that he betters himself and doesn't need my negativity. Which is completely calling the kettle black cause I never am mean to him . So I said fine, find somewhere you can go. Any suggestions for keeping him out so I can finally have peace?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2023): It seems the relationship has run its course, and he's just now allowing you the option to end it.
Some guys will just blindside you, or dump you cold; but some want a drama-free breakup. They accomplish it by becoming a moron, obnoxious, and argumentative. By allowing the relationship to deteriorate and slowly erode; this weans you off little by little. You'll give-up in frustration, and kick him out.
Thus, you'll end the relationship yourself. He's off the hook, there is a minimum of breakup drama; and you'll move-on quicker than a woman who got dumped.
It's the old, "let her shrivel-up and drop-off like a skin-tag" approach; used by narcissists, cowards, and tools.
The longer you cling, the worse it gets. If he tried to dump you, he'd have to go through your temper-tantrums, public scenes, endless calls and messages all day and night; and he can't date other women, because you'll be on him like white on rice. Not to mention some of the horrible things some scorned-women do in contemptuous retaliation, or out of spite. If you have a history of psychotic-behavior; he may be afraid of you, and what you might do if he ups and leaves you. Just being a d!ck might be an easier way to make you give-up and let-go voluntarily. You be the judge. Peace comes when you end it.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (18 January 2023):
 Sweetheart, you need to start to love YOURSELF instead of this selfish nasty spoiled man child you call your fiancé. It is YOU who is too good for HIM, not the other way round.
If it is your house you live in, throw him out, change the locks, block his number so he can't contact you and leave him to "make it big" (ha ha!) while you enjoy a bit of well-deserved peace and quiet.
If you live in HIS house, find somewhere to go as quickly as possible and don't even tell him where you are going.
Be strong. You deserve so much better.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 January 2023):
 Why are you still with him?
If he hasn't "made it big" in those 6 years, what makes you think he EVER will?
He sounds like a leech. A drain on your finances AND your emotions.
Dump him and LIVE a happy peaceful life. Find someone who can"
1. Carry his own weight.
2. Appreciate you for you.
3. Someone who is a good fit, but THIS one isn't.
He sounds like a dickwad.
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reader, kenny +, writes (18 January 2023):
 Sounds to me like this relationship has run its course and going by what yo have said I think its time to call it a day.
Relationships are supposed to be 50/50, not one person doing all the leg work to keep it going.
Is there something keeping you there in this relationship?. He treats you like something he found on the bottom of his shoe, and you deserve better. On top of him being a complete arse you are carrying him financially, OP this has got to stop.
I don't know what your living arrangements are, but I suggest what ever they are you end this relationship now, kick him out, or you move out. I don't envisage things getting better anytime soon, so I would act sooner rather than later.
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reader, kenny +, writes (18 January 2023):
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2023): You do not give any details about your arrangement. Where do you live? Is he staying in the appartment YOU own? Is his name on any of the documents? Is your address listed in his documents? Do you have a joint account?
If he's just staying with you from time to time and you have no joint investments, just change the locks and notify the police.
Here where we live it is possible to notify the police, so that they can take your statement and any evidence, without them having to take it any further than that unless you demand or unless things escalate.
And for the obvious, he sounds as someone who's hitched a ride, except it wasn't as amusing as he had expected.
I'm sorry to break it to you, but he thought that you should be grateful to him for being with you.
And by accepting to financially support him, you have also controlled him, sinnce I suppose that you didn't fulfill all of his whims.
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