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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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What can we do to make my boyfriend's mother see that he is a grown up?
Q. My bf Jack is in the army, he is VERY close to his family espically his parents and I love that about him. He was deployed for a year and just came back 3 weeks ago and his mom is driving us crazy. we both lived at home with our parents before he ...
A. 19 October 2010: There is a pursuer/distancer relationship between mom and son. The more she bugs him, the more he runs away. It's good that your boyfriend can say no, but it's even better if he could express his feelings to her about her overprotectiveness so that ... (read in full...)
Getting over a broken heart... I don't understand what's wrong...
Q. Two years ago, a man moved into my apartment (we had been talking over the phone for a month before he moved to the state and there were already sparks). When he moved in, we were immediately intimate and close and for about 7-8 months we spent all ...
A. 19 October 2010: He falls into the category of the walking wounded. There is something about you that reminds him of one of his exes. The reason could be as simple as because you are woman, and think like a woman. There are painful feelings he hasn't finished ... (read in full...)
How can a real girl ever be enough for a man?
Q. How can a real girl ever be enough for a man? I mean, I have talked with many guys my age, and they have all agreed when I asked them whether a porn star has a hotter or better body than a normal girl, they have all said yes! The typical porn star ...
A. 18 October 2010: I think you are gathering answers so you can decide whether breast implants would be worth it. I don't have implants myself because I was too scared. I grew a cup size after having my son, but my waistline grew also. Besides medical complications, a ... (read in full...)
Doubts about God and his laws regarding my relationships with partners
Q. Hi guys, I need some relationship advise concerned with Christianity. I am a protestant Christian, but i'm having trouble getting a relationship with god. Sometimes i'm afraid that he's not real and i am wasting my time and the whole bible thin...
A. 18 October 2010: There are two types of people. The thinking type and the feeling type. I am not saying those who think do not feel at all or vice versa, it's just that one side of their personality is dominant. Christianity is for the feeling type, they are not ... (read in full...)
Working in a prison, I've fallen in love with a prisoner
Q. I work in a prison as a librarian and seem to have fallen for a prisoner. He has told me that he likes me. I just don't know what to do. He's out in 6 weeks and seems very geniune about the possibility of us. I havent given too much away to him as ...
A. 17 October 2010: The heartache you feel now is a thousand times better if something were to happen to you later. We all fall in love numerous times, and many times just wasted energy. It doesn't matter if he's a prisoner at all, if you have a feeling that it's not ... (read in full...)
My new husband just found out he's the father of his ex's baby
Q. My husband and I dated for almost 2 years before recently getting married. Just a few days after the ceremony, we got a call from his crazy ex girlfriend who had never left us alone the whole time we had been together. She was saying she just had a ...
A. 17 October 2010: Was there a paternity test done?
For me, I have no problems raising a kid not mine. I had done it before. Children are innocent even if the baby is a product of "heat of the moment" mistake. If you want this to work you have to say to yourself over... (read in full...)
I can't stand being single anymore!!!
Q. Hello I am 17 years old and still in high school. I can't stand being single anymore. I really can't. I have never kissed a girl before never been loved by a girl before I can't take it. I see all these other people getting all this love but for ...
A. 17 October 2010: No one has to have a relationship with you. You are created to keep the world going round, being a part of a money making, society contributing individual. Some day one woman would come to you and ask you to join in her efforts of making each ... (read in full...)
Living with very obsessive much older man & scared to go on a secret free weeked trip with my ex
Q. I'm in urgent need of 100% honest advice. I don't have much time so this is why I'm reaching out. Just for the sake of imagination I'm blond, female in mid 30s slim build, cute, look much younger than I am. Here's my situation.. I've been living ...
A. 15 October 2010: Alec just wants to know he has the charms for you still. Your quiet response showed him all. A happy housewife would have just flat out rejected his offer and tell him to buzz off. You didn't really need to say anything to him. You made the trip ... (read in full...)
Why did he get quiet after I asked him if he was sure if he wanted to live with me?
Q. My boyfriend and i have known each other for 6 years. We decided to get back together earlier in the year. He lives 2 counties away and have to pass my county to go to work. So i asked him did he want to live with me to make his travel better. He ...
A. 15 October 2010: Does your second sentence imply you had lived with him before, broke up, then got back together? I know it's a guy thing to want to come to their own decisions without a girl's asking first. You are both trying to play it safe by talking about ... (read in full...)
I found pictures of my boyfriend wearing woman's lingerie
Q. yesturday afternoon i was looking at pictures on my boyfriends computer of a trip we had just taken. In the folder there was a secret folder that i clicked on and inside i found photos of my boyfriend in a thong and wonmans lingerie aswell asa ...
A. 15 October 2010: Cross dressing is like a repressed desire to escape from being a man all the time. It's not necessarily gay. You see that a lot in Northern California where people celebrate freedom and artistic expression. If you are weirded out by this he needs to ... (read in full...)
His ex wants to meet him for closure but I'm uncomfortable with it!
Q. My boyfriend got out of a 5 year relationship about 6 months ago. I have been seeing him for the past 3 months. It is the only girl he has ever loved. Now that she is single she has been texting and calling him (not a lot but enough) and has ...
A. 14 October 2010: People meet their exes for a few reasons. Here are just some ideas. Because they had been a part of their lives and they want to check in with them, make sure they are okay. It makes them feel better knowing that no one is hurting anymore. Maybe he ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have this kind of serious relationship in college?
Q. Hello, I have been in the same relationship for almost two years. Both me girlfriend and I are 19 and in college full time. We are both in love and devoted to each other. Our problem is that we argue a lot. Typically, an arguments results in her ...
A. 14 October 2010: It's possible to have a serious relationship in college, but not like that. She can't have a serious relationship because she's the selfish one. She cries and yells to get what she wants. She only calms down because she got what she wanted, which is ... (read in full...)
How can a real girl ever be enough for a man?
Q. How can a real girl ever be enough for a man? I mean, I have talked with many guys my age, and they have all agreed when I asked them whether a porn star has a hotter or better body than a normal girl, they have all said yes! The typical porn star ...
A. 13 October 2010: I have to disagree that a real woman with an imperfect body is not enough for a man. You may be overanalyzing for a simple answer he gave. A woman with enhanced feature does not make one unreal.
I don't have a perfect body (had a C section and lots... (read in full...)
Raised my stepdaughter as my real child up until I caught her having sex
Q. I am 44 and have been happily married for 10 years. I have no children of my own, but my wife has a daughter from a previous marriage. I love her to death and raised her as my own since she was 6 years old. She is now 16, turning 17 in 2 months ...
A. 13 October 2010: Your job as a father doesn't end when a daughter becomes a sexual being. What advice do you have for her regarding relationships? This is your house and you have to tell her what's acceptable, what's not. One of the biggest reasons teenagers ... (read in full...)
How much will it take me to leave?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been married to my husband for nearly 12 years. I am now 26, he is now 30. In the beginning of our marriage was bad, he cheated with one of my best friends 6 months after we were married, than a year later with another ...
A. 12 October 2010: I admire your courage to take care of four kids while being in school. You put your kids before your needs. You are a good woman. You are under no obligation to stay in this marriage. A divorce would be the best thing for you and your kids. You ... (read in full...)
B/f asked me to move in with him but I'm afraid of losing myself!
Q. My boyfriend has asked me to move in with him. It's a big deal to me because I've never lived with a guy before and I usually need a lot of my own space in relationships. I'm wondering if anyone else who likes their own space has experience with ...
A. 12 October 2010: It's very early for him to want you to move in. You have not gone through enough ups and downs. It's dangerous to involve yourself in a long term decision when you are unsure whether you accept each other. You think his intention is actually for ... (read in full...)
Do you always need to compromise on the things you want in a relationship?
Q. Hi there. I broke up with my boyfriend (of 3 years) about a month ago because he was downloading porn. He refused to meet me half way on the subject and didn't care about how i felt on the topic. To be clear, the issue is not him downloading porn...
A. 12 October 2010: If my boyfriend gets hurt that I watched porn (and that's a very unlikly if), I would stop watching it. His feelings are more important than my quick release. Your reasons for leaving your boyfriend is valid. His insensitivity to the porn issue can ... (read in full...)
Got back together after a break up, but wondering if my depression is getting in the way of things being perfect again
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for a year and a half and I love him with all my heart. In the summer we were supposed to be going away on holiday together and he split up with me a week before we were due to fly, I was totally heartbroken and he ...
A. 11 October 2010: My boyfriend broke up with me for something stupid. He talked to a friend about Asian families and then assumed that my family was racist. Then I had to tell him it's not true, it's just that the whole culture is racist. My parents being concerned ... (read in full...)
Obsessed with our school resource officer
Q. Im seventeen years old and im in love with my school resource officer. i know he cares about me because he tells me all thee time but i cant helpp my feelings for him. i always want to be around him and i do anything i can to have an excuse to see ...
A. 11 October 2010: You will turn thirty something one day, look back, and then all you would feel is disgust at men who take advantage of a young girl's heart, while masturbating next to his sleeping wife. Your obssession will end if you actually ask him to lie next ... (read in full...)
I'm a near perfect husband! Why has she left me?
Q. My wife of 2 years (together for 7) moved out about 2 months ago because she needed time to find herself and learn to love herself. After that, things spiraled downward drastically. A man she met on a trip earlier this summer visited her the very ...
A. 11 October 2010: There is not enough information, I was looking for some on the physical intimacy department. But here are some wild guesses. Some women or men equate perfect with boring. She wants the passion that only a man at the infatuation period can give her. ... (read in full...)
My fiance told me he is bi!
Q. hi there... i'm engaged and recently my fiance told me he is bi!!! before we met he got drunk one evening at a friends place and one thin lead to another and they had sex! he always had a desire for a man and has suppressed this for 35 y...
A. 11 October 2010: The fact that he tells you he's bi after you are engaged is wrong. He should have done that at the beginning you want to be boyfriends girlfriends. Tell him suppressing it is not good, not healthy. I don't want to live with a man always suppressing ... (read in full...)
I like my friend's ex but she says it will get awkward if we try to date
Q. Recently I started to like my friend's ex. The story is, before this I toltally blocked out any feelings for this girl because she was my friends ex. After giving in some thought and rethinking it, I actually saw a bright relationship with this ...
A. 11 October 2010: What does eating rusk have to do with a bright future with that person?
The problem is that it's a competition between two guys. When you get the girl you are the alpha male and your friend becomes the loser. Think about two elks locking their horn... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is jealous of my kids!
Q. Hope someone can give me some advice.. my new girlfriend is, i feel, a little jealous of my kids. We've been together 9 months and i really think a lot of her. She says she loves me. Recently the idea of moving in together has been discussed b...
A. 11 October 2010: Oh, you are looking at your options here. I will not be jealous of a man's kids provided that the man looks at me as an equal, not just a mommy figure and a housemaker. I do know that some men compensate the loss of a wife by being really really ... (read in full...)
(User's title) To stay or not to stay
Q. Please help very confused. I married a man that I got along very well with 2 years ago. He married me with a child ( boy) who was 6 when we first started dating. As the few years went by I noticed the relationship between my son and husband started ...
A. 10 October 2010: You have no choice but to divorce your husband if you haven't already. This new guy doesn't mind that you still loves your husband and is showing you and your son lots of love, he has total rights to be a full time father to your son. If your ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is jealous of my kids!
Q. Hope someone can give me some advice.. my new girlfriend is, i feel, a little jealous of my kids. We've been together 9 months and i really think a lot of her. She says she loves me. Recently the idea of moving in together has been discussed b...
A. 10 October 2010: She didn't tell you her concerns so you can tell her take it or leave it, she's trying to express her feelings to you in the hopes that you would say something like, "it's okay to feel that way, I love you very much." You should be happy that she's ... (read in full...)
Peoples sudden ability to rip apart ones heart that they loved, one time!
Q. How is it so easy for humans to just fucking shred the life and heart out of another in any instance, but im speaking of 2 people as deeply in love as you can get, who stay with each other for along time, one of them starts to lose it, but they do ...
A. 9 October 2010: She sees the rest of her life having the relationship that most people envy but yet she misses that chasing, that heart throbbing feeling when she meets a fresh guy, the thoughts I can't live without you at the beginning. She has an unrealistic idea ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want a girlfriend because "things are too crazy"
Q. I'm just wondering.i had a boyfriend,he always saying that he's so lucky for having me.that he want to share his life with me.but why?he broke up wth me,why is it?i thought he loves me,and it's breaking my heart.those promises.why?he said he decided ...
A. 9 October 2010: When things are crazy, I think he's referring to him being emotional and dealing with your emotions also. Feelings are unknown territory for guys and it's dangerous for them to trespass. Boys learn to become men, learn to hunt and protect. Talking ... (read in full...)
Autism is preventing me from having relationships. Help?
Q. I was diagnosed with Aperger's syndrome when I was a young child. The basic description of that is that you are exceptional at some things and lacking at others. I, for one, have photographic memory. Many people say that they have it, but the...
A. 9 October 2010: Also, some guys won't stick around because they want instant gratification, meaning they don't want to work too hard to get sex. So the ones who leave are probably the ones who only like you for that.
When you look around on this site, you will... (read in full...)
Autism is preventing me from having relationships. Help?
Q. I was diagnosed with Aperger's syndrome when I was a young child. The basic description of that is that you are exceptional at some things and lacking at others. I, for one, have photographic memory. Many people say that they have it, but the...
A. 9 October 2010: I think you are just sensitive, in a good way though. Also you are young, you may not feel this way ten years from now. Feelings and logic are separate, but you can still analyze every step of your way and make sense of what's going on. This guy ... (read in full...)
My friend is after my ex, do I confront him about it?
Q. Ok so my girlfriend and i have been broken up for about 5-6 months now but i still care for her very much. To be honest shes the first thing i think about after i wake up and last thing before i go to sleep. Ive tried to improve my self in every ...
A. 9 October 2010: It looks like the relationship broke down because she became interested in your friend, not that you broke up, then he tried to swoop in. If it's premeditated, then there is nothing you can do. It's not that you have to be more muscular, or more ... (read in full...)
My life is a mess and I feel trapped! HELP!
Q. I'm 17, and I just can't DO this anymore. I don't know. I'm so bored, alone. Trapped in my city and I hate it so much. The only thing keeping me going is the promise of going to Univerisy next year, but that's stressing me out and I don't know. I'm ...
A. 8 October 2010: Many young people secretly feel like this. I had no decent boyfriend at uni, I joined clubs but found no one who's interested in me. I also found it awkward to just say hi to a guy out of nowhere and ask him if he's interested in dating. Try posting ... (read in full...)
I want to stop my daughter from making a big mistake!
Q. My 20 yr old daughter is making the biggest mistake of her life, I know that everyone says kids need to learn by their mistakes and I totally agree but not when it can ruin their future. 5 months ago she came home and told us that she was dating a...
A. 8 October 2010: Tell her the financial burden that guy has, and that love is indeed conditional after they start a family. If she doesn't get a degree and become a housewife, unless he is very rich it means you, as the father would provide have to supplement their ... (read in full...)
Unattended by hubby so I cheat and then feel so shameful! Please advise.
Q. I need some help I cant stop seeking and cheating on my husband i love him very much however he is so cold to me and not supportive of me in any ways that i can think of. I constantly seek out the eyes and hands of other men to fill a void i feel ...
A. 6 October 2010: You can get through to him better by using fewer words and be more direct about what you want. For example, "I want more passion," "I want you to be more attentive to my needs." are going to make him feel like failure, and he's going to scratch his ... (read in full...)
What do you think, was my husband born gay ?
Q. I've been married for 20 years, and I caught my husband cheating on me with a man.He was doing that for more than 10 years, and he was keeping that as a secret. He had more than one long relationships with man. We have a daughter 13 years and it was ...
A. 6 October 2010: I believe sexuality is biological, not environmental, which means he can't change his sexuality even though he loves you. I don't condone cheating at all, but I would be sensitive to the fact that gays are vulnerable to attacks for their sexual ... (read in full...)
How long is too down? The sex has never been good and now I don't look forward to being with my husband.
Q. I have been married for 21 years. During that time our sex life has never been that great for me,. For the past 10 years I have had no desire to have sex with my husband, do so just to keep him happy as a wife should, normally only last a couple ...
A. 6 October 2010: He works 6 or 7 days a week while you are the only one taking care of the kids. There is only so much he and you can do. The only time you have is work, food, and rest. A big part of you is neglected, the essence of you being a woman, not just a ... (read in full...)
Reasonably angry or crazy sensitive?
Q. My boyfriend has very special ways to just completely enrage me. Normally I am very even tempered but he has a way to just make me lose it! We have been to many sporting events together. We are usually cheering, drinking, having a great time and...
A. 5 October 2010: If a guy does that to me, I would just say no, that's it. No need to explain yourself, no need to question his intention. He is mad not because you declined his request, he's mad at your reaction to being treated like an object. Tell him to keep his ... (read in full...)
Hellllp!!!!How much porn is too much?
Q. Recently I've found my boyfriends porn stash on his hard drive. We've been together a year and I know he has always watched porn but it has never bothered me before. I watch it myself and use toys, plus we are both very adventurous in bed! Howe...
A. 5 October 2010: It's too much when he rather looks at porn than have sex with you. Out of those 4900 clips, I would say more than half of them is mediocre. As long as he knows what's fantasy, what's real, you don't have to worry too much. Those girls are just to ... (read in full...)
I don't want to come across to her as desperate. What do I do here?
Q. Hello everybody.. My girlfriend doesnt have time for me but i do not care . I love her so much its hard to let her go. I think i have annoyed her asking her to go out more often since she usually doesnt trust most people in her life. I pissed her ...
A. 5 October 2010: Whether she likes to talk to you or not, you need to get her a pregnancy test. She might be avoiding this conversation, like she is in denial. The earlier you find out the better. If she's worried about the future, flowers and gifts are not going to ... (read in full...)
Husband after marriage asked about my past and then served me with divorce papers!
Q. My husband and I are married for 10 months. Right after we got married he strictly asked me if there was anything about my past I wanted to share. So I believe in you marry your best friend and I told him somethings that I had done that I'm not so ...
A. 5 October 2010: I would like to say that a lot of men are not like that. He's probably suffering from retroactive jealousy. This term has been talked a lot on this site and no successful advice has been offered so far I know. There are many people posting their ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, is he interested in me?
Q. There is a guy i'm interested in. I've known him as an aquaintance since i was about 16, i'm now 28. Over the last 6 months we've started to get to know each other better. When i was younger i didn't really have an attraction for him but i always ...
A. 4 October 2010: They have a problem they can't fix but they wouldn't break up because he's a wuss? He needs you to give him an extra reason that breaking up is a good thing to do. Never yield to this. Until he breaks up with his girlfriend, you are his friend only. ... (read in full...)
Is he just trying to break it off in a nice way? or is he legit?
Q. I recently ran into an old classmate on a social networking website. We exchanged text messages multiple times a day and even spoke for hours at a time on the phone. We made plans to get together, being that we live an hour and a half away from one ...
A. 4 October 2010: The lustfulness will be there even if you are just friends, especially if he has been celibate for a long time. How do you feel about his religious attitude? You like it or are you turned off by it? The only way for him not to sin is to remain ... (read in full...)
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