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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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How should I act? I wan't her to give me another chance!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for nearly three and a half years and she decided she wanted a break from the relationship. It's been going downhill with arguments started by me being a complete jerk 99.9% of the time (not being self-blaming, ...
A. 29 August 2010: I think you should calm down. She still loves you but want to understand men a little bit more before she invests in you again. She wants to see that you are emotionally stable enough to handle the vigors of a love relationship. You don't feel equ... (read in full...)
Do I sit and hope? or accept and forget?
Q. I sure need some help here guys. My boyfriend of 4 years has broken up with me. i did something a bit underhand and sneaky and i used his 16 year old daughter to get some info out of her. i onlt did it cos hes not very talkative and im extreamly ...
A. 29 August 2010: By tapping into his privacy, and assuming he's hiding something, you are implying that he's just like other men, that made him feel he's not special to you anymore. You are also trying to turn his daughter against him. What do you mean proper h... (read in full...)
Am I the reason he does this?
Q. I need someone to talk to. My 46 year old boyfriend is a pothead. This was hidden from me when we met and he knew I was against it. I moved in with him and soon he was smoking pot with his friend. It was of course for pain from an old ingury. Next ...
A. 29 August 2010: First of all, my answer should be very short: When you hear verbal abuse, you leave immediately. But since your question is about why men act this way towards women, I attempt to explain in a man's point of view. I should stress that there is never ... (read in full...)
Do I still love her?
Q. I don't think I love my girlfriend anymore. I'm 21 and she is 20, we have been together nearly 2 years and its been good.. but lately i have been feeling like i'm missing out. She is my first serious relationship, I only just started really e...
A. 29 August 2010: You would find that with every girl you are going to repeat the same cycle again: chasing, falling in love, settling down, handling conflicts, losing confidence. The important thing is to communicate well to patch up the disconnect you feel. Have ... (read in full...)
Id rather us try and have it possibly fail then not try at all
Q. Hi there, I could really do with some advice... I met this guy at a club 6 or 7 weeks ago and we were "getting off" as they call it for about 45 minutes. We exchanged numbers and he started texting me every single day. We started to get more flir...
A. 28 August 2010: Could it be possible that you want this to work in order to proove that he wants you for more than sex? You need to be more assertive about who you are, and be confident that a man would like your personality and your mind as well as your body. You ... (read in full...)
Was I just a back up if his LDR didn't work out?
Q. Hi I posted a Q on here a while bk about me and my ex, he walked out in feb and started seeing another woman abroad, but still seeing me, i knew about her but she didnt no he was seeing me but knew i was his partner of 12years (with 4 kids) Well a f...
A. 27 August 2010: He's still distant and says because he's scared, perhaps of hurting you one more time? You have to find out whether he's staying for comfort, for guilt, or for obligation. He has to stay because he likes being with you, and that your presence would ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend hates me..so why wont he let me leave?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. we have gone through some really really hard things together. i have forgivin him for cheating on me...and lying about it and he forgave me for hitting him. which i feel bad for but in the moment i...
A. 27 August 2010: Because you feed his narcisstic need to be right and in control. By rallying with his friends against you, he feels a high about being supported. Let him hang out with his rotten friends. He needs someone to hate because that makes him feel ... (read in full...)
Should I move on or give him another chance?
Q. I was getting to know this guy..he'd ring me 3times a day..we were meant to meet up but i told him i couldn't come cos i had to go to work. he sounded disappointed and said that why he doesn't trust no one cos people always let you down. i t...
A. 27 August 2010: Move on. He makes it sound like you are already his girlfriend when you are still strangers. His clingyness completely turned you off. He still had that negative energy from the past relationship carrying on to this one. He's calling not because he ... (read in full...)
Marriage is an endless circles of selfishness and lies
Q. My husband and I have been together for almost ten years on and off. We separated 10 months ago and we've been back together for almost a year now.however; It seems like a endless cycle of selfishness and lies. When we got back together we decided ...
A. 26 August 2010: I think you stayed too long. You'd been trying to work it out for 10 years. You are doing all the work while he reaps the benefits from you but not putting any effort on his part. You are trying to get him to provide you something which he doesn't ... (read in full...)
My family is doing everything for one daughter at the expense of another
Q. I am a 21 year old female in her last year of university. Recently my family found out my little sister (15 years old) cuts herself and was hanging out with a strange crowd. To curb this, they have given her everything that makes her happy and ha...
A. 25 August 2010: I think your family's intention is to show your sister that "we are a family, and no matter what you are so loved." Your parents didn't realize how indifferent you are.
To be an adult means having compassion when one family member is in trou... (read in full...)
Confused by her up's and downsand don't know what I should be doing
Q. So me and my gf were going out for 8 months. We had so many great times together and were always having fun and going out. Then we went on vacation and had an even more amazing time and things were seeming pretty great. We came back and things ...
A. 25 August 2010: It's not your fault, but you can still be there to support and understand her. You know how some girls have never been able to express their feelings well since they learned how to talk? Maybe she has suppressed what she wanted to feel and now needs ... (read in full...)
Does she care for me or is she after something?
Q. Well me and my girlfriend has been together for a while, i asked her to marry me 3 months ago she said yes we was very happy together or at least i thought, about 3 weeks ago she finished the relationship with me and we only just got back together ...
A. 25 August 2010: She's over excited about the prospect of living together. Suddenly she felt that you and her would never be apart, meaning literally. It hurts her to see that you have a private life to yourself. What's nasty is that she doesn't feel like the ... (read in full...)
It's just not working for us!
Q. Just some quick advice. Me and my boyfriend were friends for two years before we got together. We got on well together, but these days it still feels as though we are just destined to be friends. He never understands that sometimes I need...
A. 24 August 2010: Independence is what attracts you to him initially but now he realizes you are seperate beings. He feels that he's not special for you. He didn't feel that you would be showing him off to your girls, rather you would just be bringing him along just ... (read in full...)
Should I come clean? or live with the guilt?
Q. i was out one night with some friends and i got really drunk and i didnt really know what i was doing. i ended up having sex with this boy but i have a boyfriend who ive been with for over a year now and i love and care for him, so should i come ...
A. 24 August 2010: You deal with the guilt by not going to parties anymore. If you can't give up this habit then just come clean so you can continue your lifestyle and he won't be asking tons of questions when you go out. You either choose this lifestyle or a ... (read in full...)
Over 65 and my wife no longer wants sex
Q. My wife has no more interest in sex. When I ask her what the problem is? She just says that she has lost all interest in sex. My question is, If I have sex with another woman would that be cheating? P.S. We are both over 65....
A. 23 August 2010: Yes it would be cheating. I am 29 but I imagine if I hadn't slept for 2 days, and my boyfriend hadn't have sex for 2 months, I couldn't reject him. I would just put lots of lube, hug him, and then when he's done I would have the best sleep ever. ... (read in full...)
She kissed me and now I don't know if she likes me or not
Q. Okay first some background, around April I got out of a 5 month reletionship with I girl I completly fell in love with, to this day I'm still upset over losing her. And so I was pretty upset for awhile, and I hid it pretty well, but over time I ...
A. 22 August 2010: Yes she likes you but she likes her boyfriend better. The kiss was amazing but she is not an amazing girlfriend. Your first impression of her was right, you didn't think you would ever like her. See how time changes everything? Now you think no one ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble being "just friends" again with my co-worker!
Q. I am so confussed... I met a man at work, both of us single, but separted ( failed relationships) for the first few months of working there , we started to flirt and chat, which came easily for both of us, I'm a wee bit chatty and tend to chat alot ...
A. 22 August 2010: I think he's embarrassed that you know he still has feelings for you. Your keeping it cool makes him uncomfortable. I wouldn't try to question him too much about what he's thinking, as if you gained control of him. Men would prefer that they are too ... (read in full...)
In an affair with a married woman, do I stay or go?
Q. Hi I am involved in a relationship with a married women and need advice. We have being having the affair for about two years. She's says that her does not love her anymore and they are only together for the sake of their child. She has already been ...
A. 22 August 2010: Is the physical abuse in this marriage or her last one? It makes a big difference regarding child custody and living arrangements. Do you love her enough to offer her a place to live, with her kids too? She's afraid to deal with a messy divorce and ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get over retroactive jealousy?
Q. hello. im 20 yrs old and so is my girlfriend, we have been together for ages, its been like 2 years, we are pretty fine together . she is so understanding and loving and everything . she lost her virginity with me , i just love her so much, bu...
A. 21 August 2010: Try hynotherapy, seriously. "From now on I will forget about other men in her past."
If you are to date another girl in the future, make sure she's a decent girl who doesn't drink, smoke or party, then don't ask about her past.
Advice for girls. G... (read in full...)
I think he wants to be more than friends but he's so distant
Q. Met a guy at work about two years ago, I left the job but we remained in touch via facebook and telephone. We started dating about 9 months ago, things started of well, but then he started going cold on me (distant). He then said he wanted us to ...
A. 21 August 2010: I think he's just starting to wean off the feel good brain chemical while you still feeding on it. When there's an initial attraction, you can get along well with just anyone, but after that infatuation stage you operate on different level, you look ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex with other women!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and started living together a month after we met. We are very much in love, have great sex and plan to move to Sydney next year and have kids when I'm a little older. I'm 21 and he's 33. We are both...
A. 21 August 2010: I can actually see why you are a good match. You are actually more interested in women than men but like the presence of a man in your life. As a woman myself, I know that gaining weight and having stretch marks make me insecure, but a man doesn't ... (read in full...)
She's sitting on the idea of a break and using it as leverage - help!
Q. my gf wont decide what she wants to do with our relationship. we had an argument, she wants me to be more responsible and more mature with my life, and i lied about getting something. during the argument i mis-heard a question and said yes to get ...
A. 21 August 2010: How you respond to a woman talk is very important. If a woman doesn't feel you are validating her feelings, then she's going to repeat what she said, hoping for a better, supportive response. When women talk to other women, they don't come across as ... (read in full...)
It's like going out with a 14 year old, not a 24 year old!!!
Q. I'm in a LDR with my boyfriend, and because of the time difference and the fact that his work schedule changed a few weeks ago, we only get to talk for about 10 minutes a day in the week, when one of us is getting up and one going to bed. I was real...
A. 20 August 2010: So I see that your boyfriend is a few years older than you so you might think he can maintain an intimate conversation with you. Men are like wine, they mature very slowly. Not every guy is like CaringGuy here. Where is this dearcupid uncle ... (read in full...)
Husband's co worker is obsessed with him, is he cheating with her?
Q. My husbands co worker (girl) has been telling me things such as they are planning a weekend together and sexually explicit details between him and her. But he denies that he has ever touched her and we have been dealing with face book remarks and ...
A. 20 August 2010: She is pregnant and her hormones are acting wild. I've seen movies where a pregnant killed her rival, for the sake of securing a man, a father for a baby. You really have to be careful. Your marriage is already suffering, why don't you pack up your ... (read in full...)
How to Confront a possible Cheating girlfriend?
Q. I’ve being dating with this girl for 3-4 months now, things are going very smoothly. However, recently I found out something suspicious. A week ago I found an email address she uses, which contains Eric.(her name)@livedotcom. I became paranoid. I ...
A. 20 August 2010: There is an overlap between the two relationships. You just started a relationship with her while she's probably ending it with the old guy. The old guy knows he's not going to keep a young woman for long but would still appreciate it if she replies ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex with other women!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and started living together a month after we met. We are very much in love, have great sex and plan to move to Sydney next year and have kids when I'm a little older. I'm 21 and he's 33. We are both...
A. 20 August 2010: It's natural to feel jealous. Allow yourself to feel it and don't deny it or suppress it. One thing that would help is that you set boundaries and tell your boyfriend he's to come home and sleep with you every night, and to assure you that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex with other women!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and started living together a month after we met. We are very much in love, have great sex and plan to move to Sydney next year and have kids when I'm a little older. I'm 21 and he's 33. We are both...
A. 19 August 2010: Your question is about how to overcome jealousy and so far everyone is being old fashioned.
I had tried open relationships before. They were no big bloody deal. I stopped it because it wasn't something that inspire me, and nothing can come clos... (read in full...)
He doesn't have the time or motivation to be committed?
Q. My boyfriend and I just broke up yesterday. It just doesn't feel right. I am 19 and he is 20. He is in school for pre-medicine 2 hours away. We had been going out for 14 months and had already conquered the first year of school away from each other. ...
A. 19 August 2010: He's scared you might meet someone else while he's away. He feels he's going to die if he finds out you became interested in some other guy, so it's better to break up first than having to endure that. You have to keep assuring him that you love him ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex with other women!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and started living together a month after we met. We are very much in love, have great sex and plan to move to Sydney next year and have kids when I'm a little older. I'm 21 and he's 33. We are both...
A. 19 August 2010: No one should make you feel it's okay to explore while in a committed relationship. In this case, the majority is right. It is much more simple and peaceful to have a monogamous relationship. In today's busy schedule, there is always not enough time ... (read in full...)
How do I get a girl to have sex with me?
Q. Hallo to all. i have the same problem as many people here as i sadly see. i am 27 years old and never had a girlfriend. never had the guts to go to one from my school / univercity etc and talk to her in a way implying i want sex. some tim...
A. 18 August 2010: You have been with a prostitute but you are still a virgin?
If you want a woman to want you, you have to know yourself first. Many people are clueless about who they are when they first date. It is through a partner that they discover their real... (read in full...)
How do I get a girl to have sex with me?
Q. Hallo to all. i have the same problem as many people here as i sadly see. i am 27 years old and never had a girlfriend. never had the guts to go to one from my school / univercity etc and talk to her in a way implying i want sex. some tim...
A. 18 August 2010: I would suggest you advertise yourself online truthfully as you are, and ask a woman to teach you the art of erotica. You may be surprised. Women are open minded and they like to teach you new things. If you think that only escorts would respond to ... (read in full...)
I'm still a virgin !
Q. Im 23 and still a virgin,I once used to be very proud of the fact because unlike the other girls my age Im not just willing to sleep with any guy,the only problem is now the older im getting im finding it hard to even get in a relationship with a ...
A. 18 August 2010: Keep trying with the internet thing. You may have to improve on your profile. Put up a happy, sexy photo of yourself. You will get more hits if you say you are open to casual sex. I know this is not what you want but many guys skip the ones who only ... (read in full...)
I think he used me! why do boys do this?
Q. there is this boy who i really liked, ive liked him for 5months now, we snuck out, one night and we has sexual intercourse, and then the next day he ignored me and he keeps ignoring me, and i feel very used, i really love him, why do boys do that to ...
A. 18 August 2010: You shouldn't feel like he used you. If he continues to have sex with you then he would be using you. It's a cowardly way to say, "I don't really know what happened, but I am not emotionally available to have a relationship right now. I don't know ... (read in full...)
My Plan to get back with my girl (please critique)
Q. I need help with this situation, as I'm slightly confused. 5 days ago, I saw my girlfriend for the first time in 3 weeks, as she is off working at a camp over the summer. We have been dating for 4 months and we haven't seen each other on a consiste...
A. 18 August 2010: If I feel like I am missing out on fun with my boyfriend, I think of something fun to do with him. I don't just conclude that he's a boring guy and then ask for a break. Love can never be too intense. If you are really in love, just cuddling and ... (read in full...)
Need a quickie divorce help!
Q. hello everyone! hey we need to know if there's a way for us to get a fast divorce in the state of utah and that it doesn't cost us an arm and a leg. we both agree to an uncontested divorce and we'd like to have it done fast if possible so we can ...
A. 17 August 2010: utahonlinedivorce.com $277... (read in full...)
What's the best thing to do... and how?
Q. Background - I was with this boy for over a year and I only broke up with him because I was depressed and didn't want it to affect him; I loved him when we were together and I still do, and he's always telling me he loves me still. After we broke up...
A. 17 August 2010: I am thinking, your ex accepted the break up just like that, didn't even ask you what would happen when you got better, and just hope that you would still think of him dearly. It's like he's shocked and didn't know what to respond. He's afraid that ... (read in full...)
I want to settle down, he says he doesn't want to be "trapped"!!
Q. I'm 33 and my boyfriend is 40. We have been dating for 6 years. We have a good, committed relationship, but it seems that we want different things out of life. I live in the middle of nowhere (and love it!), and I want to settle down and have a ...
A. 17 August 2010: I find that it's quite hard for a thirtyish childless woman to find a good mate. The ones same age as you or a little older are either married, gay or lunatic. The married ones are stuck in a domestic situation until midlife crisis hits them and ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble being "just friends" again with my co-worker!
Q. I am so confussed... I met a man at work, both of us single, but separted ( failed relationships) for the first few months of working there , we started to flirt and chat, which came easily for both of us, I'm a wee bit chatty and tend to chat alot ...
A. 17 August 2010: You got to have more confidence that you are better than his ex, that you would grab his attention all the time. You have to have faith in him, and in yourself. Continue being fun and sweet and be patient that he would one day sort his feelings out. ... (read in full...)
Why would she go back to her ex?
Q. The story of my life is a pretty common one but still i needed to tell someone that is objective and doesnt know me so he/she will not judge me as harsh as my friends did. I had a relationship with a girl that we go to the same university for 3...
A. 17 August 2010: For her you were a summer fling. She went back to her ex because he's older and can take care of her financially (not sure though). Maybe she is set for the rest of her life although she may be trading mental compatability for that. They must be ... (read in full...)
Is this grief or just a bad relationship?
Q. Ok, I have a question. About almost 2 years ago, my husband died tragically from an on the job accident at 33 years old. I was in a deep depression for a long time, and I to this day, am still grieving. I have three children that I have to take care ...
A. 16 August 2010: I think you are still grieving. I would suggest you talk to your late husband at night. Ask him what he thinks about this new guy. He knows that you need love. He wants you to move on and start a new life. What happended is that you think there is... (read in full...)
Why do I always go for the older man?
Q. I feel troubled. I can't seem to get attracted to men my own age or near it. I actually feel repulsed sometimes when they try and flirt with me. I try and feel something, anything but no go. I'd never go for someone twice my age or anything, but for ...
A. 16 August 2010: That's because older men has experience, he has failed in relationships and he knows what works now. They are also better at expressing themselves. A younger guy doesn't have the same confidence and the answers you need. Girls also mature faster ... (read in full...)
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