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writes:Hello I am 17 years old and still in high school. I can't stand being single anymore. I really can't. I have never kissed a girl before never been loved by a girl before I can't take it. I see all these other people getting all this love but for some reason all the girls see me as a joke. I'm becoming to feel sad a lot because I feel lonely at school. Anyhow I been looking for a dating site because no one at my school seems to give me chance. I just want a relationship. Don't give me answers like focus on school and stuff. And please don't respond with stop seeming so desperate. I assume if you answer with that, that you are someone in a relationship if you were in my position you would understand. Anyhow mabey I was just created never to have a relationship. I don't know I just can't take advice people give me serious anymore. Like be yourself and be nice. It's all BS. Reply to this Question
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (17 October 2010):
The moment you stop actually giving a crap about when or where or generally stop worrying about relationships you'll stand a much better chance of picking up a girl in your life. Yeah it sounds messed up but I didn't have my first serious gf until I was 19. You probably seem like a joke to other girls because you don't seem confident in yourself. Why don't you take some chances of your own and try meeting girls that are not from your school instead of whining about it. Make some small changes like the clothes you wear or get a decent hair cut. Just do things to make you feel better about yourself, in that sense you'll have even a better first impression with girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Hey bud!
Take it easy lol you seem like a nice guy. I can imagine you feel some pressure and thus feel excluded. That sucks big time. Im sure you feel unusual or strange or even out of place like I did at one point while I lived in US. I didnt have my first GF til 18. Being single allows you to weed out women you dont like. Use this time to seriously not just look for a relationship but what you want in a girl. Whatever you do do not go looking for a relationship just to be in as it will possibly fail since your heart isnt in it. Youre just fulfilling needs which can be selfish. Have your family hook you up or even some close friends as they tend to often know you best. Steer away from dating sites as lets face it, people can be anyone online. For all you know I could be a 5'7 white guy with a vanilla ice hairdo and purple overcoat ;p. Go out more pal but stay away from parties and booze and drugs. Nothing good comin from there. Good luck :)
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (17 October 2010):
I didn't have a boyfriend or do anything until I went to university and was 18. I had my first kiss, lost my virginity, everything when I was 18. So I have been there. It sucks if you're seeing everyone around you in love and in couples. Keep trying? You can talk to people online (be careful). Ask your friends to maybe set you up. But don't lose hope, college and work are where most people meet their significant others.
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 I'm in the same position, 17 in college, never been kissed or never been in a relationship.
I'm going to say, don't rush into it - I assume a relationship can be the most amazing thing in the world however, you don't want to be in a relationship just for the sake of saying 'I have a girlfriend' you should wait until the right girl comes along, preferably not over an Internet dating site because of practical reasons, I wouldn't worry about it.
I know you say your sick of being single and you really want a girlfriend but these things just come naturally, you can hate me all you want for saying it, but it's the truth, you can't force it.
I know this probably didn't help much as it wasn't the kind of response you were looking for, but it's the best your going to get out of me :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 well if you cant take advice anymore why did you come on here? People are going to be honest with you weather you like it or not am afraid.
Ok so we all go through stages were we are fed up with being single, i was 17 when i had my first relationship and yes i did go through stages before that were i felt unloved and wanted someone beside me. At this age you have pretty much passed puberty and you are wanting to meet a nice girl it is completely natural.
But you cant spend all of your time dwelling on this or it will never happen because you will come across really pushy and clingy when an oppertunity comes up for you. You need to stop thinking about this so much and it will come to you.
Alot of people find it hard to get a girlfriend while they are still at school. Usually college time is were people meet there first girlfriend or boyfriend.
So if there is no potential girlfriends at school or in your area then am afriad there is'nt a lot of things you can do about this, sure you can try online dating but its not the best way to show who you really are. Its not as good as talking face to face.
Am not going to tell you what to do or how to live your life, but i do suggest that maybe you could wait until college and meet new people there or maybe even take up new hobbies to pass the time and also hang out with friends, you never no you meet a nice girl when you least expect it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Hey, you're only 17!
When I was at your age, I didn't have a girfriend either. I had my first serious relationship and lost my virginity at the age of 19.
Don't just want a relationship, any kind of relationship so badly, because then you won't have one. Just act cool, talk to girls, entertain them, ask them out, and eventually there will be one (or more), who will want you to be her boyfriend.
You still have many many years to get girls for yourself, so just calm down and enjoy life.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (17 October 2010):
 No one has to have a relationship with you. You are created to keep the world going round, being a part of a money making, society contributing individual. Some day one woman would come to you and ask you to join in her efforts of making each other's day better. What's the purpose of a man in a woman's life? 1. Financial backup. 2. Baby maker and raiser. 3. Emotional and sexual companion. So here, I didn't say focus on school. Focus on making money. It gives you more choices in women. No money no honey!
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reader, LavanderGirl  +, writes (16 October 2010):
 I see your point there. you see that alot of other kids are in a relationship, and all that love. have you got any friends? maybe, you can try?
but overall, try to enjoy being single. the right person will come along in your life. plus i'm single. we can talk about things if you want? ^_^
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