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writes:I've been married for 20 years, and I caught my husband cheating on me with a man.He was doing that for more than 10 years, and he was keeping that as a secret. He had more than one long relationships with man. We have a daughter 13 years and it was so shocking for me and her. He admitted it and said that he feels change on his sexually live. He is most attractive to the man and he can not control his feeling. I want to know what do you think he is been born gay and I want any advice what to do, should I stay with him?thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (6 October 2010):
 I believe sexuality is biological, not environmental, which means he can't change his sexuality even though he loves you. I don't condone cheating at all, but I would be sensitive to the fact that gays are vulnerable to attacks for their sexual perference, and under a lot of pressure to be just like everybody else. You must be going through lots of emotions right now and please allow yourself to process whatever you are feeling. After your mind is clearer, I would suggest you to get a divorce, not out of bitterness, but to make sure your decision is for the best of everyone. I assume this is your first marriage, and it is not too late for you to truly enjoy a romantic relationship with a heterosexual man. Honestly I don't like the idea of an open marriage. The bond you have with him would be hard to break, but for the sake of your future happiness you have to tell him that a domestic setting would not work out with him, but hopefully you would still remain friend with him and your daughter would still love him as a father.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): does it really matter he"s needing a penis and your not equip as a man. You can see if a strap-on didlo will work for him other then that this is over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): Helllll nawww. You need to leave him because he has made it very obvious that he is no longer attracted to you but attracted to males.
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