Husband after marriage asked about my past and then served me with divorce papers!

A female age 41-50, *ahra writes:

My husband and I are married for 10 months. Right after we got married he strictly asked me if there was anything about my past I wanted to share. So I believe in you marry your best friend and I told him somethings that I had done that I'm not so proud about. He freaked out and left. Went to stay with Family but then called and said he needed some time to think about it and get over the images. He came back and I said it was my past I can't change it. He said how could I even think of doing such things no respectable person does that. He said he made a mistake getting married. I was heartbroken and cried and said sorry I didnt tell him before. I said I want a different life and make things better. Every now and then he kept bringing it up saying other things like he can't picture me being the mother of his kids. He wanted me to stop drinking, stop seeing some friends, I did it all to make it work. Finally I found out he was checking my email constantly. I asked him why doesn't he trust me he said how can I when this marriage is based on a lie. I said OK either we push through and work this out or you can leave. I said I have tried everythign to make you happy. He said yes he loves me and wants to work it out. 2 weeks later I asked him hey things dont feel right are you OK are you bored. He replied that there is a lot of thinking to do. He's not sure if he wants to be with me he doesn't like my relaxed attitude about drinking and the type of friends I keep. I finally got pissed I said you know I thought we were working on US I don't like to be in limbo where I'm not sure when you will break up with me. I said please go think somewhere else. When I came home that night there were divorce papers ready for me.

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