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writes:Ok so my girlfriend and i have been broken up for about 5-6 months now but i still care for her very much. To be honest shes the first thing i think about after i wake up and last thing before i go to sleep. Ive tried to improve my self in every way since. from physically by going to the gym regularly to with my relationships with other people (family and friends). In the time apart i have moved about an hour away to continue my college career and im about a year away from being done. ok heres the problem..i want her back. i miss her. we went out about 3.5 years and i can almost say i still love her even after the 5-6 months of breakup. The thing is that she has a bf now (which was actually a very well known aquaintance of mine). it sucks cause we actually argued about him in the last days together. I told her i had a funny suspession about him and she just denyed it (looks like i was right). anyways theyre together so yeah.well it was her bday last sunday and i invited her over so we could have dinner with my cousin and his gf. she said great and she drove the hour to come and have dinner. boy did i feel a connection. it was like we were still goin out. even my cousin and his gf said we seemed almost like if we liked each other. so i gave her a toy spongebob ring which she loved for her bday and before i dropped her off at her car so she can drive home. I played her a song on my guitar that i wrote to her. she always told me she wished i would do that for her and im pretty sure she enjoyed it. we hugged (which felt like she meant it) and said our goodbyes. now i felt that it was time for me to just play the waiting game and if we were meant to be she would come to me and get in contact with me. unfortunately somethin to a wrong turn. an best friend from highschool has decided to try and swoop in on her. A buddy informed me that he is interested in her and is trying to pick up on her. It sucks cause just when i thought things were looking bright after 6 months this happens. What should i do? should i confront him about it? I feel bad cause as a matter of fact when he broke up with his ex she had interest in me and i shot that down cause i saw him as a friend and didnt want that for him. Now hes doin it to me. please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyour on the button aunty bimbim. and to answer your questions yeah it was before the 3.5 year relationship and no he doesnt know about it. I chose not to tell him cause i thought it might just hurt him so i just ignored her and kept it underwraps. and no i havn't confronted either of them.
update: so a day after i posted this question she posts on my facebook wall that she really appreciated me thinkin of her on her birthday even though it was awkward. and how she misses my family and i a lot.
its wierd cause she has NEVER posted anything or text' me anything like that since we broke up.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 It looks like the relationship broke down because she became interested in your friend, not that you broke up, then he tried to swoop in. If it's premeditated, then there is nothing you can do. It's not that you have to be more muscular, or more ambitious. It's just that she liked your friend more or the grass is always greener. Now that they are together they are going to see their real selves. Wait for it to play it out. Even if things don't work out for them you shouldn't take her back because you don't sound like no. 1 to her. Also what she did to you wasn't very nice. She is not a nice girlfriend and he is not a nice friend so they belong together.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 Let me make sure I have all the relevant information:
The girl is your ex.
She has a new boyfriend who is a well known aquaintance of yours.
A buddy of yours is planning to "swoop in", to use your words, on her.
When this buddy broke up with his girl you decided not to swoop in and take his ex girlfriend out of consideration for him.
However, to ensure I have all the facts to help me give good advise can you please tell me if your not "swooping in" on your buddy's ex girl out of consideration for was before your 3.5 year long relationship with your ex girlfriend, or after that 3.5 year long relationship or during. And was your buddy aware you gave up a chance with his ex girlfriend through consideration For him?
Have you explained to your buddy that, despite your ex girlfriend having a boyfriend he should not swoop in because you didn't?
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 I would tell him "Dude its really not cool to date my EX"
If hes a true friend then he will probably understand but I guess this way you can find out if hes a True friend or not.Obviously a huge price to pay but yea.
By the way...I think you should phone her up for Coffie or something dude but something that will be Quick and wont leave open to much time for talk.Just get in and get out..Maybe you can jump infront of your buddy in the "Que".
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