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writes:My boyfriend and i have known each other for 6 years. We decided to get back together earlier in the year. He lives 2 counties away and have to pass my county to go to work. So i asked him did he want to live with me to make his travel better. He was happy because he wanted to move back to my city. So, i asked him was he sure he wanted to move with me? or did he want his own place? He got quiet. My question is: what did i do wrong?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 He probably got the impression that you were only asking him to be nice. I suppose he does not wish to burden you. It is just a theory though. Another would be that perhaps he is just making sure that this is what he wants because moving in might sound like a larger step into your relationship that may lead on to larger things like marriage and a family. It is all just things that may be running through his head. Just let him know that your offer still stands and that you want him to move in with you because you do don't you? He is probably just nervous about it.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): My opinion is that maybe he is sure and you just annoyed him by asking all over again. Maybe just leave the offer on the table and if he does not grab it, it will be his loss.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Does your second sentence imply you had lived with him before, broke up, then got back together? I know it's a guy thing to want to come to their own decisions without a girl's asking first. You are both trying to play it safe by talking about location and convenience, and not because you love each other. It caught him by surprise when you actually suggested he would live by himself. It probably took you ten minutes to get on your computer and type this question. Where was he and was he really silent for ten minutes? Maybe you caught him at a moment when he has the mind for something else, like TV, or he's too stressed or tired that he felt he wasn't prepared for that kind of conversation.
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