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female
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writes:My boyfriend has very special ways to just completely enrage me. Normally I am very even tempered but he has a way to just make me lose it! We have been to many sporting events together. We are usually cheering, drinking, having a great time and he then he starts... He starts begging me to stand up and dance all sexy so the jumbo tron TV can catch me and show me on the big screen. Im not talking about standing up when everyone else is standing up cheering. He wants me to stand up when all is quiet and cause a big scene. It is his fantasy. I think its just completely stupid!! I don't understand why I have to be made uncomfortable to feed his ego. Plus it makes me feel like a show monkey. I have told him numerous times that I don't want to that I just want to enjoy the game like normal people. He will then get all mad and mopey then I lose it. I start attacking him so bad that we usually leave not speaking to each other. I consider myself attractive, I always dress up for him and dress sexy. In fact a guy at last night's game during our fight told him "you have the hottest girlfriend here!" So I yell at him why is that not enough? Why do I need to have thousands of people staring at me to make him feel good? It makes me feel like I will never be enough. Am I too sensitive? Would this annoy anyone else? Should I grant his fantasy? Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 If a guy does that to me, I would just say no, that's it. No need to explain yourself, no need to question his intention. He is mad not because you declined his request, he's mad at your reaction to being treated like an object. Tell him to keep his fantasies between you two in your bedroom. Say no to doing things public, but promise something else when you get together alone. I can see it as a problem if he insists on you doing something uncomfortable. I am not sure if this is something that came out of his mouth because he's drunk, or he really meant that. You obviously have been annoyed by him otherwise you wouldn't have gotten so emotional about this. Every time he does silly things you have to tell him to tone it down, don't wait till you can't stand it anymore.
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