He had a private lap dance at his stag and now I'm having serious doubts about marrying him!
Q. I am getting married next week and I am having serious doubts. We have been to together 8 years (since we were 18) engaged for 5 and we have 2 children. We had a pretty much perfect relationship until his stag. About a week after he returned...
A. 27 March 2013: This man is the father of your children and has been with you for 8 long years, go ahead and get married to this man, please do not throw all this love out of the window for a little meaningless lap dance. His grooms*men got together and paid this ... (read in full...)
Should I get everything off my chest or stay silent?
Q. Should I get everything of my chest or stay silent? I was friends with a guy a for couple of years and we had "kisses and cuddles" on numerous occasions, it wasn't anything serious, we were both going through some stuff and I thought we were ...
A. 15 March 2013: I wouldn't say a word to him, I would close the chapter and move on like nothing happened, don't show him that you're angry, that would really make him think twice because he knows what he did was wrong.... (read in full...)
For mothers -- would you appreciate this sort of heartfelt message?
Q. This is more of a personal question than relationship wise. If there are any mothers on this website, this question would be for you! It's mothers day this sunday coming and I wont be home for it because of university, so instead I want to send s...
A. 3 March 2013: To answer your question, yes!!! your mother will love that idea!!! Just reading your post how close you and your mother are touched my heart. If you gave me a card like that I would keep it forever, even if I didn't get a card from you wouldn't be a ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't like sex, won't let me have someone else. I'm at my rope's end!
Q. Me and my wife have been married for 5 years now, she was 30 and I was 25. She wanted to wait until we were married to have sex, for religious reasons. I was ok with this because I always try to be a gentleman. I was her first boyfriend, and there ...
A. 3 March 2013: Plain and simple...DIVORCE...she has too many hang ups.
Selfish...She's probably thinking sex is unclean because of her religion.
She probably can live a happy life without it and not caring about your feelings. Find a women that like what you... (read in full...)
Do you think this is a legitimate reason to end an engagement?
Q. Is this a legitimate reason to end an 3 month engagement and a four year relationship? February 25th 2013, I’m 23 and my ex-fiancé is the same age. 4 months ago my fiancé broke up with me because of something I did, or rather did not do, a few da...
A. 1 March 2013: I say iron things out before saying I do... Are you sure you want to get hooked in a relationship with little petty stuff like this? If you're having problems doing the engagement, I wonder what the marriage would be like.
Think twice, a wedd... (read in full...)
My father isn't going to be happy when he finds out how I've been spending my money!
Q. A aunt was supposed to stop by to change my bed (long story). I wasn't at home, so when I got there I noticed she had cleaned my room. Though I appreciate the gesture (even tho i didn't ask her for it), she moved everything around. Including bank ...
A. 1 March 2013: Talk to your Dad about this situation and from now on clean your own room and keep your Aunt out of your room.
Your Aunt may not say anything because she may not want your Dad know she was snooping around in your room.
Important papers shoul... (read in full...)
He's ten years older , but says he's willing to wait until I'm ready to lose my virginity. What should I do?
Q. I am 17 and still a virgin me and my boyfriend have been dating for three months. He is 27 and already he has a daughter. He says he will wait for me until I'm ready to lose my virginity with him. I'm quite ready,but since he is experienced im kin...
A. 28 February 2013: I say save yourself for a male virgin around your age then you and him would be on the same level, both inexperienced, that 27 year old man is lying to you, he's already having sex with other women so therefore he's willing to wait for a little ... (read in full...)
My sister wants us to be something we're not to impress her boyfriend
Q. I am having issues with my younger sister at the moment. She has been going out with her new boyfriend for about a year (she left her boyfriend of 6 years for him), and since then she has completely changed. He is from quite a well off family ...
A. 11 February 2013: Your sister probably has met some guy that lives an extravagant lifestyle so now she's big headed. Every time she start talking like that, I wouldn't get angry I would just tell her I've got to go or I'd just politely leave the room.... (read in full...)
I've cut off my jealous relatives because they bad talked about me and my parents. Why are they like this?
Q. Hey everyone, HATE is strong word but here I want to use this word and say I absolutely HaTe my relatives! They want everyone to act like their slaves, for 15 years I didn't say anything they would trash talk my dad soo much, my family put us do...
A. 11 February 2013: It's all jealous and don't let them know that they get next to you.
I would tell them we need to stay our distance until we learn to love each other as family should so move on from them because life is too short for relatives bull crap.
You, ... (read in full...)
Just moved house and have no friends here.
Q. I am 17 years old. I have just moved from London to Hampshire with my mum and stepdad. I have no friends in this area and I dont know anybody either. I have seen a few teens around, But i would never know how to approach them. I need friends help ...
A. 11 February 2013: New kid on the block, don't worry sweetie, You'll have lots of friends once you get back in school. Once you start getting out of the house you'll have more friends than you'll want. Apply yourself friendly when you go to the store, talk to people ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's my place to tell a woman whom I do know that her husband is cheating on her?
Q. Recently, I've developed an unusual hobby of seeing how many married men in the area I live are cheating on their wives. I have always been a really great snoop and considered being a private investigator at one point. There is a site I found which ...
A. 11 February 2013: I wouldn't do that if I were you because it could cause someone to get physically hurt. The wives may already know or have an idea that their husband is cheating.
Have you actually seen these men in the act with your own eyes sleeping with othe... (read in full...)
Now that her mom is sick, she only has time for her friends. Should I end things?
Q. Hi I've been seeing a girl for nearly 2 years,she is great and everything but recently her mother has become ill, so she has to look after her. Now i ask to see her but she always says shes busy looking after mum, but she goes to the cinema once ...
A. 2 February 2013: I can understand she has to take care of her mum but she does have free time, she's just not spending it with you.
Is she the only child? You haven't seen her in nearly 3 months, yes it's time to move on because sounds like she's using he mum a... (read in full...)
My wife wants to get a house, but she won't help pay!
Q. I have questoin my wife want to get a house and ther is only one income i take care of all the bills as it IS. I tell her she need to helppáy for a house but she dont wont to help ...
A. 2 February 2013: Tell her you are sick and tire of having to listen to her BS because she doesn't care if you're the only one paying all the bills, she just want what she want and don't care how you get it, tell her you're moving out and she can go gold digging or ... (read in full...)
No marriage, no will, no life insurance and thinking of the future. Should I stick around?
Q. Last night I expressed my feelings, to my boyfriend of 5 years, about what would happen to me if he died. He is much older than me and we are not married. I was thinking about this because I had pneumonia and he had the flu and both were really ...
A. 2 February 2013: I would start looking for a place to stay as soon as possible and wouldn't look back, at least you will get to take what belongs to you because if he dies before you move out, his children is going to come in there and take everthing including your ... (read in full...)
1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 29 January 2013: No.... you are not being too picky, it's good that you spot these things before getting too involved into the relationship, if you see bad signs from the beginning then it's time to move on. If he chew gum with his mouth open, I'm sure you will be ... (read in full...)
He just cheats on me spirtually every 2 months, but defends himself saying he enjoys being a player...should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 month now is driving me crazy with the childishness he do frequently, and by "drives me crazy" i mean insecure! -he is great in bed, if we have free time of 5 hours we simply did it for four hours, like 3 times or so! -very ten...
A. 29 January 2013: This guy is nothing but a cheater and you really can't say he hasn't been in bed with other women doing the 7 months with you,I find that hard to believe for a player like this guy, if he's talking dirty to his ex and other women then believe me ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to sell my house and move with him.
Q. I've been with my bf for nearly 4 years. Before i met him, i started building a house and after a few delays it was finished 2 years ago. I have lived there since but he has remained living at home. We are on the verge of breaking up beca...
A. 28 January 2013: First of all you do not know what the future hold for you and your B/F so what would hurt you the most? Losing your B/F or looking for a place to rent after selling your dream home. You can get over the love you have for your B/F but it would take ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble sleeping and need some advice!
Q. I need serious help falling asleep. I have gotten into a really really bad pattern and it is destroying me. I'm a very deep sleeper and once I'm asleep I can be gone for a good 8 hours but recently I just can't get there. I used to go to be...
A. 18 January 2013: Well, as for me I struggle staying awake, I like to get in bed and read but I can never get pass the first paragraph before the book drop out of my hand but I can tell you that when my son's girlfriend dumped him he couldn't get to sleep or stay ... (read in full...)
As the man, should I be doing the asking?
Q. I have a lady in my life. We are friends, good friends and I'd like to be more than friends but it hasn't reached that point. I'm old fashioned. I've always believed a man has to court the lady, that when a man wants to do something, ie go...
A. 31 December 2012: Maybe she's not interested in taking the relationship to another level, most women not interested will use that line as been very busy so that doesn't make it your fault because if I was interested I would at least return the call, text or email ... (read in full...)
I want my BF to grow up and save $ - Am I controlling?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for two years. He doesn't have a car or a license. So I drive him to and from work and everywhere else every day except on his days off. He pays for gas, most of it, and buys a few groceries since I stay with him at h...
A. 31 December 2012: You are telling him the right things to do and on the other hand you cannot raise a grown kid and for the most part you are too young to be going thru this with a guy that a lot inmature than you, you gotta tell him everything, is this what you ... (read in full...)
Is this guy just a user?
Q. When dating a guy for 2years he is laying in bed with me present girl freind a ex girlfreind calls while we are in bed making love.She tells my guy she loves him and he responds back and tells her he loves her to. Then hang up the phone and tells ...
A. 31 December 2012: Is this guy a user? If you think he's a user then he's a user... Sounds like you're the ex girlfriend, nothing more than a booty call because the other girlfriend has the money and the booty call.
What do I do? Well, you can do like the other po... (read in full...)
Left my pot head, cheating boyfriend. So why do I feel upset that he's already talking to other girls?
Q. Okay, I am the same girl who wrote about my pot head cheating ex boyfriend and I thank you all for your lovely and supportive feedbacks :) So lastnight, I couldn't sleep. I had a lot on my mind. I was talkin to a friend of mine about him and sh...
A. 30 December 2012: One other thing, cut all contact so you can get over him. I'm sure he'll be ringing your phone off the hook once you leave.
Take Care... (read in full...)
Left my pot head, cheating boyfriend. So why do I feel upset that he's already talking to other girls?
Q. Okay, I am the same girl who wrote about my pot head cheating ex boyfriend and I thank you all for your lovely and supportive feedbacks :) So lastnight, I couldn't sleep. I had a lot on my mind. I was talkin to a friend of mine about him and sh...
A. 30 December 2012: I am so proud of you!!!!!!Good Girl!!!!! Focus on your
education, get yourself a college friend. On your way back to college remember this... Always put some time in a relationship before falling in love, get to know the guy as much as you can, take... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend only wants material things from me
Q. I've been w my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I made the mistake in spoiling him and now I feel like the only thing he wants from me is material things. We haven't been intimate in over a year and I'm lucky enough to see him once a month. I love ...
A. 30 December 2012: If you feel he's using you then he is because I feel he's using you also. Find a man that will love you as much as you love him. Sounds like you have been giving and giving for the whole 2 years and nothing in return but it took you 2 year to see ... (read in full...)
I've just dumped my pot head boyfriend. Where do I go from here?
Q. Hi I'm 21 years old and I came home for Christmas and Broke up with my pot head (ex) boyfriend. I don't drink, I don't smoke weed, I graduated high school and I am currently on a holiday break from College. He smokes dope, drinks, dropped ou...
A. 29 December 2012: Smart girl!!! thumb up!!!proud of you!!! He has nothing to offer now or later and I know your parents are so happy you let him go.
Later on in life you will look back and say to yourself, what in the world was I thinking.
At your age, whenev... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he found another girl that gives him happiness. Can I get him back?
Q. Have been dating my bf for 3yrs. Recently he started complaining about my attitude, saying am too insecure, demanding, and that he has found another girl that gives him happiness and there is nothing I can do. Truthfully, have been kind of rud...
A. 27 December 2012: He told you straight up that he's happy with the other woman so the best thing for you to do is take the pain and move on. You will hurt for a little while but you will get over it and you'll be glad that you found someone eles that except you for ... (read in full...)
I've been having an affair for 9 years. I know it's wrong, but how can I break away?
Q. Hi all. I love this guy totally but he's married, so am I. Been trying to stop seeing each other for years. We been together 9yrs now. Each time we fail and whenever we do, we desire each other more and get closer. We have great fun, time ...
A. 27 December 2012: Just switch husbands and wives. You've been cheating on your husband for 9 years and he doesn't see that? Maybe you should have a talk with your husband, maybe he's doing the same thing you're doing.... (read in full...)
My bf likes to sleep with other people and doesn´t mind if I do either
Q. I recently met this guy online who has since told me that he thinks we were made for each other. I was totally into him from the second we first met. We have mind blowing sex and he says he has never loved anyone or anything until he met me. He a...
A. 27 December 2012: This guy think he's so good looking that he can get any woman he wants so be very careful of guys with a smooth tounge!!!!!!!! LIES..LIES..LIES..LIES..LIES..LIES..LIES..LIES..LIES..LIES This guy has explained to you openly that he's nothing... (read in full...)
Thank you Dear Cupid. This is a WONDERFUL site. You showed me good directions when I was lost.
Q. I just want to say thanks to all the wonderful people at dear cupid. Since from the beginning of the you have shown love and good advices. Mostly thanks to the wonderful founder of dear cupid. Its so good to know that there's someone out there who ...
A. 25 December 2012: Not sure if I responded to your post but that was really thoughtful of you to let the people know that this site was helpful to you.
Wishing you and yours a Merry Christmas And A Prosperous new year also.
And lots of love, hugs and kisses to yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is 50% happy with me but I don't satisfy him sexually like his ex did. Should I have a threesome with them to make him happy?
Q. I purposed an idea to my boyfriend a couple of days ago. The idea having a threesome with him and his ex. Sounds bizarre, good thing I slept on it and really thought about how it will impact the relationship and everyone involved lives. Question ...
A. 20 December 2012: Lets say you got married to this scumbag, so are you still going to have his ex in bed with you all just to please him for sex? Sex isn't everything in a relationship babygirl.
You should go back and read what you wrote, sounds like you're doin... (read in full...)
I asked my ex girlfriend if she's dating someone else. What does her answer mean?
Q. I asked my ex girlfriend if she is dating someone and her answer was "I'm not going to answer that". I've been told that she means it is none of mine business. But is she still interested in me?...
A. 6 December 2012: When she said she's not going to answer that, that means she with someone else and didn't want to hurt your feelings so you might want to cut all contacts and move on.... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my ex and tell him I'm sorry for my part in the break up?
Q. I broke up with my long term boyfriend a few months ago. At the time, to me it seemed like the only thing to do. This was because he seemed increasingly disinterested and distant with me. I think it was because I made myself too available to him. I ...
A. 15 June 2012: You've done your part with an apology, Just give him a little time like three to four weeks, he knows now that you still love and want him back so he gonna play a little hard and make you suffer a little. I bet he has read your e-mail 50 times.
I... (read in full...)
Should I try to work out things with my sometimes abusive/sometimes sweet husband?
Q. I am writing on here for help, please give me your honest thoughts. Can someone change I am 22 and been married for 6 months. My husband has always been emotionally abusive but I have always forgiven him, I left him once but went back. He has pus...
A. 7 June 2012: Babygirl, if I were you I would leave this abusive guy tomorrow until he grows up and learn how to control his temper, call you names, screams at you, push you, grabbed your wrist, throw thing out of anger, how much more does he has to do to you ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my ex and tell him I'm sorry for my part in the break up?
Q. I broke up with my long term boyfriend a few months ago. At the time, to me it seemed like the only thing to do. This was because he seemed increasingly disinterested and distant with me. I think it was because I made myself too available to him. I ...
A. 4 June 2012: You have nothing to worry about sweetie, you've already gotten your man back and don't realize it, honesty is the best policy. He miss you just as much as you miss him. You thought he didn't want to talk to you.... and he thought you didn't want to ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my ex and tell him I'm sorry for my part in the break up?
Q. I broke up with my long term boyfriend a few months ago. At the time, to me it seemed like the only thing to do. This was because he seemed increasingly disinterested and distant with me. I think it was because I made myself too available to him. I ...
A. 3 June 2012: I could be wrong but I believe your boyfriend or ex I may say would be very proud hearing you tell him that you have found yourself, at least you admit that you were part of the breakup, that is how we fix ourselves when we admit to our wrong doing. ... (read in full...)
The guy I'm dating left his girlfriend for me. Is there anything to worry about?
Q. The guy I'm dating left his girlfriend for me. Is there anything to worry about? After we hung out a few times as friends, he brought up that he broke up with his girlfriend one month ago, but she refused to accept it so they're technically still ...
A. 3 June 2012: Yes there is something to worry about and I have a strong feeling that you know something isn't right about this, if this guy left his girlfriend for you he will leave you for another women. I've seen this situation happen on my job, not been rud... (read in full...)
How do I support my friend who just broke up?
Q. My friend had been with her boyfriend for 19 months before they split up, it was her first boyfriend so it's kind of hit her hard. How do i support her? Like, what do i say and do? Help will be appreciated, thanks ...
A. 3 June 2012: I think the more she talk about it the better it will be for her. I feel your friend's pain because when my son's girlfriend dumped him with no explaination for another guy he was so hurt. There were nights when I was up all night listening, talking ... (read in full...)
How can a woman cure her fishy odor?
Q. I feel helpless, I am very clean, and been to my doctors and she tested me. every thing can back normal, no infections. My boyfriend has stop having sex with me, because he say i smell fishy real bad, when he pre-cums, and cums. he even gag's. He ...
A. 21 May 2012: I always believe in baking soda. Put about three table spoons of baking soda in your bath water daily or put a little on your wet towel is better and wash down there. I wash my whole body with baking soda, dove soap or body wash...I brush my teeth ... (read in full...)
Dumped on my birthday and I have no idea why!
Q. Am feeling pretty fragile at the moment and in a state of shock and am hoping someone will offer me some advice. Have been in a relationship for the last 6 years and without warning and without any clues I have been dumped a few days ago. My partner ...
A. 21 May 2012: I believe she's seeing another guy, maybe someone at her job and didn't want to tell you and want to keep you on the back burner by seeing you once a week until she sees how her other $h.. works out, if she dumped you on your b-day she'll do just ... (read in full...)
How can we get past this, and how can I drop him out of my mind so I can fully love my wonderful girlfriend?
Q. My girlfriend and I have a wonderful relationship. Unfortunatly, her last one was not so great. He would tell her she 'dressed like a whore' and other verbal absuses. He also used to slap her during sex and pass it off as 'normal' (she would later ...
A. 8 May 2012: Some of us stays in a rut because we focus on the close door rather than focus on the open door.
You might want to start with, stop being angry with her ex becase he only did what she allow him to do to her.
Good Luck... (read in full...)
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