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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Is he just trying to break it off in a nice way? or is he legit?
Q. I recently ran into an old classmate on a social networking website. We exchanged text messages multiple times a day and even spoke for hours at a time on the phone. We made plans to get together, being that we live an hour and a half away from one ...
A. 4 October 2010: The lustfulness will be there even if you are just friends, especially if he has been celibate for a long time. How do you feel about his religious attitude? You like it or are you turned off by it? The only way for him not to sin is to remain ... (read in full...)
Can you really be torn between two people
Q. I'm caught in a dilema from messing with a married man.we both felled in love. Because of all the drama and opinions of what and how the relationship started it both played a part in both our situations which I believe ended it. He went back to ...
A. 4 October 2010: He loves his wife but not in love with her. He is in love with you but doesn't love you yet. That's the difference. He still doesn't know if he could work things out with his wife, whether his wife would forgive him. He still doesn't know if you and ... (read in full...)
We're in a phase where we argue
Q. Needing help with my boyfriend and i. We have been together 9 months and in my heart i believe i love him. We have known each other since last summer and really hit it off, he was so sweet and kind and we never fought. We finaly got together in t...
A. 3 October 2010: When you were at the beginning, you were naturally in tune with each other. When you were upset he would understand and try to make it better. Now it feels effort to do the same things. You were at a stage where you decide whether you could live ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend started crying after 1st time sex and now still won't talk to me about it?
Q. I've been dating an incredible girl for about 2.5 years. She's a year younger than me, so I'm in college and she's in high school. When we first started dating, she was a virgin and I wasn't. We agreed to wait until she was ready and the time was ...
A. 2 October 2010: First time sex is painful. She expected too much and she thought it would be fun, like in the movies. There is no use comforting her because it only reinforces the awkwardness and her fear. Your presence alone is comforting enough. Even if there is ... (read in full...)
Do I leave my wack job wife and take the kids with me?
Q. cant stand the wife but love my 2 kids, 12 an 7. we fight a lot an i know this is not healthy for the kids. when i leave she says lie's to the children to try to win them over. my 12 yr. old tells me the things that she says. cant stand it any ...
A. 2 October 2010: I wish I could tell you to live some place by yourself but with two kids it's difficult. She comes home to you to ignore your needs so when there is a void she may then appreciate your presence, and the many things you did in the marriage. Love is ... (read in full...)
I had an online dating deleted rejection. What did I do wrong?
Q. Okay, I decided since the last question I should just give up with the last girl, and go with online dating. During this week, a girl messaged me (which with this website, is rare to ever see a girl come out of nowhere and message you). I started ...
A. 2 October 2010: You did nothing wrong. She said she wants someone who supports whatever she does. Even something as innocent and and sensible as telling her to quit smoking is upsetting to her. If you tell her to quit smoking then you will also be telling her to ... (read in full...)
How come I last for hours?
Q. I Outlast her horribly ater 40 minutes she has had multiple orgasm and it takes hours also every one of the girls i have been with said they feel it all the way above there belly button and it hurts how come i last for hours with everyone and it ...
A. 2 October 2010: Possible reasons: medical, psychological, too much porn or masturbation, uncircumsized, or, you are just born like that. If your girl wouldn't mind, have her milk your prostate. Tell her to put her finger in your anus and massage that spot using the ... (read in full...)
How should a FWB situation end?
Q. Hi there I have been in a FWB relationship for several months. A long distance one but we travel to see each other kind often. At the beginning he seemed really interested and now he is more distant and i start to feel cheap. Just not good enough....
A. 1 October 2010: I think the best way to do this is to ask him if he has intentions of developing this into something more serious. Then you would not seem evasive, you would not have to wonder the what ifs. I see nothing wrong with expressing feelings. It is a very ... (read in full...)
I feel like its either her or me, but I'm afraid he is going to pick her.
Q. I have been married for almost four years now (married at 19) and the relationship has had a lot more downs than ups. There is one particular problem I have and that is with his female best friend. He admitted to having kissed her before and I'm ...
A. 1 October 2010: If you love him let him go. People can only be infatuated when they can't get what they want. Wait till he actually pursues her and he would see that she is just another woman with faults and all. Don't argue with him about this. Just say you want a ... (read in full...)
We can not go on like this... right?
Q. I have been dating a separated man for over a year. We knew each other casually for 3 years prior to dating. He asked me to lunch one day and told me he was divorcing and suggested we go out. I reluctantly began dating him, although I clearly ...
A. 29 September 2010: The best person to talk to is actually him. When you got emotional you didn't have the chance to ask the why of everything. I don't know how long you had been divorced and how it was for you, but he's at a weak moment and does everything by impulse. ... (read in full...)
How can I break it to a grown man that he needs to stop shoving his tongue down my throat?!
Q. Yes, yes. I'm sure this has been asked many times. I tried searching previous posts, but only found little girls asking questions and, frankly, found nothing entirely relevant to my problem. Sorry if this is seemingly redundant! So, now for my...
A. 29 September 2010: I thought tonguing down a throat is an exaggeration. How is this possible? You can tell him you are not a tongue person. He's definitely turned on by you. His expression means how much he wants you. Tell him you just want to enjoy the kissing, that ... (read in full...)
My asian girlfriend hides me from her family
Q. I have a problem with my girlfriend and its really making me frustrated and confused. We have been together for four months now, i'm white and shes asian. I have brought her around my entire family and introduced her to all of my closest friends. ...
A. 29 September 2010: She's not ashamed of you. She doesn't want to deal with all the questionings and gossips among family. When the time is right it means when you two are serious enough to get married. Just dating is not good enough. What if you had sex but would not ... (read in full...)
What is this? I don't know if he likes me or just wants a FWB.
Q. This past summer I started talking to a guy at my college. He didn't intially say he liked me when we first meet but I knew he did. Prior to us talking he would text me all day asking me questions about myself and vice versa. So he finally asked me ...
A. 28 September 2010: It could become a real relationship but every time you get intimate you leave, leaving you no room for connection. He senses that you crave physical intimacy and no guy would decline an available girl. You have to let him know even though you have ... (read in full...)
My asian girlfriend hides me from her family
Q. I have a problem with my girlfriend and its really making me frustrated and confused. We have been together for four months now, i'm white and shes asian. I have brought her around my entire family and introduced her to all of my closest friends. ...
A. 28 September 2010: She says she can work this out. For you, working it out means stop lying and for her it may mean please be understanding to her parents. From now on stop mentioning about her parents and stop going to her place. Tell her you are not going to help ... (read in full...)
Which person is the most insecure?
Q. This is a question for all to answer male/female young/old,single/married.who would you say is the most insecure person the female because she has realised that after 7yrs together,45yrs old and a child the man she loves and wants to spend her life ...
A. 28 September 2010: Insecure is not the word I would describe him. He's selfish, irresponsible and he has issues. I would imagine in 7 years if you can't get to the root of the problem because of his need for privacy, is it possible that he would never open up to you? ... (read in full...)
Someone told me he cheated and there was a condom wrapper on the floor.
Q. I am going crazy out of my mind. I have been scared to ask anyone for their unbiased opinion because I fear that I may come off as a nutcase, but here goes nothing... In April 2009, I began dating a guy who I'd known since I was 9. We were separ...
A. 28 September 2010: It's true that condoms always get forgotten but someone who uses drugs loses his credibility. Sorry not all druggies cheat and are aware of what they are doing but even if they didn't mean to their brains can't function 100%. If you don't get a ... (read in full...)
Do straight women get turned on by making out with other women?
Q. At my urging, my wife will sometimes make out with her female friend (nothing happens below the neck) in my presence as a way of revving up my engine. My wife needs a little coaxing but then seems to get into it. The visual effect for me is very ...
A. 25 September 2010: It's a learned behavior. It will turn me on if it makes my man more passionate. People learn from porn that men get turned on by two sensual women touching each other. Part of why it turns men on because it's an extra something that women would do ... (read in full...)
I am attracted to my wife's younger, sexier sister
Q. I'm married for over three years now with my wife. I met her 5 years before that. My wife was really good-looking when I met her, but a couple of months before the wedding she began to gain weight, at least 20 lbs. from what I can tell, and most...
A. 24 September 2010: I ate a lot more in my early twenties but I weigh 10 pounds more than before. The metabolism slows down no matter how tightly you watch your diet and how much you exercise. As long as you she is eating sensibly you should not hope for the ... (read in full...)
Should a 20 year age gap matter?
Q. I'm not sure what to do. I like this man who is 20 years older than me. I'm 26 and he is 46. He winks at me everytime he sees me, which, by the way, i haven't seen him do to anyone else, just me, and he always gives me a kiss. He has also said that ...
A. 24 September 2010: It shouldn't matter. A relationship, casual or long term, is still a relationship and can be beneficial to both parties. The more important thing is if you want to pursue a relationship with an older man. Also if you are looking for fun or something ... (read in full...)
Marriage scares me... is it the right way to go?
Q. Okay I have met a girl that I know my brother has slept with it was about three to four months before I met her. I decided that it was okay. I will just forgive and try to move on. After we dated for a little while I began to feel a love for her and ...
A. 16 September 2010: You love her but wasn't there when she had the baby. How come? You visited her in the hospital, right?
She loves you but didn't want to live with you. So she's okay with living with you now?
When your ex wife stayed at your place does it mean you... (read in full...)
Why does she do these things and why do I feel this way?
Q. I was on the phone with my girlfriend, she is out of the country for one month. We spoke on skype video (the image was very poor). she shuffled the laptop around, making lots of noises, then I would not understand half of the stuff she was saying ...
A. 15 September 2010: A Real man doesn't bend over backwards to please a girl or let her walk all over him. Teach her how to be a real woman.... (read in full...)
Why does she do these things and why do I feel this way?
Q. I was on the phone with my girlfriend, she is out of the country for one month. We spoke on skype video (the image was very poor). she shuffled the laptop around, making lots of noises, then I would not understand half of the stuff she was saying ...
A. 14 September 2010: Most of the stuff would not bother people except when she threw her cell phone against the wind shield. I get the impression that she is acting like a little princess, sometimes silly, sometimes spoiled, but most of the time hard to please. There is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends friends are presurring him to have sex!
Q. Hi everyone. I have a problem. I've been with my boyfriend for 17 months now (almost 18 months!!!) and he's now at college (he's 15, almost 16 and I'm 13, almost 14). I've just started my GCSE's, and he's just started his A Levels. He left just ove...
A. 14 September 2010: There's no need to feel bad for him. If he feels pressure then it's his problem. You will be giving him a favor by waiting because once he realizes how good sex feels he is going to want it every day, meaning he will be more frustrated than had he ... (read in full...)
She said she wants a break but I'm terrified I'll lose her...
Q. Hi, I dated one girl for 3 and half months, and about 2 weeks ago we broke up. She said let's take time out until we both go to UK. (We are going to UK for university together). And I might go to UK by end of September. If my visa gets refused I ...
A. 13 September 2010: It's too early to tell whether she has feelings for you. She is very practical and won't disclose her intimate side until she's certain that the relationship is workable. She's basically saying don't let emotions confuse issues. She wants you to ... (read in full...)
She says all I think about is sex
Q. On Wednesday, I took my girlfriend to a restaurant with a beach view, the horse races, and a Padres game which all cost $120. Keep in mind that we are both full-time college students and I don't have a job because I write for the school newspaper ...
A. 13 September 2010: Aw, you are lucky to have her. Please don't ever argue about this. Just say you agree, because men have a sexual part in the brain that's 3 times larger than a female. Nothing to feel ashamed about. Appreciate that there are times she's super horny. ... (read in full...)
I caught my dad on some sites and I don't want to be the cause for divorce!
Q. i realized a few months ago that on my dad's computer there were sites for affairs in the top sites, but the history was cleared. i didn't say anything about it but cried about it and one day he caught me and i mentioned what i saw. he played i...
A. 12 September 2010: Your crying is not going to make your dad stay in this marriage. I would tell him to seek marriage counselling with mom, if that doesn't work out they can get a divorce. His response to your request will be key to much he wants to work on his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is so negative about life and I don't know how to help him!
Q. I'm not sure where to start with this, and I'm not sure if I'm worrying over nothing but here's the low down.. I've been with my boyfriend for two years. He is 31 years old. Ever since we were first going out, I picked up on very paranoid parts of ...
A. 12 September 2010: He is more than negative about life. Bullying and psychosis are linked together. His recurrent images of horror is his mind's way to deal with the trauma. The pain carried on and he doesn't know how to stop that. The weed helps him temporarily and ... (read in full...)
I was aroused after being punished by my mom. Freaked out by my feelings!
Q. I'm embarassed and ashamed but I felt aroused after being smacked by my mom. I got in some trouble at school after being caught lying about why I'd been hadn't been at school. The associate principle gave me a note to take home to my folks. I...
A. 12 September 2010: It's called BDSM. You like being submissive. Pain and passion are two sides of one coin. I had that feeling when I was 6 when I watched something on TV I shouldn't really be watching. You don't have anything to worry about. You are completely ... (read in full...)
How do you present yourself towards society?
Q. My question revolves around how you act/present yourself towards society and what you actually, REALLY think. I know this is not DIRECTLY linked to love or anything to this site. But even so I wanted you to share your thoughs. Usually we wil...
A. 12 September 2010: Be nice and smile anyway. Smiles are contagious. Fake it until you make it! When you receive a birthday card from an aunt you don't see very often, do you feel happy, or do you wonder what the point is her doing that?
I asked this question befo... (read in full...)
Am I being used or does he like me?
Q. I really need advice! I've been "talking" to this guy for a little over a month now. He's the biggest sweetheart and I really like him but I don't know how he feels. He always makes sure he's the last person I talk to at night by waking me up EVERY ...
A. 12 September 2010: Talking to a guy shouldn't be "hey, you sleeping already? Can I come over later? That's not a talk. Tell him not to call you past bed time hours. Those are booty call hours. You don't know if he likes you or not and yet you let him intrude on your ... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend ever open up to me emotionally?
Q. I've been dating my current boyfriend for almost three months. We have been intimate for six weeks. I really like him alot and admittedly, feel that I may be falling in love with him. He calls every other day and will send me a couple of emails ...
A. 12 September 2010: Men travel at a slower speed when it comes to love. Also don't expect him to communicate emotions as well as you do. It's like second language to him. He will open up to you if he sees that you are compatible, then he would feel safe to expose his ... (read in full...)
How do I get boyfriend to be more flirty and tender?
Q. I've known my bf for three years. He is a quiet guy but funny and outgoing around ther right people. We love eachother and stuff but I dnt rele feel the love. -in an ldr- like when we talk txt or I'm he never calls me a pet name or is really ...
A. 12 September 2010: Women are more about words and men are more about actions. To please a man it's better to fix him something good to eat, get him tickets to a good movie he would like, rather than sweet talk. Just simply ask him to call you babe, and that he misses ... (read in full...)
I know what I want and it's him!
Q. iv been wonderin whether i should even ask this question... met my boyfrend bout 5 mths ago. and i cnt even say in words how madly in love we were. we met every single night and just clung together for the whole night. i finally thought i found the ...
A. 12 September 2010: If every couple split up after the infatuation period, no one would get married.
Whenever you feel fear, anger or shame and you get reactive, always remember your relationship to him is more important than being right. You can feel connected even... (read in full...)
Divorce angst killing our friendship
Q. My marriage fell apart due to a huge disconnect between my wife and I over many years. We decided to divorce last year, but it is taking very long because of the fact we cant divide assets, mainly because the house has been up for sale forever and ...
A. 12 September 2010: I have been divorced after 3 years of marriage. I won't try 15 years of a roomie situation. I myself enjoy sex very much and would do it without prompting, without favors, and gifts. I am attempting to explain to you why she feels hurt in her ... (read in full...)
How do you know when you've found Mr. Right?
Q. Hey all. How do you know when you've found Mr Right? I've been with my guy for years now. Things aren't perfect, but we love each other unconditionally and we can always make each other laugh. We wake up each day, looking forward to being at...
A. 11 September 2010: Mr. Right is someone who would selflessly take care of you if you had cancer or your family member dies. Men come up with the idea that everything should be 50/50 because too many men had their finances drained after a divorce. In many countries ... (read in full...)
Something is missing in the marriage I feel like I need something else
Q. Okay so I married my husband in 98. I was 19 he was 24. After 6 years and 2 kids I wasn't happy. We had some problems in the bedroom. I always felt like he didn't want me. I never cheated and I was a stay at home mom. My husband worked and did ...
A. 11 September 2010: You never get to find out what's missing because before you could, you got pregnant again. That missing something is not in your husband, not in your kids. They are not in other guys you want to sleep with. You never had the chance to find out who ... (read in full...)
I gave my daughter the wrong advice and don't know how to make things right
Q. Three girls on the bus the other day told my daughter that her boyfriend was cheating on her. One of the girls has a brother that I think he is a little bit interested in my daughter and I think that she was trying to see if maybe my daughter was ...
A. 11 September 2010: Nothing. You didn't know it was a lie. If anyone asked me what do you do with a cheater I would say dump him. You don't need to tell her boyfriend you gave her that advice. Leave it alone to those three girls. The only thing you can say to your ... (read in full...)
19 Nearly 20 and still a virgin
Q. Im going to be 20 in 6 months or so and im still a virgin. And the thought of it (and still being a virgin at 19 for that matter) is absolutely killing me. I hate myself so much and i cant stop with feeling negative, even though i know thats just ...
A. 11 September 2010: The only time I went partying is curiosity and as a friendly gesture to my coworker. Just go there and order something mixed with lots of orange juice. Pretend to sip a little bit and take tons of time never finishing it. Practice talking to lots ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy suddenly ask his friend if she's on the pill?
Q. Its just a very quick question really but id appreciate answers all the same :) I was talking to one of my friends last night via text and we talking about a holiday we've just booked together with some other friends. We're both in our mid twent...
A. 11 September 2010: He didn't ask suddenly. You were flirting and the conversation led to sex. He's being very direct with you and asking if he could have sex and basically your responses had been yes yes yes. In his mind: are we going to have sex, are we going to have ... (read in full...)
Divorce angst killing our friendship
Q. My marriage fell apart due to a huge disconnect between my wife and I over many years. We decided to divorce last year, but it is taking very long because of the fact we cant divide assets, mainly because the house has been up for sale forever and ...
A. 11 September 2010: She can't be civil to you because it seems like you are the one that opted out of the relationship. You are dumping her for another woman. She is going to be that way until you ask her to consider staying in the marriage to work things out. The ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is thinking of leaving me
Q. my girlfriend has told me tonight that she has been thinking about our relationship the past few days. she is thinking about leaving me. we got drunk tonight and i accidentally slipped my ex's name when i was getting frustrated with her. maybe ...
A. 11 September 2010: People lie at the beginning at the relationship to make themselves look smarter, to cover up some weakness, to avoid explaining too much. When you don't feel comfortable saying what's on your mind and you are talking about marriage, you have to ... (read in full...)
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