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writes:I'm just wondering.i had a boyfriend,he always saying that he's so lucky for having me.that he want to share his life with me.but why?he broke up wth me,why is it?i thought he loves me,and it's breaking my heart.those promises.why?he said he decided not to have a girlfriend now that things are too crazy and he said sorry.is that all?
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reader, cheannryl +, writes (9 October 2010):
cheannryl is verified as being by the original poster of the question He just emaild me,ours is a long distance relationship but still it hurts,i gave my honesty,my loyalty,i've been faithful.we said he decided not to have a girlfriend now then i replied i see and i understand.but the truth is im not ok,feels like im dying inside.
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reader, RennieGeek  +, writes (9 October 2010):
How long did you guys date? If it was brief (and I mean under a year) or after he just got out of a relationship, my guess is that it was a rebound and he said those things to be nice, but then changed his mind and decided not to further hurt/use/be with you. I could be wrong, but that is my experience with "I don't want a girlfriend it's too crazy"
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reader, michaelch +, writes (9 October 2010):
 He is probably just going through a phase or mood. But if he says he can't date at the moment maybe its for the best. My girlfriend of 11 months just broke up with me, and I'm okay with it because I just want her to be happy. So maybe you should remain friends for now and it will work out in the end!
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (9 October 2010):
 Yeah, that is all and I'm afraid you have to get over it and never look back. He gave you hopes, but in time he realized that he can't keep up with your enthusiasm.
People talk a lot and when it comes to actions, they block because they realize that they don't have the necessary resources in order to sustain their statements, so it's the best thing it could ever happen to you.
It's easy to say that you love someone, just because they want to hear it, so most of them don't need to be shown love anymore, so the so-called relationship may go on until forever, and develop major frustrations in time. You're one of the persons who want to be shown love, but he's one of those who only state love. He couldn't do more so he withdrew.
Good luck!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 When things are crazy, I think he's referring to him being emotional and dealing with your emotions also. Feelings are unknown territory for guys and it's dangerous for them to trespass. Boys learn to become men, learn to hunt and protect. Talking about feelings make them feel like sissies. Luckily in modern days men don't have to prepare themselves of physical danger every day, they get jobs that involves more mental than physical activity. They get more time and would pretend to devote themselves emotionally to women. Think about it, tribes all over the world would do crazy things such as body mutilation, bungee jumping, animal slaughtering, but would not become too close to a woman for the fear of being weak. Some men even sleep separately from their women, taking their boys with them. We evolved into who we are today but that primal fear still relies in us.
So, returning to your present boyfriend, is he going to be a lone ranger forever? You know you are not going to get straight answers from him. How long does he want to be single? It's not like you asked him to marry you tomorrow? Have you talked about when he's ready again, would he contact you?
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