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writes:Hello everybody.. My girlfriend doesnt have time for me but i do not care . I love her so much its hard to let her go. I think i have annoyed her asking her to go out more often since she usually doesnt trust most people in her life. I pissed her off and now i feel like she wants to break up wit me. But its not only that. She gets sooo mad at me for little thingz. And couple months ago we had unprotected sex i feel that shes pregnant for over 2 months and i think the problem is the pregnancy hormones. I think they have changed her mood now she looks at me with hate and she doesnt reply to my texts . We dont talk on the phone because she doesnt like it. But anyway i do no want to annoy her more but at the same time every time i text her she doesnt repply at all and it kills me thinkin that she mite like someone else. I wanna buy her flowers and cute stuff but im scared that it shows a kind of desperation to get her attention. Please advice me what to do!? Thanks i feel so depressed rite now...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe said she still likes me haha
i dont understand girls sometimes
but i gave it time
and results are goooood
she says she wants to hang ou but i have to ask her
idk what to do whether to ask or not or just more time cuz she told me this like a week ago or so
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe said she still likes me haha
i dont understand girls sometimes
but i gave it time
and results are goooood
she says she wants to hang ou but i have to ask her
idk what to do whether to ask or not or just more time cuz she told me this like a week ago or so
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYep i think i scared her.. Since she told me her mom was goin to call the cops if i didnt leave.. But i know that if i dont text her she wouldnt either and well.. Maybe shes busy wit school and stuff .. She didnt even talk about homecomin dance to me .. Ill just forget her and if she wants me bak then why not? I will let u guys know whats up wit this in prolly couple months? Cuz i dont want to see her for that long.. If ive scared her then forget it i dont wanna push her further.. About her bein pregnant i dont think she is because its the second month after we did it and nothin .. She didnt tell me anythin.. I guess shes not
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reader, heart-shaped-balloon +, writes (5 October 2010):
 I know how hard it can be :( You're doing the right thing though. Give her some space. My fiance did the same thing to me once and I just had to back off, and after almost a month everything went back to normal.
Try and go out and do fun things and be happy. Try to be strong, because when people see or hear about you not falling apart they are generally more attracted and likely to want you back.
Leave the ball in her court for now, and see if she gets back to you after you give her the space.
I am a person with trust issues, and to be honest she might be scared. I know I shut people out when I'm scared.. So really, you are doing the best thing lovely.
I'm sorry you have to go through this. Be strong. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThNks everyone of u.. Desperation will only lead me to a longer way to get her bak . Well i just came fron her house even tho i was waitin for her to finish wit her project.. Lke 3 hours and she didnt even want to see me.. She told me to leave but i kept askin her to come to her window.. She didnt. Shes the kind of girl that i would never wantb a guy to have .. Poor me . Why did i fall for her? I dont know but its done.. I love her and it will stay like that until i take her out of my mind.. I deleted her number to stop the temptation of textin her or callin.. But i do not wanna break up. The fact that she doesnt trust most people involvd me among them. I bought her favorite drink and i left it beside her window since she didnt wanna come out after long time knockin it.. She told me she was goin to sleep. After it i textd her sayin that i love her forver and to never forget that. Hopefully she texts me bak sometime i prayd to god for that.. And i think ima give it some time witout the break up.. One time we did t see for like a month and i could survive i guess i can do it for another month :( idk if what ima do is correct .. Is it? Not seein her or textin her ? Just wait for a text from her? Or text her in like bout a week or two? This is a pain that im tryin to hide from everyone :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): Its of all.. you need to call her and tell her that you are sorry for bugging her.. then you need to tell her that you love her and how much you care for her.. and just dont push her.. just show her your a good guy and you'll always be there for her..
Good Luck(:
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 In my opinion, it would not come across as desperate, it would come across as apologetic and kind. I doubt coming across as desperate is your most worrisome issue now is it? You have to let her know that you will be there for her if she is in fact pregnant. I think you two need to talk about it and you need to find out if she really is pregnant, among other questions that need to be asked. Does she want to break up?
I hope that helps.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 Whether she likes to talk to you or not, you need to get her a pregnancy test. She might be avoiding this conversation, like she is in denial. The earlier you find out the better. If she's worried about the future, flowers and gifts are not going to make her feel better. If she is indeed pregnant then breaking up with you and never talking to you again would be the stupidest thing to do. Usually when a girl is pregnant she would do anything to cling on to her boyfriend. Now it's not a time to worry about acting desperate, but indeed you need to be desperate to find out the test results.
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reader, heart-shaped-balloon +, writes (5 October 2010):
She sounds like she just doesn't like you anymore, dude. That's that. How do you know she's pregnant? People rarely get pregnant after 1 unprotected sexual trist. If it were that easy, married people would have much less of a problem conceiving. (It took my parents almost 2 years to get it right with my sister - I was adopted.) She might just have lost feelings for you or has something stressful going on and your demanding behavior is bothering her and pushing her away. Never desperately cling to someone, it only pushes them further. Instead, give them space. Maybe occasionally leave her flowers or cute notes/gifts, but leave them somewhere for her to find and don't go to her directly until she comes to you. Let her do the chasing for a bit and you will see how interested she truly is. Once she doesn't feel smothered, she might even go back to how she was before.
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