My mom is a cougar! How do I get over it?
Q. So heres the story. Im 16 and my name is Candace. I'm inique, pretty and fun to be around and hilarious, and I get that from my mom. I haven't seen or talked to my real dad in years. (i dont miss him at all). My mom remarried and had a son with my ...
A. 23 October 2010: Yum! Cougar! Introduce your mom to me! ^_~
I think your mom's business is her own. Whoever she chooses to have intimate relationships with, is her own business. Unlike Tennisstar88, I don't believe in acting ones age. How dull the world wo... (read in full...)
Sad about leaving the house I grew up in. Please help me!!!
Q. We are selling our house because we can no longer afford it. I just found out that someone made an offer on the house. Now I have no clue if I should be upset because it will be weird because someone else will be living in the house I grew up in. ...
A. 22 October 2010: Take a lot of pictures and videos and make a scrap book of your time there, documented with little notes and drawings. Also, what I did when I moved from my old house I lived in for 11 years, was write a little note in my closet, date it and signed ... (read in full...)
Bedtime capers!
Q. I have an issue. My girlfriend get very upset with me when we try to sleep in the same bed. I toss and turn when I sleep. She says that I knee and elbow her. She yells at me for this even though I tell her that I am not doing it intentionality and ...
A. 22 October 2010: My parents sleep on separate beds, next to each other, using separate blankets. It works great, until my dad starts grunting in his sleep, but that's another issue. My friend's parents also do the same thing, except their beds are apart in the ... (read in full...)
I'd like some advice on clothes to wear to a bar.
Q. I'd like some advice on clothes to wear to a bar. Do you think it would be ok to wear a small black top, black or white jeggings , knee high boots ( i have a black pair and a grey pair ) , and either a bolero jacket or a dressy coat ?. Both of those ...
A. 22 October 2010: A bar is usually intended for a highly casual crowd. Wear something that you're comfortable with. If you're too dressy, you may feel out of place - like wearing a wedding gown to a pizza cafe. Also, it kind of depends on what the event is ... (read in full...)
What's the point of a woman being confident if there's always going to be another woman that's better-looking than you?
Q. hey iv just had this question in my head a few days and i just wondered what mabye you guys thought ? whats the point in woman being confident if theres always going to be another girl thats always better looking then you ? theres perfect girls ev...
A. 22 October 2010: Because looks makes up one aspect of attraction. The other aspects are character, interest, thought process and other tidbits specific to the individual's tastes.
Also, the point is not really about what others think, but rather, how you thin... (read in full...)
Crushing on a straight guy
Q. I'm a 17 y/o boy and have had a crush on a straight guy at school since I was 14. My feelings for him have only grown stronger and I'm starting to develop an obsession its worrying. Ive tried to get over him but nothing works. Help! What should I ...
A. 21 October 2010: The problem is caused by the lack of substance in your life. Therefore it's not avoiding it, but trying to counter it. Avoiding a problem is if you two are in a relationship and he cheated on you, but pretend that nothing is wrong, even if it ... (read in full...)
BF wants a Prenup...
Q. Before I got into a relationship with my current bf, he told me that if he ever ends up with someone, he would ask for a prenup. He told me he did not want the relationship to be based on money, and that he does not have a lot himself and that tons ...
A. 20 October 2010: A prenup also protects his family. For example, I take care of my parents whom have worked all their lives, a house mortgage I am paying tediously and painfully and a myriad of other goals I am trying to make. On a superficial level, it may seem ... (read in full...)
Crushing on a straight guy
Q. I'm a 17 y/o boy and have had a crush on a straight guy at school since I was 14. My feelings for him have only grown stronger and I'm starting to develop an obsession its worrying. Ive tried to get over him but nothing works. Help! What should I ...
A. 20 October 2010: It's the hormones and the lack of substance in your life that makes you become more and more obsessed with him. Forgive me, I am only assuming in the substance aspect.
To counter such a foe, you must fill your life up with things that keep you... (read in full...)
I'm not part of his social circle and I can't take it any more...
Q. My husband and i have been married for 27 years and our boys have now flown the nest. you'd think we would be having a ball wouldnt you? Wrong! He is, he goes away with his mates skiing every january, hes had a few weekends away, stag weekends ...
A. 20 October 2010: That sort of paranoia Marymomnwife is suggesting is super unhealthy. Take many of my friends for example, they go out every now and then without their wives. I have always been the one to 'look out' for them and never have they cheated on their ... (read in full...)
How do I confront her about the ex boyfriend back in touch?
Q. OK here's the story A few weeks ago I found out my girlfriend was still talking to her ex. Her ex, who we'll call ken, goes to school about 40 min. away and my gf and I attend the same one. I met my gf at the beginning of summer and she always b...
A. 20 October 2010: There are two issues here: 1) your distrust of her and 2) her deception.
Branching off your distrust, you compromised the trust factor of the relationship and went into her private emails. I don't know about you, but for me, no matter how para... (read in full...)
How do I know? What Should I feel?
Q. ok i met my boyfriend on myspace... we fell in love over the internet and became very very close! after about 5 months of that i moved down to texas to be with him.. and we have a great relationship, good sex, very open and we both love each other ...
A. 20 October 2010: I think you're not over-reacting per se, but you reacting much more negatively than what I feel is 'just about right'. Your boyfriend doesn't realize that his generalization is hurting you. That's a big problem amongst the natural male. He should ... (read in full...)
Is it better to tell the truth, or hold on to a lie to prevent conflict?
Q. I have a dilemma with my current partner. I have been lying to him about something that I know will cause him pain, and/or cause him to reconsider being in a relationship with me. I fluctuate between wanting to tell the truth, and facing the hard ...
A. 20 October 2010: In The Dark Knight, Batman said something that truly inspired me at the end of the movie. I have finally found something, a phrase coinciding my views on religion, politics and social dynamics in a nutshell. Batman said and I quote:
"Some... (read in full...)
What can I do safely in bed with a condom?
Q. I've met a woman who's really crazy about me. She is not that attractive (OK for me though, she' intelligent, interesting and caring), but I am afraid that in order to get me into bed she may be ready to conceal some facts. She lost her head when ...
A. 19 October 2010: So like I said, if you already have an answer, what is the point of your question? "What can I do safely in bed with a condom?" You 'can't' say no and you're worried... o_o
It's common sense that if you are worried about STD's, then the next... (read in full...)
What can I do safely in bed with a condom?
Q. I've met a woman who's really crazy about me. She is not that attractive (OK for me though, she' intelligent, interesting and caring), but I am afraid that in order to get me into bed she may be ready to conceal some facts. She lost her head when ...
A. 19 October 2010: She lost her head eh? Wouldn't it be more prudent for her to go look for it first, before anything else? ^_~
Anyhow, like Chigirl, I am unsure what you're really asking. If you already did research on this, what more do you need to know? A... (read in full...)
Relationships need sex to survive. What if you're a virgin?
Q. Everybody is saying that relationship needs sex to survice. . Then i ask,what about bin a virgin til wedding day,doesn't it matter anymore?...
A. 19 October 2010: Sex isn't what is needed for a relationship to survive. This totally depends on the individuals involved. Alas, if sex isn't important for you, but it is for him and you two get married just to find out you're not as sexual as he needs it, this ... (read in full...)
When does the age gap become too big?
Q. Recently started seeing a friend of a friend, and found out that he is 22 years my senior (I am 44). You do the math. I had simply never asked, and didn't realize he was that much older, he certainly doesn't look it, and our mutual friends are my ...
A. 19 October 2010: Is never really about the age if you two can make a connection. Age never dictates a person's maturity, knowledge and wisdom. Age is only a milestone in which to measure a person's existence. Indeed, someone much younger may see things ... (read in full...)
How can a real girl ever be enough for a man?
Q. How can a real girl ever be enough for a man? I mean, I have talked with many guys my age, and they have all agreed when I asked them whether a porn star has a hotter or better body than a normal girl, they have all said yes! The typical porn star ...
A. 17 October 2010: I totally agree with CaringGuy. At this moment in time, you're just looking at all of this in black and white and cherry picking the generalizations. This is a self-esteem issue and you're trying to find something to blame that on and justify your ... (read in full...)
I enjoy bj's more from guys that girls, does that mean I am gay?
Q. Okay...so I am really confused. I enjoy getting blowjobs from guys more so than girls, particularly because they give them better. Does that mean I am gay...I mean I have thought about it and I could not see myself having an intimate relationship ...
A. 17 October 2010: Baddogbj, let's put it this way: if he received a blow job from a person that is wearing a hood, not knowing whether the person is a man or a woman, chances are, the person receiving is simply getting pleasure from a blow job. He would not be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend feels my problems shouldn't affect him in any way
Q. Iv been a bit depressed lately,because my family is going through a crisis, and iv been feeling very low, my PhD work is all stacked up..i have so much to do and i dont even know where to start from, and to top it all, I have a clingy boyfriend (Im ...
A. 17 October 2010: Take a break? I was expecting you to ask whether you should break it up with him for good or not. This overbearing boyfriend of yours is... Let me find some adjectives....
A few words to describe him: immature, insensitive, unrefined, childish... (read in full...)
Would him showing his friends naked pics of me be a deal breaker?
Q. I just found out my boyfriend of 2yrs showed a bunch of his friends and co-workers pictures of my breasts that he and I took during our first year of dating. I don't know at what point he showed these pictures--possibly during a big fight...or ...
A. 17 October 2010: Since this bothers you, you can either tell him that it bothers you and give him another chance or break it off. I don't think that is what all guys do and even if some guys do it, I don't think it justifies it.
Most of my past and current ... (read in full...)
My new husband just found out he's the father of his ex's baby
Q. My husband and I dated for almost 2 years before recently getting married. Just a few days after the ceremony, we got a call from his crazy ex girlfriend who had never left us alone the whole time we had been together. She was saying she just had a ...
A. 17 October 2010: The question you 'should' ask yourself is what you want to see yourself have 5 years, 10 years, 25 years from now. At this moment in time, you're letting the 'small' problems affect the bigger picture. Yes, I agree that he should have been more ... (read in full...)
I am sick of being single, but too shy to ask guys out!
Q. Im really sick of being single. And Im shy and never been good around men. I dont wanna ask them out and then have them have a girlfreind or soemthign. It makes me really normal. what do you think that I should do...
A. 17 October 2010: Try a reputable online dating site, speed dating venue, going to larger gatherings with your friends, clubs (as in an event, not the place for dancing/drinking), or try some liquid courage. ^_^... (read in full...)
He said I was "not the one" and then had sex with me anyway
Q. My boyfriend and i broke up . we had a nice dinner and he said i was not the "one" however he kept saying he loves me and wants to be my friend. when we left the restaurant we ended up having sex in the parking lot. he still kept saying how ...
A. 17 October 2010: It sounds like he has personal issues. I don't think it has anything to do with whether 'you're the one' or not. It seems like he has commitment issues. It also sounds like he wants you as a friend with benefits. ... (read in full...)
Conference Call During Dinner Date Bad, or Wife Overreacting?
Q. What's the word out there on a husband who suggests an early dinner to his wife. ; she says she's not very hungry but will keep him company and enjoy a glass of wine. Food is ordered and husband announces he is expecting a phone call. Turns ou...
A. 16 October 2010: HinRSF, well now, you did not say anything about those things in your original post. That makes all the difference.
PS: next time, if you have an issue, please post ALL the details. ... (read in full...)
Conference Call During Dinner Date Bad, or Wife Overreacting?
Q. What's the word out there on a husband who suggests an early dinner to his wife. ; she says she's not very hungry but will keep him company and enjoy a glass of wine. Food is ordered and husband announces he is expecting a phone call. Turns ou...
A. 16 October 2010: Before passing judgment on the husband, I believe there are some unknown variables here. Is work-related things the only things he seem to be 'insensitive' about towards you? Otherwise, is he a good husband?
Now, let's address the actual c... (read in full...)
I want to get away from my parents
Q. Ok, so I'm feeling a bit odd asking about personal stuff online (which I've never really done before) but it seems like in this situation, a stranger could probably give me better advice than my friends or family. So anyways, here's my proble...
A. 16 October 2010: My brother once said this to me and it stuck with me since: "Before you seek to change others, change yourself first." It can't be taken completely literally, but 'changing' yourself - situation, ability, knowledge, etc is a good start when you ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to love my cousin?
Q. my name is donna i live in texas. i have been in love with my cousin for 17 years. he is in love with me also. we first made love 17 years ago,it just happened. it was the first time we ever met. we spent a month together, then he had to go home b...
A. 16 October 2010: Ah! There is another cat here! Meow! ^o^
Is it wrong to love your cousin? Definitely not. Despite what the 'common' folk may want you to believe, morality is a social thing created by the majority, manipulated over time, influenced by vario... (read in full...)
I enjoy bj's more from guys that girls, does that mean I am gay?
Q. Okay...so I am really confused. I enjoy getting blowjobs from guys more so than girls, particularly because they give them better. Does that mean I am gay...I mean I have thought about it and I could not see myself having an intimate relationship ...
A. 16 October 2010: Not necessarily. Guys know what guys want in terms of sexual pleasure, generally speaking. So if you get a guy to give you a blow job and it works out great, it just simply means you're getting a blow job from someone who knows what a guy wants. ... (read in full...)
What do men consider to be a controlling girlfriend?
Q. Is it normal for someone's boyfriend to go to the gym with his coworkers who are female (like 1 guy and 3 females?) I don't feel very happy about it, mostly because he is physically attracted (in his words, if he was single, he would like to date ...
A. 16 October 2010: Previous male poster suggested you go with him: excellent idea! There is no reason why he wouldn't want you to go if he's sincerely just going for a workout, BUT, what if he starts feeling like you're doing 'unnecessary' things which is equivalent ... (read in full...)
How do I ask the shy guy out?
Q. question dear cupid i meet this very shy man at my sister's party i was wondering how to ask him out. a friend told me he has not had many girlfriends and very inexperienced with women i was wondering how to ask him out for coffee or tea. he looked ...
A. 16 October 2010: If you could find out what he's confident about, that might help the situation. I'm assuming that people know about him. So ask around, do a little research.
Next, try setting up a dinner with him with mutual friends of mainly guys. Say: 3 g... (read in full...)
Men like girls who are bald?
Q. I've always shaved down there. I can't always get the hair completely bald off of the lip area though, so there is always hair though. I recently got in a relationship, and I am kind of worried that the guy might be turned off by a bit of the hair. ...
A. 16 October 2010: Let's put it this way, personally, I don't want to find an amazon jungle down there, complemented with monkeys, snakes and tissue bits. Hey, is that a roll of tissue, FluffyPie? It has a face! Incredible! ^_^
Umm, yes, so long as it's not a fo... (read in full...)
I'm devastated..ex no longer loves me!
Q. my ex told me she no longer loves 4 days ago, iam deverstated,iv not eaten or gone to work iv not been out of the house, and last night i was toil she has been seeing someone befor we split,all i ever done is love her i just can not stop crying, ...
A. 16 October 2010: You have to realize that in any relationship, giving does not equate to receiving the same. It simply means you've been giving. If they reciprocate, it means they recognize your generosity to some level and over time, the more you give, the more ... (read in full...)
If a man misses his family and wants to come home, why would he stay with his affair partner?
Q. If a man misses his family and wants to come home, why would he stay with his affair partner? He doesn't get along with her, she's mean to his kids and he misses his family? Whats stopping him?...
A. 15 October 2010: I disagree with CaringGuy, though his opinion is definitely sound.
If a man misses his family and wants to go home, but continues to stay with the mistress, it could ALSO mean he enjoys the warmth and unity of the family, but he cannot let go o... (read in full...)
How can I tighten up when I'm having sex?
Q. Hi, I'd love some advice from readers, especially any males, about how to tighten up when I'm having sex with my new bf. He has a large penis and looooads of stamina, and he always tries to pleasure me first, which gets me very wet...when he first ...
A. 15 October 2010: You won't suddenly get too loose during sex. On the other hand, if you're too wet, just stop for a moment, wipe some of the excess away and continue. One of my exes used to get super wet too much, so we would try other positions or simply, wipe it ... (read in full...)
Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?
Q. Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...
A. 15 October 2010: Yes you should. Your current girlfriend deserves better I'm sure.... (read in full...)
How can a real girl ever be enough for a man?
Q. How can a real girl ever be enough for a man? I mean, I have talked with many guys my age, and they have all agreed when I asked them whether a porn star has a hotter or better body than a normal girl, they have all said yes! The typical porn star ...
A. 15 October 2010: No one is perfect. The important thing is how you're accepted and wanted.
I would NOT believe my girlfriend if she said I was perfect, but I would believe her if she said I'm 'perfect' for her. The difference between the two is that there wi... (read in full...)
This new guy online has me questioning my relationship!
Q. I have been with my current boyfriend for 5 years and we had until recently a great relationship we have a 3 year old son and live together.we have always had a passionate relationship however he has hit me twice(drunk both times)and recently we ...
A. 14 October 2010: Amazing father does not equal to great husband. Hitting you regardless of whether he was under the influence or not is absolutely intolerable. Don't let his emotional and physical abuse get the best of you. If you're staying because you remind ... (read in full...)
How can I stop supporting my sister's family?
Q. hey guys this wil be long but i need help.i hate my big sis and when she comes to visit its like i want to die.shes 33 and has 3 kids.2 are staying with me and mom.i buy food and suport the family while shes staying at my grams waiting for welfare.i ...
A. 14 October 2010: Yup totally agree with Tennisstar88. Since reasoning with your family isn't working, take the other step and get out of there. They may continue to hate you for it, but this is something you can't control. ... (read in full...)
How can a real girl ever be enough for a man?
Q. How can a real girl ever be enough for a man? I mean, I have talked with many guys my age, and they have all agreed when I asked them whether a porn star has a hotter or better body than a normal girl, they have all said yes! The typical porn star ...
A. 14 October 2010: "What I still don't get is what did women do to deserve this? That our beauty is not perfect and ideal?"
What if your husband started watching porn of chubby women? What would you say about "the ideal" then? Would you then consider making y... (read in full...)
How can a real girl ever be enough for a man?
Q. How can a real girl ever be enough for a man? I mean, I have talked with many guys my age, and they have all agreed when I asked them whether a porn star has a hotter or better body than a normal girl, they have all said yes! The typical porn star ...
A. 14 October 2010: You see, the problem lies in how you think and process those thoughts. People will always find beauty in other things, other people, but that does not mean you're not 'enough'. You are comparing yourself to the impossible and I am not even talking ... (read in full...)
How can a real girl ever be enough for a man?
Q. How can a real girl ever be enough for a man? I mean, I have talked with many guys my age, and they have all agreed when I asked them whether a porn star has a hotter or better body than a normal girl, they have all said yes! The typical porn star ...
A. 13 October 2010: To me, the ideal totally depends on the connection. Absolute ideas don't fit with me. What many women (and men) fail to realize is that beauty is subjective and only makes up one aspect of attraction. Cats like myself, prefer a broad undefined ... (read in full...)
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