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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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What defines a soul mate and how can you tell who is likely to be a soul mate?
Q. I always believed there was a person out there for everyone but after my gf of 2 years who was the love of my life and I broke up I have sort of lost faith in relationships and am quite weary to get into another one in the near future. What do you ...
A. 21 February 2011: A soul mate is not a guarantee that your relationship will continue till death do us part. It's more like a mystery. When you look into her eyes you see a glimpse of eternity. Some women walk with you on a longer path, some just short ones but each ... (read in full...)
Why is it that I love my boyfriend but want to be loved by this other guy too?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now(11 months) and its been great being with him. No break ups, a few arguments now and then but all resolved =). Thing is i'm nearly 16 and hes 19, i think because of his age he,s told me he's ready to...
A. 21 February 2011: He's your first boyfriend and possibly the last, since you are talking about marriage. How can you be so sure he's the one? Maybe you don't want to regret not playing the field. The only thing lacking in your relationship is your ability to compare ... (read in full...)
I need some advice, to help my friend
Q. My best-friend, has being dating this girl for year and a month now. last Friday she wrote him a text massage saying she knew what she was about to tell him wound hurt him but prayed that he would understand. Then she said she was putting everything ...
A. 21 February 2011: Studies, sounds like an excuse for something else. In case she's telling the truth, he should remain her friend but not show that he's upset about it. He has to trust that it's a good decision on both sides. College typically goes for 4 years. The ... (read in full...)
Should I marry a non virgin woman?
Q. Should i marry a non virgin woman? I am a virgin guy, i dont want to deal with the retro what what jealousy i found out my fiancee has slept with 30 men....
A. 21 February 2011: I've read posts about boys who had retro what what jealousy with a girl who's a virgin but kissed a guy in a party and let the guy lick chocolate on her tummy, and he has a problem with that. I think it's kind of hard, at your age, to find a woman ... (read in full...)
How can I trust my boyfriend more, now he is living with me?
Q. I have difficulty trusting men. I know its lame but I have had REALLY bad relationships in the past and well I am trying to be better about it now. My new bf is a great man or so I think. He decided to just move in with me just recently cos he is ...
A. 21 February 2011: Before you take everything negatively in his messages. A wingman is a male friend who accompanies less attractive women to parties, to help them get dates, because an attached woman is suddenly more valuable and that makes men want to compete for ... (read in full...)
I cant stand his children and I don't know what to do anymore!
Q. im thinking i really need some advice from someone who isnt a family member and can see this from my p.o.v, ive been with my now fiancee for 2 years he has 4 kids from a previous marriage. i already set myself up as this guy is 35 and i am 22, he ...
A. 21 February 2011: The most important thing is if you love him enough to not have any more children. Those children are innocent. They did not come to this life just to cause you and his ex wife trouble. You can be a good model and teach them good manners but when you ... (read in full...)
She won't open up to me about how she feels about our problems
Q. Me and my girlfriend been dating for about 9 months and the only problem is that when something happens between us she just does not want to talk about it. Even if its something very silly she gets angry easily and says its a fight and for me to ...
A. 21 February 2011: It takes me a long time to figure out what I am feeling, and it's not that I am bottling up. I am slow to my reflexes. Also I grew up in a family where appearing happy in front of others was more important than expressing true feelings. So maybe ... (read in full...)
How do I tell them I prefer small boobs?
Q. My friends are very into watching porn all the time, girls in my year with double d's and wanting tto have sex as soon as possible. To fit in I have to be the same and go along with it. However I don't agree with huge breasts if you girls who read ...
A. 21 February 2011: There is a lot of pressure to become a man. A lot of competition, the ego pursuit to get the most successful guy or the girl with the biggest boobs. All you can tell them is be good and wear a condom. The legal age in UK, I believe is 16. Even when ... (read in full...)
How can I stretch my vagina?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been wanting to have sex. We've tried a a couple of times, but my vagina just was too small for his penis. How can I stretch my vagina a bit to enable him to enter?...
A. 20 February 2011: I don't think there is a vagina that's too small. There is no point putting stuff in just for the sake of opening it. Stretching it sounds forceful. When it's ready it opens up like a flower, very receptive. You have to be so turned on and wet that ... (read in full...)
I believe that she is keeping her options open with this other guy.
Q. My long time girlfriend left me for another man. they had been having an affair for a couple of months. during this time she lied to me on lots of occasions. when I eventually found out I asked her to reconsider and asked if she would come back. she ...
A. 20 February 2011: She is not treating you well. By waiting you are showing her that you don't mind disrespect and that you are desperate for her love. You have other options too, you just don't know it.
Think about what went wrong in the relationship, and why she ... (read in full...)
What's he doing on the weekends? Am I paranoid or what?
Q. I met a man a month ago. We get along great. He is currently on disability because of an injury to his leg so except for doctor's appointments he is available to get together any time of the day. We live a few hours apart and make frequent drives to ...
A. 20 February 2011: He's spending time with his niece on the weekend. He probably won't visit her every weekend. You can know more about what he does the next time you see him. Don't send him any more messages until he suggests doing something with you. Don't explain ... (read in full...)
Is it good to stop masterbating?
Q. i used to watch porn to make myself feel a bit better but now i have stopped because it always made me feel guilty, also i feel it ruins sex experience. is it good for me to stop masterbating? ...
A. 19 February 2011: There are no health benefits to stop masturbating. There are no health detriments to masturbating. God won't kill three kittens every time you masturbate. Unless you want to be with a girlfriend who condemns porn, there is no reason to stop what you ... (read in full...)
Not sure what to think about wife's spanking-fantasy...
Q. My wife wants me to spank her before/during sex. This probably sounds like every guy's dream but there is a bit of a sinister twist that is making me feel a bit uncomfortable. When I asked her where the spanking fantasy had come from, she said t...
A. 19 February 2011: It's normal. I understand that you want to treat each other as equal, but what makes it so passionate is the feeling of being submissive and giving power to you to control her sensations. Spanking gives her blow flow to her genitals. So it's not ... (read in full...)
I'm so lost and confused without her, will she ever come back?
Q. I had a fight with my girlfriend because I suspected she was cheating on me with several men and I put her out of the house. Then she called me saying that she loves me very much, wants me back and wishes to marry me. But I traced this phone call a...
A. 19 February 2011: You don't want a slut back but at the same time you feel a terrible loss because you are so used to being with each other. It's a relationship you miss, and not her. You lost her at the moment she felt like cheating. Why would she want to go back to ... (read in full...)
Things were going good and flirty then he just stopped messaging me!
Q. I've been chatting to this guy for a good few months now and we chatted every day and the past month and a half it got a little flirty and he kept talking about hopefully finding a "lovely girl" and then winking and hinting it was me. Then on Monday ...
A. 19 February 2011: I've played the online dating game. Being good and flirty is everyone's language there. If you aren't that way you won't get any interest. When people are online they are probably busy talking to a few other people too. It doesn't really matter who ... (read in full...)
Screwed up by sending a stupid text accusing him of being a player & a cheater
Q. A co-worker started flirting with me at a Christmas party. After quite a few drinks, we ended up going home together. I though I wouldn't hear from him but I did. He texted me every day for 2 weeks - some of the stuff was very romantic, like he'd ...
A. 17 February 2011: Don't be so sad about this. Maybe this stupid text saved you from falling deeper for him. You'd never heard a good thing about him. Players are nice otherwise they wouldn't get laid. Saying "damaged and messed up" is just a way to inspire sympathy ... (read in full...)
I'm 16, in love with my 25-year-old teacher! What do I do?
Q. Hey This is something i have really struggled with for the past few months. I think I am in love with my 25 year old female teacher. I am a guy and I am 16, 17 this year. If I dont talk to her, then I feel terrible that day; if i make he...
A. 17 February 2011: I think you are in love with her because she got something that matches your criteria of the perfect woman. She is not the only woman who can fulfil you. There are probably a few more out there who got more than she does. Of course there is a chance ... (read in full...)
I need to know how he feels about me! Can someone interpret the signs?
Q. Well... I've been researching all over the internet to figure out my problem, but I just can't seem to find the answer. There's a guy that i've known for about 5 and a half months now ( let's call him "Cory" ), and I realized I had a crush on him ...
A. 17 February 2011: I would suggest you not to talk about other guys again with Cory. If you want to start anything with him, he needs to know that he's not just a shoulder to cry on, or a best buddy. You and him are free to look around, but things are best kept ... (read in full...)
My ex of 4 years is getting married and I'm feeling sad about it
Q. Hey guys. Hoping and praying for some words of wisdom...I just found out that my ex, who I was with for 4 years, is getting married. He's marrying the girl he started seeing 2 weeks after we broke up (I suspect there was some crossover, but he n...
A. 14 February 2011: You may be feeling sad because the break up was hard for you, and that it seemed like he chose her over you. Realize you are who you are, his decisions in life say nothing about how good you are as a mate. You may want to think that after a person ... (read in full...)
Does love honestly overcome anything?
Q. OK. Does love honestly overcome everything? I have been seeing someone for around a year and a half. I have my daughter (8)and she has a daughter (7) and a son(5). We have both been single for 3-4 years so are both use to doing things our own ...
A. 11 February 2011: Have you talked to her yet? What does she say? Did the arguments start because she doesn't feel like you love her as much as she loves you, or is it really about differences? I can tell you this from my own experience. There seems to be many ... (read in full...)
Does love honestly overcome anything?
Q. OK. Does love honestly overcome everything? I have been seeing someone for around a year and a half. I have my daughter (8)and she has a daughter (7) and a son(5). We have both been single for 3-4 years so are both use to doing things our own ...
A. 11 February 2011: Don't get married so soon. What's your housing situation? Can you let the four of them stay during the weekend and if all is good then have them stay longer?
There are stages of a relationship where you learn from each other's differences. I gues... (read in full...)
Should I try to move on and forgive?
Q. I met him during my divorce and his divorce.We both have 2 kids from our marriages.We got serious immeditately.He moved us in after 6 months.Sex was constant and phenominal.Our kids got along fabulously.Then he found FaceBook and old crushes and new ...
A. 11 February 2011: I guess you never really talked about the status. I don't blame you. Women have a dilemma. When women have their relationship talk with their men, they feel smothered. If women don't talk, it gets very vague and you never know whether he just wants ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of being in a serious relationship!
Q. Hiya, I am 16 and my only fear in life is being in a serious relationship. I have always had FWB’s (Friend’s With Benefits) and they were always the “Bad Boy” sort of characters so I never had to be serious and basically I could flirt with whoever ...
A. 11 February 2011: You can only get rid of this fear by going into a relationship and finding out what it really is about. Everyone has fears about relationships. I am not certain you will be happy with him though. He will always suspect he is second best in your ... (read in full...)
What do you think of this internet relationship?
Q. so. i've been in an online relationship with a girl. for a year and a half. i was looking for a gf online because i was in a car accident and couldn't leave the house enough to really look for anyone. and it was easy...so i just kept talking to her ...
A. 10 February 2011: An online relationship isn't real. It's hard to judge what she is because you can basically say anything on the computer. She must have thought you were joking too when you mention testing. It's a good thing to be safe but what she was inferring ... (read in full...)
Tough Love...what to do? My boyfriends a bigger handfull then I ever imagined
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. He goes to counseling once a week, is on antidepressants and anti anxiety medication. When we first met he was soo soo sweet (I really thought I got super lucky) but now we are living together in a ...
A. 10 February 2011: You need to know if this depression is a one time thing, or is he chronically depressed. Some people are still finding themselves, and go through that dark night of the soul, that rite of passage of adulthood. Having possibly autism may affect his ... (read in full...)
I have clues my husband is cheating, I don't know what to do!
Q. I need help my husband is acting so different lately I have some clues he’s cheating he denies but also I feel so different about him I’m not sure if I love him I lost all my trust and I don’t know what to do now he tell’s me the he loves me so ...
A. 9 February 2011: Tell him you understand it's hard to live a double life and that you really miss your intimate time together. As well appreciate the life you share together. Tell him if you don't feel like you get enough attention from him then you won't cheat, but ... (read in full...)
Tough Love...what to do? My boyfriends a bigger handfull then I ever imagined
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. He goes to counseling once a week, is on antidepressants and anti anxiety medication. When we first met he was soo soo sweet (I really thought I got super lucky) but now we are living together in a ...
A. 9 February 2011: He was sweet before because he needed someone to love him. Now he got what he wanted he's no longer attracted to you. Not your fault at all. It's just that he needs someone to love him so that he won't feel lonely. His nit-picking is reflective of ... (read in full...)
Retroactive Jealousy An Opposite View Point
Q. I have read the articles on Retroactive Jealousy with great interest. I am the one that caused RJ in my lover, I have had less sexual partners than him but I have more sexual experiences. I am not proud of the things I have done and I am trying to ...
A. 9 February 2011: Your past is not a mistake. I just don't bother with men who have problems with my past. The moment he's asking too much, frowning, suspecting me is the time I say goodbye. You are not responsible for fixing his problem. You don't need to tell men ... (read in full...)
Should I contact my best friend, even if she may be in a serious relationship?
Q. For those who may have noticed my avatar, it is of my best friend and I. We have such a long and incredible story, and love each other very much. But for many reasons, all of which are a matter of geography pretty much, we ultimately aren'...
A. 8 February 2011: I can't tell if your best friend is still interested in talking to you. If I were your girlfriend I would mind you talking to someone hours on the phone, a few times a week. That person should be your girlfriend. I know you really need someone to ... (read in full...)
She says she is going to break up my boyfriend and I. How do I handle this situation?
Q. Okay, quick question. I am a 16 year old girl, with a very good social life. I'm very popular, have lots of friends, and even have a sweet, caring boyfriend!(Yay!!) At the beginning of the year, I made a friend, let's call her Nicolette. Lately, ...
A. 7 February 2011: You sound like you are afraid of her. You are only a friend to her because you don't know how to get rid of her. Even if you made a new friend she would get in between you. It doesn't have to be a person, I am sure if you develop a new interest she ... (read in full...)
Why are women devalued after sex but not men?
Q. Why is it that after sex , a man devalues a woman and views her as " cheap stuff " or " slut " but you don't hear women calling men " cheap " ? Why is it that for a woman to be able to make the man stay interested in her, i.e. want her not jus...
A. 4 February 2011: Men like women who play hard to get because they think that increases a woman's value. This tactic is not going to work a long time if the woman doesn't have value herself. For a man to appreciate you for the long term you need more than just ... (read in full...)
If we were to break up I have nowhere to go. Advice needed please!
Q. im with my girlfreind nearly 7 yrs, we're living together and have a 2 yr old daughter i proposed to her on her 21st birthday yr and half ago but since then we'v been fighting a lot and the sex went from occasionally to none. im only 21 and have ...
A. 1 February 2011: This is not something that can't be fixed, unless she is too depressed to get a job. If you had been attracted to her before, that attraction can come back. Having a baby is a big event. Women are born to create. Her ultimate purpose had been ... (read in full...)
My wife's male friend told her he loved her and she ask me what to do!
Q. My wife of 8 years with two kids asked me what she should do about her male friend who told her he love her. He said he knows she is married and she can't help him, but he can't stop thinking about her. He loves to talk the whole day with her. ...
A. 31 January 2011: No, I don't think she's naive and I don't appreciate her trying to rub it in your face after you repeatedly told her your opinion. I think she's trying to provoke your jealousy. She doesn't like your cool response so she is trying again and again ... (read in full...)
I'd like to meet up with him, but I'm worried he might like me more than a friend!
Q. I have this guy friend I talk to online. He's the same age as me and he used to go to my school. He's a really nice guy to talk to and I would like to meet up with him just as a friend, but I feel like he has much stronger feelings towards me. H...
A. 31 January 2011: He tried to make it sound like a joke but you know what he's up to. One of my dating sites I went to, in which there are three sections: dating, relationship, and the naughty section. I got 50 messages, most of them brief, from the naughty section, ... (read in full...)
Can't figure this guy out! What is going on?
Q. I met this guy back in November and we were hanging out a few times a week, having a great time, and it lead to me sleeping over when I would see him. Every since I met him I questioned if he was a player.... his cell always being off when I am ...
A. 31 January 2011: I am not a guy but I can imagine he would be offended if you asked if he was a player. His cell could be off because he respects you and he doesn't want to be interrupted when you are together. You are not a couple yet and he has every right to give ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mother hates me and refuses to see our child because I told her he was bisexual! How can I clear the air?
Q. I really need help. I've been with my boyfriend 4 years, (were 18) and we have a 14 month old daughter together. The problem is that his mother hates me because I once told her my boyfriend was bisexual (which is true). He cheated on me 3 times wi...
A. 31 January 2011: I am afraid you can't make her like you. Mothers adore their sons. If there is a problem it's always somebody's fault. An extreme example is that on the newspaper a 21 year old guy was convicted of murder and his mother was still trying to defend ... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly decide that he didn't want to be with me?
Q. So in the beginning of the year, I met this guy at school (first year of college - we're both 18) and he immediately showed interest in me. He also became my lab partner and 3 days after meeting him, he told me he liked me through a drunk text. I ...
A. 31 January 2011: His heart and head are in conflict. He wants a relationship although he's not quite ready for it. It may take over years to get over a lost love. He only said he wants only you so that he wouldn't lose you to someone else. You being a virgin only ... (read in full...)
My wife's male friend told her he loved her and she ask me what to do!
Q. My wife of 8 years with two kids asked me what she should do about her male friend who told her he love her. He said he knows she is married and she can't help him, but he can't stop thinking about her. He loves to talk the whole day with her. ...
A. 30 January 2011: You already told her what to do. Just tell her you are not interested in hearing from him again. She doesn't need your input. She is still his friend because she's interested.
This is the answer if you are conventional and monogamous. There are ... (read in full...)
Should I propose to her, or am I making a mistake?
Q. I've known and have been sleeping with my girlfriend for 2 years besides a several month period where she changed her number and took me out of her life. Here's the deal and I am trying to get to the bottom of this and it isn't easy...we have h...
A. 30 January 2011: Can I have the ring? I won't treat you like a doormat.
She still has feelings for her ex. To get her to pay attention to you the thing to do is not to love her more, convince her to love you. It's actually to pull away so she knows what she is miss... (read in full...)
Was naked with my ex...should I tell my girlfriend?
Q. So last night was my ex's 22nd birthday, so since we're still on good terms I went out with her and some of my old mutual friends. The night started off fairly well but as the night progressed I got more and more drunk (more so than I've gotten in ...
A. 30 January 2011: You should never tell her. This will be the perfect reason to cut all contacts with your ex. You need to give yourself attention. I don't know what men like to do but for me, I pamper myself with manicures, listen to music, going to shopping malls. ... (read in full...)
Sex is not special anymore!
Q. Today I write, I write about my experiences with sex, and love. How I have experienced so much and have come to many realizations about sex and love. First off to anyone who even reads this I know what you must be thinking. That somewhere out ther...
A. 30 January 2011: You want to be needed as a man, not just a sex toy.
Things I like in a man, stability, strength, ability to make me feel like a woman. I have faith in relationships and I am confident that I am not the only woman saying this. You are just look... (read in full...)
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