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writes:I'm 16 and my girlfriend is 15. I'm starting to worry about my relationship with her. I really love her but sometimes when I don't do what she asks she hits me. It's more of a punch to the arm or a slap. I'm worried in future years she may get abusive. Is it her keeping me in check or is it something else? I have spoken to her but she says she doesn't mean to.I love her and she loves me so the last thing I want is to leave or break up. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007): Take my advice on this one. My girlfriend started with little punches or slaps, but it developed quickly. She recently hit me with the metal end of a hose. The best advice is to do whatever she says, or else you'll regret later when the bruises and black eyes show up.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (11 July 2007):
 to be honest you don't need that in your relationship. my friend is in the same type of relationship as you. he won't leave her either. but anyway don't stay in this relationship if you are unhappy. it's not fair and you're right, it can get worse or you can just tell her that she is hurting you and its becoming very annoying.
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reader, LauraE +, writes (11 July 2007):
Some girls and women seem to grow up with the idea that hitting a man is OK because ‘you can’t really hurt him’ and ‘he can defend himself’. It isn’t OK. She knows you won’t hit her back, so it isn’t fair, and of course it is possible to hurt you. Saying “I didn’t mean it” isn’t good enough – would it be OK if you hit her as long as you said “ I didn’t mean it” afterwards? Maybe she isn’t a violent person, but has got into this habit – maybe from fighting with her siblings in the past. If so, she can stop it. Have you told her straight that this is not acceptable? I mean, looked her in the eye and spelled it out? If you have and it made no difference, then walk away now. If not, it’s your choice to give her one chance if you want. Tell her clearly that it is not acceptable. Next time it happens, you walk.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 I agree, the relationship isn't equal and if there's violence within a relationship the other person should always walk away. It's not fair.
Take care xxxxx
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hi there babes,
You have asked her why she does this and she has said she doesn't mean it.....
Well tell her if it doesn't stop then you wont mean to be nasty but the relationship will have to end tell her straight if she loves you she will understand
Good luck babes
Love Donna x
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reader, flower girl +, writes (11 July 2007):
 If she does not mean to then why does she do it, if she can not stop this then you should walk away as violence is really not a good thing in any relationship.
Take care.xx.
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Babe you deserve so much better honestly you dont wanna be in a relationship like this. I hope i helped. Mail me if you would like to talk x x
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