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*yasha
writes:i'm in love with ag guy a year older than me. i love him with all my heart, but the problem now is i don't know how he feels about me. we once had communication breakdown and i sugested we part ways thinking that maybe he will realise that i'm someone special to him. but he didn't. i couldn't stand the pain and tumoil that i was going through,so i called him and we reconcilled. so what is bothering me is, is he for real or not. Reply to this Question
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (13 July 2007):
 I have to agree with LauraE, maybe he did not chase you because you asked for the split and he did not think that you had the feelings for him.
Some men are not all that good at expressing their feelings very well, and if you ended it with him maybe he is holding back abit on how he feels just incase you do not feel the same.
I would suggest talking to him about how you feel and see if he will tell you how he feels, that fact that he took you back is i think a good indication.
Take care.xx.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (13 July 2007):
 hey there hun i agree with laura - he has given you no reason to doubt his feelings - if anything he should be feeling like this. it seems to me that he does care and love you and there is no reason you should feel otherwise. if you really are in doubt ask him but i honestly cant see him giving you any other answer other than he loves you
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reader, JonHD +, writes (13 July 2007):
 That is not a question anyone can answer for you for you alone know this guy and know if his motives are pure. In truth, speaking as a male you proberly would find that he does care for you, the majority of men do in fact care for girls the way girls hope they would but in many cases men are reluctant to speak those feelings not knowing if they are true or not or even how to express them.Men after all are not as open with their emtotions and feelings as many females so if you do indeed care for this guy as much as i believe you do then that is something you shall need to find out through him. But do not set yourself up for a heartache if this man is not what you hoped he was. The best way is to spend time with him in person, nothing sinister or anything more than a simple date.See how he acts, is he distant? is he unintrested in what you say? does he look away alot? does he look bored? does he come onto you alot? ask him random questions, but try and pull away from the personal ones until later on in the night and when you part ways kiss him on the lips, a peck. Give him a taste and ask him to call you (providing the date went well).If he does then you know he in fact does care for you. now that dousnt mean go out with him it simply means now you can find out abit more about him. If he makes a 'move' on a second date then push him away since his only in it for one thing. If he acts like a gentelman and puts his arm around you, offers you his jacket, looks you in the eye, smiles alot, holds your hand and even kisses you. You know his a decent guy and maybe worth going out with.If he dousnt call, or leaves it too long then you know his either not intrested or not too bothred. Which will make you feel down for a time but its better that than being left wondering. Basicly my advice is ask him out, be weary of him and dont get your hopes up and see how he acts.take careJon
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reader, LauraE +, writes (13 July 2007):
Hi there nyasha,
No reason to think he doesn't care for you. You asked for the split, not him remember. And when you said you wanted him back, he came back. He hasn't done anything wrong so far has he? I'm afraid the only way to know for sure is to ask him if he is serious about you.
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