He is my guy now, but his ex still calls him Babe and talks all nice to him!

I am in this same situation! My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months now, and I realized that he still contacts his ex girlfriend. They dated for about 7 months or so. My boyfriend and I started off as friends, and I've helped him through a lot. He even told me that his gf at that time couldn't help him the way I do, she didn't do things I did. But hey, that's what friends are for right? Time passed and he began to move towards me, he then told her how he felt...and about 4 months later we started dating. I always knew though that I had no part/any reason for why they broke up. I had feelings for him, but I never showed it because I know it would be wrong! He made his own choice and I accepted it. So recently, doing what MOST gfs would do...I checked his emails. I mean, why not? There should be NOTHING to hide, right? Then I saw that he was talking to his ex. I was reading them, and I do see that he tells her about me. She says she's "HAPPY" for us. She's glad that he's w/ me blahblahlah. And then out of no where, he tells her he isn't feeling too well or whatever and she goes "aww well okay ill let you go sleep. Goodnight babe". BABE!? UHH excuse me. How are you going to be happy for us, but got some nerves to call him babe? You don't say that. This girl needs to have some respect for me. She needs to back off. Then there are recent emails that says she wants to hang with him. She tells him she "misses his presence". Okay, what presence!? There's NO presence between them anymore! She should really get over it. We argued about this a few times, I told him how I felt. I know this girls been through some emo type things, and he claims to be the only one who changed her life completely. He says he's the only one that ever loved her, she's been through some rough life. I am PRETTY darn sure if she would move on and talk/meet other people she would be JUST FINE, there's more than just ONE. I just hate thinking about it...I made things so obvious to him, its like he's clueless about it. I don't want to be like "okay stop talking to her" because I shouldn't have to tell him, he can figure that out himself. Im not being a bad girlfriend, even though sometimes I feel as if I've said too much. I even told him I would NEVER bring another person between us, I would NEVER contiunue something if it bothers him. I told him he needs to give his all in our relationship....I told him all the attention should come to us/me. Not her, why is she still apart of him...he says there's nothing more. And he says he can't see himself being w/ her again..its just not the same for me. I can't share him with someone else im sorry. I can't and won't shake it off. I don't want to have reminder, I don't want to think that he DID have sex with her, he did once loved her, and yet she still contacts him. HAVE SOME RESPECT!! Im not about to carry on this relationship holding a grudge within me. It won't be right, it won't be fair. he told me he's told her before about how I feel and that she needs to stop acting like how "she used" to be. Im trying to believe it, because I trust him. She just won't budge. She talks to him all nicely and acting it up, but I KNOW she's just saying things to hide that she really wants him back. She's SUGARCOATING everything, quit faking the funk. It bugs me! What do I do?! Am I just overreacting??

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