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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Ex messing up my life!I have been married for less then a year (together for almost seven years) and have always had strong feelings for my ex since it ended without proper closure etc. So I got married but would still think about him. So one day I looked him up on website where you find people. I got an email back almost instantly saying how much he has been thinking about me and has been looking for me. We have been calling and texting backwards and forwards. he has made it clear he wants to meet up so we can see if there is anything there between us apart from just memories. Is this wise?Now this has been going on for about a month and it doesn't feel all good. I get so upset and angry when he doesn't call or text when he says he will and it affects my whole life.I love the buzz of it and I think I want to meet him but I can't help but feel like the little insecure person I was when I was with him as he didn't treat me all that well. he has apologised profusely for this and says he will always love me and no one has made him feel the way I did...Is this a man thing or what?HELP!
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reader, clareh77 +, writes (13 July 2007):
Hi
What was the reason for your break up?
You sound abit like me, the only thing I can say you shouldnt of got married, but you cant turn back time!!
I married a guy for all the wrong reasons (never got over my ex) was married for over 3 years even had a son, but ended things, the end of last year with my husband (dont regret having me my son though) I have getten back with my ex and its not plain sailing "if you reed my question. The only thing i can say, if your not happily married, end it, its not far on your husband, you love him for all the wrong reasons.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (12 July 2007):
 You have been married for less than a year babe, so have you got problems in your marriage at the moment to decide after seven years of obviously being happy enough to get married, to look him up.
Was it just curiosity on your part or is there more to it.
How did your relationship with your ex end? Good or Bad?
Maybe you need to think that seven years is closure enough, because you have already moved on and done a fairly good job of leaving the past where it should be left.
Have you thought about how you would feel if it was your husband posting this question?
He did not treat you well and i'm guessing that due to the fact you are married your husband does, so return the favour and treat him well too and forget the ex and leave it in the past.
It is just a Buzz because it's not supposed to be happening.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): A Big Mistake You Had Done Was To Get Married Especially If You Had Him On Your Mind. But Mistakes Happen. I Would Suggest Sitting Down And Consider Any Consequences,To Think If He Is Really Worth Meeting Up With And If You Can Trust Yourself Not To Do Anything Foolish. I Dont See Anything Wrong With Closure As Long If Thats All It Is. We All Need Closure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): Are you serious?? You're married for crying out loud. Stop being a selfish little girl. You said he didn't treat you well, do you honestly think he is changed into a perfect man that is worth ruining your marriage? How would you feel if you found out your husband was doing this same thing to you? You obviously weren't ready to get married, but you did so either get a divorce or stop trying to cheat on your husband. Your question asked "is this a man thing" Is what a man thing? It's a childish thing what you are doing. You don't sound at all concerned about your marriage either. Grow up.
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