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*ncle Stu
writes:My best friend just died and it's like someone has just shot me, run me over and all that. I find it hard because we were so close and now I'm depressed and can't shake out of it like I did last time. Any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): I dont buy these responses, I lost my best friend and future wife a month and half ago, and nothing is better, I still cry every night and Im a 23 yo tough male, dont tell my employees that I do what I do, but so far no easier, god be with you but I miss the hell out of her. SO sorry for your loss
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): Sex makes babies?!?!?!
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reader, babydoll0713  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 I went through this same situation about 6 years ago. I lost my bestfriend in a car accident. It is hard but it DOES get better. I can talk about her now and not even shed a tear. I think about the good times, and I can tell funny stories about her. You are the only one who can decide how to deal with it. My mother thought I should go see someone and I did one time. I soon realized that wasn't for me because they wanted me to talk about her and nothing else. I needed to do it in my own time. Same as you will, when you are ready find someone you are close to and just tell them everything. Tell them how sad and angry you are. You will feel every emotion possible and thats perfectly normal. But like anything else, the pain goes away, it soon becomes something you live with and learn how to deal with. It may seem like a never ending battle right now but you can do this. Now don't get me wrong, I think about her everyday and miss her just the same but it gets easier. Please email me if you have any questions or would just like to talk. I would love to help someone else as my friends helped me. Stay strong!
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hi babe, Im sorry to hear about it, Have you got anyone else, who was mabye close to your friend, that you could confide in them? Have you also thaught about a councellor? There are councellors trained to deal with the loss of people. I hope i helped, Mail me if you would like to talk x x
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (11 July 2007):
 My sympathy to you and the family. The loss of a loved one is the most difficult time to be in. You are shattered, you are hurt, you are lonesome, you are depressed and you even can feel lost at times through out the day. These are normal feelings that you will go through, until you are ready to move on with your life. That doesn't mean we forget the one's that we loved, it just means we can remember the good times and hold them dear in our heart. It's also good to mention their name so they know and we know they are not forgotten. No one wants to hear this, but the truth is, it just takes time and no one can tell you how much time that will be. Everyone is unique in dealing with the lost of a loved one and each mourn differently and move on at different times. It's just when you are finally ready. What I will say is...you take the time that you need and don't push yourself to hurry but go through what ever it is you need to and grieve as you see fit. If you need to cry it out, cry, if you need to talk to someone, talk. If you need to lay in bed all day, lay in bed.
Again, I am sorry for your loss and may God be with you and the family and my prayers are with you.
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reader, Rosary +, writes (10 July 2007):
 My dear I am so truly sorry for your loss. You are going to feel emotionally exhausted for awhile but I promise with each rising sun that it will get easier. Honor your friend's memory by living a happy life. You are so young and have so much to look forward to. There is a beautiful world just waiting to embrace you. If you find that as time passes you still feel the same ask your parent, guardian, friend, teacher--anyone close to you to help you seek the right person to talk to. My dear-remember your friend by living a good joyous life. I just know that you will have a great life. Be well and happy. Rosary
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reader, flower girl +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Ah babe i'm sorry for your loss.
It's totally understandable that you feel this way at the moment especially when it was such a close friend.
If you have close friends and family around you try and surround yourself with them as you will need all their support at the moment.
Time is a healer and you will start to feel better soon i'm sure.
Take care.xx.
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