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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 2 May 2008: Yes, dear poster, you said it just right :-).
De nada (you're welcome).... (read in full...)
Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 2 May 2008: You made me laugh, poster :-), and I love your Spanish :-) :-) :-). I guess you would only need to leave the man alone with the bull, and he would get the idea where to ram his horns :-).
:-) :-) :-)
And yes, you learn a lot if you have a fr... (read in full...)
Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 1 May 2008: That sure is an evil grin :-). I'm not sure what it means but I'm sure I like it :-).... (read in full...)
Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 1 May 2008: I have to say I made a mistake in my opinion about this man.
I thought it was clear he was a player, but also a person capable of more elevated thoughts and actions. He's obviously not. This is not a man who first checks what effect his actions ... (read in full...)
I know it was wrong but I looked in my girlfriend's phone and I felt destroyed!!
Q. My girlfriend and I have have been having the time of our lives over the past 8 months. I'm 48 and she's 45. We're both very much in love, and then last week I saw a dramatic change in her. Even in the bedroom she was cold. Something she has alwa...
A. 29 April 2008: I beg to differ, man. She set you up and you're accepting it. It's your life.... (read in full...)
Why do people think first night sex is cheap and the girl lacks self respect?
Q. Ok guys why do ppl think it is cheap and the girl lacks self respect if they have sex on the first night? I mean after going out on a date and lots of talking? What is the difference between waiting for the second date as some ppl think it is more ...
A. 29 April 2008: I can't really say why people feel that sex in the first date is cheap, whatever. I just want to say that "fully" is not strong enough a word to say how much I agree with Uncle Phil here. Particularly in this regard:
"All this business of waiti... (read in full...)
I'm 17yrs old and ready to have a baby with my boyfriend. He'll do it to make me happy but I know he's not ready!
Q. i'm 17 years old, and I live with my grandparents and my boyfriend of two and a half years who is also 17. I want nothing more than to have a baby, I know all the responsibilties because I grew up with my sister who had a baby at 17. I think i'm ...
A. 29 April 2008: No harm done, Leanna. I'm very happy that our posts have helped you analyze yourself and understand your own reasons to reach a conclusion. You have taken control of your life and made the right decision about it. Just keep going as strong as you ... (read in full...)
Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 29 April 2008: Tisha-1 is a great agony aunt and a dear friend, and I very often see things the same way she does. This time, however, I beg to differ with her. I won't disagree for the sake of disagreeing.
I think Tish is right, in her second opinion,... (read in full...)
He said that he really likes me a lot as a friend -what does this mean?
Q. Hello, I have a huge crush on this one guy. We are both really busy with school. I told him that I really liked him and he said that he really likes me a lot as a friend though as we are both very busy with school. What does this mean. I never ha...
A. 29 April 2008: I agree with the other poster. Take his words to mean what they literally mean: he likes you "AS A FRIEND". Forget about any other interpretation of it. He didn't add the logical complement of his words: "I like you as a friend... SO DON'T ... (read in full...)
I know it was wrong but I looked in my girlfriend's phone and I felt destroyed!!
Q. My girlfriend and I have have been having the time of our lives over the past 8 months. I'm 48 and she's 45. We're both very much in love, and then last week I saw a dramatic change in her. Even in the bedroom she was cold. Something she has alwa...
A. 29 April 2008: Just as other people have said, I'm not buying her excuse, and neither should you. It's clear that she has something going on. She's a player.... (read in full...)
I was agitated at the fact that he told me to fructify my opportunity abroad without him! I wouldn't have ever considered leaving him anyway! What do you think?
Q. I am in a HUGE dilema. I'll try to keep this as short as possible... I have been with my boyfriend 3 years. We initally had a rocky relationship, but now everything is perfect, and i've never stopped loving him. Everything is great. I rece...
A. 29 April 2008: I'm not sure if I understand this right, but it seems to me that you're saying that you didn't travel to Newcastle before because of your boyfriend's commitment.
If that's what you're saying, then you feel that he should leave his place now, jus... (read in full...)
We had an affair while she was in a relationship, should I give her space after her recent break up?
Q. Just after some advice on a confusing situation! I'll try to keep it quick. I walked away from an affair i had with a girl who was in a relationship. It was very intense emotonally and physically but was a dirty secret. We both are good people but ...
A. 29 April 2008: It seems she can't see clearly what she wants to do with her life. I think you should write her a letter and tell her she can count on you, but you will be giving her space. And use that time to think why you argue with her so much. It takes two ... (read in full...)
Spending money on a website just for sex with a stranger...wouldn't that make me no better than a person who hires prostitutes?
Q. Do I spend money on a website just for sex with a stranger? I found a site, which is set up for people to share exactly what they're looking for (sex wise) and they can browse members who they match with. A short time after joining, I got a...
A. 29 April 2008: I won't talk about using that site or not. I do believe that using your time to solve the reason why you've been alone all that time would be much better.... (read in full...)
I discovered my wife's embarrassing history! What now?!!
Q. I discovered recently that my wife worked as a high-priced prostitute, two years prior to our meeting. She was desperate for money at the time. She says she's been thoroughly tested and does not have any communicable diseases. Further, she deeply ...
A. 29 April 2008: I assume that your wife is approximately of your same age.
From all appearances, this happened a very long time ago. It will seem lame, but I think you should focus on who she has been since she was with you. If she's been a good wife, that is ... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt me when she is on top?
Q. why am i experiencing pain in my penis when i have sex with my girl on top. when i am on top i dont have any pain - only when she is on top. could the womans discharge entering the penis cause this. do any other aunts know of this or had any ...
A. 28 April 2008: Maybe your penis is bending in an odd manner. Woman on top doesn't hurt.... (read in full...)
I'm 17yrs old and ready to have a baby with my boyfriend. He'll do it to make me happy but I know he's not ready!
Q. i'm 17 years old, and I live with my grandparents and my boyfriend of two and a half years who is also 17. I want nothing more than to have a baby, I know all the responsibilties because I grew up with my sister who had a baby at 17. I think i'm ...
A. 28 April 2008: I'll give you a hearfelt opinion: don't have a baby now. There's no rush. Having a baby is a big responsibility and you don't want to share that responsibility with someone who isn't ready for that.
You can continue to be boyfriend and girlfrie... (read in full...)
Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 28 April 2008: It seems to me that he was trying to have something with you, but not exactly a relationship. I don't think a serious interest in a woman begins like this, as a game. Or at least that's not how I would express a serious interest in a woman. And I ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my boyfriend to touch me "down there"?
Q. I have gone down on my boyfriend multiple times. He asked if he can touch me but I was uncomfortable at the time so I said no, but now I'm ready. How do I ask him?...
A. 28 April 2008: Very simple: take his hand and put it right there.... (read in full...)
My fiancee wants me to forgive him and accept his baby with another girl!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years, we are engaged and he is with me everyday, never spent a night away apart from 3 times in the whole 2 years to work. The last time he went away was January and I have just found out he got a girl pregnant. ...
A. 28 April 2008: I will divide my opinion in parts.
As to the baby, there is no choice here: the baby is there and he must be the father. This isn't optional; not taking care of that baby would be a real bad thing. So, if you are to be with him, you need to ... (read in full...)
How can I get more sex from my wife or get her to bring up kids without having to talk to her about it?
Q. Hi I've been married for nearly over 5 years and my marriage seems to be going downhill really fast. Its been nearly over a year since we had sex and she's alway putting it off with some excuse or another. The other thing that worries me is th...
A. 28 April 2008: Well, if talking to her only gets you a slammed door, I suggest you do the same. Pack your bags, and slam the door closed forever. It's clear that you love this woman, but I don't think you have a future here. The good part is that you don't have ... (read in full...)
Her promiscuity is bothering me since we split up...am I being territorial or should I talk with her about this?
Q. hey guys Ive been split with my girlfriend for a few weeks now, we seem able to get along well as friends on th odd occasion we bump into each other. We agree that we dont want to be with each other (13months was more than enough at my age (18)) sh...
A. 28 April 2008: Poster, you won't like this, but I think you're "off-side". Your relationship with her is over, and therefore you can't give any opinions about what she does or who she does it with. It's sad but, if other men are treating her like a piece of ... (read in full...)
Can casual sex end up as the real thing?
Q. Has anyone had a FWB relationship which has ended up as the real thing?...
A. 28 April 2008: It has never happened to me, but I believe that sometimes a friend with benefits can become a girlfriend/boyfriend. Relationships do evolve from one point to the other. By the way, sometimes relationships go the other way: people start as a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 20 months just decided that she wanted a "break" in order to enjoy being "single" again ?
Q. My girlfriend of 20 months just decided that she wanted a "break" in order to enjoy being "single" again and wants to try dating other people (thought she doesn't have anyone in mind). She also says it'll be healthy for us because she felt like ...
A. 28 April 2008: This can mean that she is dumping you. Like Collaroy said, this is not a gentle way to do it, but a cruel one, as it gives you false hope.
It could also mean that she does have someone in mind, and she wants to sleep with that person without ... (read in full...)
I am getting back into the dating scene after a divorce. How can I ever trust men again?
Q. I am a 34 year old nurse who divorced her husband just last year. Over the past couple of months, I have been trying to re-enter the dating scene. I joined a dating site and went on a couple of dull dates. Then, almost three weeks ago, I finally ...
A. 28 April 2008: Dear poster, you fell into the hands of a real bad ass. I bet that he doesn't have that much in common with you. My guess is that he was just deceiving you to take advantage from you, and he did it in this very low manner.
Most men are not like... (read in full...)
Where do I stand with this married man? I need to know!
Q. I just need advice. I am so confused. I have fallen DEEPLY for a man. We are friends, but we are both married. YES I know it's wrong to get involved with a married man and I would NEVER cheat on my husband. I have been thinking of leaving my ...
A. 28 April 2008: None of us can really tell you whether you are meant to be with this man or not. We can't tell the future. I think, however, that we can give you some opinions, so you can analyze your own situation and make a decision that's good for yourself.
... (read in full...)
Why do men lie??
Q. Me and this guy hit it off perfectly, there was never a dull moment between us. We loved being around each other, but over the course of our relationship he would lie about the stupidest things...and just not tell me the truth. He told me that he ...
A. 28 April 2008: I wouldn't believe anyone who said he or she has never ever lied. But people don't usually lie as frequently as this guy did, or over those things. I think he lied to you because of his own personal issues. You can't think everyone is just like ... (read in full...)
I've just found out that my girlfriend was an adult movie star, and it makes me feel sick!
Q. I've just found out that my girlfriend was an adult movie star, and it makes me feel sick that other people have watched her having sex. She is a great girl who all my family love, and my mom has made it clear that she would be happy for her to join ...
A. 28 April 2008: I could type for hours, but your options would still be the ones that an anonymous male posted:
"She is who she is. Either you can deal with her decision to do those movies or you can't. I don't think there is any middle ground on this one."... (read in full...)
My husband and my brother??
Q. My husband recently admitted, after 24 years of marriage, that he's been having an affair with my gay brother for the past three years. They've just moved in together, leaving me with three kids (ages 16, 12 and 8) and all the bills to pay. I work...
A. 28 April 2008: If I were you, I would try to keep them both as far away from my life as possible. Your life will be very hard, and I'm sorry for that, but I think you can also think of this situation as getting rid of the dead weight.
I wish you the best of ... (read in full...)
So many women would pay to see me naked, so how can I change her "errors" about premarital sex?
Q. I am hoping that some of the aunts on this site can help me with my problem. I am an extremely handsome, smart and funny 28 year old male. I have an excellent job and earn a very substantial sum of money indeed. I have two Ferraris and live in a ...
A. 28 April 2008: Salvation is right. If she doesn't want to sleep with you, you can't force her.
I would also suggest that you review your way to understand people. You say that her not wanting to sleep with you is "an error". It is not; it is her option. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to put a golf ball in your girlfriend's vagina? Just throwing that out there....
Q. is it ok to put a golf ball in you girlfriends vagina and the have sex with it still in there and when your done swollow it?...
A. 28 April 2008: Is this a real post?... (read in full...)
Four women are pregnant because wearing a condom is against my religion. What should I do?
Q. Let me explain. My girlfriend and I enjoy an open relationship where we each sleep with different partners from time to time. She's pregnant at the moment. It was unplanned. That would not be a problem only for the fact that there are four other ...
A. 28 April 2008: You should be getting ready to be the father of all four children. They will need you when they are born. Three of the women may be total strangers, but their children won't; they will be your children, from all apppearances.... (read in full...)
We are FWB, then I see her facebook, she has a boyfriend! Should I ignore her?
Q. Alright, so I'm wondering what I should do here... I've been friends with benifits with this girl for a while now, we were starting to get pretty close, and I figured we'd be going out soon, but she started doing stuff with other guys (a few of '...
A. 28 April 2008: I couldn't agree more with Collaroy.... (read in full...)
I think I want to do it with him but I think it's becoming an issue!
Q. I've always wanted to wait until I got married to have sex, but I've been with my bf for 3 years (mostly long distance) and I don't think we're going to be getting married anytime soon. I think I want to do it with him, because we've done everything ...
A. 28 April 2008: Poster, I apologize for not responding before. In any case, I think the second male anonymous poster said what I had in mind. You don't seem to have any issues with your boyfriend but, if you have them, you should work those out first. Is it ... (read in full...)
Will it be different to have sex with a white girl since my new girlfriend is coloured?
Q. hi i've been going out with this girl for about 2months now and we'eve agreed to have sex together pretty soon. but will it be different to have sex with a white girl since my new girlfriend is coloured? is it any better having sex with a coloured...
A. 27 April 2008: I think having sex with a white girl will be different from having sex with a "coloured" girl. And then, having sex with another white girl will also feel different. And having sex with yet another "coloured", and then a Hispanic, and then a ... (read in full...)
Some of the kisses were initiated by her on the few occasions we were close... why the sudden withdrawal?? I wanted to be with her.
Q. Hey, This is an issue that has been bugging me a lot over the past few days. I met a girl at work, and we kissed on the way home. We met up a few days later, and spent pretty much all night together, kissing all the way, some I was starting off...
A. 27 April 2008: Poster, now that you have updated on your situation, it is even more clear that you have to forget about her. She wanted more but now she doesn't. That's it.
She will never be with you. Think of it this way: if she wanted you, but you didn't, ... (read in full...)
I think I want to do it with him but I think it's becoming an issue!
Q. I've always wanted to wait until I got married to have sex, but I've been with my bf for 3 years (mostly long distance) and I don't think we're going to be getting married anytime soon. I think I want to do it with him, because we've done everything ...
A. 27 April 2008: I think you should wait until you have anything clear about this relationship.... (read in full...)
How do I establish that I don't want sex with a guy in a way that he won't try to pressure me into it?
Q. I just finished my freshman year of college. I recently (5-6 months ago) broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years, my first real relationship. I’ve been trying to get myself back into a dating for some time now, but in all honesty, I don’t think I’m ...
A. 27 April 2008: I believe that, at one point or another, everyone compares one former love with another, or many others. If it's just a reflection about the people life has put on your path, that's fine. It might even help you understand yourself better.
Maybe... (read in full...)
Does he really want me out his life?
Q. When I was 18 ( and a Senior in High School) I met this cool guy ( 17, and a Junior) we became fast friends .. . he called my everyday and hanging out led us 2 hook up 3 times. When I graduated he called me for a month straight , but I never ...
A. 27 April 2008: I believe he's acting in a very immature way. I don't believe in "love games". Maybe he was hurt when you left, but it's so stupid of him to "get even". I think you should not communicate with him again. You would give him a chance to keep on ... (read in full...)
What should I do to break the ice and get my ex to talk to me again?
Q. what should i do to break the ice and get her to talk to me again? Me and my ex have a complicated history, weve dated twice and it hasnt really worked out, i really care about her even now 9 months on.Shes my first and only real love. Anyhow...
A. 27 April 2008: My only advice would be to stay away from her. She has someone else. If you let it happen, you will find someone more suited to who you are.... (read in full...)
1 year without sex... Do I have a one night stand now?
Q. Approaching a year since I last had sex. I haven't really been tempted to have meaningless sex, or a one night stand or anything, because I'm told that sex is so much better with somebody you love. But after a year of celibacy, I'm really feeling ...
A. 27 April 2008: Whether you have a one-night stand or not is for you to decide. You're old enough to know what you do.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have great sex without falling in love?
Q. is it possible to have greatsex without falling in love im seeing a divorsed 47 male im 40 single mum im enjoying the sex he dosnt want me to get attached doi continue with this arrangment....
A. 27 April 2008: Clarification: My "yes" is my answer to the question whether it's possible to have great sex without falling in love. As to whether you should continue to have sex with this man, "no strings attached", that's for you to decide.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have great sex without falling in love?
Q. is it possible to have greatsex without falling in love im seeing a divorsed 47 male im 40 single mum im enjoying the sex he dosnt want me to get attached doi continue with this arrangment....
A. 27 April 2008: Yes.... (read in full...)
I became closed after my first relationship (with a manipulator) and it's affecting my current relation. How do I learn to GIVE again?
Q. I need help learning to love and give again... When I was younger (18) I was involved in a relationship with someone much older. It took 3 years to figure out that he was someone with big issues and my continous pouring of love into the relatio...
A. 27 April 2008: Irish said it all. Just don't let the past ruin your present.... (read in full...)
Some of the kisses were initiated by her on the few occasions we were close... why the sudden withdrawal?? I wanted to be with her.
Q. Hey, This is an issue that has been bugging me a lot over the past few days. I met a girl at work, and we kissed on the way home. We met up a few days later, and spent pretty much all night together, kissing all the way, some I was starting off...
A. 26 April 2008: I agree that her kissing you repeatedly can correctly be understood as a demonstration of her interest in you. I take it that most women wouldn't kiss a man, several times, in two different days, if they didn't like him. You read those signals ... (read in full...)
Why this endless flirting that doesn't state his intentions openly? How can I make him be more direct?
Q. Why love is so complicated?why guys act like women?Why they don't make the big step?What they are afraid? I'm in love with a man that God he is so smart,so charmy..and so mature! He started first flirting with me...he always looks at me secretly.....
A. 26 April 2008: If you give us more information, we might help you in a better way.
That said, sometimes we men don't take the initiative because:
a) we don't like you that much, or
b) we don't think you would welcome our advances.
Have you tried to l... (read in full...)
We were in the middle of sex and he ran out to watch a match! Tired of his obsession for footbal!
Q. Well me and my boyfriend have been together a year and half now, and everything is great. We have a great time, we're both completely loyal, we both love each other to pieces. I know you're probably thinking "What's the problem here?" The probl...
A. 26 April 2008: I find it only too reasonable that you were upset by his going away. It's certainly awful, and I'm sure that he would have felt terrible if you had stopped the lovemaking to do something else. You're not overreacting at all.
Most men will tel... (read in full...)
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