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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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My ex wants a sex fling but does he really want more?
Q. My ex boyfriend dumped me 4 months ago. We were together for a year, lived together as well. Although the reaosn why he broke up with me wasn't actually clear at all, I think it had something to do with him feeling insecure - basically he was more ...
A. 18 April 2008: Don't wait for him. If someone catches your eye, go for that.... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 17 April 2008: Last word from me. Yes, Southern Man, I will take my chances with God. Unlike you, he didn't enjoy feeling any better than anyone else, and certainly didn't cast stones at adulterers. He did dislike pharisees who took good care of making their ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 16 April 2008: Wow. I think we should all let Southern Man be. He seems to enjoy this crossed fire. Let him live by his own standards and let us live by ours.
I believe he has a strong interest in sex, like everyone else, but, instead of just recogniz... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 15 April 2008: There are other people like you. And there are other people who don't follow your standards, but that doesn't mean they don't have any.
A child out of wedlock is a child born when his/her parents aren't "legally" married (The Webster's definiti... (read in full...)
Does a man having sex with his wife as often as he wants prevent him from getting it elsewhere?
Q. I was wondering if a woman has sex with her husband every day, or as often as he wants it, will that prevent him from cheating? Or will it at least help in preventing him from cheating? I am not worried that my husband will cheat, but there was a ...
A. 15 April 2008: Once I heard a woman say that she had sex with her husband whenever, wherever and any way he wanted, because that way he would prevent him from cheating. Rumor had it that he cheated on her very often. And she cheated on him quite regularly, too. ... (read in full...)
My ex wants a sex fling but does he really want more?
Q. My ex boyfriend dumped me 4 months ago. We were together for a year, lived together as well. Although the reaosn why he broke up with me wasn't actually clear at all, I think it had something to do with him feeling insecure - basically he was more ...
A. 14 April 2008: Poster, he has been crystal clear about what he wants: "sex with no strings" and "all the little things [you] did around the house". That's it.
However, since you want a relationship, not with him, but with someone else, what your ex wants is... (read in full...)
How do I engage in phone sex?
Q. hello to all!!!i need help...uhm its about phone and text sex....how do i do it??how do i start??how do i know where to stop??i need all the help i can get from men and ladies.pretty please..tell me EVERYTHING YOU KNOW ABOUT PHONE AND TEXT ...
A. 14 April 2008: One comment: By "phone sex" I understood "hot calls". Other people would disagree with this definition. If you mean that you will be sending text messages and talking to someone you are already related to, someone who is your real-life partner, ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for women to get over a break up?
Q. How long does it take for women to get over their previous relationship? I recently got dumped after a breif relationship, becuase she doesnt feel ready for one after only breaking up with her ex just under 2months ago?...
A. 12 April 2008: I don't think every woman needs the same time to get over someone. That depends on the relationship, how close they were, how long they were together, how bad the breakup was, and a thousand et ceteras. So your question can't be answered as it is. ... (read in full...)
How often should I call my girlfriend the days I can't see her?
Q. After seeing my counsellor I realise now the only problem in my life is women. I have been on 3 dates in my entire life, longest relationship lasted 5 weeks. I now know it is because of low communication (i.e. when I didn't see her I would only send ...
A. 12 April 2008: I think this question can't have the same answer for everyone. Some women will want more than one text a day, and others will not. I guess you will have to start with little and find the comfort level for her, not for you. The caller, man or ... (read in full...)
How can I get my dad to change his ways? I need the father I've never had...
Q. This is about my father.... He and my mum split up when we were really youngand he's gone from woman to woman, none of which i particularly liken for exapmle the first one made me sleep in a cage when I was there an dmy dad was on nights, the second ...
A. 11 April 2008: Dear, I was sad to hear your story. I can imagine how heartbroken you are over this. I was very sad to read you wrote "I want a dad". To me, this is you, as a little child, broken because you receive no affection.
The best advice I can give you... (read in full...)
A "spirit medium" said my marriage will not work out, is this a load of nonsense, in your opinion?
Q. Hi everyone, this may sound like a silly question to most people. Myself and some friends of mine went to see a medium,(this is someone who can talk to people who passed away) i basicly just went out of interest, my main concern is that so far ...
A. 11 April 2008: Yeah.... (read in full...)
How do I engage in phone sex?
Q. hello to all!!!i need help...uhm its about phone and text sex....how do i do it??how do i start??how do i know where to stop??i need all the help i can get from men and ladies.pretty please..tell me EVERYTHING YOU KNOW ABOUT PHONE AND TEXT ...
A. 11 April 2008: I know phone sex is expensive, addictive, and, in a way, a very foolish thing to do. I saw this TV show where a phone sex girl was describing her job to the audience. She was a very obese lady, whose best years had already gone by. If you want an ... (read in full...)
I have been sleeping with other men, but I don't want to ruin my current relationship of 4 years
Q. Hi everybody me and my man have been together for four years now we are very happy together and are getting married in three months time. i can honestly say i love him to bits and have never been with anyone who makes me so happy. but ther...
A. 11 April 2008: Poster, in a way, the relationship is already ruined. You just can't think a relationship is working well if the two are getting married in three months and one of the parties has already slept with two other people in a matter of a few weeks.
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I have a problem with him ending sex with masturbation! Does this stem from watching too much porn?
Q. Lately, whenever we have sex, he cums a little and then says he is close to a "big one" and to play with him (i.e. jack him off, lick him, etc) until he's close and then he'll either cum inside of me or just cum. He seems to be in the mind set that ...
A. 11 April 2008: I think Lazy Guy hit the nail when he said that he didn't know why her partner's masturbation bothered her.
Like Birdy said, and I quote her, "The holding on to each other and sharing the intimacy of the release is part of the bonding of sex". I... (read in full...)
How to change the taste of vaginal fluid?
Q. I'm currently with a girl who does not produce a lot of fluid when she gets aroused and the taste is kind of sour and it has a stronger smell. She LOVES getting any oral action. I really want to please her and I do enjoy eating a girl out but her ...
A. 11 April 2008: I just would like to look at this from a different angle. This diet thing is all right, but, in the end, I think you can't expect the girl to always eat only what makes her taste better. In the end, if you enjoy giving oral sex, you will take ... (read in full...)
Men - how would you feel if a woman pursued you, instead of the other way around?
Q. Men - how would you feel if a woman pursued you, instead of the other way around? Assuming you did like the person but were shy, would you prefer her to hint at her interest, or be upfront and ask you out? In my case, it's a friend of a friend, ...
A. 11 April 2008: I can only speak for myself. I always prefer clear and straightforward words, even if they are blunt. And I would love it if a woman (I liked) wanted to crack my bones.
This is my answer to your question as it was asked. However, I am positive... (read in full...)
Is there a correct way to retract a foreskin?
Q. Hi everyone, I am slightly worried about my penis. I have never retracted my foreskin beyond the glans. If i try to do it, it seems to be lacking elasticity to get it all the way over. The foreskin seems to stick at the anterior part of the glan...
A. 10 April 2008: I would advise you to see a doctor, but I think this is a case of phimosis. That's derived from the Greek, and the difficult word to say "prepuce that won't retract all the way".
I think you should see a doctor because there are differen... (read in full...)
Why can't I get pregnant..Could there something wrong with me?
Q. Hi, i'm 18 and i want to know if there is a disease or disorder as to why i can't stay or get pregnant? Or if there's something wrong with my boyfriend?. Please help me is there something humanly wrong with me?...
A. 10 April 2008: I think you should see a doctor. The reasons can be so many.... (read in full...)
Does the penis grow after the age of 18 - or are we stuck with what we have forever?
Q. We all know that most teen guys have a penis size issue, but does the penis actually grow after the teens? Or are we stuck with what we have at 18 forever?...
A. 10 April 2008: In my case, I will give it a Spanish name, Uncle :-).... (read in full...)
Does the penis grow after the age of 18 - or are we stuck with what we have forever?
Q. We all know that most teen guys have a penis size issue, but does the penis actually grow after the teens? Or are we stuck with what we have at 18 forever?...
A. 10 April 2008: I never noticed when my penis stopped growing. This is the first time I hear this concern. It seems to me that this is good ol' "does size matter?" in disguise. This sounds like a young man who thinks his penis is small and hopes it will keep ... (read in full...)
I think it would be a good idea to see how compatible (or not) we are. Do you agree?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. He has been hinting to me that he may ask me to marry him someday. However, I want to live with him first as I think it would be a good idea to see how compatible (or not) we ...
A. 10 April 2008: Social conventions and religious beliefs aside, I think it is a great idea to live with the person you love and see if you can really work out with her (him, in your case). You never really know what a person is like until you live with her (him). ... (read in full...)
He said that 'Vizen' eye-drops would cure it and I would not get pregnant?
Q. Well the other day me and my boyfriend had sex and he was drunk, so when he ask me where i wanted him to cum, i told him my stomach, but he ask me if he could inside of me, and i said that i wasn't ready for a baby just yet. He agreed with me but i ...
A. 10 April 2008: Dear, I see you don't have access to contraceptives, but I'm sure your boyfriend does. Maybe you can insist in his using a condom?
You know, I suspect you want a baby. If that is the case, be careful. Maybe this man is not the right guy.... (read in full...)
Please help me I think I blew it with this guy? I´m desperate!?
Q. Please help me I think I blew it with this guy? I´m desperate!? I told him my feelings for him in a note before he left for a deployment, and usually he answers my messages right away , but this one note he answered it 3 days later, and he replied ...
A. 10 April 2008: Another point of view. You didn't do anything wrong by saying you care about him and wish to be in contact. That is a lovely thing to do! Why feel sorry for it?
He is away, and he can't really be there for you. I think he gave you the only ans... (read in full...)
I am pregnant at 16 and my boyfriend doesn't want the baby
Q. i am 16 and i am pregnant. my boyfriend (now he isn't my anymore) just tuned 18 and he does not want the baby. he told me to abort the unborn child. but i don't want to. i want to have this baby.is this the right decision?...
A. 10 April 2008: I'm with Brooke. Great, sound advice.... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from the girl at work.
Q. So I've worked with this girl for a few years (just a part time job while we're both in school). I've always found her attractive and we get along well. Throughout the time I've known her, we've always been flirty, but we've never been very ...
A. 10 April 2008: Looking at the answer by the anonymous poster, I realize to what extent it is true that you can never think you know it all. What he has said is just great. I just disagree in one point: I would simply be myself, warts and all.... (read in full...)
My mom is having an extramarital affair!! Should my brother and I confront her?
Q. My brother and I found out my mom is having an affair with a married co-worker.Not to mention, my dad works in the same company as my mom. She secretly has a cell phone and we found love notes in her email. My dad has noticed my mom very ...
A. 10 April 2008: Dear poster, this is not to say that I approve cheating, or that I don't understand that you can be in pain over knowing that your mother cheats on your father and not giving him the bad news. However, I think this should be your mother's and your ... (read in full...)
Is there something funny going on with my internet guy?
Q. To start with i have met this guy online 7 months ago. Since then we always send each other, emails and I'ms. We talk like 3 to 4 times a week.We haven't met personally yet coz he lives in another state.He told me everything about him and I am to ...
A. 10 April 2008: Maybe it would be reasonable to expect him to give you a call now that he has your phone. But we don't really know what is going on. However, if you have a gut feeling that something is wrong, maybe you should insist that the two of you meet in ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that it is too late to repair our relationship.
Q. i have a boyfriend who i'm totally inlove with. my actions have not been of the best, i guess because of fear of losing him. i intentionally piss him off when i drink. i have recently decided that alcohol isn't for me and quit. i'm afraid that ...
A. 10 April 2008: If you give us more details, we will be able to give you a better opinion.... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from the girl at work.
Q. So I've worked with this girl for a few years (just a part time job while we're both in school). I've always found her attractive and we get along well. Throughout the time I've known her, we've always been flirty, but we've never been very ...
A. 10 April 2008: Well, man, again. Mixed signals mean she's not sure. If she's not sure and you push her, you're done.
I'm sure you would find the time to see her if you were sure she is into you. She already knows what you want from her, since you kissed h... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from the girl at work.
Q. So I've worked with this girl for a few years (just a part time job while we're both in school). I've always found her attractive and we get along well. Throughout the time I've known her, we've always been flirty, but we've never been very ...
A. 10 April 2008: I'm sure this is not what you want to hear, but in my opinion you should wait for her to come back to you.
I'm not sure what you mean with this:
"I decided to go in for a kiss. At first she pulled back a bit and seemed a little hesistant, but w... (read in full...)
My ex came out as being gay, but says he loves me. Is he having second thoughts about his sexuality
Q. I dated a man for about 5 years many years ago. I was in love with him, then and always have been. After seperating I went on to have a 7 year relationship with someone else, and 3 children and also found out that my ex had come out as gay. I was ...
A. 9 April 2008: I fully agree with Tisha-1. Couldn't have said it better.... (read in full...)
10 wks pregnant after an affair with an older man who wants nothing to do with it, pleasde help me?
Q. 10 wks pregnant. Been stupidly having an affair with a man for 5 yrs who is twice my age who and is in a relationship....and also has an 11 yr old son. His partner has found out in the past about us...and the majority of the country know, and tota...
A. 9 April 2008: Dear poster, eyeswideopen has given you good advice. You need to begin taking steps to receive this baby. First, this man can't "choose" whether he will be responsible for that baby or not, and I fully agree with Eyes on this. But, in the real ... (read in full...)
Videos of Wham, Rick Astley and wait for it YMCA I felt like the whole world was screaming at me 'He's gay!' Is he??
Q. Is My Boyfriend Gay? I just read another reader's description of the same situation and wanted to pose the same question because I'm driving myself mad. I met a fabulous man three months ago. After three and a half years single it was a relief to ...
A. 9 April 2008: People are always afraid of saying a man is gay because it looks like you're critizing him for his sexual orientation. To be fair, this is often the case. But here, determining whether he is gay would be the way for you, a woman with natural ... (read in full...)
He said that 'Vizen' eye-drops would cure it and I would not get pregnant?
Q. Well the other day me and my boyfriend had sex and he was drunk, so when he ask me where i wanted him to cum, i told him my stomach, but he ask me if he could inside of me, and i said that i wasn't ready for a baby just yet. He agreed with me but i ...
A. 9 April 2008: I don't think any eye drops would prevent pregnancy. This is a new one! I assume he was too groggy at the time.
If you don't want a baby, make sure you use contraception. You and your boyfriend should be involved in it together, but, if he wo... (read in full...)
He's 41 I'm nearly 18, but we're two worlds apart. How can I fix this?
Q. I have a 41 year old boyfriend and i'm 17(almost 18). Is this too big of a difference?? What should I do?? It's only 23 years, but he's so much smarter than i am about the world and much more experienced. How can I fix this '2 different worlds' ...
A. 9 April 2008: Dear poster, I will answer your first question first of all. Yes, a 23-year age gap is too big.
What you perceive as "different worlds" is right. You have correctly noticed that you two are in very different stages of life. That can't be chang... (read in full...)
He's not interested in sex. Help!
Q. Problem. I have a boyfriend of 5 months. He does not live here. Thats not the problem. The problem is, he doesnt seem very into sex. Ok im not a nymph or anything like that, but I do enjoy talking about it occassionally. On one hand, I like that he ...
A. 9 April 2008: I didn't know you have never met in person. I suppose you call each other or communicate through the web. With this new information, I think that he is interested in sex, but far more in getting to know other aspects of you before he gets into ... (read in full...)
Does it really make sense for my boyfriend to move closer to me?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years wants me to move in with him. He lives 2 hours drive away. We both have our job in two different cities. He operates his own business and I am in a family business. We see each other every weekend. It's not too far of a drive ...
A. 9 April 2008: If you love each other, you will eventually need to live under the same roof and sleep in the same bed. After three years, I would expect you two to know whether you want to make the relationship more serious or keep it as it is. So, I think that ... (read in full...)
I'm in need of a regular agony aunt I can anonymously get to know.
Q. I need people to talk to about my problems via email, i have no one i can talk to that i know in real life, id like both to remain anonymous but if u pride yourself in giving grounded and most important of all honest advice, even if u think it will ...
A. 9 April 2008: Here I come, too... (read in full...)
He's not interested in sex. Help!
Q. Problem. I have a boyfriend of 5 months. He does not live here. Thats not the problem. The problem is, he doesnt seem very into sex. Ok im not a nymph or anything like that, but I do enjoy talking about it occassionally. On one hand, I like that he ...
A. 9 April 2008: From your post, I don't really see whether the problem is just that your problem won't talk about sex, or whether he won't have sex with you. I will assume that his lack of interest means that he doesn't talk about it, and that he doesn't seem ... (read in full...)
I'm so messed up!!!
Q. I'm having a dilemma. After several months of a new relationship, while we both talked about long term and our goals of marriage and family, our sex life was decreasing. While my ladys is wonderful in so many areas (whcih is why im with her), theres ...
A. 8 April 2008: Man, she did answer your question, only you couldn't read her. She is telling you she doesn't find you attractive. And she had told you that before, when she said you had to lose weight and all that.
I was thinking that perhaps you were her inte... (read in full...)
What is a high maintenance woman?
Q. What really describes a high maintenance woman? I have heard this a lot lately and was wondering, is it just about spending money? ...
A. 8 April 2008: Er, since I am in the "No maintenance due to lack of budget area", I could add that if you spend in her more than you can really afford (due to nagging and pouting), yet you never seem to please her, maybe she's not high maintenance but plays the ... (read in full...)
I cant say no to being with the love of my life
Q. So me an my boyfriend of almost 6 months just broke up, an I dont know what to do honestly, he came over friday night and we hung out for a little while then he broke up with me, i was heart broken so we talked for like 2 hours then we got ...
A. 8 April 2008: I agree with Birdy in many, many respects. I think that a little opinion from a man´s point of view could help you, so I just won't say I agree with her.
In your post, you say that
"the only problems with that is first we were never friends in... (read in full...)
Caught between two cultures - other than break up with my intolerant BF, is there anything I can do?
Q. Hi, I'm not quite sure what to do. My boyfriend (for want of a better word at this point) constantly bashes Muslims to the point where it's ridiculous. He justifies his hatred by saying that all monotheism is "bull" because he chooses to follo...
A. 8 April 2008: Dear poster, other than break up, there is nothing else I would do. He's obviously intolerant of anything that's not just like himself. Here is the key phrase, I guess: "He seems to get mad at me when I express my opinion even if he agrees with ... (read in full...)
My 16 year old daughter is dating someone 38!
Q. All Moms My 16 year old daughter is dating someone 38! I have told her and him both what I think of this situation. I realize that legally I can't do anything about it, as here you only have to be 14 to concent to sex and at 16 she could move...
A. 8 April 2008: Dear anonymous, I know how hard it must be for you to just let it happen. Unfortunately, you can't do anything else.
Just make sure she learns from the experience and doesn't get too bitter about it. And perhaps you should make it clear why you ... (read in full...)
My 16 year old daughter is dating someone 38!
Q. All Moms My 16 year old daughter is dating someone 38! I have told her and him both what I think of this situation. I realize that legally I can't do anything about it, as here you only have to be 14 to concent to sex and at 16 she could move...
A. 7 April 2008: I'm not a mother, but I think I can say a few words. It is clear that a man who is 38 is not on the same wavelength as your daughter. Or so I hope; if he were, then he would be some man. So we can suspect that this relationship is only physical ... (read in full...)
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